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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good. My name, as always, is Emily Eldredge, and I am the host of the show and the creator of the ChangeLight System, which is a system of
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: personal self-development. It's quite complete system of personal self-development. That's all about healing your inner struggles, feeling your truth, frank and lighting you up so that you can
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feel good and make the biggest possible difference that you want to make. Whatever way your you feel called to make it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I had some. Well, first of all, let me just say I had an amazing couple of days at the Clinton Global Initiative here in New York City. Um, Apparently I've never been before. So it's it's led by Bill and her of Hillary Clinton, and it's been
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: together all these amazing people from around the world who were working really, really hard to make a difference in all different capacities. So it was just it
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: absolutely like for my changemaker’s heart. My impact-driven part was like Nirvana. I love being surrounded by impact-driven people.
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People who are really trying to make a difference in the world, and have really good hearts and all that stuff. So I noticed, too, that my voice is a little rasty, and it's probably
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: there we go. It's probably because of all of the but in any case that was really exciting. And you know, in case you're watching this
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: soon after I recorded It's also Un General Assembly and Climate Week here in New York City. So the city is full of amazing people from all over the world working really really hard to make a difference. And I also want to point out to you something that was so so refreshing to see it. It's been increasingly refreshing,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that is, conversations about mental health, conversations about emotional, well-being, and also mental and emotional well-being in relation to even specific situations in the world. So one of the big ones is climate anxiety. So the anxiety, the fears, all that stuff that we're carrying
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: around the fact that we have all these climate issues, and that things are getting worse, and you know, how can we make them better? But all of the you know, struggles and anxieties and fears and overwhelm that a lot of people experience, and especially young people.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The statistics are not so great about that. To be honest with you, from the panels that I attended that have to do with how much you know kids are thinking about the fact that we have so many problems with the climate and our planet that are man made. And you know there's a lot of impending doing that, a lot of people.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But there is a lot of hope. There's a lot of good stuff happening, but nevertheless it's important to acknowledge the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the emotional impact that it has on us. Um! When it comes to these big issues, and sometimes you know, the sense of purposeness is hopelessness to spare anger all those feelings that are associated with that. So I just want to throw that out there. Maybe i'll do a show about that. Um, that the how certain you know
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: worldwide events affect us emotionally, and how important it is to acknowledge that, and to process those feelings so that we can really function in a healthier way. That's how I always approach it. Let's process the feelings so that we can approach situations with greater clarity and wisdom, and peace and effectiveness.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So here's something that popped into my head, though, is something that I want to address, and I may have. Excuse me,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I um may have touched on this in a previous episode that I was talking about the full ChangeLight System and talking about the drawing of the process.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now, I have not shared the drawing-out process in any of these episodes. Really, I want and love for you to join our our community and take the course and really run the full um drawing-out process, so that you can experience it for yourself and um, and and but also learn about it in the context of what it can really do for your life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Have it anyway. But the point is, though, is that the signature technique is what I call the drawing-out process, because what we literally do is draw out whatever's going on in sight
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to take this episode to address the reasons why drawing out, using actual drawing like crayons of paper, or just a pen and paper or pencil, or you know, color pencils, whatever it is, whatever it takes to reach.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Draw that stuff out of you. Why
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is that so powerful? And
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: reasons why I want to address this in the entire episode is because there are a lot of approaches out there that are very powerful and effective in helping us with our emotional well being. And I've talked about, too, What I you know I do other techniques as well,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: one of the ones. There are a couple that I tend to go back to one of them is the work by by and Katie, which is all about writing down the stressful thoughts and processing through them. And then, you know, Sedona method which is about, you know really
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those thoughts that we carry, and beliefs and
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and ah, you know, going through processes with that, And and then shamanic healing. So those were some of the things that I've addressed in the previous episode, and I just again barely touched on the drawing-out process. But
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let me explain why I think. But i'm sorry i'm back from me back to that a little bit. The reason why i'm bringing this up is because it's amazing to me how, when I see approaches. So, for example, I saw something that was talking about. How can you address? You know climate anxiety. How do you do it,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and there's some wonderful suggestions, you know, journaling and meditating everything. And please understand, I think all of those are absolutely wonderful when it comes to helping ourselves with emotional Well,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: uh, they are wonderful benefits to this,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and at the same time I am continually
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: surprised and shocked. I mean, maybe it's partly because this is what I do, and I know how well it works, but also because I figured I
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: anyone who you know who really knows how powerful. This is I'm. Continually shocked by the lack of you know, the drawing, and that art and that visual expressiveness is not
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: as something as a way of processing emotions in a healthy way. You
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I understand there are therapy, you know. I mean that's That's a pretty common technique. What I do is not like therapy just singing out for survivor. It's very different. I've actually had time as a therapist as a client, she said. No, you know what we do is not our therapy
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: different? But the whole point is that you know I want to address. Why is the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it it shocks me that it's not mentioned more frequently
