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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge, as always, that i'm here to share.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The inner work that is absolutely necessary for us to make the biggest possible difference in the world, and so this is your first time watching my show Hello Hello i'm so happy to have you and I hope that I can provide you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With great information to learn today that will help you, with your journey i'm so let me just tell you right now i'm actually in tucson Arizona.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: moving out of a House that and my husband and I have been in for seven years, so if you were to see this setup right now you'd see i've got boxes.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: On top of this mattress you can even see we've been taking stuff off of the wall so sorry for the very bare and shaky there it is like every time I move this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: shaky situation right now, but I do the best I can give him that i'm traveling and don't have a whole lot to work with right now but.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm still here and we're still talking, and this is going to be great today the conversation I want to have is about burn out okay so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Let me just start with a definition of burnout because I think a lot of people experienced burnout I have definitely experienced burnout in my life, and it can show up in work, it can show up in relationships.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think it's really important to also learn to identify when we're feeling burned out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, what i'm really going to talk about today is burnout from a ChangeLight perspective, if you will, from an x powers and emPowers perspective.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I spent a lot of videos prior to episodes prior to this one talking about the X files and the empire's the three types of each.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'll give you a quick rundown as I talked about burnout when it comes to them in this episode, but especially if you haven't seen those episodes definitely go back and learn all about the three types of exPowers aka your inner struggles.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the three types of emPowers aka the parts of you, whose job it is to support you and living your Truth so let's start first with the definition of burn out, so this is just a quick definition that I saw.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That basically coined it was first coined by the psychologist Herbert furstenberg or in the 70s.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's described as a severe stress condition that leads to severe physical, mental and emotional exhaustion so it's worse than just feeling momentarily fatigued.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and actually makes it really challenging to cope with stress and to handle day to day responsibilities, whether they be professional or personal or both.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um it really feels when you're burned out it feels like you have nothing left it's like you, are empty on the inside empty of energy energetically empty like you just have nothing left to give.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that you make dread getting out of bed each morning, you might feel very pessimistic and feel hopeless.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There are also other signs basically of burnout so just i'll just list a few of them exhaustion isolation escape fantasies irritability frequent illness i've also seen written like cynicism feeling very cynical about the world.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And maybe your ability to affect change within it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So these are all things I think also irritability as a good one, I think, when we think of burnout we think of like oh i'm just really, really tired or exhausted, or I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: burned out but also it can manifest as being very irritable and annoyed and impatient and overwhelmed and very, very stressed in that way, so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Think about those symptoms and just notice if that's something that you're dealing with right now, or that you've ever dealt with and maybe didn't maybe maybe you didn't recognize it as burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think that really recognizing what we're struggling with makes a big difference in our ability to handle it and, of course, it requires some amount of self awareness.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And really stopping and pausing and going okay what's going on with me right now, or maybe even listening Maybe other people are the ones who are saying you know I think you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: might be burned out, you know I think you seem really, really tired, so if it's also really important to listen to other people's cues and feedback about what they're seeing within us and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, take it as information doesn't mean you have to believe everything obviously that everybody else tells you about what they're seeing in you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it really is about just take it as information and say, well, what if this could be true, you know what if I really am experiencing some burnout that I don't realize is there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I want to talk about burnout I mean you know if you go in line and you see here's what burnout is or you know here's how you deal with it, I want to talk about it from.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A ChangeLight perspective so from the exPowers and emPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: us if you've seen the previous episodes or even if you haven't i'll just go through real quick, the three types of exPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Are your inner Defender into the inner Defenders I should say in our Controllers in inner Wounded, so the Defenders are basically, the ones who want to try to block any sort of pain from coming in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They are very much like they show up as the, the bodyguards, are they you know don't come near or like a wall and inner wall that you have that's trying to keep people out or keep.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Any kind of triggers or threats or anything out and you potential pain out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those are Defenders and those obviously developed inside of US usually because we have been violated, because we haven't had proper boundaries.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or, because we feel very inferior and as a result of feeling inferior, we can have a Defender that tries to puff us up and make us feel or appear superior.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: behave in a superior way to try to protect us from those really inferior feelings Defenders don't like us to feel weak they like us to feel strong So those are the.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those are the Defender type and there's also the Controller type of exPower and that's the part that's.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Very it's trying to control us or another part of us, and so classic one is the inner critic so it's telling you you never do never doing enough, you should be doing more or you're.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're a failure you've never amounted to anything so often they use Controllers use criticism to control us to either keep us down or push us forward.