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📺 IWFGG | Feeling Emotionally Blocked in Your Business?





 

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello! Hello! Hello!

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Well, I am Emily Eldredge, your host of Inner Work for Greater Good, where we learn in our work that accelerates your power to shine your light make a difference. Do whatever it is that you feel called to do so. I'm looking for my notes right now, and I'm so happy that you're here today's topic is as always has to do with something that I've either been struggling with, or that came up within the last week or so, and let's just say that this one I've been struggling with for quite a long time. But I finally had some really major breakthroughs the past few days.

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thanks to my amazing mother who was there to listen when I was triggered by something and needed to process, and then also my amazing husband, who I actually enlisted to do some of my own work on me. Now he's not trained in my process, which is my signature. Technique is called the Drawing Out Process in which I guide people to draw out.

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They're in your struggles literally with like crayons and paper. Just draw them out, get it out of the subconscious, and then I take it through the process of having a conversation with that part of you, and then guide that part to

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: permanently, completely, fully heal. So, rather than working against you, it now works for you. So my husband is the dearest man, and he's seen me do this on other people. And he's been listening to my podcast which you should listen to, to Dark Light Truth, which you actually hear. People's inner parts permanently, fully transformed in in like really amazing healing ways. You know, years, decades, and decades of pain and wounding that are healed within just a few

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but anyway, the point is is that my husband was so dear?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I asked him, I said, Okay, sweetheart, I'm really struggling with this part of me, and I just need someone else to talk to it. I keep trying to talk to this part of me, but it's just not fully working. I feel like I'm going around in circles. And this is one of the reasons, one of the many reasons, actually, why I, when people talk about wanting to learn the full process on their own is that actually, it can get kind of tangled up inside. If you try to have conversations

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with these parts of yourself. Sometimes it can be really effective, but then sometimes you can actually make it get yourself kind of tied up, and not some triggered, and it can be kind of icky. But I have enough experience. I've been doing this work for about 14 years now, so I do have a bit of experience but even II can't fully do the process on myself, because sometimes

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: parts of us really do require having that outside voice talking to those parts within us. That's sort of an outside observer that can ask questions without it becoming this tangle, that mess inside of like, I'm trying to talk to this part of me. But meanwhile this part of me is really mad at me, or hurt, or whatever. Okay, long story shorter. I actually just told my husband. Sweetheart, can you please just ask these parts of me some questions.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but really it had the parts that I wanted him to talk to were parts that have been triggered in relation to my business now for a long time now, and it's been on and off, and it varies day to day. But basically, I personally have had a lot of emotional blocks in my own business. Now, I've had my business in various forms since 2,000 12,000 9,010 when I first developed the drawing-out process

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: process and then started doing it on other people. And so my business has changed a lot over the years, for the work is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, mostly say the same, although I've I've developed that so, as I often say, the work itself in terms of my work. Me doing my work is easy. II can do it in my sleep. It's super easy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but in terms of the business part of my work. It's been really hard. I've been very blessed to have a lot of support and a lot of mentorship and all of that. But let's just put it this way. I don't think business is really my team, so I think I'm good at some aspects of it. But a lot of that I'm not that good at. And my heart just doesn't. I'm just not driven by, you know, you know, just making money and driven by my heart's desire to have impact.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you know that that business part of it, that income, part of it that you know

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the practical aspects of it have been a bit of a struggle for me. So the point is is that I've been really dealing with a lot of blocks, and I've been through a lot of ups and downs to the business. I've had some great successes. I've had some failures.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and what it happened recently was, I was on a call with some of the people, and then some parts got triggered, and so then I needed to talk to my mother about it, and then we recognize that there were 2 parts from me. It seemed to be acting up inside, and so then I came home. I was up in with my parents, and then I came home. And that's when I could feel that I was really trying to work with these parts. I mean, it just wasn't totally working. So I turned to my husband questions, and he took a deep breath.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and he was like, Well, I don't really know how to do this to just be opening. Curious, do me a favor and ask. And so he did a really good job, I have to say. But it's a long way of saying that actually what came to light?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We went through a number of layers and noticed some deep layers of emotion. And really deep, intense emotions, like failure.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Lot of deep sense of failure that I realized had been an accumulation of failures

