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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, beautiful ladies! It's Emily Eldredge. I am the host of this show Inner Work for Greater Good, where we learn inner work that accelerates your power to feel good and too good to really make a difference in the world in whatever ways call to you, as always, i'm so happy that you're here, and you're welcome to come to the website. Any time in our community Our community is a community that changes the world, and that's where you can learn all about our courses


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about this inner work that can accelerate your ability to make a difference. Today I want to talk about disentangling your energy from others. The reason why this comes up for me as an important topic is


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because I just spent the last few days doing Raiki level one


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um with actually the woman who's also my shemonic healer, and I have done chronic healing before. I've done allergy healing. But I've never done, Ricky,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and the way this woman teaches it she's amazing. I can give you her information if you want to contact me. But the way she teaches it. She talks a lot, and this is also one of her special. She talks a lot about boundaries, and making sure that we maintain our boundaries with other people in life in general, and of course as well when it comes to spiritual healing work is that boundaries are absolutely key. Now, I often talk about uh the importance of it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Healthy relationships require healthy boundaries, and it's completely true. But I kind of woke up giggling this one a little bit,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because it really occurred to me also another reason why I but I thought, no wonder. This is like so important,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I Haven't asked her about this, but I was just thinking this,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that when it comes to being a shamanic healer in shimonic work Now, I am not a shamanic healer. There are a lot of wonderful things out there. Mine is fantastic that the shamanic work is all about basically like the


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in my experience, the Shamanician, and will go into sort of other realms and retrieve soul pieces that have been taken, you know whether in this lifetime or class lifetimes by others. Um, or maybe we've taken pieces from other people. Um, Sometimes we're recorded to people energetically in


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: way. Ah, you know, there are all kinds of things that happen energetically as well as emotionally, a lot of times We talk about this emotional um things like this, but it's also energetic, I mean in emotions or energy as well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is what happens. I was in a galaxy. But I wonder this is so important to her because she basically spends her professional life having to like disentangle people's energies from others. That's one part of it with like shamanic healing. It's having to like, go into other worlds and like get this person's pieces back and get back pieces and pieces


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: disentangle, if you will, their energies from others. It's one big part of it, and in terms of my work. What i'm often doing is defragmented as well, and so she's depressed it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm mostly defragmenting like emotionally and mentally and internally. Usually within this lifetime Sometimes my work ends up. We talk about past lifetimes in the past lifetime Stuff! Come up with some of my work, but my point is that it's like,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so so she's always like, you know. Really, you know, this is about you


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: on. You. Keep your energy to yourself basically like you've got to do what's right for you, and a lot of times that be interpreted, as you know, that Selv is your self-centered but it's not and from her perspective. I would say, if she were here in my perspective as healers, and as people who


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're like. This is what we're doing is we're having to do pregnant people. We're having to bring them back to fullness, sometimes having to disentangle their energies from other people and having to


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: basically bring them back fullness and clarity and peace within themselves. And so it just it's It's just I don't know I don't know. I just maybe laughing. Of course, you know, because that's what she's always doing, and that's sometimes what i'm doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it really made me think about the importance of it. Just really want to drive this point home.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How important it is that you stay, sovereign, that you say that we all stay sovereign.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We own our own energy; we own our own power. We don't, give our power away to others, even if it's well intended. And this is oftentimes what happens? We can give our power over to others perfectly well intended, because we care about them


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a difference in their lives, because we want them to feel good. And yet what happens, though, is when you're giving your power away, you're giving your power away, and you only have so much energy and power. I get it. I know you would say. We're these huge beings, and


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: reality is that we don't have unlimited sources of energy and power to get.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, go ahead and try. Go for it. In my experience we really don't, even if we're channeling, and all that kind of stuff. There is a physical reality that we live in here, and so we have to be very mindful and caring


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of. You know this visible reality that we're in, and of our own energy and of our own power. Because what happens is that even from good intentions,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when we're helping others, we're supporting others or being there for others, or even like being angry at them. We're trying to control them, or we're worried about them. There are all kinds of reasons, especially emotional reasons, but a lot of reasons why we intend to end up getting


