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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How do you? How do you all,
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Emily Eldredge? Here? Sorry. There was a little bit of my Texan coming out there. How do you all.
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Yeah, I grew up in Texas, but I don't necessarily talk like that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I can do all those accents, Emily. Anyway, this is Emily out here is this: okay? My name is Emily Eldredge, and my show is Inner Work for Greater Good. I'm: So happy to have you here. Thanks for being here, as always, we are talking about the inner work that is necessary to accelerate your power to do good and to make a difference. It should really be the brightest, most wonderful, brilliant, and amazing life it can possibly be
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on earth, so that you can do the greatest good and really have the biggest impact. Sorry i'm a little choppy right now. It's been kind of a crazy morning at like i'm in New York City, and I went to you know Connecticut this morning, and it's been kind of crazy, and like we're dog. My parents dog is staying with me, a poor thing like she hears me going. How do y'all? And she's like what, anyway? A little behind the scenes for you
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So, anyway. Nice to have you and I hope we're doing a great day so far I wanted to share with you.
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Ah, and so how I think about certain things that i'm frequently talking about. You know It's funny how we talk about certain things over and over again, without necessarily really clarifying what made by them. And i'm not just talking about what I talk about in my work, I mean, i'm talking about Sometimes there are terms that are thrown about, you know, in the news, or among each other, and we don't. You know it's important, I think, to get clear on what exactly we need to say certain things. And one of the things that I want to talk about today is
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this down a little bit, so I can sort of sit here. Sorry about that. All that kind of stuff. Oh, and I got stains on me. I'm just a mess today. Um! But I wanted to talk about this idea of what lights you up. I often talk about, do what lights you up, and my company is called Change Light, for a reason, because it really is all about lighting you up and empowering you to be the change that you are here
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to be in a world, and be that the the light of change that our world's so desperate needs. But when we talk about inner light and lighting up. And you know, what is that? What exactly does that mean? And I know you probably already have your concept of that, and I definitely have my concept of that, and I also want to talk about the question of how do you know what it is that lights you up? Because i'm going to talk about
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the world. Um! So how do you even know what that is? So I've got a few approaches that I want to share with really simple approaches. This is how I can, how I tend to recognize or I help other people recognize. What is it that lights them up? What makes them, you know, really um feel more alive and like they're really um.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So first of all, when I talk about what does it mean to like what I see it as anything that literally makes you come a lie that brings the light that spark into your eyes that makes you radiate, that, you know and and think about it when you see other people, and you see that they are let up. Why, how would you describe that? What does that look like for you? What do they look like? How do they change?
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It's so fun Because sometimes when I zoom calls or i'm with a client, or I'm even just talking to someone. And you can see this is how I see it. If you see the change in the face you hear the difference in their voice. It's like. Suddenly there's a sparkle in their eyes. Suddenly there's an energy to what they're saying.
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How? What does that look like in other people, so that I can start to recognize that within myself. And so that's how I see it literally. What makes you feel more alive and lit up. What is it that causes your ah, the other people's faces, or your home face to radiate that light for that light to come to your eyes? You know, sometimes by contrast, when we talk about. If you've ever seen someone pass away, or even you sometimes see this in movies, you know, actors can do a really good job at this,
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where literally it's like the light, just disappears from their eyes. And in a way some people would say, Oh, that's the soul disappearing, or you know that's um, you know that's the the life coming out, you know weaving their body. But think about that. It's like notice when you can see when someone's eyes are lit up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: versus when they're kind of dead inside or versus when they just seem like the leg has gone out, or they seem very dim. There's a reason why we talk about being lit up and lighting people up, or when we talk about Epiphany, the word Epiphany. I'm not using that necessarily in a religious way. I just want to clarify just the word of
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: actually um Gosh! See here, i'm going to talk about the word epiphany, and then i'm forgetting exactly what the root is. But I don't remember if it's ebb or phonos, I think Phonos is light. But The point is even that work is all about light or illumination or inspiration, spirit light, that the other inspire is in spirit and spirit. When we think it's true enough of light, and even in religious depictions we see the light of God. You know we're like
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and halos around saints, for example, and that the gold art that we see often over a saint's image in religious imagery is meant to depict their spiritual evolution, their spiritual connection. Um, your spiritual elevation, if you will but notice it's white. Light is what's used frequently to depict um spiritual connection, to depict,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to depict epiphanies to a pick, to depict realizations. When we talk about the light bulb going off in your head,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you have this idea a revelation. Oh, and so that's all about.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when we feel that inside. What does that feel like? What does that look like when we see it in other people? And so these are ways that we can start to be aware of when that's happening in ourselves and what you know. How do we know what it is that lights you up?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm sorry I've unfortunately got a mess with him going.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, I got to be quiet. Sorry. Yeah, put it on to not disturb, Anyway,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: your actions today. My apologies i'm not normally the scattered, but anyway so light up so that even in across the board we get depictions of that, and we see that in our everyday lives, and I think there's something to that. Because
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're more luminous, you're more peaceful. You're more joyful excited. You're more positive.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So these are qualities, traits ways of being. Um, you know emotions, feelings that we can have that are really all about like. I personally think that's what life is about, and i'm not saying that to It's not about that. Well, therefore, if we're dark or den women, we're not really doing what we should be doing, We're not.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that that's somehow bad, because that serves a purpose, too. But that light, that a likeness that
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: her even light think about it this way the word white. It's not just lit up. It's also. So we've got multiple meanings even for that word light. And I often I love to say, you know, do what makes you come to light comes from life. Okay.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So typically life into life. And when we're more and more spiritually connected, we're more at peace and we're doing what we're here to do, and being who we're here to be. And the way I see it is, the more lit up you are, the more you are that it's an indication of you.
