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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is always is Emily Eldredge I am the host I am also the founder of change light, where I teach.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It changemakers, how to do inner work that accelerates their power to change the world.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I do that through my ChangeLight System, which is all about teaching very simple tools and techniques, as well as discoveries that i've made in my work.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To help you truly access the Truth within you heal the struggles that are getting in the way and really actualize that bring that into reality, so that you can shine your absolutely brightest most beautiful light.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because you do, you have an incredible light inside of you, and that is what i'm here to show you and just show you different ways of accessing it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Through what i've taught about emPowers the exPower so if you haven't learned about that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, in my course and community that I have online Community change life dot world where you can actually learn the techniques of the ChangeLight System before I get started, I should say so in case you're wondering.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What this is all about, I know I look like I got a cat fight and the cat clearly one I don't have a cat i'm actually looking to cast sorry cats but.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: No actually I just have bad hand eczema just hydrocephalus and it just acts up and so i've been treating it with lots of medicine and putting stuff on it so it's just what I gotta do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway it's it's it's very persistent For those of you, if you have decided grosses if you have hand eczema it's not fun, is it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway enough complaining about that, so the topic today that I want, what I want to talk about is how can your struggles.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: guide you to your strengths Okay, how can your inner struggles actually put you in the direction of your strengths, how can they actually help you reveal what your strengths actually are.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There are a number of ways that they can do this if you haven't watched my previous episodes that are about exPowers and emPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: then go back and definitely watch those once you're done watching this one, because there's a ton of information in there, that really does explain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's how these you know this type of struggle relates to this type of strength within you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And here's you know here's how that you know this type of strength ends up becoming this kind of kind of struggle, so I break it all down for you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So clearly based on what i've taught you so far, so those of you who have actually watched it already.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Based on what you've taught I taught you so far, you can see how they're related, how are three types of inner struggles that we all have that are universal.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Actually, are just distorted parts of our powers our strength that's why I call this struggles exPowers, partly because there are former parts of our power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and former parts of our emPowers, whose job it is to empower us to be who were here to be.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There is a very clear correlation there and that what happens is, as we go through life, our inner strengths.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: end up getting distorted by fear by pain by circumstances that make us feel unsafe unsafe to be who we are unsafe to express ourselves.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that make us feel like we need to protect ourselves in certain ways that make us feel afraid to step out and shine our light that make us feel like we have to react.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In certain circumstances, and so, those are the parts that obviously get triggered and then we get reactive and then sometimes people we behave in ways that we don't like to behave.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's The thing is that most of us, one of my big agendas, with the work that I do is to teach you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The truth about what's going on inside, so that you can stop being at war with yourself or thinking there's something wrong with you because you feel a certain way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or you have a certain kind of struggle or you've got you know in our monster that has terrible thoughts or feelings or that wants to do terrible things.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's, not to say it's okay to do those things it's The point is that these parts exist for a reason, and that in my work through the Drawing Out Process a permanently transform those back into their original strengths.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and always discover in every situation i've ever ever Drawing Out Process session i've ever done.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That part that seemed like it was bad or flawed, or we are sad or whatever it is, the struggle was.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When it transforms back it always turns into a part of you that, ultimately, its purpose is to serve you to love you to be connected with you to be a part of you, and help you to live that truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, unfortunately, though, because these parts of us make us feel bad ways make us behave in bad ways make us feel terrible about ourselves make us think terrible thoughts about other people.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: make us react in ways that we wish we didn't react what we know is not who we truly are because we tend to have these parts, we often have a very negative perception.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of these parts inside of us in this of ourselves, like thinking well i'm weak or i'm pathetic or i'm an angry person.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or I you know i'm incapable of this or I just i'm just not strong enough, whatever the thoughts or beliefs feelings that we have about ourselves that are often they come from those exPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because the truth is we aren't born with like insecurity, we aren't born with most of these things, so the point is that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We have this negative perception of these parts of us a lot of us do I would say, most of us do and even for me, sometimes like i'll have a struggle that pops up inside of me and i'll have this like oh.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, like irritated or annoyed but i've done this work long enough to know wait a minute wait a minute.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If I just stop and i'm present with this part of me and I brought out and I process it or whatever i've got to do to help it heal I know that it's going to transform into a part of me that, ultimately, will serve me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, rather than work against me it's going to work with me and for me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, rather than feel like it's a fragment or a part of me it's going to be aligned with my Truth and it's going to support me and shining my brightest light.