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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good. My name is Emily Eldredge. I am your host. Um, and I work for greater good. I'm. Also the founder of ChangeLight, and the creator of the ChangeLight System, where we teach you how to do inner work that accelerates your power to feel good and do good to make whatever difference that it is that you are here to make. That you desire to make in the world
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: today is a big topic, and it's something that I've had to learn to do a lot um lately. I I think, in past couple of episodes. I've talked about divine timing and like trusting and timing, and you know that that there's a timing that's kind of beyond our control or our reach our grasp, and sometimes just have to go with the flow, as they say, and just go with what is and just trust that things are happening
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to the right timing. Well, um, i'm going to talk about a similar topic,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and the turn that I want to use is surrender because a lot of that that's a lot of what we're talking about here, and so I want it, you know. So it's like, what is surrender. Um, and also um. I'll share a few stories about what I've discovered when I've had to surrender. The The reason why this is a topic that I wanted to talk about this week, as always is, because it's been something in my life this week.
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Um, lately. Uh, let me put it this way. That uh for the past few weeks the woman who works with me for me, who's one of my dearest friends, and, you know sadly, has had a lot of health issues, and I'm only sharing this because she has also shared it publicly. Um! She had a lot of health issues, and she ended up in the hospital um for a period of time. And we The thing is, we had all these plans about what we were going to create, and all these deadlines. We're going to do this by this. Take this by this table. We really had it all worked out. I mean, we really just before she went
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the hospital. We, you know she's like created this this schedule for us, and it was just fabulous, and it's like, okay. So I was all on my um on on track with my targets. So then let me pull this down a little bit.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So then she's she'd already been having some health issues that were just inexplicable. It was very weird. It was like one thing after another, and then all of a sudden, she ends up in the hospital. So I kind of went, Okay, You know what i'm just gonna keep doing my part, and then maybe she'll catch up. Or maybe, you know, we may have to move some things I don't know, but i'm just gonna keep doing what I know I can do. So I kept going, and you know, and was completely like just really needed like, wanted her to take her time, because I know how
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it goes with health issues, and I'm going to talk about that a little bit in terms of why they taught me to surrender um, and that, you know, just really wanted her to focus on her healing. So we didn't talk about work. I was just there for her. She's in another country, so we were only virtual, unfortunately, through you know Whatsapp and stuff. But the point is that that happened. But I was like, Well, no, I'm i'm good. I'm going to stay on track with my stuff. So at least I can get my part of the work done,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and then
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Wednesday night, the night before Thanksgiving here in the United States, I fell down the stairs at the subway Twenty Third Street Station, twenty-three, and Park Avenue. I was coming from a meeting with someone, and about the last five steps. Um! All of a sudden just boom! My legs flipped up from under me. I landed on my back and my side and my arm.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Thank God, I did not land on my head. Thank God, I did not hit my spine. Okay, So blessings. But the point is, I landed really, really hard, and it was one of those like you know, takes the wind out of you, and it's like, Oh, my God! Am I okay? And so the point is, it was a pretty pretty bad fall,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and i'm sitting on the stairs, and nobody was coming, which I thought was weird, because it's usually really busy. But it took me a minute. I'm sitting on the stairs going. Okay, Can I get home, you know, or should I call an ambulance or something? What should I do? The bottom line is find it was able to get up. I hobbled my way home, you know. Got home. My husband put ice packs on me. We, you know we took care of it, but my point is, I ended up being a
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: pretty severe pain and hobbling around for that entire weekend. Now I've had all these plans right about what I was gonna do and create in terms of my work. And of course we also had some social fun stuff to do as well. And um. So what ends up happening was, I was actually able to achieve the social things that we had to do. But I had to really scale back on other stuff, and that included, I had to scrap some work plans that I had. And so here you've got my the gather only two.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How does it ChangeLight, right now? And You've got the gal who works for me, who is like a powerhouse, and she's amazing. And then you've got me, You know she's in the hospital, and completely not able to do anything. And then here I am in pain and trying to just rest and not, you know, work or push too hard or anything. And so basically the point is, you know, as they say, you know, what do they say? The best leg plans whatever there's a term about that. But of course there's the other term, which is, you know, when we make plans, God laughs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I really set their thinking. Okay, then. And I've learned, though I've learned from experience. Don't fight it,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: don't argue with it, don't try to push through it, don't try to necessarily get around it. When these things happen. They happen, and they often happen for a reason, and there's no point in trying to fight them. And I mean that also, especially when it comes to health. I've learned from deep, long experience that trying to push through with when you've got a health problems or try to, you know, create, make push things to happen when clearly the universe or something is saying. No, no, no, you need to slow this down.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You need to relax. You need to back it up, and then just pivot,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: readjust, find other ways of moving forward or just surrendering, and ultimately those surrendering to what is so. This is why This has been a topic for me, because I've had to remind remember. And actually, luckily, it's actually becomes a skill when things like this happen like I didn't freak out. I didn't get upset. I didn't get angry. I didn't get like Daniel, but I was gonna do out. No, I because I know from experience. There's no point
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and getting upset about what is, and there's no point in trying to push through as there's something didn't happen, whereas though your body is functioning like it normally does. It's just no point. So then, the point is is that it reminded me or I, I was able to