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: push us too hard, often we'll talk about that with burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or you know they can undermine our confidence and ultimately their intentions are good, with the Defenders to the intentions are good they're just trying to protect us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From pain, whatever way they know, but unfortunately what happens is they end up causing us pain, so those tend to be Controllers inner critic as a classic one.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then finally Wounded, so this is the type that, basically, whereas the Controllers and Defenders are trying to protect us from pain, whatever way they know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or mitigate pain, whatever way they know Wounded, to the ones who are carrying the pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: winds are basically that Wounded inner child usually that's classic One the one that's hurting the one that's crying the one is throwing a temper tantrum.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The one that makes us feel sad or depressed or.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Although actually depression can often be a Controller issue as well, so let me just clarify that, but the wound is for the ones that are carrying that pain that resulted from having been hurt in the past.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So you've got those and so basically usually the Defender is often trying to protect the Wounded or trying to protect Wounded Defenders are often seen in that when we do the Drawing Out Process when I work with my clients are we figure out, what are the struggles going on inside.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Usually Defenders trying to protect a Wounded, or very often.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or a Controller is actually acting on a Wounded trying to get it to stop being in so much pain or stop crying.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And oftentimes a classic dynamic, there is the whole critical parent Wounded child dynamic that you know they talk about in therapy and everything so that's that inner critic that can often.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's playing out often what we learned in childhood if we had a very critical parent and it's hurting that child inside of us just like we were hurting as children.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So those are the three types now each one of these, this is, I find so interesting is that each one of these can directly relate to why we might be experiencing burnout in our jobs in our lives in our relationships.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that sense of irritability exhaustion I have nothing left to give feeling very cynical feeling very isolated.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So let's look first at Defenders how our Defenders are could be they could they be related to why, if you're feeling burnt out or when you felt burned out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or any event that you do feel burned out just remember this, how our Defenders related to this experience of burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's the thing about Defenders again they're trying to protect us from paying whatever way they know in the way Defenders do they try to defend us from the pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They try to block the pain, or they set up walls inside of us, they are walls inside of us that are trying to protect us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's what also happens that when I mentioned this, when I talked about Defenders is that as much as their intentions are good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sometimes their efforts really do protect us so, for example, if we were criticized a lot as a child and then someone comes along and criticizes us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We might immediately have a Defender that says or not Okay, and so that Defender could actually be genuinely protecting us in a way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: However, what Defenders one of the sort of side effects of Defenders can be that they also keep us from letting others in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when I talk about inner wall, or if you've got a bodyguard that gets very reactive anytime there's any sense.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of maybe somebody's going to say something need or it can also project into.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This situation its own fears the Defender can and cause us to think things are happening in that scenario that aren't actually happening.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But ultimately what can often happen is that if we're so well defended if we have all these walls are these you know this barbed wire around us, or we have these.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know bodyguards that are trying to keep others out so that we can stay safe within.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What happens well we're not been letting other skin there's no space for connection, and not only that within don't really allow others to help us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, think about that whatever situation you're in whether it's you're raising children or you have a you know, a leadership position in your work.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're trying to effect some kind of change in the world and fulfill some kind of mission if you're trying to do all of that alone.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you're not trusting others to let them help you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can very well be because you've got a very well developed Defender inside of you, and that Defender is trying to protect you from feeling hurt.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or disappointed by others that's another one that Defenders can often try to protect us from, because if we have been disappointed if others have let us down.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well then, you might have a Defender who's like you know what then forget it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm going to do it all myself or we might inform that belief, and that can often be fueled by an inner Defender or Defenders nevermind then i'm just going to do it myself, because I can't trust anyone else to show up for me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I can't trust, others are going to do a good enough job there's a hyper independence is the term I think I actually mentioned this in a previous.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: episode hyper and independence that's like a form of hyper independence that can actually be born of trauma because of the trauma of having felt very alone.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and isolated as children that there was no one there to protect us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But again, the Defenders that then form in response to those situations can often be the very parts of us that actually keep us from receiving the support and help that we need, and that is available to us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From you know that there are people, we can trust that because we've been so corrupt we aren't actually aware or fully allowing ourselves to trust those people so what's that a recipe for.