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📺 IWFGG | How Can You Begin to Recognize Your Own Strengths?





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the creator of ChangeLight.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The ChangeLight System, the ChangeLight online community and all kinds of other exciting things that are on the way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm so happy to have you here, I get really excited when I get to have this show because I just love talking to all of you and sharing what i've learned and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hoping that it really does inspire you and help you to grow in your own journey.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and really understand the the the the Truth and the value of inner work and how valuable it is to your own journey and also, of course, how to go about doing it in really simple ways and sometimes really deep and profound ways so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well today's topic is, how can you begin to recognize your strengths i'm bringing this up as a topic, because I think a lot of times.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I let me just put it this way i've met so many people who have no idea what their actual gifts are what their actual strengths are and thank goodness, for you know tests like strengths Finder and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know there's a there's another one, I actually really liked a little bit different I mean there's like disc assessment and strengths Finder and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm sure you could think of a lot of others and i'm kind of blanking right now there's even one that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is on how to fascinate calm, where she her name is Sally hogs head really interesting name.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she has this whole system that's basically that like 49 types of personalities and how we each have our own unique way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of fascinating other people, and so that can be considered a strength as well, how is it that we appeal to people and what aspects of ourselves, can we use.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To really help get our message out or really have the impact that we want to have, and so the the what I find so interesting, and this is true for me too.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is how blind, we can be to our own strengths and how sometimes we can just sort of end up like kind of backing up into discovering what our strengths are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or how often we need outside input to recognize what it is that we're good at, and you know what it is that we can offer the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now there are a bunch of reasons why we tend not to recognize our own strengths and I want to discuss that first, before I get into some.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: tips and questions and stuff to really help you think about what it is that you are great at and what it is that are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Part of your divine design to help you live, your Truth and make the difference that you're here to make whatever that may be, first of all let me just say I talked about strengths earlier in this in the show.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In previous episodes and I talked about your emPowers and so your emPowers are those powers within you whose job it is to help you live, your Truth that's their whole.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Their whole job is to empower you to live your Truth to fulfill your purpose to be the presence that you here to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To have the impact you're here to have so as always go back and watch those episodes that talk about your emPowers because.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those are the parts of you who whose that's their job and it's Basically, they are when we talk about you being designed to live your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's your emPowers your emPowers or those parts of you who have their own unique gifts and skills and fokine and talents and aptitudes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That really support you in being the presence you're here to be and having the impact you're here to have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I want to talk in the show more generally about strengths and about like how we can be so unaware of what it is that we're good at and they're a bunch of reasons why so for one thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it blows my mind how often this happens and i've done this too we don't recognize what our strengths are our gifts our art or our talents are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because they're just so natural for us they're just so easy they're just so innate like if you're really good at you know meeting new people and making new friends if you're really good at looking at a spreadsheet and understanding numbers if you're really good at.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't know talking people through certain issues or understanding certain issues, we can all have these different attitudes and skills and gifts that we don't even know that we have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because they're just so easy for us because it's like yeah so what whatever, this is what I do and because they're so easy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We don't value them I can't tell you how many conversations i've had with people.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where it's like they have these incredible skills and gifts and aptitudes and what have you and just you know, maybe it's ways they relate to people, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet they don't even like think anything of it and i'm kind of going, are you kidding me you're so good at that, like that's such a great ability that you have, and they say, really, I never thought of it that way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, of course, they didn't because well it's just what they do right it's just what I do this, this is sort of a.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is what popped into my head and it's kind of related but, for example, I was very involved in 911 and I was a first responder, and so I spent a lot of times around firefighters for the next couple of years after that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it was so interesting how people you know all around the world were saying wow about the firefighters and there was all a lot of hero worship and and absolutely you know absolutely.