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📺 IWFGG | THE Question to Ask Yourself When You Desire or Want to Create Something





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the creator of founder of ChangeLight the creator of the ChangeLight System www dot ChangeLight dot world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where I teach changemakers and leaders, people who are trying to make a positive difference in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where I teach you inner work that accelerates your power to change the world how do you take that inner darkness and transform it back to like, how do you get out of struggle.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And into peace and access that incredible untapped power within you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that you can make a bigger difference that's what this is all about, and so i'm really, really happy to be here, always every single week with you all, thank you to those of you who are returning, and thank you to those of you who are brand new.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But those of you who have been watching you know that I enter an interesting saga of moving from.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: tucson and moving my husband from tucson to New York City and he's going to be joining me there it's a whole long story, but just full disclosure just because I love to add these little like touches and I am sitting on the floor on our mattress.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is a pillow in the background here against the blank of bedroom wall.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm actually in my pajamas right now i'm not even hiding like we're not even doing like just pajama bottoms like this is full on pajamas do you want to know why because I don't have any Clean Clothes left because we sold her wash her dress.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So this is real life folks it's a bit crazy here, but you know what I think that a cleanup good right, I mean i've got a jewelry on the barn and you know we're ready to come.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I do have my I made sure I brought my ring light and my my microphone to this final trip, you know final push to finish the move out of this House and have both my husband and me living.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In New York City, but just so you know it's been a little crazy around here i'm definitely definitely burned out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: On the moving part of things so now that you know what's going on in my world there's so much more I haven't told you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm basically that I want to share a question with you that I and others have found to be incredibly powerful, this is a question that I have been using for years.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I understand there is a teacher out there who like this is her thing, this is the question she tends to ask i've actually been asking myself this question since years before that, but then I found out that she does this, and I was like well that's great.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because it's a brilliant brilliant question and it's a great way to tune into what it is we truly desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, and then also magnetized that to us, so let me tell you what story, the reason why I was thinking about this question is because I was, I met with an.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Previous client a client from years ago, and when I worked with him, years ago, he was really struggling and it's interesting because you could see.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That he is really a very like naturally joyful person, you know, there are those of us who looks like you could say this person's natural piece, for you know we all have our different I guess energetic essences.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, in his case, though, like you can tell it that you can tell that was his natural stick to the energetic to be joyful to be excited to be you know just constantly you know inspired and doing all kinds of things and yet sadly.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He was really struggling in his business and the CEO of his firm, he was really depressed he felt very trapped, he was struggling in his marriage and with his kids he had a lot of wounds from childhood, with his own.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Father especially which, to be honest with you, I find that with a lot of theaters is that a lot of them have Daddy issues.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know sort of difficult relationships that they had with their fathers or even accept relationships with their own father's so anyway, he and I were meeting and he was I haven't really spoken to him in a long time, but he thought of me recently and said we've got to get together.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I happened to be in town and he said Okay, so I was writing in my journal she goes i've had so many breakthroughs, and I was writing in my Journal and I found myself writing about this wall.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I finally broke through a wall and he said I instantly thought of you Emily because I remembered the work that we did years ago you were the one that made me aware of this fall.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, and we process, we did some things, but the point is, is he said immediately thought of you and i'm like I have to update her.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So his life is completely changed it's really worked on himself and he was trying all kinds of things over the years, but he finally did have massive wonderful breakthrough recently.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, and so that's why he wanted to reach out to me, but one of the things that's happened is that he's actually getting a divorce.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you know he'd been struggling in his marriage for a long time it just turned out that they really were not aligned in a lot of ways.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, and so that's just the way it is you know, neither person is bad and they just just not working anymore so he's getting a divorce.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he was talking about like how he's getting back into dating and he said so I made myself a let's he goes because Emily I realized he's he's great so energetic Alex that people's Emily I realized I need to be in a relationship.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I know I know you know that's that's kind of a controversial thing to say, or are really should I forgot exactly what he said, but basically he said I do I need to be in a relationship.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I noticed that it wasn't necessarily from a place of insecurity or just like really loves having a partner, and once like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A life buddy you know, an adventurer to like enjoying himself, you know they can enjoy each other.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and go through life adventures together, so it was something he realized that he was very open to and, if anything, looks really, really wanted.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm not as a springboard out of the old relationship, but just really wanted in his life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because he's reinventing himself right he's going for all these changes and so it's important for us to honor what it is that we really want in need.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So he was so cute because he did what so many people do he wrote a list here's what I want he's I made a list this'll this'll this'll this'll this and i'm not meeting these women who, but you know they're married so obviously can't be with that, but I realized this is what I need this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I was like okay great that's fantastic, and I said, is it Okay, if I offer another question to ask yourself and you said yeah sure so keep taking notes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I said ask yourself just one question just one question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: write this down how do I want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A relationship.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh that's.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like oh i'm he starts writing it down how I want to feel in a relationship.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He got it right away the power of this question, but I want this episode to be about why is this such a powerful question to ask ourselves, and also, why do we fail to ask ourselves this question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So he wrote it down and he's going to write down how he wants to feel in a relationship, and so, for example, some of the feelings he might have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sort of through these after I said i'm not trying to put ideas in your head, but, like, for example, you know you might want to feel supported might want to feel safe in a relationship you want, you might want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like you know joy in and and and humor I mean anything you want, we all want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: different things in a relationship and it's just a matter of sitting with yourself and being really honest with yourself and saying how do I want to feel that what do I want my checklist how do I want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, first of all let me just say that this is such an important question to ask that we don't actually ask ourselves for a number of reasons.