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📺 IWFGG | emPowers + exPowers: Impresario + Controllers




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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello Hello everyone and welcome to my show Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: founder of ChangeLight and the creator of the ChangeLight System and the whole purpose of ChangeLight is to teach you inner work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That can accelerate your power to change the world and I especially focus my work on changemakers and mission driven leaders and values driven leaders, those of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who really care about how we show up in the world and know that by doing this, inner work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It can help us be better human beings, so that we can make an even bigger difference so i'm excited to share with you this information i've been doing a few series so far in case you haven't been watching i've been sharing elements of the ChangeLight System.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I want you to have oh this isn't working weird something just happened hold on one second sorry this is acting up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There we go I was at the end of the PowerPoint instead of the beginning.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was wondering why the screen went black anyway um so i've been sharing about the ChangeLight System, which is a system that I created and it's basically it contains all these discoveries that i've made.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: About what's really going on inside of you, and how to work with those parts of you so it's also got techniques, especially based around a technique I created.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: called the Drawing Out Process, which is an extremely powerful way of pulling out whatever is in your subconscious whether it's subconscious struggles or fears or blocks or blind spots.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or other things like that that really get in the way of you feeling fully at peace with yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and fully empowered to show up in the world, as you desire to live your Truth and to make that difference so with that said i'll just show you if you've seen my show before you've seen this many times.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is basically how it goes is, if you look at this image on the left the exPowers are what I call those those blocks those fragments those parts of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That are formed, as a result of you know traumas and stresses, and you know, limiting beliefs that were taught.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Other things that happened in our lives that cause parts of us to get distorted by fear by pain by stress.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then they fall into sort of darkness, if you will, as you can kind of see with this image of the exPowers they're all fragmented and they're.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're obstructing that inner light that's there which you can see, on the right is your Truth, but then ultimately your exPowers, and this is what we're talking about in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and actually spent quite a few episodes talking about your exPowers your emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in this series we've been talking about your exPowers and how they relate to your emPowers, why is it that you're emPowers which are which whose job it is to empower you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to live your Truth, why do your emPowers or what happens when your emPowers get distorted.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By fear and pain and stress and how and why do they then transform.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: into exPower so in the last episode, I talked about how come your inner Sovereign, which is one of your types of emPowers and I did a full series about the different empower types.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But why is it that your Sovereign transforms into Defenders That was the last episode in this episode we're going to talk about how come.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're there are there's my little animation again like I said that your.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Impresario, which is that wonderful part of you that's all about left brained and practicality and survival and getting things done, and being productive and strategic we're going to talk about that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But why is it and how is it that that part of you then becomes like Controller so anyway i'm kind of jumping ahead of myself, but the point is, you can see here how your exPowers and your emPowers relate to each other.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then also part of the system is your Guiding Star and it's all about that vision that image you carry of who you are and who you're sorry who you're here to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The difference you're here to make this the impact you're here to have and that's something that we all carry that you and I carry we all carry exPowers we all carry emPowers we all have an inner guidance.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we also all have the Truth so Essentially, this is the system of self understanding I keep it as simple as possible because there's so much that's taught out there, that is so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's so it's so overwhelming it's confusing it's frankly wrong there's a lot of inaccurate information that I think a lot of people.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: have been taught to believe about themselves and and we've been taught to shame parts of ourselves, and you know think critically of ourselves and treat ourselves a particular way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i've just found that a lot of times that doesn't work so that's really my intention here is to teach you what exactly is going on.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Inside of you what's the Truth about these parts of you, and then in terms of the work that I do with the Drawing Out Process and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Community that I have in the courses that I teach it's all about teaching you then how to heal those exPowers bring forward more there's emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, as well as your Guiding Star, so that you can fully fully fully live your Truth and light up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because when you light up you light up the world, and I think that you can agree with me and a lot of other people.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That basically we have too much darkness in our world we have too much fragmentation, we have a lot of conflict.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, as I see it, that the reason why we have these worlds hills is because we are ill, because the world is sick, because we are sick, the world is in conflict because we have inner conflict.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm not saying that if you have inner conflict it's your fault that the world is in conflict, but it is saying that by doing your inner work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You are affecting the greater good, you are having an impact on the world, because then you light up and you show up differently in the world, and when you show up differently and you're radiant.