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They were worthy of it in terms of having the honor and the respect that they were given, especially since so many lost so many of your colleagues and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So many of the firefighters went in there, knowing that they weren't going to come out and they still did it anyway so there's i'm not saying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Absolutely deserving of that all and admiration, but it was also so interesting to talk to the firefighters, a lot of them and say how they were so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They were so uncomfortable with a lot of that worship and they were so uncomfortable with all the oh wow you're so amazing that you do that, because for a lot of them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're like well that's just what I do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They don't they really don't think much about the fact that they're firefighter it's not how like well i'm a firefighter and sort of swashbuckling and i'm really awesome and amazing, in fact, most of the firefighters I known, who I met back then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: are very modest and very humble because it's just what they feel called to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So they don't see anything special or amazing about the fact that they are firefighters, or that they feel called to do it because it's just so natural.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'll even use myself as an example with 911 is that when I went down there I may i'm not sure if i've shared this on the show before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when I went down there, I was up at hell's kitchen, I was working up in that area in Times Square area.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when I saw what had happened, I knew that I was going to go I just there was no question, meanwhile, my family was calling, they are trying to call me the cell towers and stuff were out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But, but the they were calling me and saying you got to get out of Manhattan you got to get out of there because they're talking about they're going to bomb time Square and they're all going to be all these attacks and everything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so there was all this anxiety, but I knew I knew that I wasn't going anywhere, except to ground zero period, full stop.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, so I went to ground zero and I ended up spending the next couple of weeks there and I basically lived there and I was helping and I was serving as whatever ways I could.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The point is, though, is that for years after whenever people share or hear hear my story and I don't really share it that often like someone might mention 911 and I don't I don't feel the need to be like oh yeah I was there, because I don't.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feel any sense of like wow i'm so special they're great, but the point is, is that the when people would find out that I was there, they would say wow that's so amazing you were there that's so great that you oh gosh that's so courageous, etc, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I didn't think anything of it, because it was just like well, of course, like to me, there was no question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There was no doubt I didn't think I was doing anything special or courageous I didn't think it was any.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know strength of mind that I was doing mine that I was doing that and even some of the things I did down there people saying well that was really amazing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I didn't think anything of it because it felt so natural and innate and easy for me to do it i'm not saying it was always easy, and in fact I ended up having a lot of health issues afterwards in the years after and that was definitely not easy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But my point being is that we can have the strength these tendencies these attitudes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That we're we don't think anything of it because it's just easy for us, but for other people they're like oh my gosh that's so fantastic and that's so amazing because it's not easy or natural for them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's one of the biggest reasons I found why people tend to dismiss or devalue their own unique gifts and skills, because it's just who they are so they don't think there's anything special about it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And also, we assume that other people have those same gifts and skills, because if it's easy for us well that just must be what they can do to don't even think about it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that's, the Truth is we're all designed so differently, for a reason because we're each meant to play different roles were each meant to bring different gifts different skills different attitudes different passions, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To any given situation and to play different roles i'll remember something else here that my mother told me this story years ago or shouldn't tell the story, it was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: back when I was still trying to figure out what is my purpose, what is my mission what is my Truth and i've always been this like visionary idea for it like big future stuff like creating big things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'll never forget, when my mom I forgot what prompted her to say this, she goes well you know, there are people who really just.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They just like to serve people like you, you know they they like to be part of something where there's someone else who has the idea there's someone else who has the mission, but they like to be in service and they like to be in service to that mission.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it was like my head like spun around like whoa really, really, because I had never had never occurred to me that other people didn't feel let's say as driven with a sense of purpose and mission.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that other people didn't sort of have these big visions, because it was just so innate for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's something I just want you to notice that a lot of times we don't recognize our own strengths, because we don't think of them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As strengths, we don't think of them as anything special because to us, they are special because they're just simple and easy and straightforward, but other people, they are invaluable.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to other people their superpowers okay so just something I just wanted to point out, and also another reason.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Before I get into ways that you can start to recognize your own strengths another reason why we tend not to really see aspects of ourselves or gifts, we have or talents or tendencies.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: lot of times, the reason why we don't see them as strengths, is because we've been criticized for those things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I touched on this a little bit in a previous episode when I talked about how can your struggles guide you to your strengths.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I talked about how sometimes the very thing that maybe when we're children when we were expressing a certain emotion or a certain ability or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, showing up a certain way, and then maybe someone came along and criticize us for it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or maybe we were in this moment of joy doing this thing we loved and somebody else didn't understand or somebody else was threatened or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so they tamp down on it, or they criticize, and so they made us to feel bad for being that way or having that ability or what have you because they were jealous or whatever it could have been another kid on the playground.