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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello hello, and welcome to another episode of Inner Work for Greater Good, with Emily Eldredge i'm of course i'm.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sure it's your host and i'm here to share inner work that accelerates your power to change the world, especially if you are a mission driven leader or a changemaker someone who really.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feels just like you have a mission that you're here to serve that you are here to make a positive difference.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the world it's so extremely important that you feel whole and at peace and free and unencumbered.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and powerful and courageous and confident enough to truly know your Truth step into that Truth live it and really actualize it really make a difference in the world, so that's what this show is all about.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm excited that you're here, if this is your first time welcome so nice to have you if you've been following my show then welcome back, and I hope that the information i've been sharing with you has been super helpful for you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, in the last few episodes i've been covering a lot of information i've mostly been talking about.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The system that I created and the discoveries that i've made and, ultimately, it has to do with what's going on inside of you, so let me take a moment here i'm going to share my screen there it is share screen, and here we go.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All right, let me go ahead and share my screen and over for greater good, so, as I mentioned i've been sharing a lot about my ChangeLight System so i'm the creator of the ChangeLight System.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I also have an online community and a course that teaches you how to do this work for yourself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that, as i've said in all of my previous episodes that these are the basic elements that i've discovered within each of us that are part of the ChangeLight System, and so we have your exPowers.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your emPowers your Guiding Star and your Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In these past numerous episodes i've been covering your exPowers and your emPowers the three types of inner struggles that you have that are universal, that we all have inside of us.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the inner powers that correlate that correspond with those inner struggles so and and how actually transforming those inner struggles.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Results in returning them back to your inner strength, so that, as I said, you really feel whole confident courageous at peace.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that you can really show up in the world, as you desire and make the difference that you desire to make know really radiate that light.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That you have and that light, as I say, is your inner Truth your Truth is the treasure where, after your Truth is your inner knowing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of who you are and who you are here to be and so that's why I The thing is, is that i've spent so much time talking about your exPowers and your emPowers because.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I really want to drill home how important it is to really pay attention to what's going on inside of you see here's one of the issues that I find with so many of us who are passionate about making a difference here i'll stop sharing for a minute here.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those of us who are passionate about making a difference is that a lot of times we are so focused.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: on making that difference and having that impact and really changing people's lives in whatever ways that we feel that we can.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that a lot of times we fail to pay attention to what's going on inside of us, we fail to notice, you know the anxieties.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The insecurities the triggers the blocks the wounds the you know inner saboteurs all these parts of us that, while we're trying to see the world that are going on inside of us and that are actually whether we realize it or not.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: are actually controlling how we show up how we respond well, I should say how we react to situations and reacting rather than responding.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What so that's the whole point is this last few episodes i've really been focused on trying to get you to go.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh okay so that's what's been going on inside of me, those are the struggles that i'm having a rather those the types of struggles that I tend to have.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As well as oh that's where they come from that's why they're there, this is what they're trying to do, and that, ultimately, their intentions are good they're not actually trying to hurt you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're trying to help you or protect you whatever way they know the problem is those exPowers those inner struggles, especially if it's like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: An inner critic or you know, a deep deep insecurity or if it feels like anxiety to you or these other sort of things that we experience on the surface.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That are caused by them that they're caused by those exPowers those those inner you know subconscious blocks and beliefs and triggers.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The problem, though, is that if we don't turn inwards even for a little bit and pay attention to what's going on inside.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those are the very things that on the one hand, may have actually helped compel you are on the you know fuel your ability to make a difference in the world, but at the same time can end up sabotaging.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's why it's so important that those of us who are driven to make a difference in the world do our inner work for.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You guessed it greater good that, as we do this, inner work, we really are making a difference in the world, it may not seem like it, because we're so focused on trying to make a difference and everyone else's lives.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or you know help our planet, whatever it is that we're trying to do or connect with others.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But what we don't realize is that when we neglect ourselves, and we neglect to do that inner work that it really does sabotage our ability to make that bigger difference in the world and to make it effortlessly.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And with joy and with peace that's what it's about like I, this is a lot of why I focus so much on changemakers, for one thing, I am a changemaker, I am driven to make a difference in the world, I am a mission driven leader.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And at the same time I have had these struggles out the wazoo even before I came on this show today.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was drawing out, and I was journaling and I was releasing a part of me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That has been getting in the way for a very long time that has only now just surface and made me realize that I need to work with this part of me, for those of you who have seen my previous episodes you'll recognize it's an inner Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a little girl inside of me, who has been there for well since I was probably about three years old, because she's about three years old, and she has been.