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📺 IWFGG | emPowers + exPowers: Free-Spirit + Woundeds




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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the founder of ChangeLight and the creator of the ChangeLight System.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you've been following my episodes you'll see that i've been sharing a lot about the change like system, or at least through the very least, the discoveries that i've made.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the process of my work of doing the Drawing Out Process and actually teaching people what's really going on inside, so that we can have a much more.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: compassionate perspective of really of ourselves and be able to learn to work with ourselves in a more compassionate way is I found that a lot of times there's you know there's so much misinformation there's so much.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and distorted teachings I think about what goes on inside.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, throughout history is that oftentimes we've been taught to fight these parts of ourselves see ourselves as somehow flawed or weak or there's something bad about us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But as i've discovered in my work through my work with actually working with these parts within myself and within my clients people all over the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That what we think is bad about us, or we think is a flaw inside of US or a weakness or some kind of reaction that we really wish we didn't have that it exists for a reason.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For one thing, and for another every part of you is just doing the very best it can to protect you, and especially to protect you from pain why because you've been hurt before so that's what this is all about and i've been sharing I actually want to add.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just a little apology here because previously in my episodes I have been following along a PowerPoint because it's really important that I show you these illustrations so that you get a visual.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of what i'm talking about i'm a very visual person, so it really helps me, and each time I show the slideshow but then I found a way that I thought well if I hit pause share on the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: on the screen share that it would then show my face so a few times if you've watched my previous episodes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You might have seen me say oh wait a minute you haven't seen my face for a while and then I click something and then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I thought it was actually going back to this just me in this screen, but unfortunately I looked back on these videos recently, and I saw oh.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: gosh it's just the PowerPoint all the way through pretty much so, I want to apologize for that I don't know why it's not working, but what our it's doing what it's doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So maybe a little bit clunky on this episode, because I am going to try to actually get the you know face face to face interaction here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that you're not just looking at my slides all the time, so with that said i'm going to share my screen, and here we go all right it'll work for greater good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I always talk about the ChangeLight System, this is what's going on inside all of us, I tried to keep it really simple, because I think that we get overloaded with too much information and trying to understand like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You don't get you over analytical about what's really happening inside of us, I find that if we keep it simple it's a lot easier to like grasp what's going on inside.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And once you understand, like the dynamics and the parts of you, and what each type is trying to do, then you can start to recognize oh i've got a Defender popping up or oh i've got this popping up, but then ultimately ultimately.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All of this stuff that's inside of you its original intention was to help you live, your Truth your Truth is that treasure.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is inside of you, and, as I see it, it is your one and only job on earth to live your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because when you live, your Truth you light up the world, you have the greatest possible impact, you can have, and obviously i've said.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Many times before, that my focus is especially on mission driven leaders and changemakers, those of us who are driven to make a positive difference in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because those of us who really do have this as part of our Truth our mission our mission to make a difference and really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: change our world for the better than you know, the more at peace that we can feel in the more empowered, we can feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the faster we can work together and make a difference and really healed the ills in our world there are so many problems in our world and it's so overwhelming I know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That that's where you can do that in our work to heal those parts of you, and as those parts of you heal.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You are healing humanity, as you are a human healing you are healing humanity, and that is what this is about, and as you then show up more beautifully and vibrantly radiantly in the world, then you can make a bigger difference, not just by what you do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It by who you are by the light that you shine by the energy that you radiate, by the way you impact people with how you respond to things and how you relate to them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's it's just makes life so much easier when we're fully fully living our Truth it's not always easy to live your Truth and I don't want to mistake, you know, make any.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: given you a mistake and impressions around that because sometimes it can be hard.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you know your Truth and when you know your Truth and living your Truth, then you know that that is the most peace and empowered you can possibly an empowered you can possibly.