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, none of these parts that are inside of you that you might think are bad, or we are awful or flawed, or what have you none of them are innately bad their truth their essence is good.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Every part of you is doing its very best to protect you whatever way it knows, and when we have that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: perspective and that perception of ourselves and of these parts of us, we can learn to be in deeper harmony with them when they show up when they're wearing their heads, when they're causing us problems.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when we can have that attitude towards them, I often talk about how, when, if you struggle with your pain and all you're doing is adding pain on top of a pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or if you're struggling with these parts of you all you're doing is adding struggle on top of struggle.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, instead, when we turn towards we start to learn the truth about these inner struggles that we have that's when we can achieve true healing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's when we can truly shine our light, rather than being this inner conflict, so the point of this of today's episode.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is really about, not just having a positive a more positive compassionate understanding wise perception of our inner struggles, but also recognizing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How those inner struggles that we do have can end up pointing us in the direction of our strengths can help reveal.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our true strengths, as I explained when we heal these parts of us, and this is what I do with the Drawing Out Process I permanently heal those inner triggers wounds blocks blind spots.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Any of those parts that feel like they get in the way of you being at peace with yourself and empowered to live your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Drawing Out Process permanently heals those and returns them back to their power so by doing that that's a very clear here's what happens your strength your struggle becomes an inner strength it starts to serve you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So these exPowers are just part to view that parts of your power that have been impacted by fear and pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's something I want you to remember when you think about the struggle that you're having or struggles that you're having the size of your struggle is in direct proportion to the size of your power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Let me say that again the size of your struggle that you have is in direct proportion to the size of your strength to the size of your power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so next time you're running into a big struggle inside of you know that two things you have the power to work through it, but also.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That what you're perceiving as an inner struggle or a weakness or something that's just pay that's just power that's been distorted by fear and pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a part of your power, all it needs is to be converted back into its true essence as part of your power so, for example, when I work with someone who has who's deeply depressed and they have depression.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just want to acknowledge that sometimes, yes, there are chemical components to this but i've worked with a lot of people who struggled with depression.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And what we often find is that they've got this part of them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That don't women obviously there's a lot of lewdness in there, but a lot of times to enter Controller again if you've seen my previous episodes you know what i'm talking about when I say an inner Controller.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: oftentimes like an inner critic but depression is usually, when that it's beyond being just an inner critic, it is an inner monster, it is oppressive.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, and i've been depressed as well and i've had these monsters inside of me, and so, when they're just oppressive in their horrific and they're just feeling like they're controlling us i'll never overcome this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When you can instead take that and work with it right, so I often talk about the Drawing Out Process.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and transform that monster as oppressive and awful as it feels and as powerful as that monster feels inside of you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just remember that's just a part of your power that's been impacted by fear and pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, in a way it's like your own power kind of working against you it's not okay i'm not saying it's okay i'm just trying to give you a different perspective.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: On your own struggles that these inner struggles can feel so oppressive and overwhelming.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when you can actually learn to transform them back to their original essence they turn out to be a huge part of your power and strength.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'll give you an example and i've talked about this in previous episodes my very first I called my first monster that I ever drew out, I think I shared it even pictures of it in some previous episodes.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was an absolutely horrifically horrible monstrous vicious vicious part of me that was basically causing me to be suicidal.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was causing me to hate myself to lower myself to question, even the concept of weather the weather, there was that I didn't have a spiritual connection, I felt no sense of joy.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I even questioned whether or not the people who supposedly loved me if they actually loved me I thought everybody was codependent like you're really messed with my mind.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But when I faced that monster, and again I tell the story in previous episodes episodes and actually was able to draw it out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and help it transform it ended up disappearing and once it and I wouldn't say it disappeared it's not like I went okay bye bye.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's more like it just went okay my job is done so it let go of that role that it was playing for me and then its power that was so oppressive to me became part of my power again.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I felt this just.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Inside of me and I felt this joy and I felt this piece, and I felt this bliss You see, so those struggles that you're having that may feel like they're coming from outside of your that may feel I mean inner struggles, I should say that feel like oh I i'll never overcome this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really it's about understanding that those inner struggles are just parts of your power that just need to be transformed back into parts that serve you and support you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Not ones that get in your way and oppress you okay so that's something I want you to remember.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That, whatever your inner struggles are whatever that that the size of your struggle is in direct proportion to the size of your strength that decides, if your power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That whatever that inner struggle is you're just struggling with part of your own power so it's a matter of transforming it against what the Drawing Out Process does this is what I teach in my course.