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📺 IWFGG | How to Immunize Yourself Against Your Deepest Fears





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to another episode of Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the founder of ChangeLight.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the creator of the ChangeLight System, and I am all about helping you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To do the inner work that it will accelerate your power to make a difference in the world as a changemaker whether you're a coach or whether you're an activist, or whether you're.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even like a parent and you're really wanting to have a positive impact on your children.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: etc, etc, you know we can all be in a position to make a difference in the world, simply by being who we are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The light, we radiate we can really have an impact, make a difference and so i'm here to teach you the inner work that's going to accelerate your ability to do that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because that's what i'm all about, I am a changemaker, I really sort of think of myself as a changemaker in the mental health space.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and emotional health space because i'm all about wanting to make a big big difference in the world, bring more light to the planet and heal humanity and really help us all light up individually and collectively so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um welcome welcome so glad to have you here, if you watched my last week's episode, you will recall that was all about dealing with disappointment and I was in my second week I think of coven and I talked about how I was busy i'm fully recovered, I made it now, thank you, thank you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you'll remember how I talked about how the having code resulted in my having to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: cancel a lot of plans like things are really looking forward to, but once in a lifetime my 25th college reunion, that was a big deal and a bunch of my friends, we were all excited to see each other.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then here I you know test positive recover, just a few days before and I had to miss it and I wasn't the only one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sadly, in our class that had to miss it 25th Williams college reunion up in Massachusetts so it was really, really disappointing and then I had a bunch of other things that I have planned like vacation and seeing my family.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that led to a lot of the feelings of disappointment coming up and so that's why I did that show about about disappointment and what's really underneath that very sort of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know banal sounding word disappointed disappointed yeah but it's so much deeper than that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's such a deep thing or it can be such a deep thing I mean we can have sort of minor disappointments like Oh, I was kind of disappointed that he couldn't make it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was kind of disappointed that it rained during the Okay, but but really there can be, we can have some really deep disappointments in our lives.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That bring up a lot of other deep very painful very hard to deal with emotions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that, even just this idea of feeling disappointed, is something that a lot of times we can unconsciously be running from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or trying to protect ourselves from feeling just because it's so uncomfortable because it implies know we can imply that maybe we've tried to to accomplish something or create something or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, experienced something and it didn't happen, the way we wanted or didn't happen at all.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or maybe somebody didn't show up for us, and so that can bring up a lot of things so anyway, I talked about some of the things that were coming up for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And one of the big things that got triggered in that period is was having to do it was basically my deepest.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: realizing that a lot of what had been under the surface, with me and what had been unconsciously affecting and impacting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How I was behaving or how I was feeling and therefore how I was behaving in the choices, I was making or the things I was doing or not doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They will really related to my deepest fear and my deepest fear, this is my own personal deepest fear and i've known this since probably my 20s.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My deepest fear is that I will not fulfill my mission in this lifetime my purpose for being here, I feel a very strong calling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A very strong sense of mission and purpose and even before I knew what that was, I know what it is now, but even years ago so i'm saying, like in my 20s it really started to come up after I graduated from college and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think it came up because you might relate to this, I think you came up because you know when you're in school.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you know you're sort of in school and it's like at least this was my experience, I was in school, and so I was sort of distracted by all the different projects and classes and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: interest that I could pursue and so there's sort of this track that you're on and okay i'm in i'm in i'm in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know preschool and lower school and middle school and then high school and then it's always about this okay well if it again for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And my in sort of my cohort in life it's like it's about well, you want to do well in school, so you can go to college and then you could call it, you can get a good job.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I got through college and I didn't necessarily have a job lined up but I had a plan.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I knew I didn't ever want to regret not trying certain things so actually in my case I ended up going out to Los Angeles and living with my dad's cousin who was an actress and I was, I was acting out there and it was by doing that I discovered that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This isn't really my thing this is this it wasn't fulfilling for me and so that's what led me to try a lot of other things, but it also led me to really struggle.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and go I know i'm here for a reason and I started to realize that I had a mission.