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Be that is what this is about, so of course i've been talking about you see my previous episodes I talked about your exPowers which are those parts that feel like they get in the way of you really living that Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then also as i've been covering in the last few episodes how your exPowers relate to your m powers which.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Their whole job is to empower you to live that Truth that you are here to live.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then of course we have your guide star, which is the vision you carry of you, excuse me, fully living your Truth and having the impact that you desire to have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then your Truth is that treasure inside of you, that is, that inner knowing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, you are and who you are here to be so, it is your inner compass that's what this is about, we are accessing that inner compass inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That knows who you are knows who you're here to be and to guide you there just like your Guiding Star can be that vision that also guides you, the Truth is really the wonderfulness of the full wonderfulness of you so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That being said, I always do this here's my little.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: animation that I forgot, you were talking about your exPowers in your emPower we're on the third of this year and we talked about how certain and pop exPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: emPowers willing to certain next powers, and you know anyway we're on the third one, so in this case we've talked about your inner Sovereign.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we've talked about your we've actually talked about all of these i've been through all of these things, so if you're curious about any of these inner emPowers inside of you, you can watch previous episodes about each one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is, we have these three and powers inside of us their job is to empower us to live our Truth, they each have their own ways of doing this Okay, they each have their.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: own their own sort of like sort of look, this is my lane, you know where this is my genius zone it's like they've got their own unique gifts and skills and attitudes and tendencies, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That they bring to you that they bring to your life your life experience.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your experience of life and your ability to live your Truth, so we covered your Sovereign and how it relates to what we just do this actually we covered your Sovereign how it relates to your Defenders.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We covered your Impresario and how it relates to Controllers and next we are talking about the Free-Spirit and how it relates to Woundeds here they are as they relate to each other we're going to talk this time about the Free-Spirit Wounded connection there now, this is a very.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Let me go i'm gonna go back, let me put it this way um so we've got an infrastructure we've got a Sovereign we've got a Free-Spirit we've got Controllers we've got Defenders we thought.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's The thing is that the is that Controllers and Defenders, for the most part, really only exist because we have Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because we are wounded, because we carry wounds okay so it's, not to say that when I do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My work with people that you know, a Defender there's all if a Defender shows up in you know when they draw out their inner struggle, a Defender shows up it's not so there was always going to be a Wounded that shows up with it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you know we're a Controller it's not always going to be a Wounded, but the whole point is that Controllers and Defenders are trying to protect us from being hurt or from feeling pain So where is that hurt and pain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Wounded and it's, not to say that the other ones don't feel pain, but the point is our Woundeds are really at the core of our pain, they are the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The biggest denison's of the dark of our inner darkness, if you will, they are those parts of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that ultimately we can feel the Controllers and we can feel the Defenders and we can feel so much better and so much more at peace, and I did this been have done this for years.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But those Woundeds that's really what's really down there, and the more we can heal those wounds, the more at peace, we can feel, I just want to also say something really quick on that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When it comes to Woundeds here i'm going to i'm going to try this i'm going to stop share here we go now, you can see my face when it comes to inner Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know it's really interesting because i'll just i'll just tell a really quick story like recently I i've i've made some bigger changes in my life i've in my work i've created an online.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Online community that has an online program course that you can take I also have new you know client options anyway, and I did a whole rebrand of my business, because this is what I really felt called to do for a while.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it really needed it so i've been doing that and then and all along the way i've been feeling fantastic you know i'm feeling really wonderful and excited.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That was triggered along the way, obviously by some of the changes we were making, and you know some of the realizations I was having and how it was really forcing me to step into you know some bigger spaces in my life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But interestingly, I most of the time I was feeling really good, but then after I launched the Community and the course and you know all this new brand and everything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All of a sudden, even though i've like cleared all this other stuff inside of me those Controllers those Defenders and i've cleared some wounds every time all boy, let me tell you, you want to know what showed up for me wound is Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Little kids inside of me, mostly little bag, in this case, all little girls who were carrying wounds from that work had caused me to feel deeply and secure.