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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, Hello! And welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good. My name is Emily Eldredge. I am the founder and CEO of ChangeLight, and the creator of the ChangeLight System, where we do in a work that accelerates your power to make a difference in whatever ways you feel called to. This is all about feeling good, so you can do good feeling better. So you can do better. That's where it starts, and that's what we're focused on today and and then every episode. Frankly, we talk about a lot of different.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So today my topic is how to honor your inner constitution. Now, when I say “constitution”, I don't mean like Constitution of the United States. Um, although that might be kind of an interesting topic, we like your inner constitution. You know the things that are. I don't know part of your own inner code or our value system. I mean, it might be kind of interesting to look at that. But i'm actually using the term that one of my healers that my healer uh much monica or uses, and I've been having some sessions with her a lot lately about a

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a variety of different things. She's amazing. But we talk about constitution. So basically. What I would say is that the way you were designed divinely designed, you might even say. But just the way you're made up let's say, before you were impacted by, you know, childhood stuff or societal stuff, or any of that, you know any of those outside influences. Really, it's we're talking about who you are, independently of all of that,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and how you are made up. So, for example, you know, someone might say that like Well, some people are are introverts, and some people are extroverts, meaning. They're like designed more that way, or an extrovert is designed more that way. My dad actually likes to use the term amber for himself, and I would use it for myself as well, which means that we can kind of go either way. Uh, but you know we get too much time really too much time as an extrovert with other people that can feel draining. If we get too much time alone we will need people to sort

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: would charge us, and so we can kind of go both ways am avert. And so the point is that that's just one example of what someone might say is part of your constitution, and that's not to say that someone who's, you know, really sort of naturally more introverted, let's say you know, can't sometimes be extra. But you can't, can't also be on it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's just a matter of really honoring who you are at your core, how you were designed your unique divine design. And I talk about this even in terms of like emPower. So three unique powers that we all have. We all have all three, but we all have sort of different varieties of them. We have different amounts of them some people have might might actually have more Sovereign inside of them, if you will, and a little less Impresario or more for spirit, a little

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sovereign, I mean. We all have our unique combinations of the ways that we were designed, and the unique powers that we were born with, and that we also can develop, of course, but that we were really born with

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: tendencies, aptitudes, Whatever you want to whatever turn you want to use that are that I believe that we were designed. We were uniquely designed to live our own Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so here's the reason why this is so important, and this is something that it took me a long time to learning. I'm. Still learning. This is about the the absolute importance of honoring how you uniquely were designed your inner constitution, your natural makeup, independently of whatever outside influences may have impacted you. Now, of course, there are different types of outside influences. Sometimes

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they can be negative, and that, you know, we're traumatized, and we experience, you know, massive setbacks that really stunt our growth in some ways, or we experience. Uh, you know, we have certain fears that that resulted as a You know we have inside. As a result of experience we have growing up. Um, but some of them can also be positive. We could have received um a lot of wonderful support and reinforcement for certain qualities that we have, or certain uh, you know things that we were taught

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um, or encouraged to see the world in a certain way it can be negative or positive. I put these in folks because I don't think anything is entirely negative or positive, Right? It's about how you use it. It's about what you do with it? I mean there are plenty. I I heard the turn recently. I love this um, he said. Incentive calling, and I forgot the gentleman's name,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I don't know if he originated this term. But, he said, you know there's this term Ptsd. Post Dramatic post traumatic stress disorder, because what I like to think about post traumatic growth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What about the growth that happens as a result of the the the, you know, traumas that we experience in life and I. In other words, that's another way of looking at it that a lot of times we grow as a result of these experiences. But ultimately, at the same time I think it's absolutely key

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to honor our own unique makeup.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Why is that? I? I said years ago, and I've been saying it ever since here's something you can write down. There is no piece

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in denying any part of who you are,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: except all parts of me,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and you will know it. Now, why is that this comes directly from my own like experiences? And you may have experienced this, too,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when basically, that for me, personally. And I talked about this, some of the episodes that that I was shamed a lot from my emotional sensitivity, and i'm ashamed of those. Oh, you're too melodramatic, or You're too hypersensitive, or you're too. It's, you know, hysterical. Or what have you all these derogatory terms? There are a lot of times placed on people like me, and possibly you, who have a certain emotional sensitivity, and maybe we don't process emotions the way others do. Or maybe we're not as good at being verbal about how we feel. And so they're,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or you know, others might see us as too sensitive or impossible, or over reacting, or what have you? But the reality is for me. And this is a big, big thing for me to learn is that, uh, even though I was criticized and shamed for being hyper, sensitive, emotionally sensitive, it turns out to be superpowers. But how did I get to that point? Because of all the years of being changed and criticized? And you know the little for this, or dismissed. And then I did that to myself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then what did I find? I found that I felt worse and smaller and horrible, and I hated myself. I found that it didn't work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It didn't work for me to deny this core part of what of who I am. I am sensitive