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Holding you back in a lot of ways and very unconscious ways and so i'm really glad that she's surfaced because now, I can finally process her.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I can heal her using the techniques that I do with the ChangeLight System.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway, but the point being that, as we heal those parts i'm using myself as an example here as i'm healing this part of me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's making it so much easier for me to make that difference does shine this light I mean if you'd seen me back you know 1012 years ago even more recently than that you would have been like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, look the same you definitely don't Act, the same your energy is different, the light you shine is not nearly as bright etc and it's but it's because of doing this work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That really it does make a difference in terms of being able to make that that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That inner being more powerful on the inside, helps you be more powerful than powerful on the outside, so that you can make that bigger difference, let me go back to my screen.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So these are the four elements so it's your exPowers your emPowers your Guiding Star in your Truth your Guiding Star is that vision that you carry.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of who you are here to be doing what you came here to do that is within you all the time, all of these are within you okay.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then ultimately we're going for your Truth, so that you can really make that difference in the world, when you truly are lit up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and guided by that inner compass of your Truth that's when you know you can make the biggest difference and feel amazing doing it it's not always easy to live your Truth don't get me wrong.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It can be a challenge, but ultimately it is the most empowering most of peace and most most powerful you can possibly feel is when you were truly living your Truth, so what oops let me go back oh okay so.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, actually, you know I guess I didn't finish the point is is that we're focusing on in these in these episodes is your emPowers your exPowers and how they relate to each other, so I finished talking up see this is what I was trying to do.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These animation things I swear those have you seen my previous episodes you know, like I don't know whatever i'm not here and here's another one.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: going on to the next screen we're talking about your ex.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh wait, I guess, I did it differently you're going to start on your tooth I didn't realize I did this So there you go are those cute knows isn't PowerPoint awesome how you can do these things and highlight this stuff.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway, the point is, is that we have all of these parts of us, I have been foot oh i'm on the wrong.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know what hold on hold on here, this is what I was going for alright here's what I was going for I didn't realize i'm forward okay.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the point is we've been talking about exPowers and emPowers what they are what they're trying to do, whether the exPower is how they're trying to protect you or take care of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We talked about with your emPowers you know what what they do for you and how they serve you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In fully living that Truth that I keep talking about living that knowing that you have inside of who you are and who you're here to be, we are here to really grow into.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The kind of presence that you're here to be in the world and the difference that you're here to make so you know, last episode, I was debating about whether or not I should.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Excuse me whether or not I should sort of give it like a recap, of the powers of emPowers and I decided that I need to because here's why.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's one thing to kind of look at you know each of these separately, as you know.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again, if you've seen my previous shows.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: episodes you'll know that, like, I talked about how the Controllers relate to the Impresario and the Defenders relate to the Sovereign and the limits to relate to the Free-Spirit and I also need and did a whole shows on the episode Sovereign.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I did shows on all of these so if you're feeling a little bit lost or overwhelmed or what have you, you can always go back and watch those shows.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that you know what i'm talking about here with each of them, but the point is that I really wanted to bring all six of these up in front of us on the screen and just talk about all of this as a whole, because the here's The bottom line.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These are inside of you Okay, these are just like Oh, you know nice concepts and oh isn't that cute Oh, I like that drawing and.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, fine the drawings may not look like how they feel inside of you or here inside of you, but they're meant to represent.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: energies that are inside of you now they're also energies that are inside of me to have been inside of me I mean i've spent the last 10 plus year.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Actually 13 at this point years clearing out that these Controllers Defenders and Wounded and bringing forward my Impresario my Sovereign and my Free-Spirit, more and more and more.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so healing those inner struggles and honoring those inner powers is what it's all about, so I wanted to put these up in front of us to say this is what's going on inside of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that you can learn to recognize these energies within you again they may appear differently, they may feel differently, but ultimately, you know or have different elements to them or aspects to them, but ultimately, this is what's inside of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, as you think about what it is that you're struggling with right now in your life, I want you to just tune in.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And notice, you know what what is what is underneath this reaction, you know i'm having this reaction Okay, so this person said this thing to me it work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it really pissed me off, and it made me so angry Okay, you know what.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're probably having a perfectly perfectly legitimate reaction to whatever that person said or did it work, maybe it felt like a violation.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe it felt like they betrayed your trust, maybe it felt like it put your your your job in danger that you know if some kind, so I want you to notice as you're having that reaction.