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: terrified that people wouldn't show up for me and my work or wouldn't be interested in what i'm offering, in fact, one of them Her message was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Nobody cares about what I care about, and that was a huge like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like hugely painful belief for me i'm very much about connection and connecting with people, and I think that, because of certain experiences growing up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I basically these parts of me formed that were Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is it's just interesting to me how like even after all the healing and clearing that i've done and feeling so great and so empowered it really when it came to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really stepping into my Truth even more what actually showed up a lot was Wounded so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of wounds, as I said, they're like at the core of what's really going on underneath all of that Defender and Controller energy and Sure enough, that was the case for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So i'll keep sharing so Free-Spirit, how does the Free-Spirit relate to Wounded so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's look again at what the Free-Spirit is let's just do a recap, so the Free-Spirits all about being playful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: joyful funny in the now pleasure seeking imaginative self expressive artistic emotional loving generous sweet.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: innocent and carefree and you'll see that I have them have them represented his children because a lot of times that's what your Free-Spirit is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's that joyful young innocent exuberant just you know no limitations just let's just have fun let's just play let's just have a great time all about wanting to experience joy and pleasure.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know so that's a lot of times you know a lot of children are like that and i'm sure as a child, you had a lot of that probably very joyful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, sadly, of course, there are times when well we'll talk about this, but basically how certain traumas and everything can really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: keep us from being the fully joyful is children, but a lot of times when you see children they're very free and they're very joyful and you know they they don't always pick up after themselves, they don't think all.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: times in terms of you know timeliness or cleanliness because they don't care they're just like whatever i'm using this thing that I brought on the ground, but I do this and they.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They go from one thing to another.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so you're Free-Spirit is is that part of you that really loves pleasure and wants to enjoy things and let's light up and be free.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's to be creative let's to be self expressive you know really just loves to have fun and be in the moment being the man doesn't doesn't care about schedules.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: doesn't care about you go rules or anything let's just be free and have fun, so how is it that this Free-Spirit energy this wonderful party you and it turned into woundings.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How do you does that part of you that wound it now, you know some of you might be watching this and being kind of like well that's an easy that's an easy answer question to answer.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But really it's interesting to see how you know we can have such a powerful part of this is the Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet we end up with these parts that are that are so wounded so again let's recap wounds feel unloved on wanted rejected ignored alone forgotten abandoned, like some of them do feel that way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Others might feel just mostly scared anxious or confused Others feel very sad hopeless trapped helpless Others feel criticized shamed misunderstood and then others can feel angry.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and believe that it's not fair, you know before I talked about that I had, I had a bunch of wounds come up, but a lot of them felt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like in this case, it was like the unloved and unwanted rejected ignored alone forgotten abandoned like feeling very and i'm sure this came from my childhood and I can think of some specific scenarios.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or situations, why that would have happened for me what could have happened for you to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just feeling like nobody cared about what I cared about um that nobody really wanted to sit and play with me and that may seem like such a simple thing you know as an adult you kind of go out whatever you know I got over it, but really when you're a child.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When you're a child everything feels bigger children tend to internalize and personalize a whole lot more.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So children tend to think that if something happens or someone's behaving a certain way it's my fault they're behaving that way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If mommy comes home and she's in a bad mood well it's because it must be because I was a bad kid so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then that part of you start to think well the part of you made me feel like oh and sad and I feel bad and I feel ashamed and I started that i've heard mommy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Other parts of you feel like Well then, I just need to be really, really good for her so that she won't get mad at me or stay mad at me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that, but the fact that mommy was mad may have had nothing to do with you at all, even if mommy came home and was raging, and you and acting as though for anger was your fault, may not have it all in your fault.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the Truth is that Woundeds are basically those parts of US oftentimes 4 million childhood, but sometimes in adults as well, but they're the parts of us that carry those wounds, so you know the in my case, it was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It wasn't simple, for me it was hugely traumatic for me to feel so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like that nobody wanted to be a part of what I wanted to do and really just sit and have fun with me and so that felt very wounding for me, because it was so important to me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: same thing with like if mommy comes home and she's angry and you just want to have a.