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That made us feel bad for showing up a certain way or expressing ourselves in a certain way, or you know, having a certain showing a certain talent or gift.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what ends up happening is we take in that message that that thing that we think is great and wonderful about us on some innate level we know this is a good part of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet we taken the message there's something wrong or bad about that part of us, and so, rather than seeing that as a strength that we have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We see it as a weakness, we see it as a flaw I know i've used this example before, but this one for me is such a huge one, and that is that I was all throughout my childhood made to feel bad.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: made to feel like there was something wrong with me for being emotionally sensitive for being very you know emotionally dramatic to you know very, very expressive.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, but also very, very emotionally sensitive, you know I would cry easily or i'd react certain ways to certain things that other people would be like why she having that reaction, and so I felt shamed and I felt criticize and I felt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: made you know, like like that there was something wrong with me and that I was flawed, and so I spent a lot of decades, a lot of years.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hiding that part of me like cutting off that emotional sensitivity, because I was afraid of being criticized, and because I thought it was something that was wrong with me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, as it turns out, it is a superpower of mine personally my emotional sensitivity, as part of my empathy my ability to connect with people.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to feel whatever it is that they're feeling and be able to help them feel understood and valued and validated and also with the work that I do if you've been following my show you'll see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it's all about tuning in tapping in and honoring that Truth inside of you so that my point is, and you may you may be thinking of examples for yourself as i'm sharing this example for myself, but the point is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The very thing that I was criticized for as a child has turned out to be my greatest gift this massive superpower that once I start started to actually.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: honor it and value it and embrace it was like wow, this is actually pretty darn cool and sure some people might still think that i'm being overly dramatic or emotional or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I know how I can use those gifts to help others and to make a difference and so again that's a big reason why we may think why we actually may think that what's our what's a weakness that we have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For what's a strength that we may actually think it's a weakness and so that's again go back and watch that episode, because I talk more in depth about that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That actually that's where we can find these fabulous hidden strengths, that we didn't even know we're there that we thought were the opposite.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So those are the main reasons why we tend not to recognize our own strengths, because their innate they're natural they're just easy for us, we don't think there anything special.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So therefore we don't value them as special or value them as a strength, also because we assume everyone else can do the same thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, or is the same way, or has the same perspective, etc, and also because we've been criticized for them, and so actually our strengths are really hidden underneath what we think our weaknesses.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's where you can start to kind of notice Where are you dismissing aspects of yourself that other people might really value or that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Excuse me, might be very, very easy for you, maybe, what if you are rather than.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Rather than take them for granted start to go well wait a minute, what if this is actually a pretty cool thing that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know I really do bring value to this situation, I really do bring value to the world in this way it doesn't feel that valuable to me, because it seems so easy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But look at other people and even ask them be like well is that something that you feel like you're good at, because I can tell you right now there are so many things in this world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I like I know i'm really good at a lot of things, but I am not good at a lot of things, some examples like Oh, you know understanding things like health insurance and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Taxes and accounting and stuff like that I am always like thank you, thank you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Thank you, thank you to those people, because that is not something that is naturally easy for me it's their way out of my genius zone.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And speaking of genius and that's where I find it's really, really important that we really honor and as much as we can stay in your genius zone.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because that is ultimately the place where we're meant to be is doing whatever what it is that lights us up leads me to the next, thought that I have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this is then how can you recognize your own strengths, how can you start to see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What are in fact your strengths and stop taking them for granted and stop dismissing them as just like and whatever and going well you know I maybe there's actually some.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: value to this and really does, I really can help people so here are some great questions to ask yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: one kind of in keeping with what we said before, what is it that feels really easy or natural or innate for you, what is it that you do that, you can just kind of do, and not even think about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That could be one of your strengths and, mind you, I want to just add a note here that, when it comes to any of this stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Asking other people for their feedback people we trust, really, really important to do that because they can often reflect back to us things that we never saw in ourselves or again never really valued.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I would say, what is it that feels easy or natural or innate for you, what is it that you can lose yourself like lose time in the day.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is it that you can absolutely just like like three hours have gone by and it felt like 30 minutes What are those activities What are those.