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: burnout right think about it, if you're trying to do everything on your own and you're not dropping your defenses enough or you're not really relaxing enough to realize that oh this person's actually trying to help me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, and then articulating what you need and unhealthy way, etc, I mean it's kind of it's it's it's the Multi level process right to allow to lead trust other people and to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: delegate like trust that that when we delegate to them that they will do the task the task properly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The point is that Defenders can actually stop that from happening because it's trying they're trying to protect us from disappointment from pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All kinds of things, so if you're experiencing burnout or have experienced burnout consider that Defender might be underneath that then it could be preventing you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By the way, I said i'm going to talk about extra hours first, but then i'm going to just briefly touch on how, how can your emPowers actually support you and coming out of burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So Controller, so what of Controllers have to do with burnout I referenced this a minute ago think about that, if you are feeling so driven and so, like, I have to get this done.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or, if you are like driven to succeed, or you feel like it's never enough whatever you do you're a perfectionist you're.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're feeling pushed or pressured or you've got some kind of sense of I never enough whatever I do is never enough.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm not good enough at this etc, etc, those kinds of feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can lead that can lead to burnout can be caused by Controllers and inner Controller that's telling you that you're never doing enough for making you feel like you're never enough are never good enough.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That pushing you beyond the point of exhaustion that makes you feel like you have to keep going even when your body is like I can't I can't.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can be because of an inner Controller or Controllers that are controlling you and pushing you beyond a healthy boundary beyond a healthy threshold.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's something to remember about Controllers Controllers can often be at the core also of burnout because of that, because they don't.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Think about what's healthy for you they're just trying to overcompensate maybe for an insecurity that you have they're trying to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, trying to help you feel more accomplished, but often with Controllers they're really never satisfied and so that's why it feels like, no matter what you do, or how much you do it's never enough it's never good enough.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or even by undermining your confidence in yourself that can also cause burnout as well, because it feels like you're not good enough to be doing whatever you're doing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're feeling overwhelmed you're feeling exhausted you're feeling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know drained because oftentimes, and this is another thing just generally with exPowers they can be very draining if you're constantly battling with these parts of you are having to contend.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With these messages that you've got going on inside that's exhausting in and of itself was working with a client just a couple weeks ago, who was talking about being.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: physically exhausted and I knew well she'd been talking about the emotions that she was struggling with and I said, well, of course, you're exhausted.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because, even though we think of emotions, as this sort of like in morpheus sort of non physical thing right because an emotion is like a feeling that we have.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is they are physically exhausting and draining too so think about it that way, as well, when you're struggling with these parts, while you're just trying to go about your daily daily duties that's going to wear on you as well.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And finally Wounded, so what a wound is have to do with burnout Wounded, as I said, carrying that emotion can be physically draining.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm feeling those feelings can be very physically draining when you've got that dynamic of let's say the critical Baron that's acting on the Wounded.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the Wounded is feeling like it's never enough that can make you feel like you're never enough and so that's where that that kind of dynamic can come in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: burnout also is it talked about as a sense of hopelessness or despair or cynicism and Wounded often have that attitude.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's a lot of boats can feel like there's nothing I can do, they tend to have a powerless stance, they think of themselves as powerless.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, if you're Wounded, can also be the things that are drawing you down that are being triggered by.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know if you've been trying trying and trying and working so hard and feeling like you're not really getting anywhere.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which could be because maybe you're trying too hard, in one way that really isn't effective and you need to try a different way, or, as I talked about with Defenders.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe you're trying too hard on your own and you're not allowing others to support you, the point is that Wounded can get triggered and it can feel very much see.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: there's no point and feel very cynical and feel very down and feel very lacking in any energy and feel very powerless to change and so that again that's one of those symptoms of burnout and so Wounded can be at the core of burnout as well.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So here's the cool thing, though, that, with all of these exPowers playing a role in burnout guess what they're.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're more empowered counterparts those emPowers can play a role in healing that burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: pieces i've talked about a lot, which you want to do is you first really want to address the Expos and heal those.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: draw them out and honor them because no amount of honoring and bringing forward your emPowers can really make up entirely for the exPowers that are in there, because otherwise you're just going to be dealing with.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This sort of binary you know power struggle within you where you've got all these emPowers are saying all this wonderful stuff and they support you and love you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you still got the wound is that are telling you that no there's no point or you've got the Controller that says, well, you did you know you're a failure, you suck and you screwed up or you've got the Defender who's like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We are not letting anybody in here, you know we can't get vulnerable.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and ask for help, so that's why I always always advocate this is not talking about just doing one or the other you've got to do both in my experience he's got to face the darkness.