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to certain things in certain ways. I'm kind of making it more generalized because I am emotionally sensitive when it comes to some things. But i'm not as emotionally sensitive when it comes to others. So even emotional sensitivity doesn't mean you're sensitive to reactive and over over reactive right across the board emotionally. It could be just certain situations for certain things that i'm more tuned into, and therefore my i'm more responsive to than other things that other people might be more

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sensitive or turned into a more responsive to or reactive to. So that's why it's important to Also, you know, kind of discern things like that. But the point is that I found that, denying my emotions in my emotional sensitivity, there was no piece in it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If it was the exact opposite. There was pain, there was struggle, there were problems. It created problems in my relationships, it great problems in my self esteem. It created problems of my jobs. It created problems across the board for me to deny

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what is a natural, innate part of me. And what is I, as I discovered, is actually a superpower. It's actually one of my great gifts. So it doesn't work

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it doesn't work. There is no piece in denying any part of who you are, except or in grace, all parts of you,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and you will know peace.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's the thought that I want to share with you is that in order to fully feel at peace, and this more emPowered, we must embrace who we are. Embrace our inner constitution, our make sure if you will.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And here's the thing, though, about that is that it can be. It's really important to also be able to discern, parse, differentiate sort of recognize notice, you know. So out whatever term you want to use. It's really also the a big part of that a big part of when we talk about embracing yourself

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is to and embracing your natural design with the design, is also to be able to to discern well what is a natural part of what I have, and what is a part of me that evolved, or um, or uh, or or was formed um, or even as it formed as a result of

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: traumas I've experienced for situations that maybe um, you know, really didn't serve me ultimately in my growth, because there could be other things to where someone was constantly complimenting this and telling us that we're perfect, and everything's great that can actually be not so helpful either, you know. So we might have an overblown sense of ourselves, or you know not, take responsibility for when we make mistakes. I'm just using that as an example.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So i'm just saying that it's really important to learn how to discern between Who who is is This is how i'd be, maybe, or how i'm feeling, or whatever is this a a reflection of who I actually am in my core?

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or is this a distortion of who I want? This is a reaction against something else, you know. Is this a trigger? Is this from this is a defense mechanism. Is this A.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where I would say. But in terms of our natural in itself, I don't see it that, like we are naturally one that we are naturally have all these defense mechanisms they form for a reason, and i'm not saying we don't need them at times. But i'm talking about what's underneath that that true or self,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what I would even call your Truth, which I define as your inner knowing who you are and who you are here to be. It serves as a compass. I did a whole episode about that. Okay, and actually a few episodes about that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's really important to learn this term. Here's why sometimes people will behave a certain way,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and the way they're behaving can actually be quite rude or quite unhelpful even to to do them to others. Um! And their defense might be. What is this is who I am? This is just too Why? Well, I just.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And first of all, I would say that there's a even in the energy of that. You can kind of tell that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's really coming from a truly authentic, natural, peaceful place, right? Because it sounds defensive. Um. And and also that sometimes people can use that as as a defense,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: basically because they don't want to change. Well, I just why it, and that is just the way I am, and a lot of times, or like I don't believe in there. I don't believe in self, or I don't believe in this, and a lot of times that in my experience comes from the fact that they actually don't want to look

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: at themselves. They don't want to face the parts of them that maybe are not so helpful, and there may be um, you know defense mechanisms, or what have you but ultimately need healing? And so that's what I would look at is when it comes to what is a natural part of yourself versus maybe a distortion

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is if it needs healing

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is if it is, if it doesn't truly bring you peace.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If it is not truly like. I find that when I am honoring a part of me,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: uh, or like a a an aspect of me, or an expression of me, it's Usually there's this like team

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: piece that I feel

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when I honor that part, or when I um honor something that is a Truth for me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um! That's usually I find a good

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: decider.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um, I think, in a previous episode I, as an example, I talked about how like What's an inner block? And this is the last episode in inner block. I i'm sorry a an intuitive one. Emotional block versus an intuitive walk, and I talked about emotional blocks, and this is being emotionally charged with some kind of fear. But an intuitive one is one where it just feels right.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um or or sorry guy with the block is, basically there's no fear within it. It's actually some part of us that's intuitively saying from a wise place like No. This probably isn't the direction you want to go in. Or maybe you need to do this, for you know it's trying to basically kind of let us know that there's something that we need to reevaluate, or we consider

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and find something that actually feels more right without that that intuitive block. And so that would be something that I would say, Oh, yeah, this yeah, This feels right.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Um or this um that I think that I've created, or i'm thinking of creating that this feels right, but it's from a deep, peaceful. There's like a deep piece inside that. That's at least how I tend to recognize when something is a true expression of me, or a, or or a true like, or an intuitive, or places that something that my Truth is genuinely from that deep, knowing, guiding towards or saying, Yes, this feels right. Yes, like that in our compass compass. It says,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Uh-huh. You got it as opposed to