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It be in a place of acceptance and go. Okay. Then I guess we're gonna have to change our plans here and not be upset about it. But then it also led to a conversation that I had with the gal who works with me for me about surrender, because her situation is so extreme. The The thing that she's had to deal with, and she's going to be fine. She's going to be okay. But it's a recovery process. Um, But it's so extreme that Basically, I ultimately said to
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, I think, that you're going to learn a lot from this. You're going to grow a lot. I think it's important to notice what you experience and what changes you notice in terms of your perspective, etc. And I said, I know it's really scary, because you know, her life could have been threatened. So I know it's really scary, but it's also interesting how this could be happening for a reason, and that there's some growth, and one of the things I mentioned to her was surrender. This is an opportunity
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to surrender to what is, and then I I texted with her about that a bit, and ultimately she said, You know, Thank you. I really needed to hear this right now because she is a go. Get her. She is a get stuff done. She is amazing. One of the things I love working. Why, I love working with her. She has a great heart, but also she is just kick ass. She gets things done. Um! But that this is really about surrender,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or at least that's what I mentioned to her. That surrender could be a big part of this for her as well. And then I spoke as someone who I've had a lot of experiences with surrender. So here's how I would just quickly define surrender. I want to make it clear that surrender is let me. I'm going to use two terms.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Give up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and give in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's giving up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it's giving in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So before I get into some of the double meetings of that um I like to think of surrender as a deep state. Deep acceptance usually has to do with when we're surrendering to what is we have to deeply accept that this is what is so. What does that mean, that means letting go of control. And if anything, when things like this happen, it can also be a reminder that yeah, we think we have control total control. But sometimes we don't,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so it's deep acceptance. It's letting go of control or recognizing that you're not the only one in control here, and also a deep state of trust. And this is what I've had. This. This is the part that I found to be difficult. Sometimes when it comes to surrender, trusting
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that everything is going according to some plan
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is one way of looking at it. That may not be your plan, but it's a better plan than the one that you may have set out for yourself also trusting in timing that maybe now is not the time to be doing what you thought you were supposed to be doing. It's trusting that that whatever has just happened is ultimately can have positive results for you. So there's a lot of layers inside of surrender acceptance, letting go of control
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: trust. These can be really, really, really hard to do, especially for those of us who are changemakers. We're all about trying to make a difference. So we're all about helping other people who are all about getting things done. But I speak, I I I explain this, I say, this is someone who, as I said, I've had to go through many, many, many years and many different periods of deep surrender, and it was hard and it hurt,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but it came as a result of my own health problems and my own emotional problems where I couldn't function as normal. I couldn't sometimes get out of bed. I couldn't work. I couldn't think straight. I couldn't, and so it forced me, because anytime I tried to do the opposite, which was to try to push through or to try to effect, change, or do something. It would backfire. There'd be a backlash,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and then I would, either, you know, fall apart even more, or I create more pain and struggle for myself. And so it taught me this. Very over and over again. I felt like the universe, was teaching me very important lesson of surrender
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and implicit in that is letting go of control and trust. Just trust, surrender to what is let go, of trying to control everything and trust that there is a higher plan, a higher power, that there are forces. There are things happening that you may not and see around you, but that if this is a necessary period right now that you need to go through in order to maybe prepare you for a bigger purpose,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but also to allow you to and and to grow, but also because maybe now you know, whatever plan you had is not actually the plan that was th that really is in service of the highest good, your highest good, or other people's highest good. So i'm going to use the terms again. Give up and give in. Here's what I like about both of those terms. When we think of surrender. Often we think of I give up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I want to make it clear. I don't see surrender as resignation like. Oh, there's no point,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. There's sort of a negative implication in that. But giving up. Now look at what you do when we give up. Look at what in my hands are doing, giving up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so within surrender is that I give up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but not even not from the point of view of resignation, like Oh, there's no point in everything. I do sucks, and i'm a failure. No, It's okay. I give up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I've been trying too hard on my own. I have been struggling. I have been controlling what I thought I could control,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but since i'm realizing that i'm not in as much control, or that there are forces that I just have to accept right now, or circumstances that I just need to accept what is right Now I give up notice. My hands I give up,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and the way I see that. And this again came out of my own period of surrender, where I was like I give up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because I'm giving up. I am letting go of trying to control, and i'm accepting what is, and i'm trusting I'm actually putting some of my trust in whether you want to call it God, the universe, the mighty. I am the all that is whatever
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that you're giving up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You're basically saying, I don't have all the answers, or I don't know what's next. Well, I don't know how to overcome this. Well, I just can't do this anymore. Especially. I just can't do it alone.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I give up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: isn't that cool surrender is given up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It's also giving in. Think about this when you talk about surrendering to something you're giving in, you know you might be giving in, so some people might say, Well, I I've finally just surrendered to. Uh, you know, this Person's da da da Da: Okay, you gave in. But another way of looking at it. I give in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I give in when I surrender,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm. Saying, I accept what is I can't control. I'm trusting, but it's also an opportunity to go inside