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another way to recognize how your inner struggles can point you put my little bandages are coming up, I can point you to your strength here's a little little.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sort of what from Keith on some whatever whatever the term is just let me to remember look at what you were criticized for when you were a kid.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So if you were criticized for certain things, or if you were made to feel unsafe expressing certain parts of yourself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: chances are high, the high likelihood that you've got exPowers inner struggles inside of you you've got Wounded that are carrying that pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You also probably have Controllers and Defenders that are trying to mitigate that pain inside of you so remember the Controller might be acting on that Wounded.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and telling it to stop crying or trying to suppress how it feels the Defender might be the part that's forming a wall around it and trying to protect and defend and keep out so if you're criticized for something when you were a child.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you're carrying the wounds of that criticism or the wounds of that sense of unsafe D of showing that part of you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I can almost guarantee you that whatever it is that you were showing whatever it is that you were criticized for you is probably part of your power, let me give you an example when I was a little girl, I was highly emotional.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Some would say highly dramatic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: very energetic little kid very emotional very emotionally sensitive um I might have shared this before, but.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even in my high school Yearbook I went to a girls school in Dallas and we had they have this page of like high school Yearbook of like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The most likely to or the most whatever the one I really wanted was the most likely to end up on broadway I didn't get that one my classmate brandi burger got that one bless her I got most histrionic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when I read that it really hurt it really, really hurt, but my point is i'm using that mainly as an example of like I was clearly seen is like very dramatic very expressive I mean it can, because you can't tell.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i've been an actress and i've been a singer and I like being on camera and I have a fun time talking to you all.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is going back to when I was little and not not in high school, but before that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was frequently criticized or made to feel bad or made to feel less than or not enough or like I was a problem.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I was so emotionally sensitive, because I was so deeply affected by other people's emotions bike situations around me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By being criticized for things, so I would have these massive reactions.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'll never forget, I mean my family is wonderful and very well meaning but you know there were members of them who basically made me feel really bad for being that way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or told me that I had to toughen up or said stop over reacting or you're too sensitive or you're so hypersensitive and they got so frustrated with me and so aggravated, and so what did I learn as a little girl.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Being emotional is not okay being sensitive is not okay i'm that i'm going to get criticized if I show my feelings or if I you know express myself in particular ways and that there was something wrong with me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That there was something wrong with me for being so emotionally sensitive it took.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of years, first of all to even recognize that that was the messaging that I received and to really be honest about that because, like I love my family and they're wonderful people, but you know we all make mistakes we all screw up and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, they were really stressed when I was a kid so there was a lot of this stuff going on.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it took me a long time to even recognize that and then it took a lot of years to undo the wounds of having been criticized for those parts of me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the thing is, though, part of the reason why it took a while to even recognize that I was carrying those moments because was because I so completely believe.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That yeah I shouldn't be emotionally sensitive, I mean it got so bad that in my 20s i'll never forget, I literally it was like I just cut off emotionally just completely cut off, and so what ended up happening was I realized ultimately that suppressing my own feelings wasn't working.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That by fighting how I felt fighting my emotions was actually having the opposite effect.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was causing me to hate myself more to shame myself more to feel worse about myself, and not only that it just didn't work, because the emotions kept coming.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, when I talked about that first sponsor that was one of the big pivotal moments when I realized that subconsciously how much i've been shaming myself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For feeling the way I felt and thinking I didn't deserve to feel the way I felt and thinking I didn't deserve to be depressed.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what I discovered in then healing those wounds was and then and those parts of me started to heal what I discovered was oh my gosh my emotional sensitivity is not.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A weakness it's not a flaw.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a superpower.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's one of my superpowers it's one of my greatest gifts, one of my biggest strengths, so what i've been taught was a weakness.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because other people, maybe I was just too much energy for them too much and that's another one too too much of your been accused or felt may feel that way you're too much.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because i've been taught to believe that that was a weakness, I thought it was a weakness.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And only years later I realized that oh my God i've been suppressing and criticizing and shaming one of my biggest powers, one of my biggest strengths, look at the work that I do I bring my emotional sensitivity to it, I bring my empathic powers to it every single day.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So all that stuff that I had inside of me that i've been criticized for it turned out to be a strength, that is a very long way of explaining.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That one way to start to access this or start to discover the strengths within your struggles, is to pay attention to what are you shaming yourself for.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What are you criticizing yourself, for what are you thinking is a weakness, what are you thinking is a flaw or something wrong with you hmm.