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📺 IWFGG | emPowers + exPowers: Sovereign + Defenders




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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello hello, and welcome to the Inner Work for Greater Good show my name is Emily Eldredge as always welcome I am so excited to have you here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and honestly before the show, I really thought to myself, you know i'm really, really grateful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to have this opportunity to get to do this TV show and to share all this information with you, if you've been following me you'll see that i've shared a lot of information.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's based on work that I developed myself and so it's exclusive stuff it's not stuff you're going to find anywhere else, and I just I just want to really express my gratitude and just.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: soak up this moment of gratitude for having the opportunity to get to share this with you, because this has been a dream of mine to share all of this with you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway Inner Work for Greater Good it's all about changemakers and teaching changemakers inner work that accelerates your power to change the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I say you, because if you are driven to make a positive difference in the world, in whatever way, I mean maybe you own a bakery maybe you know, through your parenting or maybe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know you're an innovator you're a developer your investor there are all kinds of ways that we can make a positive difference in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's what it's all about and so you're someone I call a changemaker, if you are driven to make that difference so welcome i'm so excited to have you here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you've been following me or even if you haven't been following you'll see that I have been sharing a lot of information about the ChangeLight System, which is what I created.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that I also offer the change like community, which is a wonderful safe and supportive Community where changemakers do their Inner Work for Greater Good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And inside that community is the ChangeLight System course so it's all about learning how to do these techniques to help you effect that transformation within yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of my guiding principles, just so you know it comes from the book conversations with God and it said it was the first book book one I guess.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he said a true master is not the one with the most students, but the one who creates the most masters.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, that is one of my guiding principles here I want you to be able to master yourself and to master what I share with you and to really learn.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and grow from it, so that you can truly accelerate your power to change the world in all your wonderful ladies and ways into line up because when you light up you light up the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway, with That said, I will continue.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We are talking about well, let me I always like to introduce the ChangeLight System, these are the basic components of the ChangeLight System, just to refresh your memory if you've been following or to introduce you in case you're new.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We have your exPowers your emPowers your Guiding Star and your Truth, so when we talk about what's going on inside of you, you have all of these inside of you okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So exPowers, as you can kind of tell from the picture is basically those fragments those parts of you those voices those you know internal belief systems those limiting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: energies those blocks triggers wounds blind spots all those things that exist inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That prevent you from fully stepping into your power and feeling fully whole and at peace with yourself see how that's all fragmented right it's because someone with a lot of exPowers doesn't really feel whole.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, then, we have emPowers, though, and the emPowers or what I spent the last three or four episodes talking about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and your emPowers basically your mexPowers are just distorted parts of your end powers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who is job it is to empower you to live your Truth that's the whole point of your emPowers that's what they were designed for.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a lot of my clients we work with when we work with your their emPowers or they work with our own that emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is we call, as they call it like my inner team my wisdom team, my committee and refer to their emPowers because they're emPowers help support them and guide them to live their Truth in the highest way possible.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Guiding Star is that vision that you carry inside of who you are here to be, it is your yeah it's the vision you carry of who we are here to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: doing what you came here to do fully living your Truth and, as I always say your Truth is the treasure, we are after here, because when you are living.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In full alignment with your Truth when you are letting that light shine through you and you're actually using it, you are acting on it, you are bringing it into reality.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is when you are most at peace and your most empowered so that's what the whole ChangeLight System is about the system that I developed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's all about healing your exPower is bringing forward more your emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Drawing out note the of seeing your Guiding Star and fully knowing living an actual realizing the Truth that you uniquely are here to live so With that in mind, well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We will be a little a little animations I always you've been watching you know that i'm always like oh yeah I forgot about this animation but I put.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My cute little animation your extra hours in your emPowers and that's what we're talking about today, so I did three or four episodes about your exPowers go check those out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: After that I did 334 episodes about your end powers in which it teaches you all about these three types of emPowers that you have within you that you can tap into.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Today we're actually going to talk about how those to connect how your exPowers connect with your emPowers what is that relationship and which of the three exPowers relate to which of the three emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And why you know why is it that emPowers become exPowers in the first place, and then how can you transform.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your exPowers back into your wonderful empower so that they can support you and love you and guide you and be with you throughout all of your days, the rest of your day so i'm going to cover all of that so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As you know, if you've seen the empower videos I talked about the three types of emPowers i'll go through them, really, really quickly.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we've got your Sovereign, which is the part of you that knows your Truth that knows who you are independent of anyone else.