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, stop her saying well where's this coming from I mean absolutely you may be like well i'm pissed because she or he did this and okay fine totally hundred percent got it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if it's this really overwhelming even intense reaction.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um It could be that it's also related to something that you've experienced before kind of violation or kind of endangerment or you know, having something threatened.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That were taken away from you or or or being threatened threatened under threat of being taken away from you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in that case, as you notice and you tune in, and if you know the ChangeLight System and you do my techniques, you know how to draw out.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These parts, but for now, just for the sake of this of this episode in the show is let's just notice that that reaction within you and notice what parts are inside of that reaction.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in this case, if I were working with you, I would say, nine times out of 10 that's a Defender reaction.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because Defenders tend to be the one to react with rage and immediately want to block, you know or say hey that's not okay or somehow want to set a boundary so that can be a Defender reaction.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, but so you probably have a Defender inside of you, and not Defender can be you know reacting right right rightfully so to the immediate situation, I mean completely you know justified.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But at the same time, like Defender may have actually seen you go through similar experiences where your boundaries have been violated or your safety you felt unsafe.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it could be that that Defender it formed a long time ago back when you maybe.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, experienced that from someone else in your life and and maybe even at the time you didn't know how to defend yourself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is is that that can be a Defender underneath inside there.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At the same time, and this is where it's kind of fun when you start to notice like what's going on inside and what types of energies are going on inside of you, you may also have a Wounded under there.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a lot of times that Defender actually is protecting a Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the Wounded, is the one that's carrying the hurt and the pain and the sadness and the fear and you know feeling unsafe.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those feelings that come when we do experienced situations that do somehow threaten us or violate us in some way or another.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is to pay attention when you have that reaction, and right now all i'm doing is using the example of like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, a rage reaction or anger reaction, or you know defensive reaction and underneath that can be a Defender, it can be a Defender and a Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is you're having that reaction for a reason you're having that reaction, because some part of you feels threatened or feels like you're not safe.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's why you've got these parts, like the Defender will show up to protect you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's the problem, and I said this before in other episodes the problem with that Defender energies not problem but here's when it becomes a problem.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is when it causes you to react in ways that you feel like are not truly in alignment with who you are and who you want to be when it takes you over.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When that Defender inside of you, and that Defender reaction overwhelms you, and so, rather than having like a calm.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, thoughtful rational response and maybe even being able to say to that other person in this case like your job to be able to say that other person, you know what.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it really hurt my feelings what you said, or you know what I really don't appreciate you doing you know going behind my back and doing that thing i'm concerned.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: About X, Y or Z or if you felt like they violated request you know what I really would have appreciated if you checked with me first.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Before you went and talked to them and told them that information so for another words, these are the more sort of like calm responses, as opposed to reactions, these are like calm responses.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To using this example again to those scenarios, where you feel like there's been a violation of a boundary or a betrayal of trust or somehow something's been threatened.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The thing is, though, the Defender energy tends to go full no not okay I don't like this and can cause you cause any of us to react with rage to react with you know immediately getting angry and also.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Having that reaction before actually taking a moment to go wait a minute, am I really assessing the situation accurately like i'm having this reaction and i'm thinking that they're hurting me, and you know what I really don't like that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe I should ask for clarification, so my point is this is where a Defender, for example, energy inside of you can end up preventing you from really.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Having that more calm rational thoughtful you know response to the situation.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's just one example, another example, could be if you find that you know, whenever something comes up in your life that makes you feel out of control.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you may have that Controller energy show up inside of you oh my gosh I gotta fix everything I gotta you know I got to change this and make it right.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there's nothing wrong with wanting to fix things and make them right, the problem is when that Controller response ends up again like taking us over like you end up reacting, as opposed to responding.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So when i'm working with clients I, and I work with these types of exPowers, the Controllers The Defenders the Wounded, a lot of times they come to me because they are having this you know whether it's anxiety or or sadness or.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, fear or rage reactions or even like dismissiveness like they don't know how to connect emotionally with other people in here all kinds of reasons why people will come to me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that's The point is that we get in there and we find out well what's really fueling this response this reaction rather inside of you that you're struggling with and ultimately.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Accessing that these parts of you that are causing you to react this way so that, rather than just reacting unconsciously to things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Instead, and then having these parts of you like take over.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and take control, remember, I said that a lot of times they're controlling us subconsciously in ways that we don't even realize, but when we turn inwards and we look at what's really going on.