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then you impact people, not just by what you do, but by who you are so that's my intention i'm like Okay, you have a Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you have all these parts of you some parts get in the way and some parts are here to support you so it's just a matter of bringing forward all the beautiful Truth inside of you so that you can fully trust it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and live it and really make the difference that you're here to make so there's my there's my soapbox.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, as I mentioned we're talking about the Sovereign.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I spent a few episodes talking about your inner Sovereign your Impresario your Free-Spirit, these are what I call your three inner emPowers whose job it is to empower you to live your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's the thing, though, as I mentioned before, when it comes to extra hours and emPowers the emPower is can get distorted or parts of them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: can get distorted these inner beautiful presences and energies that we have inside us get marred and twisted and darkened by fear fearful situations traumas.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, chronic stress is things like that, so this is basically what happens is essentially your inner Sovereign.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Be can can break up and become inner Defenders and I talked about the what those are in previous episodes and then how that transformation and why that transformation takes place in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which we knows to this episode well, let me just keep going so what happens is your Impresario breaks up into Controllers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you're Free-Spirit can transform into a wound it's the parts of you that feel very wounded and sad.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So we already talked about your Defenders your excuse me, the middle one the Sovereign and how Sovereign transform into your Defenders that was in the last episode.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In this episode, though, we are going to talk about how does your Impresario energy that wonderful energy inside of you transform into Controller what happens there, why does it do that so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: uh so here, let me just show you this sorry I got a little lost there for a second i'm so curious again an overview again of what is your inner Impresario.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So your inner Impresario is the part of you, that is logical structured precise time focused analytical, by the way, i'll show you time focus i'm checking the time, so my inner Impresario was you know kicking any.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Time focus analytical intellectual how oriented lives to figure things out loves to fix things, how do we do this, how do we fix this, how do we go about this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Productive practical and consider it so your Impresario is that wonderful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Energy inside of you it's a very left brain energy just to put it in very simple terms, but it's really that part of you, that is all about, what are the practical needs of your life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um, how do we go about things, how can we figure things out fix things analyzing things it loves to investigate and understand.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It loves to be very strategic and also love structure so think about you know I just showed you just you know, to have a little funds they all my Impresarios checking the time well because the reality is i'm only.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Given a certain amount of time to speak to you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so there needs to be a part of me and there's we all have this part it's checking on that that's making sure that we're staying within the parameters.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of whatever you know our in our lives and knowing, of course, that there are sometimes we can change this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But in this case, your Impresario is the part of you that you know, once you to be on time for meetings.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or that likes to schedule things or make lists and make sure, make sure that you're on top of things so that's typically what your inner Impresario.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is all about, so how is it that you're Impresario becomes King when it's affected by pain started by pain fear stress things like that traumas.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Why is it, when you are impacted I should say by those things, why is it that parts of your Impresario.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: become Controllers, how is it that the Impresario energy can become so controlling and, as I say here critical attacking blaming shaming pushing pressuring suppressive.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: oppressive fear mongering doubting undermining diverting and distracting so notice that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Each of these bullet points is a little bit different quality of being type of behavior so like the critical attacking blaming shaming is that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You, but the pushy and pressuring could be like pushing you, you know, to go forward the suppressive oppressive is like down.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Undermining is basically sort of saying well I don't know you shouldn't really trust this you know the diverting distracting is sort of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of times and i'll get back to you can see my face again a lot of times with the diverting distracting Controller.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that i've had clients who, when i've worked with them and a Controller shows up that's that's constantly keeping them busy and constantly keeping them focused on everything and not really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, paying attention to what their needs, might be, or even how they might feel and so all I all aspect control or okay So what is it that you're trying to do and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of times, it says well if I keep her busy basically distracted.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then she won't feel how she actually feels so that's just an example of like diverting or distracting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The critical attacking blaming shaming that's your classic inner critic so when we are talking about an inner critic and if someone comes to me and says, I have a really vicious inner critic.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Occasionally that's a Wounded, there are reasons for that, but most of the time that's an inner Controller, so why is it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That the Impresario energy, which is so like you know, intellectual and you know focused on time and wanting to figure things out and wanting to help you or you know help others or you know that's that's very um.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Thanks very practically, why is it that it becomes this energy well here's an example, for example.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's think of someone who's very structured right or the structured part of you, and if you have experienced a lot of upheaval in your life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you've had a lot of experiences that were made you feel like you didn't have any control over what happened, or you know, things were constantly changing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You might have a part of you in fact you probably do, but you let's just say you might have a part of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That would form that would be very distressed by that by the lack of structure by the lack of predictability.