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: connection with mommy and you want to feel safe with mommy I mean who doesn't want to feel safe with their mother or their father or any everyone right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that part of you may not have felt safe or may have criticized and shamed misunderstood or confused, you know i've worked with a lot of Wounded, where they'll say they're just so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're just so lost and confused and they'll say I don't I don't understand why he's so mean to me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the he could be anybody, they could be the father that he could be a teacher that he could be a brother.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or cousin or something, but you know, a guy that they saw on the street, when our kids who did something and it's like I don't understand there's this confusion.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's like because because that that that Free-Spirit inside that's been impacted number six very innocent so it's like I don't understand why they're so mean to me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the point is is that Woundeds end up forming because we have these these because we have these parts of us that are carrying this pain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From our various life experiences and even though, as an adult those life experiences may seem like they're not that big and they're not that consequential and you look at it from your adult perspective and you kind of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: no big deal, you would be so surprised by how even the littlest thing could have been deeply wounding to you as a child.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's that's that's a big part of it is that that innocent playful joyful part that just wants to have fun suddenly ones into situations.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where they're actually feeling rejected where they're feeling shamed a lot of times, we can feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We can fit what well, let me just put it this way, a lot of times, people are scared to feel true unadulterated joy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there's there are there are a number of reasons why that is, but I found that the main reason why oftentimes people are scared of feeling joy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is because, as a child, they were experiencing and we have been a moment we are experiencing such.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: excitement, and this is wonderful and everything is great, and then boom something comes along or someone comes along and squashes that joy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or there's some disappointment, you know it may be like you say Daddy Daddy look I drew this picture for you and you're so excited to show Daddy that picture.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And Daddy looks at and goes in or Daddy doesn't look at it at all or Daddy says that's ugly that doesn't look like me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That hurts that really hurts, and so we can often happen, this is a very simple simple example, but what can happen is, then, then the the feeling of joy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: gets associated with pain gets associated with disappointment gets associated with fear gets associated with rejection.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's often what happens and why it can feel so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know why it can be even hard to them feel that joy from this of that Free-Spirit again because so often our inner Free-Spirit has had you know we've had those experiences and parts of our inner sphere Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: have been wounded or hurt and such in some way or another, so that's just so you know that's one of the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of the sort of just a few examples of how that Free-Spirit can end up transforming into Wounded and getting impacted getting distorted by pain and by fear and therefore take on these feelings.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and take on these behaviors So what is it that Wounded, are trying to do right, let me just go back on this, because you know if you watch the previous episode about wounds, I talked about this, but here's The thing is that Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, let me just say what they're what they're saying and then all extrapolate on it so they're trying to get your attention.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that you'll notice how terrible that they feel and we'll do something about it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so they want you, you know when you feel that Klein little kid inside or you feel that part of you that so anxious or scared or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That ultimately that's what that that that can be one thing that part of me really wants or needs it needs your attention so that you'll pay attention to it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He wants your attention so that you will will notice how it's feeling and you will console it, you will take care of it, you will you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, pay attention to it and give it the library, that it needs, and that it needed back then, when it was originally hurt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another thing that we're Woundeds can be trying to do is actually not trying to do anything other than protect itself meaning it's not trying to get attention.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's literally just curl up in a corner somewhere is hidden it is you know, trying to it's deep somewhere in the dark and here's where i'm going to pause the share.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Stop the share so Wounded, so those kinds of wounds oftentimes when I work with a Wounded like that, and someone draws out a Wounded like that they literally draw that Wounded, like in a dog food.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or in a dark corner a windowless room no doors and windows, where it feels trapped and it feels stuck there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a lot of times that's because that at some point in your life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You did not feel protected you felt like there was no one there to protect you you felt abandoned you felt neglected and so some part of your Free-Spirit that joyful wonderful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know just loves to be free and have fun felt back.