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in circles around well being but I but I want to take a moment to express why, drawing and creative expression that i'm just going to talk about. Drawing today
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is so extremely powerful and effective and vital
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in emotional heal.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Why it works so extremely well, and there are some very clear reasons,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and i'm going to give them to you. I'm going to break them down.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So here's how I typically explain why design is such an important thing. So you know, some people would actually describe what I do as a kind of first work. But even then I
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that still Don't have drawing as a key element. Here's why the work that I do is so extremely powerful and effective,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it and and one of the big reasons
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the drawing component. So Here's my drawing. Sorry, I'm repeating myself, and kind of talking around what I want you
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here's one big reason that I use to explain why drawing is a key component,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: really deeply accessing the emotional richness. Whatever is going, whatever is going on and signing me in your subconscious, and my drawing is so effective
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: bringing that out, and
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so one big reason that I have.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I kind of love to break it down. Very simple terms. When I talk about Left-brain right,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I know for those of you who are great experts. I I understand they're you know. This might be oversimplified, but because because I see it, it's Actually, simplicity is really what helps people understand a lot faster. So i'm going to, Maybe for some of you this might seem oversimplified. But this is a really quick way to understand this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when it comes to the left brain,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the left brain is typically where we, where we find reason and logic and
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: analysis, and like we, you know our left brain is a part of us that likes to figure things out
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: him a clearly. And so that's that sort of rational mind, you know. Left brains.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh, it's what the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the thing is. The left brain tends to communicate in language, words,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and by contrast, the right one which tends to be at the center of our emotions are the way in our feeling, even like deep, subconscious beings,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and to be in the right way,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and you know. So it's feelings and creative expression. And you know random types, thinking, and you know, innovative thinking out of the box thinking a lot of that tends to be such a big.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's very kind of white brain thinking that's how that's gone up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here's the key difference, though.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The right boy as i'm speaking about it tends to communicate in the subconscious.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It tends to communicate, not in words and language,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but an integer
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in senses, in feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And So when we, as far as when we, when when we invite ourselves to draw out as opposed to just talk about and think about it,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice what you're seeing what you're sensing, and then draw that out. What you're actually doing is you
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: information from much like you're getting the emotional information in the language of emotions in the language of the subconscious.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So here's where
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's where I find it's certain therapeutic approaches.
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This is where they're kind of limited,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and let talk there. For example, if we're talking about how we feel, then we're asking the left brain to
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basically tell us what's going on in the white brain,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what tends to happen There, too, is There's an interpretation that goes on
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so it's. I'm feeling this way, i'm down on this subconscious stuff that's going on inside me. And then when tell the left, Right? Okay? Well, then, you need to figure out what's going on over there. But not only that. Put it in
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two words
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the reason why I tend to find that it's very helpful. I'm not saying There, Aren't, you know times in which we
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to really talk about how we feel, and I am very much a portable process. You don't get me wrong. Ask my husband. I have a very local processor, so i'm not saying that it's not helpful to talk about them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's extremely helpful to talk about how you feel,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but if that's all you're doing, then my experience and my, I mean you're actually missing even deeper information that can come from tapping into those feelings and noticing what you're seeing. Noticing what sensations you get,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and allowing the subconscious and allowing their patients to express themselves in that way, because that is typically more of a direct approach.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You really want to access those feelings. That's one of the best ways to do it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the problem, though, too. So that's one big reason it's the language we're talking about. We that by drawing out the and you are inviting the white brain to speak in its own language
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: as opposed to trying to get it, to speak in something that's really not. It's
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so. That's one reason. And then I already sort of tapped into this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But another thing is when you're asking, you know the left brain to put words to what's going on in the white brain. It's sort of like, if you imagine this. Imagine if we're both in the same house
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you're in one end of the house, and i'm in the other end of the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I. You know someone asks me in my end of the house. Hey? What's going on in the other end of the house? Well, i'm not over there,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so I don't necessarily know what's going on, but maybe I could go. Well, here's what I'm hearing. And
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's what I think is happening. And here's what I think that person said happened, or is that they're going to be doing, you know, but it's asking basically one part of your brain to interpret what's going on in a completely separate part of the world