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: by the lack of feeling a sense of control in one's own environment so let's say this happened to you as a child, maybe you grew up in a family, where there was a lot of upheaval, or there was a lot of disorganization.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, and if you've you've got this Impresario part of you like we all do, that probably you know was stressed by that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or saw that you are stressed by that and so what can end up happening is you end up with an.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A part of your Impresario energy that becomes controlling and becomes very much about trying to control everything or trying to structure everything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because, and I will go into the next the next slide because it's trying to ultimately protect you in some way or another.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And usually it's trying to protect you from particular feeling, so this gets into what our Controllers trying to do, let me just say in that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In that situation that I just described, that would be a Controller that's trying to give you a feeling of control.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In situations that make you feel out of control, so that form of control could be well, I was so, you know as a kid you are so stressed and so distressed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: by the fact that there wasn't much structure and maybe things didn't get done, you know, maybe your parents didn't stick to regimens or to schedules and so you missed things in school let's say as a result, or maybe you are constantly late.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Getting your papers in because you're always having to deal with situations, you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: traumatic situations at home, for example, and so the point is that that control that that Impresario part of you that's trying to give you those feelings are trying to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: give you a sense of like structure and control and predictability in your life because you didn't have it might end up becoming a Controller.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In which it's like everything has to be exactly right here, everything has to be you know, all in the right place and ducks in an order you know and and everything every minute has to be scheduled throughout the day.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because, ultimately it's trying to give you a sense of control because it's seen how you feel when you don't have any control or any sense of control.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's an example of why and Impresario energy inside of you might become like a Controller.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But also, so what are what our Controllers trying to do they're trying to keep you small so that you won't risk getting criticized and hurt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'll give you an example of this, that is well the first two, I should say, are often your typical inner critics, but in this case, if you had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean again parents or a teacher or someone in your life, who was extremely critical and criticizing you then you probably had a part of you or parts of you that formed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That took on those behaviors or that at least saw how that hurt your feelings when that person criticized you, and so it thought well, then we need to protect her.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: from being criticized that way again, and so we got to make sure we nip this in the bud, and she needs to change this this and this about her.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because if she doesn't she's going to get attacked for it and we don't want her to get attacked for behaving that way or feeling that way etc are doing that thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that is often why a Controller will end up treating you that way or part of you that way because it's learned that behavior from someone in your environment.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or, also because it thinks well, if I can get her to change this thing about herself then she won't get criticized for it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The problem, of course, is that it's very counterintuitive because, ultimately, what that Controller ends up doing is usually criticizing you, it does what what it was trying to protect you from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's a whole other thing about exPowers and how they can be kind of counterintuitive and then the second one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: push you to feel stronger and succeed, so that you won't feel mediocre embarrassed and or rejected, so this can be, for example, if you had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again i'm just using a parent or a teacher or someone in your life let's say as a child who who felt made you feel like you were never enough.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that you had to let's say behave a certain way and do a certain thing to get their approval or their even their attention now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This kind of Controller can also show up even if you didn't have a parent who made you feel that way, but, for example, if you had a parent didn't pay much attention to you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that what happened is that Impresario energy may have become more like a Controller, to try to get you to behave a certain way so that you'll get that person's attention or so that you won't be humiliated or shamed when you screw up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or so that you'll succeed because if you succeed, then maybe this person will finally love you I mean that's usually oftentimes the beliefs that that's one of the beliefs, that these.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that we can carry and that can cause a Controller to form, so what the Controller is trying to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is it's try a controls you're just trying to in various different ways, whether it's through criticism or pressure or overt question or you know controlling or what have you I mean that's that's I should just back up here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is actually why I called him Controllers because.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's their primary behavior is controlling you or another part of you, but the that what they're trying to do is protect you in some way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like protect you from criticism or protect you from feeling mediocre or not good enough or protect you from feeling out of control, because if you think about it, that Impresario energy is very much like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, if you think about it let's think about the energy inside of you that's that you know that wants you to be on time, or like things to be scheduled.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Imagine that energy let's say you've got the healthy Impresario energy of that within you imagine though you put some stress on that part of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Imagine that suddenly things don't go your way, then that can trigger that it's that can trigger the all of a sudden there to be stress.