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We can really face and work with these parts realizing that no part of US is trying to hurt us every single part of us is doing its very best to protect us or itself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever way it knows if you saw my previous episodes you'll know protecting us usually that's the Controllers and the Defenders.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and protecting itself is usually the Wounded, so the point is, these are Defense mechanisms, these are protective mechanisms.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The problem is when they end up doing too good of a job right they end up like a Controller, for example, i've mentioned this one, I talked about Controllers.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A classic inner Controller is an inner critic so if you've got a voice inside of you that's telling you that you're no good or that you're stupid.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or it feels like it's even beating up on another part of you, maybe like a Wounded that's you know that's really feeling sad.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is if you've got that voice inside of you when you've got that energy or you keep getting that message that you're never good enough.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or you should have done this better or that wants to undermine your faith in yourself, etc.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even though it's so it's it's intentions, ultimately, as I talked about before ultimately good.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's actually just trying to protect you whatever way it knows, or like some Controllers are trying to push you to succeed, so that you are protected from criticism, for example.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But again, this is where they're problematic because what happens is you can end up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: becoming so extremely self critical so extremely anxious not trusting yourself, not having faith in your own abilities, not having faith in.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The wisdom of your own Truth, because that in our Controller might be trying to undermine because it seemed you get hurt before, when you thought you were doing what was right and maybe is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The way it seems as if you screwed up or somebody came along, and they criticize you so the point is that Controller is trying to do that Wounded, I talked about Wounded before they are at the core.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of our inner pain, these are the inner children, these are the sad parts of is the scary parts of us the tantrum a little kid.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I mentioned earlier, this is what I was working with within myself, even just a couple of hours ago was a part of me it's gotten trigger and and i'll give you actually honestly what what triggered it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is i'm actually going into this new program where i'm going to be working with some amazing people and work as callings where it's sort of like a.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like a group coaching program sort of a networking group, but like an amazing group of people that i'm really excited to work with well okay i'm excited to work with them and i'm excited to be part of this group.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At the same time what's happening.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I i'm getting all kinds of triggers i've got parts of me that are like oh they're gonna think you're a fake that's the classic imposter syndrome.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i've got parts of me that are like you know feeling like please, please, please like me i've got a part of me that saying you know.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know the way you talk to that person I don't know you better be careful about that, I mean all of these kinds of things that in my rational mind and, like my true self i'm like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What this is crazy like I know i'm Okay, I know i'm a good person i'm not hurting anybody, but the point is that being in this new scenario is triggering those things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's what often happens to as we elevate in our lives and we step into bigger spaces, especially spaces that are really all about.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: honoring and serving an actual realizing our Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Those can be the most triggering spaces, because more than anything we want to live our Truth that is the deepest desires to live our Truth to fulfill our mission.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So of course if that's your desire, then, as you start to move in that direction what's going to happen.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All these fears all these parts these exPowers Controllers Defenders and Wounded, that really just want to run in there and go, oh no we don't want you to get hurt you know or.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or the wind is blowing I don't want to get hurt I don't want to get hurt again or I don't want to get criticized, etc, etc, so anyway i'm just once you to.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My point of sharing all of this is for you to really take the information that I shared with you over these past episodes about your Controllers Defenders Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and your Impresario Sovereign Free-Spirit and how they relate to each other and start to pay attention.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To these energies inside of you notice how they're impacting their behavior notice when you have these particular reactions and go Oh, you know what i'm having this reaction, you know what.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Emily said that's probably a Controller you don't have to know exactly what it is, but I think it's helpful to just go Oh, you know what.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think that's my as an inner critic going on there, or you know I think that's a Defender, you know what I mean having a Wounded reaction here.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then revisiting the information so that you can go Okay, I understand what a Wounded is and by understanding, then you can have more patience with yourself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: More compassion more empathy for these parts of you, because the only reason why these parts of US exist.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is because you've been hurt because you at some point have felt unsafe, that is the only reason why these exist and so they've been with you, through this so there's a direct.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: there's a direct empathic connection there where you can go, you know, and I get it, because I have been hurt and you've been hurt that you've been hurt the same way i've been or.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know they wouldn't exist within you if that hadn't happened and so that's that's how you can start to make that connection, and then of course Impresario of Sovereign Free-Spirit also realizing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That what you're struggling with inside of you is just a distorted part of your true power.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which come in the fall which the powers come in the forms of the Impresario the Sovereign your inner Free-Spirit.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sorrow being that very complex brain practical logical rational etc part of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your Sovereign being that part of you it's very wise, that is, like the voice of your Truth that is so clear and all about asking why and making sure that you're staying on.