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and to listen rather than to the cacophony outside, or being pulled this way or that way, or trying to continue to do things outwardly. Give in
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: trust, listen, tune in use this as an opportunity to tune in. To what is your Truth telling you? What is your wisdom telling you? What can you do even within this space that may be different than what you thought, but that feels right as opposed to going according to whatever timeline you've said, or whatever your you know, your analytical mind is saying, Well, this is what we have to do.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What if you were to listen within
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to what your intuition and your and your Truth knows, and listen to that, and follow that, and not feel like you have to constantly be pushing or doing, but really surrendering to what's inside, which I've had to do a lot as I mentioned, so give up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: given. I have, you know, one of the things I shared with this woman who works with me for me. She's really one of my dearest friends. It feels weird to even call her that. But we are working on ChangeLight together is that I mentioned two of the biggest parts of my own work
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that came from surrendering directly from surrender, and in my case they came from surrendering to my pain,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: surrendering to the reality that I couldn't function at the same level as I wanted to as I normally could, and it was in those moments when I surrendered to the pain that I was, let me know. I say I mean physical pain, I mean emotional pain. I mean the reality of not being able to work or do anything, and I surrendered
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that what happened was I went into this deep space of acceptance of being,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I've got amazing messages. So one of the messages and I've talked about this in in probably a previous episode, Maybe other multiple, More than one, I don't remember, but is the concept of Guiding Star
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of an inner Guiding Star.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So even in my work there's so much evidence of surrender, and that Guiding Star was a download. I got that just said Guiding Star. And it was basically the inner mentor that we each have.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is the example of our optimal self, of our highest self of who we are capable of being, to inspire us, and guide us to live our own Truth, and to be as free and as whole and healthy and rating as we possibly can be guiding. Star came. I remember exactly the afternoon that it happened, but it happened,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it came in. It was only because I surrendered that there was space. This is how I see it, because I surrendered because I stopped fighting because I stopped, you know, just fighting against the the the pain that I was feeling and accepting the reality.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And actually in that moment another thing I asked for, too, was I needed help.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I allowed space for that help and that wisdom and the downloads, if you will, to come in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's only when I stopped fighting, and I surrendered another one that was actually previous to that was the one I received that said both leaders, that the purpose here is to work with world leaders. I got that when I actively surrendered I wasn't trying to get a message. I was just in so much excruciating physical emotional pain that I had no choice.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just I like I can't find this pain anymore. So I just said, I surrender, and I just gave up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and went into the pain gave in to the pain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then it was in that moment I went to a space of no body just literally felt nobody just such an incredible piece. And then from world leaders,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it's. And again, as I see it is when we, when we surrender,
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: when we surrender, when we stop fighting, when we stop trying to hard when we stop trying to force things to be the way we want them to be when we allow when we accept. When we let go of control, and we trust
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they were actually opening space for the powers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It want to help us and support it that are trying to guide us. We allow space and opening for the wisdom that's always here for us inside, and maybe sometimes coming from somewhere else. But it's there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's what it really is about with surrender. I want to also recommend something else. If you really want to dive into surrender uh Gabby Bernstein, I once heard. I think she did a Ted Talk, or an over talk or something about surrender. And she talked about this. The five steps of surrender really really good, highly recommend looking at her, looking that up Gabby Bernstein. The five stages or steps, or something up. Surrender highly. Recommend it
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: all right. That's it for me. But I guess what I would leave you with is to notice an area in your life where maybe you are trying to part. Maybe you're pushing too fast. Maybe you're trying too much to control something you can't control. What if you were to allow yourself to surrender, surrender to what is, except in this moment that this is what it is.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Give up
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and give in
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and allow
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the other forces that are around. You need to do their job to bring forward their wisdom and their light and their clarity, so that, moving forward, you can before, with greater peace and ease and clarity, and less struggle and suffering and resistance and pressure.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So consider surrender as something you allow in your life that you maybe even actively cultivate more of in your life, so that you're not so that you can discover the magic. What happens when you stop trying to do it all yourself, and you allow space
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: for others. The scene and the unseen to show up and support you, and enable you to actually do things in a more effective and higher way. And maybe even people open avenues for your Truth that you didn't even know were there. That's what happened to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All right, so thank you so much as always. I hope this has been helpful, come to ChangeLight that world. And um, you can always email me, Emily. A ChangeLight that that I would love to hear from you. So thank you so much, and I hope you have a great week until we see each other again next week. Bye,
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