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📺 IWFGG | Why Should You Do What Feels GOOD?





 

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of Inner Work for Greater Good. My name is Emily Eldredge. I am the founder of ChangeLight and the Creator of the ChangeLight System. Where I teach you inner work that accelerates your power to make a difference, to feel better, so you can do better and do good. This is what this is all about. So today, I want to talk about this

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: idea of like an idea. It's like doing what feels good.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now you know, the question is, why should you do what feels good, and that they seem like a stupid question.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because it's like Well, why not? But you know what so many of us, and I found this a lot in my own journey and my own overcoming my inner struggles that I had certain inner blocks to doing what would feel good for me, and a lot of times that had to do with the programming I received as a kid, for example, and I've run into this with my clients as well, where, like parents, might have said.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know my parents wife said to me, or in terms of my clients, you know the parent might have said, Well, you can't go out and play until you fill in the black. So until you finish your homework until you make your bed until you do your chores. And so there's this: what became ingrained in me and another people. I know, for example, just one reason why you know it may feel hard to do it feels good. Is it? Became this sort of delayed good feeling like you can't actually do what feels

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: good until after you've done something that doesn't feel good, or that's a requirement that you have to feel, do, or there's an obligation.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so with this sort of you know, delaying gratification or delay. And that's right. We're like delaying happiness, delaying joy, delaying good feelings until after you've done what doesn't feel so good. But the problem with that, just as one example of why we tend to have trouble sometimes doing what feels good and going towards what feels good is because that can turn into a pattern in life that is like. For example.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: people end up just then doing what they have to do, taking care of, you know, paying the bills or taking care of responsibilities, all this kind of stuff.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and then they never get to that point of actually doing what feels good or and or they feel like they don't deserve to do

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what feels good, or don't don't deserve those good feelings because they haven't, you know, done everything on their to do, list or fulfill certain obligations. And so what ends up. What can end up happening is you end up not doing what feels good, because no, I've got to do all these other things first.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so i'm just using that as one example of the kind of programming that we can receive as children. and then we carry that into a delta, and then before. You know what you're actually not doing anything that feels good, because you don't feel worthy of it, because you haven't done all your other responsibilities, because because because

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that was the last moment.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But because and so the the point is, we carry these subconscious beliefs, and then we end up, You know, in these subconscious patterns of the the delayed gratification. I understand there are also scientific studies that talk about is that the marshmallow studies

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: one of the takeaways that people, you know got from that was that actually, the kids who were most successful were the ones in life were the ones who actually delayed gratification. Didn't immediately take for the the marshmallow. That's apparently. I don't know if that's a correct reading of that study. But that was one reading of that study.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So my point is, I get that. There are, you know, valid reasons why you know people might say, Well, don't just do what feels good, and that's not what i'm saying, i'm not saying, only do what feels good. but I am saying that we can tend to deny ourselves that good feeling.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and so that's why. Sometimes, when when i'm talking about doing what feels good we may have.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I like a subconscious reaction to that. The only reason why this came up for me is because I launched our new free course and free community. So i'm very excited about that. Go to ChangeLight that world, join us have fun. Take the free course. So that's a whole other announcement.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I noticed that when I was talking about one element within one element of the course I realized I I was saying something to which people might have some injections, meaning like doing what feels good.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it comes out of one of the techniques that I teach in that free course that has to do with honoring your M. Powers most 3 emPowers. I've talked about the previous episodes, and that when you honor your emPowers, that part of the question of honor and your emPower is actually to ask each one what would feel good for you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's asking your empires what would feel good for that. And as I was explaining the technique, it's really simple. Again, take the free course. It's all in there. But if I was explaining the technique, I realized that sometimes there's that. Well, I don't know. Do it feels good? No, no! And because what often happens is

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we have that practical side of ourselves that can be one. Push back one part of us that has objections to doing what feels good. It says, No, no, no, you gotta do what you need to do. Gotta take care of those responsibilities and do your job, etc., etc., like you don't have time to do it feels good or no. You don't deserve that or any these other things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's all. By way of saying i'm like basically speaking to those objections that you might have. And I've certainly had historically to doing what feels good, because I really do want to get to why it is important and absolutely necessary

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in life to do things that feel good, and then ultimately, how doing those things that feel good do actually serve those other requirements and practical necessities of life for those things that we don't want to do

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's really quite a magic thing. Now, I discovered this when I actually first developed this technique for honoring your emPowers, and I found that so we just back up. Sorry to the 3 Empires, of course, are your Impresario, your Sovereigngn, and your Free-Spirit. Now your Free-Spirit is like that in child that's so joyful and so happy and so exuberant and enthusiastic. And it's all about feeling.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it's all about doing what feels good. And you know playfulness and expansiveness and joy and pleasure. So the Free-Spirit that's of all the 3 empires that's really like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's sort of it's per view. I mean the Sovereigngn and the Impresario obviously have things that feel good for them. But when it comes to this sort of like joy, homeless and alive, most of that I found into that energy comes from your Free-Spirit.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The problem is that a lot of times, especially as we come, you know oftentimes in childhood, because we're taught to. But then, or because circumstances necessitated it. But then into adults we end up sh acting that Free-Spirit. We end up denying it. We