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That guides you to be very courageous, even in the face of great opposition it, because then it teach it guides you to trust and know your Truth, even when everything else seems like it's not quite in alignment.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Sovereign is all about that you're also your Sovereign as a part of you that's like the part of you, through which you can have like a spiritual connection.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm your Sovereign is the part of you, that is very philosophical that always ask questions like why, why are we doing this, and so it's all about trying to keep you on the path of your Truth and be, if you will sort of the voice for your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Impresario and your Free-Spirit now they're located there on purpose, because your Sovereign is almost like your higher mind your higher wisdom compassion all of that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're in you know higher heart compassion your Impresario in your Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: are in very, very simple terms kind of like your left brain in your right brain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, I don't necessarily like to just you know, simplify them that way because they're so rich and they're so wonderful they're so beautiful and they love you so much, and they're here to support you and love you in every way possible.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is is your Impresario was really about part of it it's very practical.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: logical all about reason and and what is it that we need to do, how do we fix this, how do we approach this strategizing and I call it your Impresario, as I said in a previous episode, because it is that part of you that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's like the one who's like the producer of the show of your life it kind of goes Okay, what do we need to make this happen here, so it does a lot of problem solving.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It does a lot of you know, dealing with details it's that part of you money you know finances.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Business your Impresario loves business there was, I also talked about your industry was not the only empower to us in business, the other two are absolutely just as vital just so you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's basically your Impresario your Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is basically shops it it's the part of you that just loves to be free and have fun doesn't care about rules it doesn't care about schedules it doesn't care about strategy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It doesn't really care about figuring anything out your Free-Spirit is like that inner child inside of me was just so lit up with joy and humor and fun and pleasure.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're Free-Spirit loves pleasure your Impresario is more about what's practical you're Free-Spirit is really what's about pleasure full.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And what makes you feel alive and have fun and feel free and what makes you laugh and giggle playing games things like that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's how and the Impresario Free-Spirit of obviously you know, sometimes when we have trouble with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our don't know which way to go, sometimes it's because you're Impresario was saying, you know, has one perspective, I should say and you're Free-Spirit has a different perspective and so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The wonderful thing about these three emPowers, though, is that they really can work in concert together and that's the ideal.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You want them to be balanced, you want to honor all three of them, even if you feel like you've got more one or the other, like your natural design, even if you feel like you've got one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that sort of more than the other that's totally fine nevertheless must must must must honor all three of your emPowers in order to truly feel whole.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and balanced and in alignment with your Truth and, as I often say, for example, that here's where it can get get problematic and we're going to sort of talk a little bit about this going forward because i'm going to be talking about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How your emPowers transform into exPowers is because if you get so wildly out of balance, or if you're impacted by a lot of stress or pain or fear or trauma or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: unsafe D that's when these parts of you can get wildly out of balance and sometimes that that can simply.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: manifest is like, for example, your Sovereign when you when you get to like too much Sovereign sometimes you can be so completely focused on what your purposes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you're not really taking action to effectuate it so, in other words, you might be someone who's like you're really in the clouds you're really like sort of visionary and dreamy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or like connecting with spiritual you know the spiritual realm but not grounded in reality or not grounded and practical needs in order for your life to continue.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where, for example, you can, if you have too much Sovereign too much Sovereign can also mean that you know you're you can become very self righteous.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and think that you're right about everything, because one of the Sovereigns parts, you know it's the part it's it's also very moral and very conscious of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know what it is that's that's the right thing to do.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, by the same token, too much Impresario in business, for example, will lead you to burn out if you don't have enough Free-Spirit and Sovereign going, especially if you don't have enough Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That pleasure that joy and enjoyment of your work and then by the same token, if you've got too much Free-Spirit going on, then you are probably like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All about just trying to feel good all the time, but then maybe not taking care of yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe not taking care of your bills and it can be where it's like you know being so focused on pleasure that you're not enough focused on practicality or purpose Why am I here like it's nice to feel good and that's wonderful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if, but if you don't have the other parts of you like, for example, if you're just completely Free-Spirit, but like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, this must be really like but not paying your bills or not like taking care of your health or not doing other things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well then, you're going to end up out of balance and you can end up very sick and you can end up in a pretty bad living situation as well you know just following what feels good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Purely as opposed to what really does serve your purpose let's say or what really is an alignment with your Truth, even if it's hard to do that because that's one of the things I want to say is that, when we fully trust our Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It can be really hard and it can be really uncomfortable.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's the most rewarding an awesome thing in the world, so that's a long way of saying that we've got these three and powers That being said, they can get out of balance and we can end up with too much.