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: from past experiences in my business. Now, sometimes, you know, they're not huge failures, or sometimes they felt like really big failures. Or you know, I might even tell you what those failures were, you'd say, oh, no, that sounds like more like a learning experience. Well, because I'm so emotionally sensitive, it feels like a failure to me, and because I can tend to have a high standards and expectations. You know, things can feel more intense. And so for me, I you know, what really came to life is that basically it's like

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's like those are accumulated inside of me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it was. Let's see, some of the emotions were failure, shame, embarrassment, humiliation, a lot of sadness, a lot of fear. And one of the things I wrote in my journal yesterday, as I was still processing, some of this was, How is it that in a business. My work is all about free people of their fear, and I do it like effortlessly with other people. And yet I'm so, lady, with

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fear when it comes to my work when it comes to the business aspect of my work. I just thought that was kind of a ridiculous irony there, but you may identify, especially if you're a healer and someone who's so good at helping others and helping them transform and heal their rooms or parts or whatever. And then it's like, Yeah, we still, you know, struggle with that ourselves. And then again, our own struggles obviously are also teachers that have enabled us and do enable us to help others heal their stuff too. So I mean, it all goes hand in hand. I get I get it. But my point is that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what I realized is that one of the the really I've been feeling blocked in my own work. Let me just explain when I talk about blocked in my work, my own work, I mean, sometimes waking up and just feeling this like heaviness

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in this sense of like, like, I don't wanna work, and I can't even work if I tried, and if even if I tried to push through it, you know, they always talk about pushing through fears. No, it would just make it worse. That doesn't work for me. I always have to sit with the emotion. Well, I struggled with this over the years, and so finally would finally came out. These past few days

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was the really deep stuff that I didn't even realize was there? But it would. But if you've been sitting there, and it would get triggered every time I even thought about my business. So see if you identify with this.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Let me just also point out, too. And I'm gonna share some some approaches for how to handle this. But Monday is also point out to that one. Someone once said that being an entrepreneur, you know, having your own business is one of the greatest, most intense forms of self development is that when we actually have our own business, and especially if it's something that just really is such an expression of us and our Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that can be the biggest

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: source of triggers and pain and fears, but also the biggest opportunity for self growth, for self personal development. I don't remember the exact quote, but it's something about, you know, being an entrepreneur is like, you know, like a required personal development is required. If you want to do this work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and parts. And one of the reasons why, as I said, is because when we are, when, when especially when our work and II see my work is such an expression of my Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's like that, much scarier than and and horrible. Then, when things don't work

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because it feels so personal, and because it feels so like devastating because it's but this is who I am, and this is my Truth, and I'm trying to achieve my purpose in my mission and be this presence. This is how I see it, you know, and then, when something doesn't work, it's like, Oh.

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and the thing is, I'm really lucky. And you might feel the same way, too, where it's like. Still, also have those parts of using so determined where it's like, you have this determination like this is gonna work. I'm gonna make this work, and, you know, put them at the same time. It's like carrying that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: heaviness, those weights of past failures and fears that have accumulated as a result of those failures, but also also

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: triggers from before ever even thought of the business from childhood. And that was the really interesting. That's and it didn't surprise me necessarily, but it did not surprise me when it's like, Oh, wow! Some really deep childhood stuff was also trigger here. And I mean, it's really kind of surprising step 2. I ended up talking to this little girl or my husband did this little girl inside of me

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: who basically, I mean, it was like when I was like 3 and 4 years old, and she always felt like everybody had their own thing, and everybody was all focused on their own thing, and they're all, you know, working on their stuff. And this little girl inside me was basically like resentful towards me and angry at me and upset at me because here I was having my own thing now, and I wanted to do my own thing, and I'm trying to do my own thing like calling thing like