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And honor the light and, as you face that darkness you actually bring that darkness to light so it's all this wonderful perfect you're fabulous you know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, dark transforming into light system and process but anyway, the point is, you want to first draw out those you want to draw out those extra hours at the very least, draw them out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I talked about this in my course and my Community community that ChangeLight that world, you can learn all that good stuff there I teach the techniques, but the point is, you want to draw those out because then you're going to help a lot like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's like a release valve you're just by drawing it out you're like honoring it you're letting it come out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're putting it out on paper, as opposed to it just being all inside of you so that's going to help a lot, but then the other side of that is with those and powers, as I mentioned so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Excuse me, the three emPower types are your inner Sovereign.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Impresario and you're Free Spirit, so your Sovereign if you seen previous episodes you know that your Sovereign and your Defender.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or correlate with one another, your Defender energies are basically distortions of your Sovereign energy and your Sovereign your inner Sovereign is the part of you that knows your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That that knows your boundaries what's right and wrong for you, independently of anyone else it's connected with your spiritual Center it's connected with your sense of values and morals and ethics.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It has a sense of right and wrong both what's right and wrong for you, but also what's right and wrong in general.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, your Sovereign is the one that you can call on if you're feeling burned out, it could be the actually probably really is usually is because you are giving away your power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To others, you are not honoring your boundaries your Sovereignty your needs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's how we get burned out right and there's described the burnout is it's basically where it's like you feel like you have nothing left to give when you're drained you're empty on the inside energetically it's gone everywhere else.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So your Sovereign can be the one that you call on to say Okay, how can I live according to what feels good and right for me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that I can basically like boring that energy back and actually, this is a cool exercise that you can do too.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is you just almost imagine, especially if you feel like you're like pulled in all these different directions.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you've got all these different responsibilities or people relying on you, or you think that you're responsible for things that maybe you're not entirely.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe it's really not your responsibility, you know you're just taking it on as your responsibility, you can actually energetically like bring those chords back.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and actually i've done a energy healing technique called product healing and we we actually cut cords we actually energetically cut the unnecessary ports.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So unnecessary is a good word, because you don't want to cut the cords between like you know people who really you love and you care about and you want to maintain that it's about the unnecessary ports.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is it's all about bringing that energy in and your Sovereign can also help you recognize where you are allowing your boundaries, to be violated.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where are you are giving away your energy when you really should be honoring yourself and trusting yourself in your own Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and allowing the universe, to support you in what you're doing and and who you are so that's where the Sovereign can come into into place into play here, and to help you overcome burnout help you heal from burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The other one, of course, the next second one is your inner Impresario So how can your Impresario support you in this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of the great things about your Impresario I was kind of laughed because you're Impresario was basically like your tasks, the one who's like your taskmaster who knows what you need to do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a part of you that likes to do and get things done it's very much about you know practicality and survival.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is good at lists and organizing very left brained very logical practical reasonable all that kind of stuff.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And one of the techniques I teach when it comes to honoring your emPowers is I always kind of giggle about the Impresario because the one of the questions that you can ask your emPowers to honor them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is what's one small thing I can do today, that would feel good for you so that's what one of those you know simple techniques for really bringing forward your emPowers every morning.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and allowing them to support you well, I always giggle because then for sorrows it's like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Impresario will sometimes give you more than one thing it'll be like to ask, let me tell you, and it'll be like okay do this this this this this this this this this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then what you can do i'm getting somewhere, I promise so, then what you can do, though, with, that is, I will say Okay, if your infrastructure gives you a whole list of things to do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You then say Okay, we need to prioritize Impresario what's the one most important thing I can do, or what's The one thing I can do today on this list that will give you the greatest satisfaction.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That will make you feel the best now obviously what honors our emPowers honors us as well, what feels good for empires feels good for us as well.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is what happens is that emphasize goes up and immediately it knows what's The one thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That right there and it knows so you're calling on your infrastructure to to prioritize.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is all by way of saying that when it comes to burn out oftentimes, as I mentioned, we can often think that we.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Are you know indispensable in all these different ways or hyper have to be hyper productive, we have to get all this done and we are responsible for all these things.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When, in reality, we might be doing too much busy work, we might actually be working harder and doing more than is really necessary.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's where calling on your Impresario can really help you room and focusing on what's really important.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Never mind all the other noise, never mind all the overthinking and all the stuff that we think we need to do what's what has priority and so calling on your info sorry Oh, to give you tell you what's, the most important thing can help all that but just kind of calm down.