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This leads to what i'm going to talk about in this in this, you know next Is that how your m powers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: transform into exPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And originally I was going to share all three with you, but you know what I realized, I just want to share one, at a time, meaning, I just want to share what the Sovereign transforms into we're going to talk about that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the next two episodes then we'll do the Impresario and then we'll do the Free-Spirit and talk about why this happens so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here the Sovereign as I as i'm showing you it it transforms into like when your Sovereign is impacted by pain or fear or any sense of unsafe, do you when it feels that you are unsafe in some way or another.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It tends to become a Defender or parts of it, I should say.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: become Defenders okay next up what do you think and if you've been following along with these other shows i'd be curious to know if you actually can figure out what becomes what but i'll just go ahead and tell you Impresario alright Impresario.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When impacted by in distorted by painting fear can become Controllers can fragmented into Controller energies and then finally Free-Spirit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: can transform into wound it's OK, so those are the three basics, remember, we talked about the three exPower types in the three empower types, this is how they relate to each other, so you see it here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Impresario becomes Controller, energy, the Sovereign becomes Defender energy, the Free-Spirit energy becomes Wounded energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I will save this I don't want to overcomplicate, which is why i'm keeping it really simple occasionally you might have a Wounded that's really acting more like a i'm sorry i'm.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A Free-Spirit that becomes a Controller, you know, occasionally, you can have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, a Sovereign debt export like a Controller, but it's not that common usually they pretty much our one to one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again, the whole point mark from my intention is to teach you in very simple ways, so you can start to grapple with these energies inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and see how they're connected with one another, so that you can have a much wiser and healthier understanding of yourself and more compassionate to so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's what we're focusing on today the Sovereign and Defender connection Okay, how is it that they connect so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's look at this Sovereigns let's remember Sovereigns are all about their their their the part of you that's highly independent that knows who you are independently of anyone else.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're very much about your purpose what's your Truth what's your mission, they are the source of your courage, the courage to do it, you know you need to do, even in the face of great opposition.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: spiritual connection they're very intuitive part of you, the visionary part of you, the one that sees things, even if you're like why i'm seeing what i'm seeing this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Philosophical remember I mentioned bye bye you know and really thinking about the deeper things of life beyond just what ever is the concrete reality right now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: virtuous very much about you know wanting you to do the right thing and wanting you to be a good person.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: compassionate that sort of higher sense of love is that compassion being able to have compassion towards your fellow human beings, not just those you know about, but maybe even beyond that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, why is it really is a source of your wisdom a lot all of the emPowers have their own wisdom, but your your Sovereign is sort of the one that you might think of like the sage inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So how is it, then you might go with such a beautiful energy, and this is a wonderful and fabulous, why does it become.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Defender energy okay why so again a reminder, what is Defender energy angry defensive Rachel vengeful violent stoic impervious impenetrable.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: righteous remember, I mentioned that arrogant superior thinking you're better than everyone else.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and never wrong, so how is it that this wonderful young and look at these images for the Sovereign, which is so beautiful so peaceful are so wise and they're so centered.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then these Defenders you know they're angry they're defensive they're they're they're they're activated they are block it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is that about well in order to sort of understand that let's just again revisit what our Defenders trying to do, because this is going to tell us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Why a Sovereign would become a Defender what kind of conditions would cause a Sovereign to become a Defender well what are Defenders trying to do, we talked about this than Defender episode.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're trying to protect you against violation or me they're trying to stand up for you and set your boundaries.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And they're trying to block feelings of weakness or vulnerability.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so against violation or pain stand up set your boundaries block feelings of weakness and vulnerability.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I realized that i've been kind of you've been looking at the screen the slides for a while and not seeing my face I need to reconnect with you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But now that you've seen those slides here's the thing, so if Defenders are trying to protect you against violation or pain or they're trying to stand up for you and set your boundaries.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where if your inner Defenders are trying to block feelings of weakness or vulnerability so before I get into that, let me just let me just point out like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: be aware of your Sovereign energy inside of you, but also let's be aware of this Defender energy within you you don't necessarily have to have identified a specific part of you just for what we're doing here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is a Defender, but just feeling that part of you that defensive part of the one that gets really angry and wants to react against people and block whatever's coming your way or even block feelings that are uncomfortable.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's the thing about think about the conditions that would cause a Defender to feel the need to do that, or rather a Sovereign energy to feel the need to become more like what we're talking about here, a Defender type energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know I don't know it could be, because maybe you've experienced some kind of violation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm not trying to make light of this it's like it's right there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you've experienced any kind of violation and we all have it can be physical a violation, it can be an emotional violation, it can be a spiritual violation, it can be a violation of trust, if you have experienced some kind of violation of your physical boundaries your emotional boundaries.