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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am so happy to speak with you today, I hope you are well.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you've been following my show you'll know that I was in Spain last week it was for an amazing retreat.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the movie valley outside of Barcelona deep in the woods, we took like an hour on a dirt road just to get there, but it was.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And coming together in this beautiful location beautiful old location or go out the oldest buildings from 1200.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And really connecting with each other and connecting with nature and connecting with ourselves, so it was absolutely wonderful, I had the best massage am I in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There and i'm so grateful for the opportunity so so i'm doing very well let's put it that way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Anyway, so today I want to talk about something that actually came up for me just today.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So those of you who know my work, you know that my my signature technique is called the Drawing Out Process and it's all about drawing out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what's inside of us that maybe we're carrying subconsciously both the light and the dog, so we have these parts that have us they're stuck in the dark, is, I always talk about there's exPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then we also have our emPowers and our Truth and our Guiding Star we have these parts inside of us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, anyway, the point is that, with a drawing out it's all about bringing forward what's coming to the surface, but usually that starts with even noticing that there's something there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it was interesting because day I was noticing some.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i've been noticing some spirits that have come up with a sort of blocked me, and this is, I mean long history with this, I don't know about you, but I have a long history with blocks and fears and things like that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But this one was a little bit different in that I became aware of, and I am and this happened, sometimes where it become aware of like a physical sensation inside of me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That feels like an actual physical block i've had a lot of these over the years, so what I often do is I will draw out, so I will draw how it feels or appears to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sometimes it will have a face and sometimes it'll just be sort of going to me this thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in this case, it was it was an amoeba sort of shape, but I could feel it like up into my throat and down into my gut.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is this whole sort of area, right here, and probably maybe you've experienced these sort of sensations before and i've processed, a lot of them in the past, and I feel them and release them through the drawn out process.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And today, the one came up that I noticed was saying, certain things to me that I thought.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it really made me kind of wonder about this and it brought up this question of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: spiritual and i'm going to put quotes around that spiritual self protection, this is the term that came to my mind, so, first of all, I just want to show you what I drew.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now what I when I draw in my journal nowadays my early drawings were a little more like colorful and complicated now it's pretty much strictly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this is meant to be like my neck, and my shoulders and this is that feeling that was up inside me so what I wrote was this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: spiritual part of me that's been trying to make me feel better about where I am and that when I write that anywhere, I am with my work and in terms of having.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, on on on my mission my life's mission, where I am It makes me believe that, basically, that the stars will just magically align for me to be just miraculously living my Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in the past, if you've seen previous episodes I talk about my inner Guiding Star that we all have an inner Guiding Star.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of who we're here to be living fully living our Truth and it's that image that we have, and so I have a very clear image of my own personal Guiding Star and what she's doing and i've talked about her previous episodes so you can.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Especially the one about the Guiding Star and three sure I talked about her but anyway, the point is, I have a very clear image of who i'm here and the impact on her behalf, and so what this part of me well, let me just go into this so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Basically, the fears of into my throat down into my belly and it tries to rationalize that i'm going to live my Truth, no matter what, and it tries to reassure me that it tries to make me feel better so that I don't get upset and overwhelmed and feel pressured.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, and then it does something else i'll tell you i'll tell you what else it does so, the point is i've got this Truth that I know i'm here to live and may have a Truth, you know when you're here to live at least you're aware of that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our mission or purpose that you're here to serve in your pure to achieve, and so I have a very, very strong sense of that and it's just.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's so strong that it's been overwhelming at times and it's felt like pressure because it's the sense of like okay so here's who, I am here to be here's why no one really big.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet, at the same time there's this but i'm not there yet, and all my God that's so huge and overwhelming and I don't know how to get there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that is basically what happened was, let me just go, so the point is is like one thing to know your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And to say yes, I know who i'm here to be and have it be inspiring and exciting and like yes.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know I know that I can be that person and as I shared in previous episodes my inner Guiding Star that image of one here to be got me out of my darkest place of my life so she has served a magnificent purpose for me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and helping me that give me just a functional human being and really helping me to release all the old pains and fears and fragments and really step into my Truth and my power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But at the same time, along the way I have these bouts of feeling pressure and overwhelmed and scared and nervous and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: helpless and hopeless and i'm like i'm never going to achieve that so basically what this part of me did was it formed and later explained this to me is that will let me see I think I wrote down what it said.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it scared of me being overwhelmed and pressured by the enormity of my purpose and the work that is required to achieve it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I asked this part of me well, what would you do if you weren't here, or when what would you what are you afraid would happen to me, basically, if you weren't here, I asked this burden it's and if I weren't here, you get severely overwhelmed and you've never stopped to take care of yourself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then it I said when did you first show up and it said when you got your calling so that strong sense of your calling and your huge purpose, but you weren't ready for it yet.