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's not this oh my God, I have so much to do and i'm so burned out i'm so exhausted know just what's one thing just one thing I can do that would help give me a sense of accomplishment.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you just keep doing that one thing, so that even though you're exhausted and you're burned out and you're overwhelmed you're helping to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're helping to clarify and calm your inner system to realize that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: yeah you may feel overwhelmed but really there's not actually as much to be made to do you think you need to do or, certainly not in this moment, right now, so that can also help alleviate that burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is to get allow your Impresario to help you be more focused and clear on what's really important.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Finally, Free Spirit I often tell people that really one of the biggest things I found the most common issue, I found when it comes to burnout and i've worked with clients who have been burned out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And even you know how to you know they were they were like having to let go of employees are they were having to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, really having to make a lot of big changes or felt like they really had to make a lot of big changes because of the fact that they didn't have the energy to keep going at the pace at which they were going.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what I always do is I always say we need to start by honoring those emPowers and then we can also get to the root of like what are the exPowers that have been driving them to this point that have gotten them to this point.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But one of the quickest things that can do is to start to honor those emPowers and the biggest emPower, I found that is.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can bring you out of burnout that much faster is your Free Spirit.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So you're Free Spirit to summarize about the emPowers the Free Spirit is the part of you that's very joyful and fun loving it doesn't care about responsibilities it's carefree and loves to play it loves to be funny it loves to be silly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And usually the reason why we've gotten burned out or why you may be burned out of her gotten burned out is because you've allowed that Controller and i'm over energized Impresario energy, if you will, to run the show.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To take charge and take control, but what often happens is if it's just focused on doing is that, then things like, then the Free Spirit gets left behind.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the Free Spirit gets shafted because it's often seen as not important for survival right the Free Spirit doesn't think in terms of what do I need practically what do we need to survive know the Free Spirits like let's just have fun, just like a kid.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know kids don't necessarily like schedules or responsibilities they don't want to do their chores they just want to play in the playground.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well that's that inner Free Spirit that we've got and we all have a little bit different you know my might might be more about players might be more about humor it all just depends.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But bringing forward your Free Spirit calling it forward and honoring it and I promise you it's there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It may be buried in darkness, or there may be parts of it that are that are that have fallen into darkness, but I promise you you've got that Free Spirit that sweet wonderful innocent little child and child parts of you there there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The point is, when we allow them to come forward and shine and we listened to them and start to you know your Free Spirit and start to honor its guidance for you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can make the biggest difference in filling you with light so even when you think about the term burnout right burn out the candle is out the light is out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's black it's dark it's carbonated all that kind of stuff so there's darkness, but you bring that Free Spirit you're bringing that joyful carefree fun loving pleasure seeking light.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: forward to fill that darkness to reignite you to light you up and trigger your passions to come forward here's the reason and i've said this, I believe i've said this before.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again, people think that the Free Spirit is not important for survival, that is garbage that is bs, it is vital if you didn't need your Free Spirit you wouldn't have a Free Spirit we all have in our Free Spirits are Free Spirits are vital.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For us to feel alive and, if anything that burnout represents you don't feel like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You don't feel like you're thriving you feel exhausted and irritated and overwhelmed and done with life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Free Spirit is the part of you that can reignite that and bring that back into you and honoring what it does for you, even if your practical mind your Impresario thanks well that's not practical No, it is whatever you're in Free Spirit is telling you to do trust it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can even ask her Free Spirit, how can you help me feel more alive, what can I do, that would feel so good for you and would feel so good for me to, and whatever that Free Spirit tells you do it because I promise what it'll do is it's going to fill you with more energy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To then move forward with whatever tasks your Impresario saying yeah We really need to focus on this or your your Sovereign is saying yeah let's do what feels right for you, we really need to set our boundaries and really honor.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: who we are and you know do and really respect ourselves so that we can make a bigger difference in the world and fulfill our mission, the Free Spirit can point forward more that fuel.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That will fuel that engine of your life, you know and help the show get on the road again and how you feel so good doing okay.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So there you go burnout as it pertains to the ChangeLight system your exPowers and your emPowers and how you can start to heal from burnout.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But recognizing the exPowers that have been causing you that have caused you to get to this point, the 3D in these these different ways, these three different types.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, also the emPowers and how they can be brought forward more to help you heal from that burnout and really feel alive and happy and joyful and energized again.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I hope this is helpful, please do if you enjoy this please do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: amazing techniques that can really help you navigate through any kind of situation in your life i've been doing this work for like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: 13 1213 years now, so I know it works and I work with people all over the world, so this stuff works, I hope, you'll give it a try just go to Community dot ChangeLight don't world okay Thank you so much, love it's been wonderful talking to you and I will see you again next time.