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And took on that pain and fear and therefore ended up in that dark place it's why I often talk about how it's like these parts of us have gone from light to dark we've fallen into darkness because they've been distorted.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By pain and by fear and that's often how other people draw them out of their subconscious that's actually how they look so the point is ultimately that's what we're.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Trying to do let's go back to the first one so Wounded, are trying to get your attention so that you'll take care of them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's because, at some point or another, you were not noticed, you are not taking care of you were dismissed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, some part of me felt like was in so much pain and yet didn't feel like there was any resolution or didn't feel like there was any explanation or didn't feel like there was any reason we're didn't feel like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, they were heard are valued or validated with their feelings were validated, so a lot of times that that kind of Wounded really needs validation needs to be you know taken care of and seen and heard and understood and then in terms of the second one, you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what, let me just explain really quickly we've got Controllers and Defenders, as I said, their whole intention is to try to protect you from pain or another part of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From pain and so that's oftentimes what will happen to is when you've got that part that feels so defenseless.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so Woundeds hurt is that you might often have a Defender who standing in front of it, because that Wounded doesn't know how to protect itself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it might be sitting there going I can't protect myself so i'm just going to pull away from the world basically and we're going to pull deep inside the person i'm in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know i'm going to pull deep inside of her and hide in this dark place until it's safe for me to come out and in the meantime, maybe that Defenders The thing that says, our.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And shows up to try to protect you to try to protect that would it so that's just so you have a little bit of idea and I think in the next episode i'm actually going to talk a little bit about you know some of those dynamics and talk about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like basically the how important it is to recognize these these parts of you, and what they're trying to do and how they relate to each other so let's share the screen again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Alright, so this is, these are the basic things that Wounded we're trying to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that, let me just go back real quick so that's that's essentially when we talk about again i'm going to go back when we talk about the Free-Spirit and the wind is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really, that the more we can heal those wounds inside of us, mind you, we have to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In terms of my work like I might have to actually work with a Defender before I can really work with that Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's you know and wherever the Controller before i'm allowed to really work that Wounded or or or I might have to work with a Controller.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In order to heal the Wounded, because it could be that a part of that that Controller has taken on behaviors from someone in your life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in order for the Wounded to heal we got to heal the Controller that's an attacking the Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's oftentimes how that works is a little bit of nursing out on you guys on the ladies a little bit just you know sharing some some sort of behind the scenes stuff in terms of how this works, but also in terms of how the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The dynamics are inside and and what needs to be healed but My point is that wound is really are the at the core.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of our Woundeds there at the core of our pain and it's often because they are the childlike parts of us the joyful free generous sweet innocent etc parts of us that have been hurt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That have experienced pain or disappointment or danger or have felt unsafe in some way or another, and that is why they have become Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so if you've experienced and I know we all have any of these kinds of experiences that have made us feel in any way, shape or form unsafe I guarantee you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you've got Woundeds inside of you who are carrying that pain, who were carrying that struggle were carrying that anxiety that fear that abandonment that neglect etc, etc, so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's also by way of saying that I always like to share, about the ChangeLight System and about the Drawing Out Process, because when it comes to having Woundeds when it comes to having any of these exPowers inside of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're not doomed to live with these okay I can't you know, one of my big agendas here is that you know there's so part of me I mentioned before about misinformation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that there's such this like impression that like Oh, if we have this word we just have to learn to deal with it we just have to learn to live with it we just you know or just breeze through it and that's about all you can do, or you know and i'm like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is just not true that we can be healed of these rooms, there are a number of different modalities that can heal these various wounds, I of course and sharing mine, which is the Drawing Out Process it's part of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The crux of my ChangeLight System What it does is it permanently transforms lose exPowers we're talking about limits here and transform a Wounded permanently back into.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's Free-Spirit essence to that, rather than being in the dark scared scared and alone in that door for it's free it's happy it's a keys it's reconnected with you it's filled with love.