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Yes, Uh-huh! This feels right. So it's about noticing that, and a But another example, too, would be like. For example, when people think that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: just because they're angry, that therefore they're an angry person, I personally do not believe that no one is just an angry person. Anger exists for a reason. It's in reaction to something, and so it's about recognizing that anger honoring. I talk about this all the time listening to it. What's the wisdom in it and doing The drawing out is another technique that I teach to really bring out while out that anger, and find out what's going on under the surface, and find out the true wisdom or messages that it's trying

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to convey to you. So i'm saying that anger is a feeling. It is not a state of being. Anger is a reaction. It is not a

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is not like this is who I am. It's how you feel. It's not who you are, and so that's another thing to We can get confused and not realize that we're confused. That's the thing. It can take some time to start to notice. Oh, wait a minute. What am I taking for granted is me? I think this is me. It's not really me. I've been dealing uh helping someone recently where you know, for so long. He has had anxiety and felt like there was, you know that that um

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and kind of gone to a place with no hope um, and tended towards, you know kind of a like um resignation or or a um,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know hopelessness helpless this kind of place,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I know because I know this person really well. That's not who he is, that is a reaction based on childhood trauma. That is a reaction. But the thing is that he had unconsciously become so identified with that reaction if he never even imagined he could feel differently. He never realized that. That's not actually who he is. It's not just his law in life to constantly go to that place. It's actually more for him to.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know that that that it's that there's a broader way that he can respond to setbacks. It's not to say that sometimes we have that we don't sometimes go to that place. Oh, well, I can't believe this happened,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but there is a natural resilience that I know he has that he just Hasn't, been accessing, but the thing with him is that he had seen. Well, this is who I am, or he just thought, I guess again, unconsciously. Well, that was just who he is. And i'm saying, that's not who we are,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and the same thing goes from like my emotional sensitivity. The more work I've done on myself, the less emotionally sensitive I am. I would say that the more intuitive I am. So It's like that emotional reactivity has actually feel as it's here. It's become more of an inner knowing intuition and an empathy, a healthy kind of empathy. That means that I can sense where someone isn't have a feeling without

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: go into that sad or or whatever that place is. With that that I can be aware of it. So you see how it's like That's a healthier expression of my emotional sense. It's more about having an intuitive empathy rather than an emotional reactivity.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just an example just to give you an example of how you might have parts of you that are actually like. They are expressions of your true self, that they've been distorted

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: into, you know, into making you think over. This is who I want, so it's it's. This is a journey here. This is not an overnight thing. This takes some time, but I want to bring this to your attention

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about honoring our inner constitution. But that part of that journey in that process is to recognize what is a true expression of who we are or who we are here to be that Truth. But in knowing that deep peace like this.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is? Who is that? You know? What are its true expressions of what

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or true? You know parts of it, but it's like Yes, this feels very deeply true that this is really meaning versus what our reactions, defense, mechanisms, triggers, distortions of that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: true constitution that you will in our constitution uh something that my, my,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: my feeling I talked about is actually, you know, talking about how we have, you know, two sides of the same point. So while someone may be super reliable and and responsible, and you know um. You know someone who gets it done, and they can be, you know, a lot of upon to get things done at the same time. The flip side of that might mean that they're not. They're not as ready to change. They're not as adventurous. You know they're a little more predictable which can be kind of you know. Sort of boring, if you will. I again. I'm not trying to put, you know, judgments on it. I'm saying that

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: there can be two two sides at the same point. So i'm going to throw that in there as an extra little thing is to consider that sometimes what is a true expression of you means that it can also lend itself to. Sometimes it's harder for us to make changes, or or think differently, or shift in different ways. So it's also a moderate working with your own constitution. So it's about honoring

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: your inner constitution, recognizing and recognizing what is an expression of uh, what is, you know, expression, or related to your your true inner self, but at the same time working with what? And that's for me one of the biggest things in my own journey. What I teach others to do work with who you are, don't try to be

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: anyone other than who you are. Release, Strip away, get away, you know. Get in the stuff that was imposed on you, or that you absorb a little distortions, or that are like, you know, fear based, or what have you do your best to release that? So you can reveal the true, soft, and if you like, and then

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: also work with that work with who you are, knowing that. Yeah, it means that some situations you might have a different reaction than others,

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and honoring that, and also learning how to work with yourself, so that you can move through those situations or rise to those occasions, whatever it is in the healthiest way possible. Given how you are uniquely design, not working with our own unique

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: design, our own from our constitution, and making the most appropriate, we naturally um loving ourselves, for

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I hope this has been helpful, as always. This is Emily Eldredge from ChangeLight feel free to join us in our change. Like community community dot ChangeLight that. We're actually gonna be making a lot of it. Changes very soon, Very exciting things happening. All right, take care, and I hope you have a great week, and I will see you again next week.


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