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I was like I know i'm here for a reason I know I can have a big big impact, but what is that and actually part of that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Was that I would get so frustrated and so upset that I would just kind of give up, and I would just sort of put it out to daughter universe, or whatever, and I said I don't know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What my purpose is, but please just use me for the highest good that was the wish that I put out there because that's really my That was my deepest desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that whether it was acting or singing or graphic designer or you know I had I even had a company making creative cards like you never to give us gifts and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it was like nothing was quite satisfying or nothing felt quite like it was it so anyway, my deepest desire has always been.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To to be used for the highest good and to fulfill my purpose, well then, if that's my deepest desire what's my deepest fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My deepest fear is that I won't do that, that I won't accomplish what i'm here to and you may identify with this as well you know you may feel a strong sense of purpose or mission.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or, and you may or may not know what that was like for me I didn't know what that was I just knew that I had it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is that what what I what really and a member of my team really helped me to realize this as well, what really came up for me was the awareness that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was my deepest fear that was causing me to be resistant towards things in my business that was causing me to feel even this the depth of the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: disappointment because I see that part of my purpose was wrapped up in some of these activities that I ended up not being able to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I was sick with covered so that was bringing up all of that Oh, you know this was part of what you know what I was trying to hoping to achieve you know and connect with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with certain people because it's in alignment with my deepest desire my deepest mission and so by those not happening as I hoped and plan it could trigger those fears and that fear, and so what what my my team Member dead my Gal who's basically like my operations Gal.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she's very spiritual and we talked about a lot of this, and she does a lot of inner work imagine that member of my team during in her work, yes, we all do, inner work so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that one of the things she reminded me of, and I say reminded me, because this is a technique that I used to do on myself and I forgotten and i've taught, this is about facing that fear and going.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And just expecting disappointment or expecting to feel that way so that it's not so scary so that you don't it doesn't stop you from trying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because what I realized that my deepest fear it was like that i've been carrying this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I had subconsciously not realizing and again i'm someone i'm really self aware i'm always working on myself and i'm always looking to be you know work to process my blocks and release the novella.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, what I realized was that i've been subconsciously resisting What was really a really deep fear my deepest fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then that had been affecting how I was showing up or not showing up in certain circumstances, because I was really scared of disappointment around that was really scared of not achieving certain things related to that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so i've been resisting it and, of course, what we resist persists writer as i've often talked about when you've got some feeling or something coming up, and you try to push it down it's just going to push back.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So trying to get rid of that fear is not gonna work it just doesn't work to say, well, I just want to get rid of this fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In my experience, the way to go about it, you got to face it you've got to at least acknowledge that it exists and sometimes just recognizing that that fear exists, can be enough to kind of go.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, and you breathe in okay that's what's going on with me and that even just alone can be enough to give you that relief that you're seeking when it comes to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, being able to then move forward without being controlled by the fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: However, sometimes that's enough not enough and sometimes we got to do more.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, obviously in my work with exPowers in those inner blocks and triggers and wounds again if it's your first time watching this go back and watch some of those a lot of great information.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when it comes to those parts of us that carry those fears or curious though those resistance is to those fears are trying to stop us from feeling them or try to protect us from feeling them that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Controllers and Defenders respectively, is that what happens is just they just end up persisting unless and until we actually face them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Unless we really listen to the stories that are underneath that lead to those fears until we really, really honor the feelings that those parts of us are carrying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because trying to push away those feelings and those fears it's not going to work they're just going to push back and persist.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's like you know young, I believe, is credited with saying that what you resist persists.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then someone else turn that around and and basically said what you embrace dissolves so we just accept and embrace and stop resisting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Can dissolve and so that's the basis of what i'm going to share with you, but first of all I want to talk about just really briefly touch on.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The fact that fear comes in so many different forms, and this is, for me, what i've discovered is that even when I think I really dealt with a fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's like it turns out that it's actually disguise behind something else, or that there's another part of me that's trying to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: protect me from actually feeling that fear, I had a wonderful conversation with a gentleman yesterday, in which he was very aware of actually what can cause those fears.