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: target on track with your with your purpose and your Truth and then you're Free-Spirit that amazing joyful wonderful sweet just.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: cheerful just for a part of you that just loves to be free and have fun that that I said this before, but often gets shafted because we think oh it's not practical no i'm telling you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You have all three of these emPowers because you need all three of these emPowers all of the pure to serve you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in different ways, and when you can also just as you're paying attention to those inner struggles and when was Defender reaction show for the Wounded reactions show up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice when there's that there's that wisdom that kind of shows up inside of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That you don't really know why, but just intuitively know that this is the thing you're supposed to say or, this is the choice you're supposed to make.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that can be coming from your Sovereign your Free-Spirit is that part that maybe says, you know what why don't we just take a break from work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And let's just go out and go for a walk and like you know get pastry at the at the corner store in our corner shop or something or your Impresario that might say.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Though I might actually say go for a walk just for the sake of going for a walk to balance your brain I talked about that in a previous episode.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or your Impresario might say, you know what you've been holding off on doing this thing I really recommend you do this one thing because they're doing that one thing that you've been resisting doing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is going to really help open up all this relief and releasing view so that then you're going to have that energy to do all the other things that you feel called to do.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where just notice when those energies show up within you again, this is all about just going.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, this is what's going on inside of me and by the, by the way, i'm not making this stuff up, I mean this is this is stuff that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i've discovered through my work and shown up time and time and time and time and time again with my own clients, where I teach them how to heal those Controllers Defenders and Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And really honor their inner powers, but the whole point is just start to notice and kind of go oh that's what that images inside of me and oh that's what that is, and you know what.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What if I were to trust what my Sovereign is telling me how would that feel what, if I were to trust my Free-Spirit.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and trust that it's guiding me to do what something that's going to feel good for me that's ultimately going to help accelerate my ability to make a difference, or to show up in a more joyful way in the world, as opposed to stressed and spare.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, now that we've gone over that again just going to show this again because I always like to to sort of have this off, but the whole point is we've got your exPowers, those are your inner struggles that we were just talking about notice how they're fragments.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Next up as you heal those exPowers, and we do this in the ChangeLight System which is my work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They transform the experts transform back into your emPower so you're not struggling with any more with them anymore, so that they are aligned with your Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As you see here your Truth is the treasure that you're we're after here but also your Guiding Star is that vision you carry of who you are.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And where you're here to be a difference you're here to make and so your Guiding Star is that presence that knows that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's that it's the embodiment of you living your Truth and your Truth is what it's all about here so it's just about clearing out all that stuff bringing forward all those powers, and you can do this, it helps first and foremost to understand.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to know what is going on inside of you, and a very clear, concise way, and that is what I am doing fear by teaching you all of this stuff let's keep it simple.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Keep it simple stupid, as they say, keep it stupid give it simple silly, as they say.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is what it's all about I always like to share this to change like system, this is where I teach.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All of this good stuff is these very, very simple techniques for drawing out those inner struggles bringing forward your inner powers and your Guiding Star so that, ultimately, you can.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We can truly know and actualize your Truth and as i've mentioned before, this is that you see a Controller and an absolutely a troll at a Wounded and a Controller here who, because of the Drawing Out Process in the ChangeLight System transforms back into a wonderful Sovereign and.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a little child and and the Free-Spirit so.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So there you have to solder it's probably more like an Impresario I apologize anyway, the point is transform backed into parts that can support her as opposed to get in her way.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So serious change like system join our savings supportive community take the course community that change life dot world.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where we do this, inner work, and I invite you to do this, inner work with us in a safe and supportive environment, so that you can truly know your Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: make the biggest difference possible with the greatest amount of peace and power enjoy clarity and joy as possible all right Thank you so much.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Thank you, thank you, thank you, I just realized that I had you haven't even seen me i've been talking so much i'm so sorry for now going on with my screen.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: up there, I forgotten that you could actually see my face I apologize for that, but in any case, I hope, this has been super helpful for you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you want to you can always go back and watch this previous episodes you know I lay it all out so that you can go back and we watch them.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As you start to do this work, as you start to really pay attention, or maybe you've been on this journey for a while, but you know that this is deepening your understanding.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of these parts inside of you, and what they're trying to do and how to really you know pay attention to them and feel them and any any case.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I so appreciate having you Thank you so much again i'm Emily Eldredge greater to ChangeLight System and the change like forcing community, and I hope to see you around again soon take care and have a great evening bye.


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