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The fact that you are on path in your life
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are doing when you're doing what lights you up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You are doing what we can
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to do, or you are connecting with people you are meant to connect with, or that you came to care to connect with and be on a soldier, or however you want to see it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that's why I think it's so extremely important to learn to recognize. What is it that lights you up. How can you tell? How do you know what likes you up?
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And I also want to say, too, is that a lot of times people struggle to figure out What is my thing? What is my purpose? Who am I there to be? What am I going to do, you know? And they they try to figure out what's their thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this is a really quick,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: easy way to figure that out is just by noticing what likes you up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: if it lights you up in view light of the world, and from my perspective that you really are fulfilling your purpose and your mission, whatever it is that causes you to light up. Then that's one of the things, if not
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the thing. One of many things, maybe, that you are there to do
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or person. You're here to connect, et cetera, et cetera.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sure
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that being set, we've covered, What does it really mean to light up? And also, why is it so important to you in the direction of your Guiding Star. And
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in your mission.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here are the ways that I tend to observe in myself and in others and ways that I help others to know what likes them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: First and foremost
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in her feeling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How does something make you feel?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Does it make you feel
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lit up, you know. Notice what I did? It's like my shift, and I
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: like my breathing like Open up, lit up, lighter on the inside. What is that? It's that inner feeling of lightness, aliveness
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Us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Yes, this was clear. This feels right
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so to me The most important thing is your inner feeling. How does it make you feel?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Does it make you feel like it causes you to come alive or to life up with a much really good information for you to notice, and to know that home
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this is something that likes me up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it may be something that's kind of surprising.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But just take that as information. You know. I feel more lit up when I do this thing. I feel more lit up. When i'm around these people I feel more lit up when i'm in this space. For some people people
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really in line up when they go to the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that sounds kind of silly, because it's like Well, the first you line up there's usually the beach and sunny, etc. But there are some people from the one
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that is their thing. They love the beach they light up. They are more joyful than ever,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that could be for any number of reasons. In that case it could be physiological, you know it could be, or something about. They need the vitamin d or whatever. But the point is, they're more lit up, and that's something to notice and pay attention to and to honor them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then find those experiences that light you up for some people they light up, or feel more peace, or more like in nature in a forest. For some people it's when they're surfing for some people. It's when they're, you know, with a certain group of people. So you notice, though, that feeling in size
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: start to go for your day if you're trying to. If you're having trouble figuring out what it is that lights you up, and maybe you know It's because you're trying to also figure out what is my purpose? What is my mission? What is it that brings me joy. Start with noticing how something makes you feel
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: if something, or someone, or a situation, or a circumstance, or an activity, or whatever notice how they make you feel, or notice how you feel doing them, or with them or around them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now, mind you, let me just establish that sometimes when it comes to people.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There can be things about that person that do light us up, and other things that don't. So I understand there are some different things here, but it's just a matter of starting to notice that in your feelings,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and being very self-aware in that way,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: also one way to tell if it's something that likes you up another way to start to notice or pay attention or start to go home. That actually likes me up is, do you lose track of time,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: if you're doing something, or you're somewhere in particular. Or maybe it's with certain people or certain kinds of people, and you just lose all track of time that can be a really good something that you up. This is something that helps you feel alive, because then, when you're when you're
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when you're losing track of time, and you're not even noticing how much time is that tells you that you're not, you know, counting down the hours You're not feeling like this is such a chore, so difficult you feel in the flow. In fact, that's
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the whole book. If you haven't read it called,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it's by a man there. But it's a really interesting what that talks about when we're in flow. What's the state of flow? And there are different circumstances that cause somewhere to be low. So for some people it might be right. They go into this state of like losing all track of time,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: total focus, and awareness and presence. Some people it's climbing, you know it's it's it's It's