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or how he he really taught the subconscious and sometimes deals with uncomfortable emotions with discomfort he says that he he noticed that he will.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He will he will bring bring people go back into the past and the like the warm memories and the things he's done all the good stuff to help him feel better.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or have project in order to launch a project into the future and all the things well i'm not going to focus on what's going on right now, or how i'm feeling right now i'm just going to think about what I want to create.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And how I want to move forward, and so what was great was in his wisdom, he recognized how we recognize how he tends to actually distract himself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From that discomfort and really underneath that discomfort with sphere, because the discomfort of the moment, was basically trying to signal and it obviously different kinds of discomfort, but I would, I would say that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In some of the situations, he described to me that discomfort was actually signaling that there was something he really needed to pay attention to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that it was triggering some fears from him of like things, maybe not working out the way you wanted them to or people not being completely.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: honest and so that's where actually going into that discomfort and sitting with that discomfort and honoring that discomfort whatever that feels like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: can bring up all of this rich information that we may not be aware of, and as i'm going through as we're talking about here can bring up what are the actual fears that you have, because as long as you're not really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: identifying and acknowledging the actual fears they're going to keep pulling the levers inside you unconsciously.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're going to keep causing certain reactions they're going to cause certain behaviors are going to cause you to feel triggered in certain situations it's literally like this sounds kind of funny but I remember, I once throughout.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These fears that I had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or rather, know I know I drew out these unquote these like trigger reactions that I was having that were like physiological trigger reactions, so I wasn't aware of them as emotions, but I think we're like physiological reactions that I was having.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I was like so what's going on under the surface here, and as I drew out and did my work the Drawing Out Process on that trigger.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I discovered that it was like the vision, the image that I saw as is even funny for me, this may sound funny funny for me do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The image that I saw like these little guys were sort of ground headed I was going to see a little green men they weren't little revenge, because they weren't aliens.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But they were like these little guys who like saw it as their job, but they were almost like these backstage but stagehands cool you know you have the screen, they are you have the curtains and you have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The sets and you have the lights and everything and if you've never been backstage that basically what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Lisa Lisa the old days when I was in theater I don't know if it's different now, but you used to have no work that you would pull that the stagehands would pull to make the curtains go up or open.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or to you know move set pieces, you have all these levers, and so, basically, it was like inside me were the little guys, at least in my subconscious.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where these little guys who were pulling the levers literally like pulling the levers in my life and in my emotional reactions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, when I drew those outcomes, as part of my work the Drawing Out Process the technique that I that I do and take people through that I teach.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that I drew those out and then I asked them questions these little guys and they were like Well, this is our job that anytime you start to have this feeling, this is what we do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so they were causing this physical physiological reactions and me to try to mask or distract or you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Have give me certain reactions in response to these emotions that I was having almost even tip I said to kind of cover up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know some of those emotions, so that I wouldn't actually feel that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so this is all by way of saying that when we talk about like Oh, you know that really what's incontinence going on under the surface is fears, this is why it's like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There can be other physiological reactions behaviors triggers emotions that don't feel like fear and don't even look to you like, fear and get it's fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's causing this and so anyway that's what I realize, too, is, I was had underneath some of my behaviors and my reactions to things that I did not recognize his fear suddenly realized wait a minute it's actually my deepest fear that that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was basically pulling the levers inside of me and so it's, the important thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is to recognize if you're gonna first and foremost, if you want to address the fear and in United yourself against it, which of course is the title of this episode is what it's all about is going.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How do I, you know, maybe the fear fear comes along or something could potentially trigger that fear, but how do I render myself immune to that this is what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is the technique i'm going to teach you so The point is, you first have to actually identify some of the hair off of me first, you have to identify the actual fear that's going on and here's one of the ways that I do this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I will ask my so one question I like to ask, and I think I made sure this with you all before, but what are you afraid would happen if.