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: kind of like thing. And they have their thing. And basically was a little girl inside of me that was feeling, you know, neglected, and it was feeling like nobody really care, and it turned out, thank God, we were able to heal her and actually transform, so that now, rather than pushing against my work. Now she's actually sitting inside of me, and she's like the way I save her. She's like sitting on a sort of tree branch and sort of

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: dangling her legs and like, Okay, what are we doing today? So now she's part of the journey with me. But before she was literally like. you know, like heels like dug in heels again. Exactly. So you might dug in heels right here, but it's sort of like like she put. She put the brakes on everything I was trying to do in my business.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but we were able to heal her, and that was from rooms from childhood. So that's all. By way of saying that what happens with our work and with our business, especially when it's such a a powerful expression of who we are it triggers some of the deepest stuff. And it can. Those those triggers can show up as blocks

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: fears.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, reactions that we have you know all kinds of ways that these can show up in our work. Now, obviously, my work is about in our work for greater good. So my guess

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is that your work, your work in the world, whether you're someone like me, who on the healer, and I'm helping other people to feel better. Or maybe you're you're a baker. Maybe you're a jewelry maker. Maybe you're an investment impact investor. I mean, you could be anything, you know whether or not. It looks like you're trying to make a difference or not it it's really something that feels so true to you. You probably have things triggered as well.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I just wanna offer a few thoughts about how to at least be aware. I cannot in this short amount of time, actually get you through any process like what I've been going through, which is, you know, fully healing those parts and really getting a beautiful healing and integration, and being able to move forward in my business about that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feeling like that choking stop and feeling. But first and foremost, as always, just as always, I want you to just start by just being aware

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that these blocks exist.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that these emotional resistances, or triggers, or feelings, or fears, or whatever exist within your business. So it always starts by noticing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay? Because what happens? This is why it's really important to notice that those parts can actually sort of eat out and lose out. And you know, whatever in ways that aren't so healthy. So, for example, there's some people who might feel like, well, they're just trying to prove something into their workaholics in their business. But then they go when they drink in the, you know, in the afternoon evenings, because they can't handle stress. Well, that's a chance to really look at. What is the emotional stuff that's driving those behaviors

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behaviours, both the alcoholism and the drinking.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: for example. But by the same token for me it was more the inertia. I couldn't move forward on certain things, because I literally was just overcome with this awful gut wrenching just like I wanted to vomit sometimes whenever I even thought about my work so first, or if I, just noticing, noticing how you feel when it comes to your business, noticing. Notice what at

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: aspects of your business most Trigger, you know. Sometimes we can get triggered because there are certain aspects of business that we feel like we're not as equipped at, you know. For example, like some people might not feel like they're good at the financial part some people might feel they're not good at the marketing part, and sometimes that can simply be an active thing. You're just not as good at it. You just need to hire someone else to do that part. But then, sometimes, for example, with marketing, that's a big one, a lot of healers and coaches and other people in these. You know, these, these industry, you know, this industry.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: who are all about helping people. But the idea of marketing is like gut wrenching awful. No way. I hate this, I can't stand it. And that can have to do with

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those underlying beliefs and emotions around self promotion. Or people gonna think I'm too big for my britches, or people gonna think that I'm greedy, or P. You know whatever or like being afraid to really shine your light, that you're gonna get criticized, etc.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So notice how emotional blocks can be embedded in the business. The idea of having a business as a whole, but also in aspects of it. I mean, marketing was a big one that was really really hard for me for a long time to even get myself out there. It's like other people. We're having to say, Emily, you need to share this. You need to do this. And I'm like, and it's been a journey. It really has been a journey

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to undo all of those underlying beliefs, so that I could really fully more fully show up in my own business. Right? So for you it might be marketing, or it might be financial stuff, or it might be