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: ignore it. We dismiss it. We criticize it. We basically again. This a lot of this is unconscious is: we tell ourselves that we shouldn't do what our Free-Spirit wants to do. There are all kinds of negative consequences to this.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of them, for example, is burn out if we only do what we think we have to do or should do, and we deny what feels good and what gives us pleasure, then that is actually I found with my clients, and with myself too, a a big recipe for burnout.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because we then don't have that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that aliveness, that feeling of joy. And we're just focused on it. Just gotta get this stuff done which is draining.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And here is where the one of the big powers of the Free-Spirit

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's energizing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It fills us with this feeling of joy and pleasure. So if you deny that part of you?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then you're basically pushing that under underground or underwater, or what have you? And then where are you going to find that not going to find it externally. You find it from that free sphere. It's the part of you that has that amazing, wonderful to see yummy feelings for you. And so that's why it is

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: absolutely key

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to honor that Free-Spirit, and to do what feels good for that Free-Spirit. Now

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let me just throw in here what I mean by feels good. So

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when we talk about feeling good, some people might confuse that as well.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. Well, it feels good for me to drink this drink. You know where it feels good for me to go shopping all the time, or it feels good.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not talking about

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: activities that are maybe numbing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that are that are, could be addictive.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that are in any way unhealthy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: ultimately unhealthy. I'm not saying that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: going shopping is in, and of itself unhealthy. But when it becomes a way of trying to negate negative feelings, that's when it's not healthy. So i'm talking about what feels good from this deeper space of pleasure.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not from a space that i'm trying to not feel that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Does that make sense?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Nothing that's avoidance or addictive, or in any way sort of like a chemical numbing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We're talking about things that feel good. So let me give you an example. This is Well, i'm going to give you an example. One of the reasons why I brought this up. But really, this isn't

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i'll just give you the example of what i'm thinking

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is in my work right now. Today, this morning I was thinking, you know. Gosh, I've got all these things I've got to do. I've got to fulfill this obligation. I've got to answer this person I've got to.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I was noticing, though.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that they don't really want to do those things at least in terms of my work. What I really want to do start working on more courses to create that's this: like good feeling that I have, and when I think about doing that, it's like, yeah.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that would feel good. Now, that's also productive, because that's something I need to do, anyway.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is, I was in this sort of inner struggle momentarily where it's like. No, you have to do all these other things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but it was like nobody really feel like doing this right now. And here's why I'm gonna do that. Now, this is before I started doing this, this this episode is there. Here's why i'm gonna do that once i'm done with this episode. I'm going to do what feels good for me in terms of my work, because I know

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: from experience and from honoring my empires, and from you know the just having witnessed what happens when I do what feels good, what i'm feeling inspired to do in this moment?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is it that by doing that that's going to open up this flow of inspiration and energy and motivation and creativity and ideas

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which will then carry into doing those other things in the moment. I don't necessarily feel like doing, but I know they need to be done

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so. This is the main one of the big powers

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: doing what feels good for you and what feels good for your Empires

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: honoring those parts is that basically by doing what feels good

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is you open that incredible space.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: energy inside the joy inside the expansion inside the motivation, the good yummy feelings that will that will energize you and motivate you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So then, do whatever it feels good in that moment. But then, to do more

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because you're building that good feeling you're just building, or even just opening space for those good feelings inside that then expand into and carry into other activities

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you want to do what you need to do, but also

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that can help open up more of that inspiration for more things that feel good for you, which may or even more ways of doing things that feel good, more good, feeling, ways of doing things. So instead of it just being that I have to do this because it's an obligation, and then you slog through it

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: from that good feeling space. You also get ideas for Well, here's how I can actually do that thing that's gonna feel good in a way that feels good for me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it builds and built and ultimately, and you know, we have a broken record about this. It's about it's gonna light you up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So doing what feels good for you

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: brings forward

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: more of that light

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's within you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so you're gonna end up lighting up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, when you do those things, whatever they are, you're gonna bring that life into the world.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and then you're also gonna. In in fact, if you will, other people with your light, you're gonna affect them with your life. You're gonna do things that feel good and that ultimately do good

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because you're doing them with a good feeling, not from obligation or requirement, or slogging, or negativity, or resentment, or any of those other things that we can end up feeling when we don't really

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what is good. Instead, you're doing them with light and with joy and with pleasure and with freedom. And other people will feel that from you, and they'll get that from you, and they'll feel inspired by you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then so then you're bringing more of your life into the world.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's why that's why

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: why it is vital

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you do what feels good for you

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you tap into when you're working with those emPowers again take the free course. It tells you how to do this, but working with those and what feels good for them.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's ultimately going to serve what feels good for you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and when it feels good for you, then all the energy and inspiration and creativity and excitement and yummy every feelings that you've been desiring.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We'll fill you

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and fuel you

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to do even more.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and to do it better than that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I hope this has been helpful is always on Emily Eldredge, with ChangeLight that will come to our community. It's free. It's free community ChangeLight dot world. Join us.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: be with us, learn how to do the Drawing Out Process. It was the first 3 steps of it. Learn how to honor your emPowers, and really heal those struggles and reveal more of your strength, so that you can light up as you line up the world. All right. Well, I love you, thank you so much, and I will see you again next week.


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