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It could be that it's actually just a distorted aspect of your strength of your power.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I want you to really think about that so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And also, not only that the reason why certain criticisms hurt us let's say as children, the reason why, like, for example, you could have 10 kids and you could criticize all 10 for the exact same thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: let's just say out of that first of all, not all 10 are going to feel hurt or just not maybe three of them are going to feel hurt by that okay been criticized all 10 for something else.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With something else so you're bad at this or whatever.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you'll probably have a different three or four seven that are going to be impacted by that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the reason why is because what hurts us the most that were criticized for is usually hurts us the most because it it because that thing for which we were criticized is a core part of who we are.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I think in an earlier episode I use the example of like if someone criticize me for my hair, which you know it's so fuzzy and fun today I waited a curve it just for fun.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if someone criticize me for my hair I wouldn't take that all that, personally, because I can always change my hair, however, if i'm a hairdresser.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If i'm a stylist if i'm someone who's a you know my passion or my.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My my sense of power in the world, or the impact that I feel that I can have is somehow if my hair is somehow an aspect of that or an expression of that, especially if i'm a hairstylist you're a hairstylist.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that's part of you know, maybe that's part of your calling part of your Truth what you're here for is how you express yourself through hair or how you help other people express themselves through here.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then someone comes along and says well your hair is really ugly you're probably going to take that a lot more personally than I will.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because my hair and this kind of thing isn't really a part of my Truth i'm not here to do hair i'm not here to try to make people's images look different or what have you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But for someone for whom that is part of their core strength in Truth that's going to hurt a lot more so that's all my way of saying notice the things that hurt you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice the things that really wound you when you're criticized for those things, and I can pretty much guarantee you that somewhere in there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're going to find some aspect of Truth, some core part of who you are some strength that you may not even realize yet until now is a strength.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, this is what I mean by how your struggles can help guide you to your strengths.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what are some of the things that you can find buried in your struggles i'll throw out some names, but there are some things I already mentioned your sensitivity so emotional sensitivity or other kinds of sensitivity you know i'm talking about being an empath.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: other kinds of sensitivities your creativity.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your creative spirit I once had a client years ago, who she drew out this part of her That was really, really angry and aggressive towards the world, and she drew her out and and she looked like she was saying F you it's.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, really, really angry.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We heal that part of her it was Wounded, we heal that part of her and it transformed into.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A into a spice girl, but she had her own name spunky spice.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it went from this really angry part of her to spunky spice with this funky haircut and saying hey.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then my card ended up using spunky spice as part of her creativity, she opened up so much joy and creativity and fun and pleasure and all kinds of cool stuff within her.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so this was a part of her that she hated and she resisted because i'm so angry, etc, and we transformed it back and then it became a source of her creativity.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she was a singer, by the way, this was client of mine your wisdom and intuition was there's so much wisdom in pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: wow is there, so much wisdom in these exPowers in the wounds of the Controllers in the Defenders I think I talked to especially about the Defenders they are really good at knowing where your boundaries are even when you don't.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A lot of them are so Defenders can be a great source of wisdom and like whatever is your Truth that you need to be listening to and you need to be honoring.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Defenders, can be fabulous at that, so they can be really good at giving you that giving you that wisdom that you need to guide you forward.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your inner joy and freedom, sadly, so many of us shaft that sweet little inner child, because we think will usually it's because life is all about, you know we have to survive and we.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We don't see that the Free Spirited inner child inside of us as a part of us that can help us survive be s.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Be s I am telling you when you tap into that Free Spirit inside you that inner child and you let it joy and its freedom and it's pleasure and it's excitement fill you it can fuel you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To go even further to do even more to have an even more fabulous life so your Free Spirit that the Wounded that that's inside of you that sad little you know child.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It may be that it's part of it could be they're different they're different like wounds that transform into different types of Free Spirits, but basically there's a type of Free Spirit that's just all about joining playing in the playground.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so there's so much power in that and there's so much wisdom in that too, because that little inner child can also give you some great wisdom that can guide you forward to really live live a life that feels good for you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: new perspectives and Epiphany on old stories I just worked with a client, the other day to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was fascinating how we listen to that inner little girl inside of her.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, I will say actually in that moment, from my perspective, as I was listening to what the little girl was saying, I wasn't necessarily hearing anything.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sort of groundbreaking for me or not, not for me, obviously wasn't for me, but I mean like that to me, I would have thought oh that's really groundbreaking thinking.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that's that that's going to make a big difference, or that some big bet that of wisdom that my clients going to love when I talked to her again.