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So basically what this part of me has been doing is that it was it showed up when I first became aware around the time that I first became aware that I have this purpose and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet I wasn't ready for it and that's, in other words like I still have games that inner power enough of that sense of self and connection with my Truth in that inner power, so this part of me showed up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To try to protect me because it could see that I was feel that I was overwhelmed and so it didn't want me to feel too overwhelmed and to pressure because, and I remember times that I felt so overwhelmed and pressure internally by knowing this that I would shut down.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, interestingly about this partner, there are a lot of parts of us that do this to protect us, but the reason why I bring up this idea of spiritual self protection.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is because he uses sort of spiritual beliefs and sort of spiritual principles.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to convince me to rationalize to justify to help me feel better about where I am even if it's not where I know I can be.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To try to calm down my feelings and basically ultimately to tamp down on the feelings and actually feel, and so this is where this part of me, the reason why it was important to plot out is because what I realized is that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It has been stopping from taking action towards being my diamond star towards achieving the Truth that I know i'm were to achieve.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and but I know that I also have to work really hard to achieve, so what it's been doing, and this really interesting.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: very, very well intended way obviously as i'm sharing all this i'm hoping that you're kind of noticing if you've got these parts within yourself that might be joining us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that it's very well intended in terms of its trying to keep me from getting overwhelmed it's trying to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Keep me from pressuring myself too much because it's seen me do this, but what ultimately it may have formed a bond at a time when maybe I did need a part of me to do that, to protect me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From that overwhelm which would have shut me down, but what i'm noticing now is that i'm actually powerful enough.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To achieve what i'm here to achieve i've gained enough or I am retrieved, if you will, enough of my inner power to really have.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To be that presence to do the hard work that needs to be done without shutting down without getting too overwhelmed I can handle it better now.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: than I did back when when this back then, when this part of the form but The thing is, and this is the way it often is with X powers again.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Before we talk about those when it comes to extra hours they will often keep doing the job that they were originally tasked to do or took upon themselves to do, they will keep doing what and keep doing that keep doing that well pass the time when we need them to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's the difference between having like a protective mechanisms sort of a Defense mechanism that maybe it truly is there to protect us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But however it becomes problematic when I would call an x power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When it's basically outliving its purpose, when we don't need it to do that job anymore when we've grown from being a child to being an adult, for example, when we when we've grown from you know, being in an abusive situation.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To actually being free and autonomous and sovereign and able to take care of ourselves, but we still have those defense mechanisms that are trying to protect us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sometimes they're doing a really good job and doing it very effectively, but a lot of times they can be doing it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Far more than we need them to enter the point where where it's self sabotage where we're sabotaging ourselves.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, this part of this, you know this part that I drew that this you know lump that's inside of my chest, and everything and now it's just very basic, but it really doesn't take much you don't need artistic skills to do a Drawing Out Process.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So basically what I realized, is that this was a part of me that was trying to protect me as many parts in the past half by trying to help me feel better about we're trying to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, protect me from fear in one way or another, with what etc or by phone by holding me back, but this one was really interesting and it opens up this question of how we can use our spiritual beliefs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That and how these parts of us, and sometimes use our spiritual goals to try to protect us from our own emotions.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And for a time that can service it served me I think for time when I needed it, but then, sometimes it can end up not service, and so this is a partner that's not serving them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If anything it's been sabotaging my ability to get work done because it's so afraid that i'll get overwhelmed but it immediately, you know and choke and i'll feel that will for me back and I sit process it and draw it out and all that, so in this case, though.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I explained to it that basically you've been keeping me from stepping up and working really hard, and this is something else I noticed it was doing, and this is what sometimes these parts of us will do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is it actually was also stopping us from having the clarity, like having a clear vision at times of the work that needs to do, I mean a clear strategy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's not only it's been blocking me emotionally physically, you know, and with it sort of spiritual.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Bypassing which I mentioned to you which i'll talk about in a little bit, but the spiritual bypassing even a little bit of maybe spiritual backsliding I don't know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is it's not only been been doing it that way, but it's been doing it up here and creating a kind of mental fog preventing me from even seeing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The possibilities for seeing like here's what you do so it's like stopping me from doing anything but also one way, it does, it is by stopping me from even seeing a clear path.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: towards living my Truth, because it's afraid of the overwhelm and then i'll shut down and then i'll hate myself, etc, etc, etc, so it's been stopping me from knowing and seeing clearly now.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's The interesting thing and notice that i've been sharing a few questions that I tend to ask these parts, whether in session or of myself or.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My own parts, but one of the questions I sometimes ask the part is do you want to keep doing this forever and it said no.