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then, of course, a part of you is going to want to try to protect you and the end the Sovereigns way of trying to protect you is by saying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: No, not letting this happen again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's basically what happens is your Sovereign energy which does all these wonderful things for you and is this wonderful presence inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If it senses that you're being hurt or violated or anything and especially if it happens, like really dramatically or chronically then it, that is what it will choose it not every time I.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's just put it this way, it will there a part of you will choose to do that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A part of you will choose to do that because it's trying to protect you from that pain again and so of course that's what gets triggered right then fourth is that energy inside of you, because it's saying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we've already been here or up I don't want this to happen again and i'm you know, this is, this is not, this is not happening and, of course, sometimes you know that becomes our triggers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It also becomes our blocks, you know it blocks it maybe it blocks other people from connecting with us, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's one thing, also a way that is Sovereign, can become a Defender, or rather that will a Sovereign can become Defender type energy or parts of a Sovereign, I should say it can become a Defender type energy is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you have not been standing up for yourself enough and setting your boundaries Okay, so this is, this is a bit different.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the other one it's like rich trying to step, you know block the pain, or the violation, but in this case it's actually that your Sovereign energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: May sense that you know you're not you're not setting your boundaries here like this is not okay and you're not standing up for yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, a lot of times, then that Sovereign because it's so knows like what your boundaries are and who you are who your year to be if it senses there's a violation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's going to be like you know you need it's going to be like you need to stand up for your self and set your boundaries or it's going to do it for you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of times it'll just do it for you i've talked to a lot of inner Defenders where that's what they said.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The other part of that too, though, is that when we're children we don't have a very we don't have a stronger sense of boundaries.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And also we're so dependent on the people around us for survival that that is why we often don't stand up for ourselves because we have to survive in this environment and standing up for ourselves could mean.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: getting into the neck, you know could mean more danger more violation and so that's where your Sovereign energy inside of you sees this senses this in your environment.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it will try to stand up for you and set your boundaries for you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But a lot of times what happens is that when my clients come to me, and they say, I have this you know I have i'm so defensive or i'm so Rachel or i'm so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I have a really hard time connecting with other people, or I don't even know how to connect with my own feelings, I mean there are all kinds of Defenders, as you can see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is when I have a client who comes to me, and they say that that's what they're struggling with and if it's a Defender.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's because they probably had some kind of experience as a child in which they were violated and a Defender formed to protect them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But as an adult when they have a lot more autonomy, a lot more power, the ability to remove themselves from a dangerous situation or difficult situation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The thing is, though, that Defender might be still they're doing its job and so it'll jump in there a Russian there and the person is like I don't want to feel this way and I don't want to keep behaving this way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where the Defender is basically outlived its purpose it's not working anymore.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's actually having a counterproductive impact that's what exPowers end up doing their intention is there's intentions are always good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're trying to protect you from pain, whatever way they know or protect themselves from pain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where these exPowers become problematic is when they're doing too good of a job or they sort of outlived their usefulness because you've grown up because you've changed because, etc.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Finally, in terms of blocking feelings of weakness, you know, a Defender can be like I don't like her feeling sad I don't like her feeling scared I don't like her.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, being worried, or whatever, and so Defenders can sometimes try to are feeling vulnerable or weak can try to keep you from feeling that way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or or just sort of almost like defend you against those feelings, if you will, because then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It feels like because you're ultimately your Sovereign let's put it this way, ultimately, your Sovereign energy wants you to feel strong.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it wants you to feel empowered and it wants you to trust your Truth and it knows that you need to feel those ways, you know courageous and all that, in order to trust and live your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the Defender energy might show up because if it senses that you're feeling weak or vulnerable and it's like, no, no, we can't have that so we're just going to block those feelings, so that maybe you know she will keep feeling confident.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then you end up with you know a lot of fragmentation there and feeling emotionally dismissive and not being able to connect with your own feelings on things so there's a lot in this so that's the point.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is between these two i'll just show this again the Sovereign and Defenders and so that's essentially why our Sovereign energy can transform into that Defender energy okay here's what I want you to take from this kind of first and foremost I guess is I want you to take from this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That your Defender energy okay so noticing those parts of you that are angry and defensive and you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or or that cause you to be just you know in better than everyone else or self righteous or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know or impenetrable like you've got walls around you you people people talk about this, all the time right it's like they.