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But actually What happened was by having that conversation with that little girl It revealed all kinds of a tiffany's for my client and new perspectives on her current life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and on how the patterns in her adult life came from the patterns in her childhood.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So there's all kinds of gets along with sort of the wisdom is that we can also get all kinds of new perspectives that tiffany's.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: On old perceptions old stories that we're carrying maybe perceptions, we had of ourselves, maybe we're shaming ourselves and thinking.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We did something wrong or we shouldn't have said that thing because it had this result that and again i'm thinking of another client where she said something and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When she was a child to her parents and she has blamed herself and thought that she was responsible for.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For her parents separating but as it turned out because we we had that conversation she had this whole shift and was like wait a minute.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's actually part of my power to speak Truth and that's what I was doing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i've been shutting myself all these years for being such a voice of Truth and i've been repressing it because I thought that there was something wrong with my having done that, but she goes that was actually really courageous to be to speak my Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You say so again that's where she discovered that she is a truth-teller and that that is a big part of her power to be a truth-teller speaking her own Truth but also speaking truth to others.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, and then, of course, finally, in terms of how your struggles can guide you to your strengths there's the there's simply the fact that, when we have struggles at all in life that it gives us the opportunity to build up our strengths to build our spiritual emotional mental physical whatever.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: muscles and to illustrate that point I will use the example of actual muscles I don't know if you know this, but the way that muscles form.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is from rips in the muscle fibers so when people are working out, you know big workout you know with.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Pushing all those heavy things what's happening is they're causing rips in the muscle fibers so, then the body goes into heal those rips with the healing that's what builds the muscle that's how they get stronger.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there's probably a more scientific way of explaining that but that's the basic so if you're a doctor, I apologize if I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: ruin that but that's the basic idea so think about that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's because of the rips it's because of the breakage, if you will, and then the healing that results from that that's how you gain the muscle that's how you gain the strength so just the process.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of facing your struggles in dealing with struggles is strengthening not only that I often like to say what if your struggles were actually preparing you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to live your Truth and to be truly in your power and to be strong, as strong as possible in living your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again i'm gonna use myself as an example here in terms of the Drawing Out Process, and when I went through that bad period with that first monster, and I was in a deep dark night of the soul.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, because of that facing all that darkness discovered the work that I do today.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, I had to go through a lot of stuff to even develop the process and then to make the discoveries, I had to face my own struggles and I had to really work through a lot of stuff to get there, but here's the cool thing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because i've been to all this, and if you're a coach or a teacher, you know exactly what i'm talking about because i've been through and because you we've been through those experiences, that is what enables us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To make a difference and to serve people I remember sitting in prison sorry I always say that when I was in prison, but I but i've sat in rooms rooms, full of inmates.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And these guys have said to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Have you ever been in prison before like after i've spoken you're going to prison before and I say no habit and they're like wow because somehow you just you just get it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the way I interpret that is i've never physically been in a prison but i've been in my own emotional prison.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And because i've been in my own emotional prison and done the work to heal I can then connect with those men who are in physical prison and in their own emotional presence as well.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so there's a certain empathy there there's a certain understanding of certain compassion that would not be able to exist, had I not had my own struggles, with my own inner emotional prisons.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So my point is this don't resist or fight against your struggles see the strengths in them that are hidden inside them see the wisdom.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In your struggles, meaning the parts of you that you're struggling with you think are wrong or weak or bad or you've got to fix it kind of thing, yes, of course, these things need to heal in order for us to fully shine our brightest light live our biggest truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the way you start to do that is again shift your perspective it's not your struggles are not something to fight I often say never struggle with your struggles and never put pressure on your pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because you're just going to create more pain and more struggle instead turn towards and recognize how wait a minute.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What if there's some untapped power in here that I really haven't known about or recognize what if the things for which I was criticized as a child or actually the very things that i'm here to do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And to help others with okay look at your struggles in a new light that's what this is all about and see how their reflection, it could be a reflection of your true strengths.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All right, as always, I hope this is helpful again, my name is Emily eldridge if you want to learn the ChangeLight System, I highly highly.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: encourage you to do it learn the ChangeLight System learn the Drawing Out Process all these different techniques I teach in my Community where there is a course and all you gotta do is go to community.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That change light dot world and sign up there, join us in there and you're going to learn all kinds of wonderful things all right Thank you so much, take care and, by the way, happy international women's Day yesterday.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, ladies all right, I will talk to you again next week bye.
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