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It said no, it said I actually want you to feel super confident, I want you to feel clear, I want you to feel empowered I want you to feel productive.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, this is classic I might have probably talked about this before, when i've talked about Controllers, which is what this is one of those experiments.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that Controllers will tend to actually want the very things for us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it's preventing us from it will tend to make us feel the ways in which it actually doesn't want us to feel.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it will do this and it will end up sabotaging us it's a very counterintuitive thing so it's actually saying no I want you to feel motivated and yet what is it doing it's D motivates me it's trying to stop me from being productive motivated.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's just this interesting contrast i'm sharing a lot of random tidbits with you, but for whatever it's worth I hope it's helpful.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I did mention spiritual eyes, I use the term spiritual self protection in this context.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in which we can tend to use their spiritual beliefs like like for me, one of the beliefs, that I have is well, I have this Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And therefore, this is like a conclusion or, this is what this part of me is told me will therefore it's inevitable that I will be that presence it's like therefore it's inevitable that I will become that person.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Therefore it's inevitable that I will achieve this mission, you know that that that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that's why i'm here to be, and therefore I know it seems like things aren't working out right now but it's Okay, because I know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's something better, is coming now, mind you, I don't necessarily disagree with that statement, but here's the difference in terms of what i'm talking about here is that, basically, this part of me was telling me those things, and those are a lot of other things, to try to get me to basically.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not deal with the fact that i'm scared not deal with my own fears it's trying to calm me down but almost preemptively probably down no everything's fine it's a page, you know God will provide.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know the you know the answers are coming and i'm not saying that's not true.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But what it's doing is like almost like spiritually bypassing the spiritual bypass my sexual feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Trying to prevent me from feeling how i'm actually going, and not only that, though, prevent me from doing the hard work that is necessary to actually achieve that mission to be that presence.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So this is where spiritual bypassing the term comes in and so it's it's like this part of me, is doing a spiritual self protection, if you will.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's also a kind of spiritual bypassing trying to keep me from actually being tuned into my own feelings because it's afraid of what will happen if I were to truly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feel those feelings, and so this is where I want to shift read a definition of spiritual bypassing you may be familiar with this term.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or you may not, I only heard this term like couple three years ago, I was like oh my God it's a brilliant term because I actually had been through plenty of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Years and periods of my life, where I did this and I allowed other people to do this to me or I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: adhere to certain belief systems that enable this within me so anyway, I just want to give you a little a little bit of background on you know what is spiritual bypassing So this is the way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Very well, well mines calm defines it since it says spiritual bypassing is a way of hiding behind spirituality or spiritual practices, it prevents people from acknowledging what they are feeling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And distances.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From both themselves and others Okay, so a way of hiding sort of preventing people from acknowledging what they're feeling and distancing them from themselves.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and others notice that that's what this part of me it's been doing spiritually bypassing are trying to my feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because of you know it's afraid i'll get overwhelmed feel pressure, etc, or work too hard and not take care of myself I think we're all of this before so some examples of spiritual bypassing and avoiding feelings of anger.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Believing in your own spiritual superiority as a way to hide from insecurities this I would actually say is one of those inner Defender things that's what it sometimes does.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Believing that traumatic events must serve as learning experiences, or that there is a silver lining behind every negative experience, I want to caveat this and say.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I don't think there's something wrong with that belief, because I do believe that there can be blessings that come from traumatic experiences, however.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When we do that as a way of trying to avoid the actual impact of that traumatic event.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or the actual negative negative feelings around that experience that's what I would, I would say is more about spiritual bypassing that's a toxic kind of thing that we do to ourselves or that others can do to us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, in addition, believing that spiritual practices such as meditation or prayer or always positive and I totally understand that one, but I guess it's a way of saying.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That sometimes meditation and prayer can be ways of avoiding feel extremely high, often on attainable idealism feelings of detachment so we feel sort of emotionally detach focusing only on spirituality.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and ignoring the prison now, I think I talked about this in a previous episode, where I talked about how it's like sometimes we can be in such this space.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of you know own spiritual and i'm just so connected with spirit that we're not really fully present and we're not really grounded in reality that's where that can be helpful only focusing on the positive or be overly optimistic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: projecting our own negative feelings on to others so basically we think that we're so spiritual and yet we're seeing all this negative stuff in them and helping to fix or maybe they need a certain spiritual practice to fix this within them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Pretending that's my own my own words around that pretending that things are fine when they are clearly not.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: thinking that people can overcome their problems through positive thinking thinking that you must rise above your emotions.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and using Defense mechanisms such as denial and repression so ultimately spiritual bypassing is a superficial way of glossing over problems in a way that might make us feel better in the short term, it ultimately solves nothing and just leaves the problems to linger on.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: interesting because, as I read that i'm just like what.