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, for other people that would be like Oh, my God, I wouldn't be in flow! That would scare the hell out of me. But for other people they're like That's when I feel like I am so completely focused. I am not destructive. I lose all concept of time. You know it feels they're in that state of flow. So when you're in that state of flow,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this really likes me up. This makes me feel good and start to get those um you know it's a clues. It's like you start to put together these clues more.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This gives me a state of flow where I really lose track of time. When I do this, I mean for some people like the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know sometimes. Ah, you know it's ah like for okay, I'll use a simple example for me. Um, i'm not a needle pointer. I'm not like someone who's um. You know, like That's my like purpose. However, I do like needlepoint, and I lose track of time because I just kind of get into it for some people it's knitting,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and so those can often be. It may not be that, like okay Needlepoint, then, is one thing that i'm supposed to do. However same time it can be an activity, though,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: does help you line up or helps you feel more at peace. And in those zones that you're in you can start to get more like downloads and epiphanies. There's that word again. And realizations, or like starts to kind of have
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: these thoughts and ideas. Oh, that's interesting like this is what happens for me when I do needlepoint, For example, that's one of many activities that i'll do. But i'm like Oh, that really helps me start to have ideas it's like working with,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and which studies show, anyway, is extremely therapeutic. We are really good for the mind, anyway. But the point is that can be something that likes you up, but that gives you that clarity in that space to really start to get those
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you need to even notice. You know, going forward what let's
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so when something feels easy and natural,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this is something that over and over and over again it's just amazing to me, and I am completely guilty of this, where something so easy and so natural that I don't even think about it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't even think it's anything special. I just feel like, okay, whatever this is what I do. And when other people express their gratitude for my doing that thing or they're that they're impressed, or they're like wow, or they're you know. I kind of go
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: okay, because I don't think it's anything necessarily that special or different, because it's easy and natural for me to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what are those things that are so easy and so natural for you that you don't even notice it that you don't even value this, that maybe you don't even realize that they do you like they do make you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's not to say that everything that's easy for you lights you up. I mean, is it easy for me to walk a dog? Sure, you know. Okay, I walk,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Parents dog. Okay. But it doesn't necessarily mean that it lengths me up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but it's for that. It's like the thing that i'm supposed to do. However, the woman who walks the dog, who I sometimes hire to walk, but when she's in town she loves it, it lights her up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and so it makes you so happy to walk the dogs and take care of the dogs, and she even takes pictures and sends text pictures and videos of the animals with the dogs, while she's walking them like It's just the most darling thing, and she loves it, and because it lights her up, people see it, they feel it, and they know this is someone who's taking one of their of my animal who's so precious to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so she's created this, you know business, so I mean, I live in New York City. There are a lot of dog walkers here, and but you can tell the ones I just have to tell you. There's this one dog walker and um in what I see sometimes in Central Park, and he's this tall, like muscular guy like. Clearly he works out. He's very
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: elegant man,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean Ellie, I mean, he's wearing shorts and a t-shirt. But he's just got this voice to him, and it's just just this just reality. I just want him,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and he is always walking. I think it's like five dogs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Frankly, they're usually off the leash, which there are certain hours when that's allowed
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: off the leash, but he loves them, and
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they are his buddies he talks about. They're they're not getting his dogs. He walks them for someone. They think it.
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He loves these dogs. They are his buddies. They respond to him. He has so much fun with them,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: absolutely loved him when we talked about that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, thank goodness, this is what he's doing. He's walking dogs it like
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it makes him happy. And you know what it makes me happy every time I meet him, because he's such a lovely man, and he's just He's just so in love with these animals that he takes
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's I and I want to use that as an example, too, that, like whether it's walking dogs or I don't know. For some people it's investments for some people. It's, you know, working retail. They're different things that mine will suck
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: doesn't really matter what it is what it is that lights you up. It lights you up, it lights you up, and then you're lighting up the world.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, here's something else. And all of these notice are observations. It's about observing yourself. But you'll see that the last one is actually more about asking other people to observe. You
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice how you talk about that thing, or that person, or that situation, or that hobby, or that job, or that whatever scenario,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice how you talk about it. Notice how your voice changes, I mean. Obviously, we talked about the internal feel. You know you feel it up and feel lighter, your your chest expands, you know your you know you could see lightness in your head, whatever it is that feels good for you in other hitting, and sometimes it's
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know what I'm noticing that i'm kind of excited as i'm talking about this, or i'm noticing that I just can't stop talking about this, because i'm like,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, and so sometimes i'll even notice that when i'm like this this kind of makes me happy. And so it's about noticing that
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I will tell you. And this actually goes to the last one, which is about having other people. Observe you and asking them, or we're asking other people
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you notice that likes me up? When do you notice that I feel happiest?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When do I seem to come most alive? When Have you seen this sparkle in my eyes? When how do you see me? Truly joyful and gradient? And you can ask other people
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the reason why I'm jumping to this one is because i'm thinking of two examples in which other people reflected back to me without me even asking so things in which it was like, Oh,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: where i'm somebody I I didn't realize that i'm happy that naked, or I didn't realize that it showed that much.