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, for example, if something didn't turn out the way you wanted it to worse certain thing happened in your life or didn't happen.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can ask yourself what am I afraid would happen if.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So by put by posing that question to yourself, you know if I don't get this job what am I afraid would happen if I don't get this job.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If this relationship doesn't work out and what you want to do when it comes to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You basically it's like it's like you're following a trail you're investigating because you remember you might have sort of an immediate fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or thought that comes up well i'd be afraid, if I don't get this job or i'm afraid that you know I won't have enough money to pay right Okay, I mean that's a genuine legitimate.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Fear and enough to trigger a sense of like oh my God my survival, but as you follow it down what you want to do you write down what are what am I afraid would happen if.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm going to fill in the blank and then follow that trail okay Well, if that were to happen, then what am I afraid would happen, and so you follow the breadcrumbs down into what is your deepest fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What are your what is the deep the deepest fear that you have this underlying all of it so on the surface, it might look like well i'm afraid that you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know if this date that i'm about to go on doesn't work out and I don't like him well i'm afraid that you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or maybe that he won't like me okay well if he doesn't like me, then what am I afraid would have learned afraid if he doesn't like me then i'm going to feel bad about myself Okay, but what's the worst that can happen that's another way to ask this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what's actually The worst thing that could happen from that well if i'm not feeling good about myself, well then i'm going to get depressed Okay, well then, what if I get depressed and I.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: won't be able to do my job very well okay well if I can't do my job very low bandwidth then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I my boss will get mad at me or or do really disappointed, you know Okay, then, then I might lose my job Okay, then, then I can't pay rent Okay, then, if I can't pay rent then So you see how it goes down.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, how these seemingly sort of surface, you know, in the moment fears can actually be directly related to our deepest deepest fields.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's that's what that's the technique that I would recommend them we're not done yet so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You look at and you follow it down, I will tell you this that I once had this conversation with a friend of mine who was very, very.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Driven in his job and always trying to make more money in his work, and he did very well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, but we want to talk about what was his deepest fear and we followed it down and basically his deepest fear and and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know everything was i'm afraid I will die alone under a bridge like that was the image that he had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, as scary as this sounds it's really important to allow yourself to go there now I don't want to recommend you do this if this really feels like too much for you Okay, please don't push yourself to do anything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That will really be too overwhelming or maybe it's overwhelming, but maybe you have a trusted friend or confident that you could actually do this exercise with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you if you do feel okay with doing this and allowing yourself to go there again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're not done with a technique that when I really recommend it just because it gives you the opportunity to go ahead and get really real with yourself and honest with yourself and face that fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, if this, then what until you get down to the deepest fear and write these fears down because by writing them down you're also really honoring.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and giving yourself a chance to just look at that OK, so now that you've done this and you've written down the deepest fears and we've gone down in there and you've really gotten to that point.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, as I said, for me, it's if I OK i'll just you know, using my example of what my deepest fear when it comes to my work my deepest fear is that I will not achieve my purpose on earth, and so what does that mean, then I will die feeling deeply worthless and disappointed and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And just deeply disappointed in myself and, interestingly enough, like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sort of like tested for a second there was well with being alone part of that it's not know like it's it's not even so much that, like other people would like me it's more than I would hate myself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I didn't achieve what I know I came here to on this was lifetime to achieve, and so what you want to do is go there and and and like So for me it would be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I am alone well actually it's funny I said i'm alone, but you know so maybe aloneness is part of it, but let's just say the worst of the worst would be i'm alone i'm in like hospital bed dying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I hate myself because, despite everything, and I mean, like all the opportunities i've been given all the gifts or talents i've been given all the abilities that i'm opportunities that I had to achieve my purpose I didn't.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I am so deeply self loathing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's over and i'm done.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that is like the works, and when I when I did this originally and I actually did this with my husband, because I found that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I wrote it down, but then I needed to talk it out, and so I said it with my husband and I noticed that, when the emotion starting to really come up and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was getting emotional and teary eyed and choking up and really feeling those feelings, this is what you want to do, to the point you want to go there in your mind and imagine it already happening okay you're imagining it it's not actually happening.