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I just also want to add here to when it comes to the the Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and Free-Spirit dynamic or you know just this whole the fact that you know they have we have Free-Spirits and they become Woundeds Woundeds can transform back into three spirits is that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of times people think and i've had clients come to me, especially if they've endured a lot of trauma in their childhood.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Especially if they were abandoned, especially if their parents or their caregivers did not show up for that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we're not appropriate caregivers or if they felt special is a big one, like if their parents would say were alcoholics.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And they felt as a child that they needed to take care of the parent or if the parent had some other kind of issue and the child with you as a child, that we need to take care of the parent than a lot of times, that is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Most of the time in my experience, those that is what causes those neglected abandoned those wounds that all the way into the darkness.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and almost seem to disappear i've actually worked with Woundeds dropping were invisible because they're like nobody sees me I didn't even know existed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is the depth of trauma to those child parts of you to the Free-Spirit parts of you that turn into Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But here's the thing, so you might as an adult be like you know what I was talking about this Free-Spirit stuff and it just you know that's Nice and everything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I don't I don't I think my inner child is dead and i'm saying this because i've had clients say this to say i'm having a child, you see my inner child live a long time ago, and I say okay well let's just see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Always always we always find that child and one of those children inside of me, we have multiple.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But we find that Free-Spirit energy inside of them and we free and we feel it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that rather than that person feeling like they don't have an inner child feeling so devoid of joy and freedom and peace, instead of transformative bring it out of the darkness.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: bring it into the light transform it back into its true joyful loving warm expressive creative essence.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, this is what the Drawing Out Process does this is what I do with my clients, this is what I teach in my course and community in the change like course and Community i'll give you the link to that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I just really want to emphasize this, this is what is possible for you and for everyone that we can heal these parts of us that have been so Wounded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And do so distorted by the pain of our world, and by the painful life experiences that we've had all the fears we've endured.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We can heal those parts of us there are ways of bringing them out of the subconscious and killing them in the drawing up processes how I do that and it's all part of the change like system, as I said, you can learn that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the chat Oh, here we go this I was going to the next slide but i'm not anyway, this is again the change like system that you've already seen this and I might have time so just want to point out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The ChangeLight System Community got changed like dot world or just going to change like that world and you'll see all the Info about it, but the whole point is my intention is to teach you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm obviously teaching you about the discoveries i've made, but in the system, a teacher the techniques that teach you the tools, so that you can transform these inner struggles that you have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can do inner strength, so that you can feel more free important piece, because, as I said when it comes to wellness and Franklin when it comes to some Controllers and Defenders.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's it's all about a big part of their healing is just bringing them out of the darkness and validating them and helping them feel see.


00:31:23.850 --> 00:31:29.580

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's a big part of the healing process so that's a lot of how it begins with a Drawing Out Process and what you can learn.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In my wonderful safe and some more supportive Community where you can do your Inner Work for Greater Good, so I hope this has been helpful for you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I always always always enjoy sharing with you, and you know, ultimately, my intention is always to really help you gain greater clarity and wisdom about who you are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that when these parts of you show up whether they will be exPowers or emPowers you know what they are learning to recognize them and you learn to work with them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's an emPower you learn to honor it I teach that and, of course, in the Community, but then also if it's an exPower you learn Oh, this is what it's trying to do, and this is, you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What it needs, which is, which is what i've been teaching so in any case, I hope this is helpful i'll be very honest with you, I think.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I haven't fully decided what i'm going to do in the next episode if i'm going to actually recap the exPower than the emPowers and just really talk about how they how they work together and then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know how to how to work with them, but I may actually go straight into the Guiding Star I don't know because next up is that game starting after that I thought Truth my whole intention is to share these aspects.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of the ChangeLight System with you, so I haven't decided so that's all by way of saying they don't know what the next episode it's going to be about and we'll just find out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What happens alrighty Thank you so much, as always it's a pleasure sharing with you, my name is Emily Eldredge change life in her work for greater good i'll see you next week.


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