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📺 IWFGG | You Have a Right to How You Feel




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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: Hello! Hello! Hello! My name is Emily Eldridge, and I am here for you with inner work. For greater good. You might be able to tell. I sound a little bit, suggested right now. I've been out of the weather the past couple of days. Oh, well, I'm gonna have to make this show this episode short, because I do actually have to be on a live call in just a bit. But


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: my message is short, but it is nevertheless extremely important. And it comes out of a I was working on to this week's podcast episode of Dark Light Truth.


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I was speaking with a part that was really venting about the childhood traumas that it had suffered. And I finally say to the part, you have a right to


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: to feel how you feel. And it's okay to feel the way you feel. And that part responded, wow! No one's ever told me that before.


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And so it's just a reminder that so many of us don't get that message often enough


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: that it's okay for us to feel the way we feel. You have a right


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: to everything you feel. The reality is you feel that way. So there's no need to question it or tell yourself not to feel it, because, frankly, that's just going to make it worse.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: So the reality is, you have a right to everything you feel that does not mean you have the right to do whatever you want with how you feel right, just because you're angry at someone doesn't mean you can therefore go punch them in the face or write terrible things about them online. That's not necessarily the way this goes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: But nevertheless, you have the right to feel it. You have the right to feel the way you feel, and I find that when just acknowledge that and own that and say I may not understand why I'm feeling this way, I may wanna question or criticize myself for feeling this way. But what's the reality?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: This is how I feel


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: right now. In this moment it's not forever. It doesn't mean I'm a bad person, just because I'm feeling anger doesn't mean I'm an angry person doesn't mean I'm wrong, or bad, or evil or aggressive. It just means that I feel anger. It just means that I feel sadness. It just means that I feel hurt. It just means that I feel frustrated.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: But it's okay to feel the way we feel. And the reason why this is also so extremely important is because when we don't honor, how feel it can get worse.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: we end up suppressing it. We question it, we try to contort it. We try to numb ourselves out from it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: and feelings don't just magically go away like that not in my experience.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: but they do dissolve or go away, or at least dissipate a lot faster when we honor them. When we just say, Okay, you know, and we can talk to that part if we feel like a part of us is feeling that way. So gosh, yeah, I can tell that you're really sad right now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: I could tell that you're really angry and honor it, and just let it be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: We'll try to over analyze it because that gets stuck in the trap of using your left brain to understand what's going on in your right brain. I've talked about this before, but it's sort of like, you know, telling a mechanic to like, you know, be a therapist. It just doesn't really work that way because emotions don't work the same. You know, they're they're abstract. They don't necessarily work the same as they work in the physical world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: And so really the way just let them behave.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: And a lot of times they'll just flow through on their own, or if you listen to them and you turn towards them and you honor them, you can listen for the wisdom


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: in how you feel. because there is wisdom in there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: So that's the other part of it, too, is that emotions can be messengers for us. They can be messengers with a great deal of wisdom.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: They can be reminding us of things. They can be warning us of things they can be telling us to take care of ourselves. They can be telling us to slow down.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: They can be carrying wounds from a situation in which someone treated us badly. And it's happening again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: And so they're just trying to let us know about that. They can be doing all kinds of things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: But the point is, there's nothing wrong with how you feel. You feel the way you feel for a reason. Whether or not you know, that reason doesn't really matter. But the feelings there for a reason.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: So it's okay to let it be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: It's okay to honor it. It's okay to trust that there's wisdom in it. And it's okay to trust that the answers will come to you in time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: But fighting those feelings, and I've talked about this before. I call it the physics of emotion when we fight, how we feel. Basically, those feelings are just gonna fight back, they just push back.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: And then we end up at war with ourselves. So just relax. Just go. Okay. don't make a judgment. Don't make a story. Don't make up things in your head. Or if you are just okay, I'm making up stories in my head. It's okay. Alright.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: There's no need to judge yourself for how you feel, or even the fact that you feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: because you're human.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: I am, too. We all are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: and I can tell you there's a whole lot more peace


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: in embracing our feelings and all aspects of who we are, and in fighting them. Finding them is just a recipe for more pain and more struggle. So I hope this is a good reminder for you. I realize this is real, short, and sweet, but I really hope this made a difference, for you. Use this as a reminder whenever you are struggling with the feeling, and I'm just here to let you know that it's okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: There's nothing wrong with you. We're not alone. It's okay to feel how you feel until next time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight.World: I'll see you later. Check out the website, ChangeLight, dot world, check out the podcast Dark Light Truth. Alright. I'll see you later.


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