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: as opposed to going to the other side of the house, and they know what's going on here and looking around, you see. And so when we ask our left body to interpret what's going on in our right brain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We're not actually going to the source a lot of the time
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're asking this this part to figure out, to analyze. And it's that analytical component that can actually get involved
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of true,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: truly processing and understanding our own emotions and allowing them to express themselves forward. And here's why I'll also know that this Isn't always what works where we can tweak ourselves into thinking that we are, You know, processing our emotions. I spent a lot of years
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: fully like literally like cut off right here where I was analyzing. You know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was analyzing my emotions. I was analyzing how I felt, and I was really trying to pay attention to what's going on with me, and then I analyze it,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I put it into words, and I figure it out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What ended up happening was I was, you know, what I really was finding science cut off, and even though I was analyzing how you know thinking about.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: doesn't actually feel,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I wasn't really going to assault. I was letting my left brain doing a way to heavy job that it's not designed to do. I was thinking that by me that my left brain was actually doing the job that really needed to happen for my life
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to allow myself to feel how I was feeling. And so what ended up happening was, you know, even after those years of being just hyper analytical about my feelings. It meant that I wasn't actually allowing myself to feel I was protecting myself. My left brain was actually protecting me from really growing feelings.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, when I finally did realize what was going on, and circumstances forced me to wake
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body and our emotions to really wake up in the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: inside is that when I finally did start to allow myself to feel those feelings,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it was like the pressure had built, and it was all of this emotional stuff that I thought i'd worked through. But no, I really haven't, because what are feelings? What are we supposed to do with feelings Well, at least winding the word we're supposed to feel them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We're supposed to feel our feelings, not just analyze them and try to figure them out. So notice if you are. And again, this is usually for self-protective reason,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because feeling can feel really painful it's a lot of times why we don't want to feel good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you are analyzing your feelings
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in lieu of actually feeling them,
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just be aware that you might be doing that, and why you're doing that,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that actually, you can be precluding yourself from really getting the real deep, rich information and wisdom. That's in those moments, and also not only that, allow your body to do what it needs to do to process the world
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: nowhere. That's why, or maybe it's, you know you've got to really feel that pain in sight. So just a way of saying something to be aware of when you might be the left brain might be doing what i'm doing doing a job that it was never designed to do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's just not the left brain's job. And not only that, I want to add this one of one of the things that I think about,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, and it sort of gets in there into a car, and it wants to figure things out, and it wants to.
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I want,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: as my clients will tell you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And as I've experienced a lot of other people have experienced
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: trying to fix how you feel that's not what it takes to fix a feeling. It's not a mechanical thing. Emotions are not mechanical. We can. We can sort of understand them in that way, and there are some approaches that I take with emotions that we might describe, as you know, sort of understanding how these things fit together,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but really, ultimately,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the emotions just need to flow. Some people like that say that the emotions are energy in motion,
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trying to figure them out
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and slow to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Emotions are not a car engine. They're just not. They don't function that way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Which is why we need to learn to take a non-left learning approach.
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It's more right for the church
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: withdrawing and allowing things to come up and trusting the wisdom and the intuition that's there. That's what really the drawing is about why it's so Alpha.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, now that I've gone on. So those are two points. It's i'm talking about the left brain and the right brain, and the language of the right brain, and also that when we're expecting our left brain to do a job of our right wing, we're actually keeping us from really accessing the truth and the wisdom that's in sign. We can't just analyze your friends that's feeling not a lesson.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Them them speak and and really tune in and allow them to flow the way they
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you to vote.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Also, when we draw out how we feel
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're doing. This is really really powerful. This was a big, light bulb moment for me in terms of even recognizing that I had parts inside it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is, first of all, when we draw out the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: externalize those feelings. Now, this serves certain several purposes. When you draw how you see it, the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're basically noticing that you have a feeling inside, and you're not just sitting with it inside of you and letting it from torture you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Continuing to start a little, you're putting it outside of you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when you put it outside of you. That does some amazing things. For one thing, let's say the feeling that you're having, that you're noticing from your
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that it looks like this. Anger is streaming woman, or maybe it feels like a wall, or maybe it,
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you know, feels like a black hole, or what?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when you're drawing it out, and you're pouring it out. And again you're letting your subconscious speak in its own language.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You are externalizing it. So it's no longer in here, I mean, you might still feel it in here.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It black, sucking sadness. Okay. So now you've drawn that black, sucking sadness. Well, does that look like you?