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's what I noticed inside of myself is this part of me that was basically doing this spiritual bypassing its intentions for me we're good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Justice the intentions if you're noticing you thought parts of you that are trying to protect you from your own feelings or.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You might even be doing this to other people where it's like oh no and try to put that positive spin.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or rather than or you try to act as though is there no they're just not seeing things clearly and really there's some higher higher spiritual perspective.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That you know that they should only focus on that that is where I think that that same that spiritual bypassing definitely for me in terms of my part of me was not helping.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because it's not allowing me or was not allowed to be and be both and of reality So yes, it can be that guess, this is my Truth, this is my Guiding Star, this is one or two be, this is the mission I serve and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There I had a lot of work to do to achieve it it's not as though it's a foregone conclusion that I will achieve these things it's meant to be more of a beacon of light for me to follow a Guiding Star that's why I called the inner Guiding Star.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, for me, i'm noticing with this part that it was not allowing me to be in the fan, and this is why I chose the topic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of this episode as being about like when we spiritually try to protect ourselves from our emotions that that can be a very, very toxic thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In which we actually prevent ourselves from feeling how we truly feel and others can do this to to us so it's interesting because usually spiritual bypassing is oftentimes I think.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: represented are presented as like something that someone does to us, or that maybe we do to others, but notice how it's like mine was doing it to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was using it to put this is doing the spiritual bypassing as a way of trying to protect me from my feelings because afraid of worst feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or too afraid of me falling apart, and it has very genuine real reasons for why it's doing that because it seemed that happened to me before.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the problem with that, again, is that that means that it was also preventing me from real actually taking action, the ways that I need to and actually doing the tough work that it takes to live your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To be fully in your power to do to fulfill your life in your mind mission for me to live my Truth me to live in my problem me to fully go fulfill my.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My my mission and and and be as much of my Guiding Stars, I can possibly be so it's something that I want you to just be aware of, as always, this is about inner work for greater good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in order to really do that inner work we've got to be honest with ourselves about what's going on.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and honest with our feelings and at the same time, honest like notice there's parts of us that are trying to protect us from really honoring those feelings, so that we can be fully fully integrated not in this life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm feeling all this fear and financial security but i've got this part of me this is well no everything's fine everything's gonna be okay.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not bad, to have that part it's just that, if it if it's causing us to repress it tonight or preventing us from taking action.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's when that's the problem what actions to take them that's when that's a problem, so I hope you're understanding the distinction here and so by that notion I you know I see it, the way I see it, is.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Life is a Co creation so and I talked about this, I think before with like you know with believing that like oh no God is doing everything.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the problem was sort of believing that somehow like no everything's all all done for us are taken care of is that what that can do is remove our agency.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And our responsibility, from whatever it is that we're here to do, or whatever presence we're here to be or whatever impact record of that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We might do that to protect ourselves from the emotional overwhelmed but at the same time, it can also be that we are trying to detach ourselves from those overwhelming feelings, rather than just honoring them and acknowledging.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I often is the way I see it, as we are co creating with God and So yes, there may be a divine plan for all of us, and it is our job to play a role in that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That we have to be fully present in that, and that we need to show up fully.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And not sort of use, that is what others have planned for me and i'm just insecure and act like I have nothing to no longer so plan yes and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We must be active participants in our own lives, so i'm saying this to myself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Yes, I have a Truth in here fulfilling yes, I have a Guiding Star that I am becoming more and more like for every day, yes, I have this vision for this, you know presence that I want my work to be in the world, and I have to work really hard to achieve that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So So yes, there is a divine plan, and I have to fully show up in it, so we have to fully show up and the way I see that too is that okay if God works through us when we need to let God work through us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Not just sort of lay about in practice, though everything's already taken care of and we don't have to do anything I hope this is making sense So yes, God will provide and we also need to take responsibility for our own lives, so that God can provide more easily for us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Yes, I have a Truth, I am here to live and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I have to take those actions which in and do the inner work and whatever, that is, at any given moment.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to live that Truth to fulfill that purpose in that mission so it's the both end of it, and on that journey and I have found this and you have probably found this and we will all continue to the stubbornness for ourselves, is that it can be really hard.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it can be really emotional and it can trigger the hell out of US literally will help the dark parts is out of us, but that was a dumb joke.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it can trigger the hell out of us, and it can trigger these parts, and so it can really push our buttons and really.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: challenge us and challenge us to really step into our power more than we ever imagined, and at the same time that's part of the journey that's part of the job.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you've got multiple discovered, I had those spiritual parts of you that are actually preventing you from really getting real with how you're feeling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and preventing you from actually taking action, because it's trying to protect you force it doesn't want you to hurt doesn't want you to be scared if you bought this parts be aware of those.