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And therefore, it becomes this thing of that it's not just like oh it's trying to be on time it's like oh my God.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know and and if you're if you're not on time if you're late then they're going to think that you're lazy or you're stupid or you're irresponsible or what have you, you see, so that's it's like that's the Controller version of that Impresario energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But ultimately ultimately what it's about is it's about it's not that Oh, I have these Controllers in me and there permanently that way and I just have to deal with this inner critic and I just have to deal with this inner stress and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Pressure or you know i'm never good enough, no it's not I mean that's the whole point of why i'm teaching you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This information is i'm trying to get across that these are not foregone conclusions that you don't you don't have to suffer.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From these parts of you that, as you learn to understand what's going on inside both the good so let's say the emPowers and the bad the exPowers, and then you learn how they're connected with each other and realize they can transform.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But by learning about them and learning to recognize what's going on inside of you, and have a wiser a perspective.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of what's going on inside so rather than just going oh it's my inner critic and the inner critic is so terrible and i'm going to fight it it's like wait a minute.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That woman Emily said that my inner critic is just to transform part of my Impresario and that it what might be trying to do is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, protect me from being criticized is trying to keep me from actually stepping out and shining my light because it's afraid that i'll get hurt again, and you know what I have been hurt before have an eye.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the point is, you know you can kind of take this understanding and learn to understand yourself and work with yourself and start to have compassion for those parts of you and realize that that fighting doesn't work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But actually understanding and having compassion for those parts and really ultimately it's really for yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And how those parts of you evolved and why they evolved they evolved because you've been hurt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because you've had chronic stresses, because you've been traumatized because you had people criticize you or control you or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: completely ignore or neglect you that can oftentimes cause a Controller, to show up as well kind of like I talked about before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where it's like if you had a parent or someone who didn't pay much attention to you, you might have some Controllers form inside of you who try to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: make you behave certain ways that they think will get you the attention that you so badly want so anyway, the point is this is not something that you are doomed to suffer from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I always like to share this again because it's like it's not just oh here's some cool information it's like we can change this for you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, in my ChangeLight System is what, as I mentioned before the Drawing Out Process it's a very simple technique.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it transforms those exPower so those Controllers those Defenders those wounds.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: back into their original energy that they were inside of you so that rather than feel like they work against you, they work for you, rather than causing you to feel fragmented.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and uncertain and not trusting yourself, or you know week or insecure, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Instead, they when when they're transformed back into emPowers they go back to doing the job that they were originally intended to do, which, as I said, is empower you to live your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's their job and so that's what this Drawing Out Process this ChangeLight System does.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you see in this picture, right here, we have actually two types of exPowers on the left, we have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The little girl, and we have the mommy and i'll just tell you that the little girl's name for this was a client of mine.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The little girl's name is little K and the the mommy's name is mean mommy, and so I just for a second here, you might just have I mean it's not like a little fun, but you just might take a moment to go hmm I wonder who the Controller is between these two.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, in case you haven't figured it out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's the one on the right it's the mean mommy now sometimes little kids can be can be controlling to However, I think i've said this before in a previous episode.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that when it's controlling it's often because it's just trying to get your attention or it's if it's screaming at you and yelling at you and criticizing you it's probably just trying to get your attention.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's really an underlying motivation, but in terms of the Controllers she this me mommy was like I have to do all the work for you and you won't grow up and so she was criticizing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This little girl and, mind you, for those of you who are familiar with some of these like psych you know therapeutic or psycho psycho therapeutic concepts, this is your classic critical parent.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Inner child and inner child dynamic where you have the mean mommy or Daddy critical parent figure, and then the wounded child figure.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the crit the Controllers often how Controllers actually show up is there, acting on a wounded they're making a part of you feel very wounded usually that Wounded, is a trial, but it can be something else as well, and so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In any case, this is a classic example, and so, in this situation, what we did was you know she, as you can see, she drew them out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This was the unconscious stuff that that was that was happening inside of her that was actually causing her to really doubt herself in business, he had this client actually came to me because she was having struggles in the business.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she's been she had trouble with confidence and she didn't know you know how to surmount it and she really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: She felt like everything she did was wrong but Sure enough, of course, she did.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because she had this going on inside of her, she had this struggle, she had this war between these two parts between this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Controller, and this Wounded so as long as she had this going on, she was going to be in pain and it was going to be really hard for her.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to feel a sense of confidence in herself because clearly one part of her is getting attacked and being told that it's not good enough and it's never going to grow up and it's.