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: No, that's not you
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: part of you. And even if you do draw something that looks like you, it looks like he was a little girl. It's still not view. But
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So by externalizing it, you're creating a kind of separation from it. I don't mean a disconnection from it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean an awareness that it's not you. It is just a partner. It is not the all of you, and that is extremely important, because a lot of times emotions can be so completely overwhelming
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You're you're starting. You're creating that sense of separation, meaning it's not me. It's a part of the you
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You're putting it somewhere. You're not just like hearing it in the pen. You're actually like acknowledging it, and this is what i'm hearing, and i'm putting it out on a page, I'm. Acknowledging its existence,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Talking about feelings, I mean, I get a lot of inside the wisdom just like hearing myself talk
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: for what comes out. So, for example, you might draw that party that it's really sad, scared, wounded. And you drive in a certain location. So you might see some information. So, for example, what's coming to? My, Because I had an inmate once who he drew out. This little boy
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: those those are the same clothes that I used to wear all the time, and you know they were like the same clothes that he was wearing when a certain thing happened.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is, you know. In other words, if you hadn't drawn it out, you might have just been my cats applying the report, but then, by allowing some punches to put out a lot more information
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: aware of, he was able to realize. Oh, and we made all these connections with so many childhood memories, and, like really a key.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you see. So this is how this works. But the point is is, you can understand that the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the understanding is a key part of it, and that's what these feelings want to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They want to be understood. So you see them. You hear them. You
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They validated and accepted. So it's like i'm, you know I Well, let me just put it this way it's validated as in like the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're validating their existence.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when I say validated we're allowed to be honest with you. One of the things I do when I work with the part is, I always found the skills when I talked to that part of the sign of someone I always had expound. I always bowed,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: even if I don't like its approach, even if it's perception might be off. It's really important to validate this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Ah, just like you're amazing, does not feel so good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, thank you for at least acknowledging right systems and validating that this is all I feel,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it helps them calm down
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in a way then just taught more than just talking.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We're only talking about how our feelings can do for us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's that validation. The other thing I wanted to share with you, too. Is that a lot of times people lose the twenty that face your fears, and and a lot of times when people say they face your fears, they made it in terms of like
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: face. The very thing we can fear right so it's like. If you're really scared of swimming. Well, then, you need to expose yourself to it. It takes on the face that there don't do it, or if you know, if someone's afraid of, you know,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: having a conversation with someone or public speaking, and then they go and they get training in public speaking where they they get up, and they actually do it. So you know those are forms of facing with fears.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another part of facing your fears, but it's a form of facing your fears that
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For example, if you're feeling a fear, and you draw out that fear, and you're looking at that fear. Then you're actually facing that here.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's a very safe and relatively easy way of facing your fears and being able to just acknowledge that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And by facing those fears.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, I see that you're there,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: calm down, and it also helps that fear not feel so scary. That's one of the fabulous things about,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a really safe way of helping yourself feeling as scared of that fear the
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: First thing i'll say, how does it feel to draw that out? And this it feels kind of scary. But then, you know, then they'll say, but you know it doesn't. Look at it. I realize It's not that scary. It's it's not as scary as I've thought it would be,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you see. So that's the wonderful phones you're actually facing
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: also. Another thing, too, is sometimes i'll invite a client to draw out like something. They're afraid you all happen.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Draw it out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's an exercise in facing your fear and helping to diffuse the intensity to reduce the power at all.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's another way to draw it out can really help you face your fears, and by doing so you, and helping them
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and calm down realizing their mouse is as scary as you might think they are,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or that inner bully is not as scary as you might as it might feel excited there, or you might even kind of dig a lot of it. That's kind of funny about the bully there, you know, or as I probably I think i'll share with you
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: offices where I talk, where I talk about my first monster, and I drew it out, but
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and now you know. And then I looked at it. I was like It's not a funny thing. It's actually a green, a big brain, and every monster which is perfectly shade like it was a good for my monster, and you know I, you know, pretty soon after it just dissolved it in. I could kind of take it with that. But now I sometimes, when I talk about it, i'm like it looks like a giant muffet.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It didn't scare me anymore.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's not even inside me any more in that way anymore.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you know also that you just It's kind of funny. And so it is not so scary. So
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that drawing out for these reasons, the left-hand right brain and really receiving the language from your subconscious because of the bypassing, bypassing that on the analytical left brain and really getting into the made of things. And because what you're doing is you're giving your feelings what it is that they need, and desire that you to be seen, heard, understood, and validated. And then, finally, because you're externalizing and you're putting it out there,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, that Oh, this isn't actually so scary, you know. And this is, and this isn't you know this isn't me. It's just a part of me. It just feels more manageable and handleable and quantifiable, and you know,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: by doing that, and actually, when you work with those feelings a lot more busy, and if they're just sitting inside in there, and you're struggling with them, you know whether it's in your own darkness. You're bringing them to light,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which is really what it's all about, and it's one of the key elements, the main things you want to transform your darkness back to light, but you got to shine a light on it. You've got to bring it to light, and that's ultimately what John does when it comes to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Do not underestimate the power of John, how you feel.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: exceptionally powerful, and it's something that is sorely lacking by far from conversations about emotional wellbeing and emotional feeling, and that is actually one of my main intentions and agendas, frankly is to bring this to the world stage
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: how i'm drawing out how I feel, and we're going to feel better, because that's what I want us all to feel. I'm all feel better.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I hope this has been helpful, as always. My name is Emily Eldredge. Check us out. ChangeLight dot world. We've got courses there. I'm developing even more courses for children and things. Those are coming soon, so definitely sign up to receive updates about those, so that you know we can.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can maybe even do one of our pilot programs or share it with the people you serve. All right. Take care, and I will talk to you soon.