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They have a wall or clients come to me all the time, like they have a wall and it's impenetrable and they don't know how to get outside of it and that wall is part of why they have trouble with relationships or they have trouble in business or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What I want you to take from this as I talked about even before, when I talked about the exPowers these this these Defenders and you are not that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This Defender energy and you is not bad, and there was nothing wrong with you for having it it's just simply these are simply parts of you that have been distorted by fear by pain by unsafe, the most especially with Defenders by some feeling of danger or violation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So if you've experienced that then you're going to have Defenders it's just the way it is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But, but that doesn't mean you are stuck with them okay and i'm going to share a little bit about that in a second, but for now I want you to see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That your Defender energy is just your Sovereign energy that's been distorted by fear and by pain that's all it is okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's not a bad part of you it's just doing it's very these Defenders are doing their very best to protect you whatever ways they know, but then, when they could transform we'll talk about that in a second when they can transform.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A transform back to that Sovereign energy which fills you with this incredible wisdom and this incredible clarity and sense of power.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and ability to really know and live your Truth and have the courage to do so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I want you to just see and you notice these energies inside of you notice the Defender energy and say you know what how could this actually be a Sovereign part of me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's just trying to protect me and it's just trying to make sure that I that I honor my own boundaries that I set my bounds set set up stand up for myself that I don't experience you know violation again.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I and actually here's The interesting thing to even though Defenders say that they don't want you to feel your week feelings, a lot of times they will end up telling me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Actually, I really want her to feel her feelings I want her to be honest about how she's feeling so very interesting stuff there okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So uh let's go to the next slide here is an image of a before and after now, this is not a Defender, this is actually.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I should have found a Defender i'm sorry about that, like a Defender Sovereign connection there i'm sorry I should have pulled one of those up but.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For now, in any case, what we've got here is a little girl, and the mother and you can see, the little girls screaming, this is a drawing that my client did.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's a before and an after here, and this, you see the little girl is crying and screaming and so sad and so unhappy and so upset.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you've got the mom who's saying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know i'm trying to make you grow up and you know in she's basically yelling, this is what was happening in the session yelling at the little girl and little girls screaming and crying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she says i'm scared and I want you to take care of me but she's got this me mommy, so this is what we started with in a session of the drawn out process.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And these were the exPowers that that came up within this woman and she been struggling with a lot of things she'd been struggling relationships she'd been struggling and her business she'd been struggling with herself worth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, because of the drawn out process, which is the technique that I do, and that I teach you in the ChangeLight System.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Through going through the entire drawn out process, this is what we ended up with on the right, where the mother was holding the little girl with love and peace.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the little girl felt safe again with that mean what was that mean mommy inside of her, this was an actual replay inside of my client of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know what was actually going on inside of her at the time but based on what had happened when she was a little girl.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's the thing we have these things that happened to us that you know cause us fear pain sense of safety and these parts of US form, so these exPowers form.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But they can be transformed back, and that is what the ChangeLight System does so within the ChangeLight System is my exclusive drawn out process.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which transforms your exPowers back into emPowers accelerates your ability to live your Truth achieve your optimum potential.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and make the greatest difference, that is what my work is all about, and so I just want to introduce that to you and let you know that that's always available to you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, finally, I just want to invite you, if you are curious about learning the ChangeLight System if you want to learn how to draw out your exPowers and transform them back into your emPowers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that you feel more amazing whole and free and at peace and just blissful and wonderful, this is what happens.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then I invite you please join us in the change like Community it's a safe and sort of supportive community, you can learn the ChangeLight System.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's really, really lovely just launched it's really exciting stuff, so I hope that you'll join us Community don't change like that world and, of course, next next.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The next episode we're going to be talking about so we did the Sovereign The Defenders in the next episode we're going to be talking about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Impresario and how that relates with your inner Controllers, really, really interesting stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway i'm out of time, I hope that you've had a wonderful time listening to all these I hope this has been really informative for you enlightening for you, I hope that you really look at yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you really go okay so here's the what i'm experiencing inside of me know what yeah I really struggle with this and I really don't like this part of me or I hate how I get so enraged or I hate how I feel so blocked.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then, as you can start to understand and really have compassion for those parts of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Based on knowing and this case is I taught here that really you're in those inner Defender energies are just parts of your Sovereign.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That have seen you get hurt and they just don't want that to happen again, but then ultimately that is wisdom.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is an incredible powers those Defenders inside of you are incredible latent powers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That when they're transformed back to their original essence support you in such and love you in such amazing ways.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to live your Truth that is what this is all about we're all about you living your Truth and changing the world and whatever ways call to so thank you changemaker it's been wonderful talking to you I so appreciate it and I can't wait to see you next time bye.


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