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In you know all this kind of stuff and this poor little girl is saying i'm here because i'm scared and I want you to take care of me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know i'm nobody loves me enough to take care of me i'm going to be forgotten and then you've got the main mommy who's like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know i'm sick of you and you're you know you're a mess and your pain in my whatever, and all this, you know kind of attacking energy so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The point is, when we have this part of us and i'll just I realize you haven't seen my face in a little bit, but when we have these parts of us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is what undermines our sense of confidence that is what undermines that's actually what causes, this also to have triggers and blocks these exPowers or what's underneath it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But as I said, look at what happens on the what happened on the Right, who took it through the drawing up process, which is the crux of my ChangeLight System and transformed it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: them back into the original emPower so remember the little girl was saying, I want someone to take care of me, she did not feel safe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she did not feel safe as long as that me mommy was criticizing her, but then, when we did the tying our process within an hour hour and a half.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is what happened on the right permanently healed and I mean that permanently these parts didn't go back to the way they were because they realized that they didn't have to behave that way anymore.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that they could be safe, with each other and so what's so lovely is here, you have the mother who's cradling the little girl, and they both finally get what they want, because.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you don't have you read the little bubbles of mom but she even said, I want to let my hair down look at the right look at what happened, she was able to let her hair down and relax and not feel so stressed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's what the ChangeLight System is about it's about discovering and transforming these parts of you that are causing you struggle and that are getting in the way of you fully living your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As well as bringing forward those parts of you that are here to support you more fully and completely in living your Truth, so that you can truly as I showed you before light up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is what it's about, and this is possible for us possible for everyone, as far as i'm concerned is healing those exPowers honoring the emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Recognizing your Guiding Star working with the emPowers in your Guiding Star and ultimately they empower you to live the Truth that you are here to live i'm always saying this, but it's true your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is your treasure your Truth is the treasure inside of you and your only job in this world is to live it your Truth is who your inner knowing of who you are.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And who you are here to be so that is where it's about it's that inner compass, and the problem is, we often get all.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In our lives we get thrown off balance and all kinds of stuff because we've got the exPowers, because we're not trusting our emPowers etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: etc, but the Truth is always inside of you have your own Truth and it's yours to live and so that's ultimately what this is about so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here we go finally just want to say look there are there is a place where you can learn all of this fabulous information and there's a course and a community.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I created a community as a safe space for you to do this work, because I find a number of things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, first of all, this is pretty vulnerable work, it means having to look inside and bring out some of that stuff that may not be so pretty.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's important to do that in a really safe space where you are supported.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but also because doing it with other people and seeing other people's drawings my drawings are in there other people's drawings are in there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Seeing other people's drawings can help you feel motivated and supported and inspired and not so alone.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So you can see other people who would like oh they've got Controllers oh they've got Woundeds oh they've got Defenders and oh look at that that's what their Sovereign looks like you know what are what my Sovereign looks like to me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's what it's about it's about us doing this together, so that together we can truly truly transform the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and make the biggest difference possible that we are here to make each of us and here's the thing I just want to say there are those of us who are very mission driven.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Not everybody is totally mission driven and I get that I am like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: crazy mission driven like I am all about my purpose, I know what i'm here to do new i'm here to be it's taken years to figure it out don't get me wrong, it takes a lot of work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I am like absolutely I know who I am what i'm here to be and It evolves and it and it and it gets revealed more and more every day.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you know, some people who are like I don't necessarily have a particular mission or direction in my life, but you know what I just want to be a good person, well then, there you go.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There you go and so it's about really then bringing forward more of your goodness and healing those wounds that might be preventing you from not just being.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: unkind to others, but really unkind to yourself, so a lot of times what happens is that we're unkind to ourselves, then that ends up affecting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How we interact with others in the world, and then we don't always show up in the most empowered and empowering ways possible.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's what this is really about is really helping you shine the brightest light that you're here to shine.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and make the biggest difference that you are here to make whether you're a changemaker, a mission driven leader, a values driven leader or just a good person.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway, I hope, this has been helpful again this is Emily Eldredge with Inner Work for Greater Good i'm so happy to have you and i'm so grateful to be able to share all this information with you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our next episode is going to be the final of this little mini series of all these series that i've been doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's going to be about how is it that the Free-Spirit transforms into Wounded so that'll be our third of that transformation journey all right Thank you so much, I love you and I will talk to you again soon.


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