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even like your trains of thought, even just ways that you process the world or you're curious about or you're thinking about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is it that takes up a lot of time that doesn't feel like it takes up a lot of time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's the kind of thing that you can really pay attention to and start to discover that won't get on baby, this is part of my purpose or this is this is part of my strengths, because.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't even it doesn't feel like a struggle for me if it felt like a struggle, then it would probably.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feel like it was taking a lot longer right, but if it doesn't feel like a struggle oftentimes it's because we're in the flow there's a whole book called flow where it talks about you, being in that zone and you're being in that flow.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's another thing to ask yourself what is it that you lose yourself in here's another question that I absolutely love and I ask people this question all the time, what lights you up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is it that lights you up what is it that basically makes you feel so light so expanded so free so like ah.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: like this that you know the light comes to your eyes, you notice that you're more excited when you talk about it, what is it that lights you up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because when I often when I talk about your Truth and even the image that I showed you about your inner Truth, it is your light.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is the the absolute most powerful and beautiful light that you can shine is when you're living your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're trusting your Truth you're actually using your Truth you're really embodying that so think about it that way when you're doing what lights you up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You are doing what is in alignment with your Truth and if it's lining you up then it's energizing you then it's filling you with that light, and with that energy with that radiance.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's like it's like this natural fuel, then so this inner fuel for whatever it is, you know that you that you're here to do and that keeps you going.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's another way to recognize some of your strengths now, mind you, I will throw this in here, there can be times when, for example, like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like someone might say, well you know what really lights me up is singing and maybe that person cannot carry a note.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, you could say well that's not really their strength that's just what they really enjoy well, I would say.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's okay go ahead and do it because, if it's lighting you up and you're lighting up the world if it's lighting you up it's energizing you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in that case it almost doesn't even matter whether or not you can carry a tune if you're really enjoying yourself then do that thing because it feels so good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Not only that, what is your strength, you could you could like look at that differently and go well Okay, so the strength may not be about well i'm a great singer but more I am itself expressive.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I love to express myself or that I love to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To show my emotion through sound, you see, so there are all different ways of starting to kind of parse it out and go well, what is the strength that's in this activity that brings me so much joy that lights me up, so what lights you up is the is the third question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's another question, what did you love doing as a child, so when we're children a lot of times I mean, obviously we can grow up and really difficult circumstances that can kind of distort.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our perception of ourselves and can distort what we naturally would would be doing as a child, for example, if you had to take care of a parent who was ailing or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: had an addiction problem, or what have you and so that might have really kind of veered you in a different direction and you'd ever really felt like you had a really like sort of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Pure childhood experience, if you will, so understanding that sometimes that can happen.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But even so I love to think about and you might think about to when you're thinking about what are your strengths, what is it that you would love to do as a child.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What did you love to do as a child, what is it that brought you joy, what is it that you would naturally gravitate towards.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, for example, my step daughter she loves to draw and she she draws all the time, but even prior to that she draws I should say she draws these characters and she makes up the stories.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even prior to that you know when she was little she had her legos and she would create these worlds like these whole world, and all these different characters and create all these stories.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, luckily she's been able to actually have a through line there were you know now she draws and she writes stories and she keeps using those gifts.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But for you, maybe you haven't had such a strong through line so when you were a child, what is it that you love to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you might say, well, I love to be a ballerina and I wanted to dance, but I don't really dance now Okay, but it could still be something that would.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By doing that activity will light you up and guide you in the direction of what it is that is your strength what strength is being expressed through that activity.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another thing can be that as a child, you were really good at you know relating to other kids on the playground, or you were really good at math or you were really good at.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know you like to do like the volunteer projects at school, or what have you or you really like to teach the other kids.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Elizabeth Warren the Senator she talks about how, when she was a kid in second grade she.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Had this teacher who let her teach the other kids reading and she loved it so much she just loved teaching and so what has she gone on to become well she became a professor.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At Harvard and law professor and then she ended up you know, to now she's a senator, of course, she ran for President, but the point being that if you watch her you'll see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That one of her strengths is teaching it's teaching concepts that are very complicated and not just law, but just generally.