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you're allowing yourself to imagine it happening here's why you're doing this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because once you've allowed yourself to fully go there guess what happens.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not a scary.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not scary because here's what happens with that you go through all the feelings you allow yourself, rather than resisting the fear you allow yourself to feel the fear and embrace the fear which, as I said earlier, what happens when you embrace dissolves.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so suddenly that fear isn't so scared.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Actually, not just bad.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because guess what you survived it and what I mean by you survive it so for me I go into that space that terror that fear that this thing is happening and it's The worst thing that could ever happen.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i've allowed myself to go through in my mind and imagine and guess what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm still here i'm still here that didn't happen, but I allowed myself to imagine that it, so the benefit wouldn't feel so scared because it's like I survived the fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what happens is you let your body experience it let the feeling score you remember that this is all just in her imagination.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, what happens is the fear dissolves and it's not so scary and then you'll notice, and this is what I noticed when I do this this past week, I have a little bit more to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when I did it this past week, all of a sudden, I was like motivated to do all these like activities that i've been like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There were, and again I wasn't even scared conscious of scared but I was subconsciously scare you subconsciously resisting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And all of a sudden, I was like so productive and I was like getting stuff done and, like all these ideas recording into my head molly's inspirations and I was getting all these projects finished that i've been resisting and I felt so much better it doesn't scare me so much.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not so scary I survived it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you can too, and so this is what I really recommend as you're aware of your fields.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whereas, maybe a little here pops up, but you know you feel like it might be related to some deeper stuff and go follow the breadcrumbs down to the deepest fear and go there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And let yourself feel it let yourself fully experience it let your body's process of feelings and just go through it and the sensations as they come up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And remember it's all in your imagination right now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That you're wanting so that you, you aren't so scared of it anymore, because you've been there, done that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you're good and you survived and you're strong and everything's great.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I recommend that that is a really powerful way to immunize yourself against your deepest fears and it's a great great activity to do, but again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: be really gentle with yourself be really careful with yourself, because, as always, be very patient with yourself, because you know this is deep stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this can also trigger other sort of branches of fears and so it's it's just a matter of just been really patient really gentle and allowing yourself to imagine yourself in there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and processing it at your own pace, this is not like i'm going to do every single fear I have i'm going to process all of this at once, because the reality is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There is a physiological component to this, it can be too much for your system, it can be too much for your mind you know it could be too much so again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just take it easy, and I say this because I used to be someone who's like I used to like dig for like you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're all the stuff that I can pull out know the traumas and all that well you know and everything and it just got to be too much.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's not about trying to dig it's not about forcing it's just about allowing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All right, and as you're ready to allow the body, the mind your heart your subconscious are you ready to allow those things to come up, you can let them come up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And do this simple exercise, so I hope this has been helpful for you and, as always, please do let me know you know what if you did this and how you feel and the difference that it makes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in allowing your energy grid allowing your emotional emotional system to kind of light map, if you will, like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Excuse me, release some of that the deep dark heavy stuff that you may be carrying that maybe subconsciously affecting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your daily life and the decisions that you're making okay Thank you so much, as always, I am Emily with ChangeLight.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Inner work for greater good, and I love to have you join us in our Community where I actually teach my techniques, I mentioned the drawing a process I teach.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The first few steps of the drumming up process to help quickly and easily release those you know triggers and to really align you, with your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and allow you to be the greatest most brightest presence possible I had, by the way, I have a couple of a minute left.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I should add, and this something I didn't do, but I shouldn't do this speaking of the Drawing Out Process, what about dry out that worker sphere draw it put it on the page in front of you, that is another really, really, really powerful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of releasing those feelings and really getting the depth of what's going on in your subconscious and putting it out there and that's going to pull even more of his deepest fears out from the root, so you know I think i'm going to go through that right now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, all right Thank you so much, love you all visit us at ChangeLight dot world, and I will see you next week.


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