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So one of them was actually when I whenever I would talk about my husband with people,
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and I thought that I was just sort of like, Yeah, I brought him a good time, and he's great, whatever
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. And this was early on in our relationship, and I was nervous. I was anxious. So I had my reservations that were frankly my reservations were not that,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but because I was so anxious and nervous about relationships in general, because I've been hurt before. I was like, you know whatever.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And other people
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: said to me, You know what
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: these changes
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just look so happy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Were noticing only before I noticed it in myself, and I was like, really it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that became this really good information for me to realize that
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this I kind of makes me happy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sure enough, now I notice it Now I notice that when I talk about it the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: my voice changes, and and now it's more like, you know, whereas before I think it might have been. I don't know if it was more subtle.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But now i'll notice that you know when I talk about my husband i'll. I'll just like
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I I it's kind of silly, but
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I like it. I'll talk. I'll start to talk about him in the kind of voice that we talk to each other,
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so i'll be like Here's my body,
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but that's because that's how we some guys talk to each other like for my money, and I called it my money. It's my buddy. We're buddies for my! But
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so notice you might even see it. I could actually even notice it, too. The light in my eyes, and it makes me happy. And
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do we argue? Yes. Do we sometimes get on each other's words?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Yes. Are there things about each other that drive us crazy. Yes, and he makes me feel safe and happy. And so it was by other people observing me that I was really became that much more aware of how much of an impact this had on me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another example just happened yesterday, in which I was talking to one of my teammates about this new approach that I was going to take,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and some people I want to serve, and I was the way I saw it. I thought i'm just sort of relating, because because she'd been on vacation. So I was just relating like blah blah blah. So here's what i'm thinking. And here's what I want to do whatever.
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And she said,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you really sound excited about this
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because I really genuinely didn't think it. If anything, I smell like it don't sound as excited as I did a week ago
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about this,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but she noticed it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm really excited about this when she asked me why I sounded exciting, which was a question, because it's like, What is it about this that's like, Yeah, good information. Maybe I need to do more of that. Or maybe I want to need to work with more people like this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe I need to find more avenues, because clearly there's something about this that makes me really happy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So That's a really good way to get others. You get their feedback. Ask them to point out when you seem like you're more lit up than others
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to say, when were times in my life that you see me, that I was really really enthusiastic, lit up, et cetera? When have you seen a light in my eyes, and you they also made them say, when have you seen the light go out of my eyes? But you know, when when have you seen that happen,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because that's important, too, because it's not it's. It's. In my opinion it's not just um it's it's not just about noticing what likes you up. That's, I think, is the most important thing
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also in terms of navigating towards those things that line us up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We also need to notice what it. What is it that doesn't find us up?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there are plenty of things that don't mind us up until That's good information, too, because it can help steer us and help us tune into that inner compass.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For oh, this field! All of a sudden it's! I don't feel right how it's something about this that I kind of like, okay? So oftentimes the question i'll ask
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when we're trying to figure out, what's this thing? What is it that likes them up? What's their purpose, their mission, or at least help them start to find. That
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is, that when we talk about what, for instance,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um, so what? What? What?
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As they get it?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Aspect of that activity. Was it because you were around there with people? Was it because of the subject matter you all were talking about? Was it because of the location where you were? You know. What is it about that experience? It really?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's where you can start to get clarity, and I just want to point out, because here's what's important about this,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is it? Especially when we're trying to figure out what's the purpose of life? And mind you. I don't want to present it as though we only have one purpose, because there can be different things that lie to us at times.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when it comes to like purpose or mission, or trying to figure out that stuff,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I find that it's good to do things like I've recommended here, and notice how you're feeling, you know. Ask others, etc. So you're taking in information. But Don't get too.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You're overthinking it. Then you're actually taking yourself out of the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's a matter of tuning into that feeling,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that feeling, honoring that feeling, and and really continuing to do those things that give you that feeling like really beautiful,
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more wide,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: joyful, and energized, and do it up sparkly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's ever.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I hope this has been helpful. Ah! As always, you can find me a ChangeLight.world. If you have questions or requests for shows, you can email me, Emily@ChangeLight.World. Otherwise I hope you're well, and I look forward to seeing you next week.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Bye,