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't know answering emails. It could be anything that you're feeling blocked about to start by noticing those areas, noticing the feelings. Just be aware what's going on in your body, what's going on in your mind? What are the beliefs that are coming up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What are the the reactions that you're having? What are the memories that are getting triggered? What are the fears that are getting triggered, you know. Oh, no, mommy's gonna think my mother's gonna think this or that about me, or whatever it is my ex husband, or whatever

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the all kinds of things can get triggered when it comes to doing what it is that we really care about. Even if we know that we're on the right path. And we're doing the right thing still. And especially, that's when those fears can get triggered.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So notice and notice that you're noticing. And this is, basically I'm good. These are basically the 3 steps that I teach in my free course in my free community. Just go to community dot ChangeLight dot world. You can click there you can join the free course. You can take it or join the re community. Take the free course it's in there. Start by noticing, and then draw draw what you are experiencing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If it's blocks inside your body, if it's memories, if it's beliefs right, those beliefs that if it's fears, if it's objects, if it's symbols, if it's people, if it's a little child, if it's a block, what you know with a rock or something, it's like whatever it is, draw it out and just draw, draw whatever you notice. Here, see, feel, think, experience, whatever

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: brought out. Get it out of your system, cause that's gonna help clear it. And I know that the tendency is to immediately try to figure it out, and maybe you will. Maybe you'll get some really fantastic epiphanies just from drawing it out, or will lead you on. This path like minded literally mine went from like I had this little girl

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: called sad. I had this feeling of sad failure that I realized was coming from a little girl. But then I also had what I called my money bully that kept telling me, and it's like, no matter how much I'm you know II make money, or I'd have a new client and immediately be like, Yeah, but you need more. Or even if I, you know, doing this show or doing other things for free. And it would be like, Yeah, you're not making money at, so it would, constantly bullying me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I'm like drawing outside failure, which was a little girl. I drew up money, boy, which felt like the critic, and then ended up drawing out this whole pile of failures inside of me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which almost resembled. And this was thanks to my husband's helping me with this, if you see in the movie inside out. And there's, you know, there's all those balls that like, there's that ball, or the happy bowlers, or whatever. But then there's that whole dark, massive, dark balls that are in the subconscious that eventually will disappear in in the movie at least. Well, that's actually what this is like it was like this big pile of those

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: dark balls, only they weren't disappearing. They were basically the accumulation of my own failures and feeling of feelings of failure.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and so was able to draw those out able to talk to those able to heal those. And so that's been poo.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I feel so much better now. so notice how you're feeling. Draw it out, and then name those parts like I just said sad failure. I mean, it's mine sad failure.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: No one the money bully. It just kinda came out and trust. And again, this is all in my course. We teach you all about this in my free course.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but start by doing that because your business is important. Your work is so vital in the world. You know you're here to do this work, you know, you're here to have an impact, and it's just not helpful if you've got emotional blocks in a way, and I've noticed about myself for a long time it makes it worse.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so make it easier on yourself. Feel those. Watch those cigarettes, those wounds, get them out of the way so that you can more fully flow in your business, and I can tell you that just in the last couple of days, you know, I so was like 2 days ago that my husband helped me out with No. Yesterday morning my husband help me out with listening to those parts of me, but then I did a little bit more of my own work, and it's so much better, and so it feels so much easier to move

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: forward on pretty much all aspects of my business. It's not as though it's just one or another. It's for the general feeling. Oh, and that reminds me, you might even want to draw out how you perceive your business, and that could be in a positive way, but it could also be in a well. Maybe there's like Sludge on one part that feels really heavy. Okay.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let that come out, draw that out. See what comes up alright, as always. I hope this has been helpful. This is just the beginning, just just the ice to the iceberg. So there's so much more to discover as you learn to do, the drawing out. And hopefully, this will help you to release some of those, whether accumulated or, you know, step from childhood the things that you're carrying when it comes to your business. Alright love you all hope you have a great week, and I will talk to you next week.

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