00:23:25.020 --> 00:23:30.780

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: very complicated concepts that she's able to distill down into more simple.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: More simple vocabulary words so that the average person, and I would say, like me, who doesn't understand a lot of that stuff it's like oh okay that actually makes sense, I can grasp that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's a teaching strength that she has that she's used in a lot of different ways.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's something that you can even think to like what is it that you love to do when you were a kid you may look back at your old journals or your old drawings or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: talk to your parents or anyone else who can tell you what you were like as a kid and that can start to you know spark some of those realizations of like I guess, these are my strengths, I guess, this is something I really love to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So another final question that may sound kind of weird but is is going back to when I talked about 911 and how at 911 you know I ran down thread down there to help.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What ended up happening was so so it was a lot of regular people regular new Yorkers like we were not firefighters not COPs just regular spontaneous volunteers, is what we call ourselves.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just spontaneous volunteers gone down to help it's so fascinating if you've never been in a disaster zone, and when I say disaster I don't mean it doesn't have to be like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know the Trade Center towers falling, it could be you've been in a war zone you've been in a weather been tornadoes or hurricanes and there's a lot of devastation and destruction.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: any situation where it really has just stripped everything down to like basic human needs, and to you know we're sort of your daily activities are gone and it's like in the moment what is it that needs to be done.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is absolutely fascinating if you've never been in a situation like that what I find so fascinating is how people self categorize.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How people just sort of after a while I mean initially everybody's having to let's say, maybe, if you have to like it 911 people had to dig for bodies or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe we have to feed people, but as things start to get set up and people start to self identify and self categorized according to whatever is their innate gift or skill.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever it is that they feel most empowered to do, or just it feels most natural for them, and so what happened at 911 was like when I went down there, I was you know brought down there it's actually smuggled in a cop.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: van it was it was some COPs to smuggle this thing because they're like we need people we don't have enough people.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so they smuggle this in it like four o'clock in the morning went down there, and so I was there to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: run supplies that was the initial expectation was like Okay, we need people to run supplies because we're getting all this stuff in from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, all these places all over the world and it's a mess and we need people to organize and set it up, so that we can serve people who are you know the firefighters and others who were on the pit digging for bodies.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The point is that I went down there Irish originally to do that, but what I started to do and I did not notice this until many years later, when other people pointed out, pointed it out to me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They said, you know Emily you had this ability to just see who was in pain, or who was in shock or who was just needing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like human connection and you had this ability to just identify them and then just take them and sit them down.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and basically bring them back to life and bring them back into connection, and so I.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean one guide called me an angel of the pit and I didn't think of myself as that way, I was just doing what I just instinctively knew how to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't even think anything of anything I was doing anything special or interesting, but other people were the ones who were like are you kidding me I could never have done that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There were like I was much happier, just like getting boots to the guys on the pit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: don't make me talk about emotions with anyone I would not have known what to do in that situation, and in that situation, I will tell you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I wasn't a trained therapist I wasn't trained in any of that it was just a natural thing that felt right for me to do just as one human being to another, whereas you had other people who were like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Making lists of emails.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: email and cell phone numbers, you know just and he was like the communications guy and he just naturally gravitated to that like okay what's your cell phone okay what's your name and where are you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So he was all about logistics and communications and organizing things and then you had other people who are all about food and they loved food service, and so they were doing the food service.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you had other people coming down as healers and they were doing you know, and these are more like like chiropractors, who would come and do their thing, but my point is that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: People just naturally gravitate in those situations this isn't long way of saying I want you to hypothetically put yourself in that kit in that situation if you've never been there before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And just what would you feel that you would naturally gravitate towards what's a need that you just naturally feel that you could be empowered to fulfill.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And just see what happens see what comes up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that might be another sign of like well that's a strength of yours, that you don't even think of as necessarily anything special or strong.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet it is because it's something that you uniquely can do that not everybody else can do others can probably do it, but not everybody can do it, and so that can be a strength of yours.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I hope this has been helpful I just I just want to really encourage you to start to pay attention to what it is that you, what are your strengths, that you may not even realize are there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or you may be dismissing as weaknesses, or as flaws and really they're not really they're just fabulous parts of you their parts of your divine design that you are meant to bring to your work as a changemaker to your mission to whatever impact that you're here to have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Thank you so much, I hope, it's been helpful, as always, my name is Emily Eldredge with ChangeLight please do join our community community.


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