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with other people's energies, and maybe we might try to control them, and then they get entangled with us, and we end up in this power struggle, and it's not healthy for anyone. When our energies get tangled up in others where theirs get tangled up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: this is a huge, huge, huge profit. But I just want to pose a few questions that we'll start to get thinking about,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. Am I a bit too entangled or ineshed with this person or these people? Um! Am I giving too much of my power over Is that person taking energetic, you know, energy or energetic pieces from me?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um, I mean, and sometimes, like the shamanic work. It's other lifetimes. It's not necessarily with this like time, but sometimes in this lifetime we can do that with others, and we literally allow other people


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not allow. I mean, sometimes it's trauma. Sometimes someone has really hurt us, and peace has been taken from us. Again, that's not my expertise. But the point is that because of the way human relationships just go, and how they can be so fraught, or because of circumstances we experience or grow up in because of trauma we endure, whether they're


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: human, you know, caused, or maybe their um, you know, weather or cause maybe they're like natural disasters. These can really um kind of mess up our own energy and cause us to become fragmented and tangled.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so sometimes that's just the reality of living with other humans. And in this world where we have these issues. But the problem is, then what happens is that we are less. We feel less the peace we're tangled up. We've got energetic cores here, there, and everywhere.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Some of them are healthy, some of them are not, and even if it


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: maybe that we have some kind of energetic entanglement with someone that we haven't seen in years. And you know they're far away, or persist, and it drains our energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It drains our energy, Or even if, on the other hand, if we're draining someone else's energy, and we're basically unconsciously or energetically taking their power,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: disempowering ourselves, so there's a disempowerment both ways. When we try to give someone our energy, you know, to try to fix something in a certain way. Or maybe we're scared for them, or we have to control them, or what have you? We are disempowering them


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because we are keeping them from discovering that they have the power within themselves to do whatever it is that they need to do. I'm not saying Don't help people or support people, but it's about doing it with them. Reason in such a way that you don't lose a


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a lot of your energy. We're not drained that you're giving what's appropriate. That's another word that my shamanic healer uses she's very elevant, but use what's appropriate to give us the


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: writes the new ends of them. You don't necessarily know what's right for them. But you know what's right for you to that. And by the same token, if you're pulling someone's energy, you're sucking again. These are not necessarily happening consciously. This is not a criticism. But if you're unconsciously or energetically pulling


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: on their energy, you're also disempowering them because you're pulling their energy, away, and then they're having to either fight with it, or they're letting it get drained.


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So disempowering yourself,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because when we take someone else's energy, it's a statement of I don't actually, if I think that I can do this alone. I can feel good on my own, or that I can. Whatever fill in with the way when we feel the need to take energy from someone else, consciously or unconsciously.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's a lack of statement, of a lack of faith in ourselves, in our own abilities, in our own power to do whatever it is we need to do and be whatever we need to be feel. However, we need to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, either way it is disempowering to you and to the other person.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And is that really what you want to do? You really want to disempower that person even from good intentions? Do you really want to send that message that you don't really


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: themselves, or that you have to do something for them, or whatever it is, and vice versa that you need their energy. We need their power. It just ends us up in a tangled, energetic mess that at some point has to get


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There are a lot of ways to do this, like my word, this is literally like an energy fragmentation. That's


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's basically what i'm doing, you know, in a lot of ways is healing those those parts, those fragments, those chunks that have been kind of separated because of traumas or fears, or worms, or you know, et cetera,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but also like like ah, another other kinds of healing where it's about, you know Literally, you have to disconnect unhealthy connections, and that's what some energy modalities do


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: version that I learned first was called chronic human, and we disconnect unhealthy connections. We do it in this kind of an appropriate way. We're like in raking. I haven't learned how to do it in Riki yet, but that's something we do


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in shamanic healing. That's something similar. If someone has taken a piece from you. Then you're feeling, you know, some kind of struggle there, or you've taken a piece from them. There's an incompleteness. There's a struggle. There's a disentangle. So there are a lot of ways


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: disentangle our energies from others, so that we can have all of our energy bad.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm feeling whole


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: strong in a piece. There is nothing empowering ultimately


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about having your energy scattered anywhere.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It needs to be here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It needs to be here so that you have it all at your disposal if you will, that you can use. And so, anyway,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they are along a lot of way students. But I just want to leave you with a few questions to ask yourself when it comes to situations in your life relationships. You know things like that, and what one of the things that I tend to do is ask the question of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What's my


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: versus what's theirs?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what's mine


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: be? What's my responsibility


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: versus what's their responsibility? What's my job versus what's their job? I don't necessarily mean, like professional job. I mean it could be It could be that you have issues with phone numbers. What's my job versus what's their job?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you're doing someone else's job for them, the man who you might want to reconsider that you might want to think, and you might want to look at Why, what's really going on with me that I feel the need to do that for them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, it's always about coming back to me, coming back to you. Why are you doing that?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um! What's What's fueling that behavior?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what's mine versus what's there versus what's there is what's in my control versus what's in their


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: right, and that's a great way. Also a person like, what can I control? Versus What can I not control,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and what I can control I will take care of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if there's something I can't control, maybe it's how that person's showing up, or how that person is behaving, or you know this situation in the world, or whatever can I control that? No. Well, then, I need to bring my


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here to what I can consider


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and do the best I can with what


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I can.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another question to ask is, do I feel energized or drained by this interaction, relationship,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: conversation, you know, scenario, etc. Do I feel energized by this, or do I feel great?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And There' been plenty of times Where on the service? I thought, Well, this seems like it's. It would be energizing for me. But for some reason i'm being drained by this person or this, this situation's probably what's going on, and I may not know. Like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: intellectually,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I may not be able to see exactly what what's draining me, but the reality is, i'm feeling great, and if i'm feeling drank, then I need to remove myself, or I need to disconnect or I need to, whatever I need to do. And again, It may not be that the other person may actually be pulling on me, and may not be meaning to that. Feel


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: habit that they have, You know, some unconscious, you know thing that's going on with them. It's not to shame or criticize any,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but it is that you know, if you're feeling drained, you're feeling right. You need to honor that so that you can remove yourself. Disconnect whatever you've got to do to to refresh and bring your energies back to you,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but that's a really good one. My feeling energizes by this, or drained by this,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and actually, come to think of it, you could even ask it. Not that we know what's going on with other people, but you can even


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: think of it that way, too. Like are other people. Do they seem amitized by what i'm sharing. But it's some kind of brain. Do they seem energized by what I have to offer this some kind of drink? I mean, you know you might even just be aware of that, too, because it could be that maybe


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're overdoing it, or you're pulling on them, or what that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So and always asks questions um,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and see when i'm giving someone my time, attention, and energy. How might I also be giving them my power giving away


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: power? So that's something to remember that from


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: goodness of our hearts


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here in our hearts


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we give our time, our energy, our attention, et cetera, on to others. This is so very common of us, especially those of us healers of numbers, right?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But but actually, sometimes you've got to really look at your own motivation there,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and also what's happening? What's the results of that?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in terms of the


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: our own motivation, Sometimes it could be that we're unconsciously, actually trying to control the situation. We don't even realize it,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or we're trying to control that person and their behavior. So we don't even realize it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We're trying to control our own anxiety, because we're afraid that if they back this way or this thing's happened that way, we're going to freak out. And so we're just trying to take care of our own,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that's something to be aware of, too. But you also might look at the result. Am I giving away my power? Am I actually disempowering myself


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: by doing this? So that's something to be aware of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is my helping, supporting, etc. Preventing them from learning how to do it themselves. Is it actually disempowering them?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That's something we talked about


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a minute ago to think about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, that might be happening.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How might I be taking energy from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So how might my behavior?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because And again, you've got to ask yourself what's going on? What's fueling this? If that's what that feels like that might be what's happening when you need to look at what's fueling it? What's motivating, what fears inside of you, or insecurities, or et cetera,


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: are causing that energetic entanglement.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Actually, i'm sorry. I just think it's the rest of my questions. And then some of them, you know, are my thoughts feelings based on fear and or my actions? Are my actions actually a form of me trying to control?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just think this is another one, because again, on the surface, like in terms of you know, and our, you know consciously, we think. Oh, but i'm trying to help that person's


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I've always got a question. I've always got a question with no emotions, and get to the core of anything that Michael fuel your behaviors that really aren't healthy for you or the other person, or that are based on fear, and not on a sense of faith in their power and more power in one hundred and one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know the divine. You know Universe source plan of what's actually might be happening in this situation.


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Uh that we need to allow to happen.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I know this is like penny stuff. It's a lot of stuff to consider, but I do hope it's helpful, because it is extremely important that we have our own energies with them


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not tangled up. That is the stuff that really messes up to create a lot of confusion and chaos and.


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