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because oftentimes when we think about what we want to create we're focusing on what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And what question tends to be more of a left brain question, so what he was doing by making that list is he was going into his left brain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's very common and I know, women do this, too, but it's like if I create this checklist of what I want, then i'm going to get what I want, so you might say, I want a guy who has a.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: job you know that makes a certain amount per year and I and and I want a guy who has blond hair and you know brown eyes, I want a guy who you know is taller than me, and so we make this laundry list of things that we want that person to have or embody for them to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But there's a very so that's more of a left brain question as opposed to the right brain, which is more, how do I want to feel when you're really tapping into the emotions of the emotional desires um.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another reason why is, we often are stuck in old patterns of thinking and feeling, so we don't actually consider how it is, we want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a shift it's a mind shift to actually go from well here's what i'm used to feeling, but like how do I want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a lot of times we're really scared to even ask ourselves, or even consider what we want, or how we want to feel because we're afraid we're going to be disappointed.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because oftentimes we want to feel good feelings, but the reason why.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What has happened in our past oftentimes is that when we felt good feelings it's often followed by disappointment by bad feelings.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, then we can have parts of US those exPowers that want to prevent us from feeling good feelings, because they don't want us to suffer the crash of the disappointment and that pain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's one of the reasons why we there's actually a few reasons why we tend not to actually ask ourselves how we want to feel and another reason that's coming to mind too is often we can feel like our feelings are out of our control.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the idea of actually asking to feel a certain way can feel a bit like asking for too much.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know kind of like well I don't feel like I don't know if I can even draw how I feel, and so we can tend to not think in terms of how you want to feel so going back to the in terms of like focusing on what you want here's in the making that laundry list here's the problem with that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You may have your laundry list and oh my God this man or this woman or whoever you're attracted to wow this person shows up in your life they have all the qualifications oh my gosh they have everything.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: wow that's amazing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's But then what about how they make you feel so you may get all of the elements that you thought you wanted, but now that you have those are you really getting the result that you truly your heart.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's where that question of how do I want to feel guess at the core of why we even want things to begin with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, whether it's I want more money or I want a better job or I want a better relationship or I want a nicer couch or I want that, ultimately, when you go down into the core of that desire like what's fueling that desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can almost guarantee there's actually a desire for the feeling it's a you want a certain feeling that you think.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That thing that person that condition that situation that experience will give you okay so on the surface, you know, this is what I want, but deep down well okay well why do you how do you want that thing to make you feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's the feeling that we're almost always after so, for example, you might say, I want someone I want a partner who makes a lot more money than I do okay great all right, what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What feeling will that give you to have a partner who's making more money than what's the feeling that you're seeking, by asking for that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where, when you say how do I want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're actually you're actually asking the real you're going to elicit the the answer to the actual desire that you have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're going to find out what their actual desire is, and the reason why that can be so incredibly important is the because what happens is first of all.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're tuning into the feeling that you desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, again that's really the actual desire it's not the concrete thing that you think will give you that feeling it's the actual that's actually what what maybe you want someone who's making more money than you because you'll feel more safe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you'll feel more secure you'll avoid having to struggle as much you'll be able to stay home with the children.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you'll be able to afford to go on TRIPS um you can still keep doing your job, but you're not carrying the pressure of like having to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: float everyone take care of everyone.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: On It could be that you really value, you know physical possessions like you really like to be able to buy things like that maybe that's part of one of your love languages is gift giving.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you want to be able to afford to do that and so that gives you that sense of joy and generosity and you know pleasure that you've got from that so there can be all kinds of reasons, all kinds of feelings that you're seeking.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In asking for in this case, someone who makes more money than you to be a part, you know, in a relationship with someone who makes more money than.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's about tuning into the feeling that you're seeking, which is really I found the mat vast majority of the time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's the actual desire that you have because you want a certain feeling state and you think that thing will give it to you so by tuning into that you're actually asking for the real desire of tapping into the true desire that you have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For and that's what you're really after also by asking how do I want to feel simply by asking that question and noticing those feelings you're shifting your vibration you're shifting your energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that it's more in alignment with the feeling you actually desire and in that case, as your energy shifts it becomes more magnetic to what we're wanting right so because, if you're going around going oh I don't want this and I don't want that you know or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you're not the point is if you're not tuned into that energy then you're probably not going to be attracting things that are in alignment with that energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That you want to have more than your life so by honoring and acknowledging being honest with yourself the seller wants to feel you're shifting their energy into.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh, and also it's also an acknowledgement of like you can feel differently than you weren't feeling before it's amazing how this question will shift and exPower when i'm doing my Drawing Out Process and i'm working.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With a struggle inside of someone i'm working with that part of them and i'll say to that part i'll say you know, so I know that you've been really struggling for a long time, and I know that you've been in a lot of pain and I know that it's been really, really hard.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm just curious you know I know you've been feeling this way, how do you want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's so cool how that exPower will kind of start to go home, well, I really want to feel happy, I want to feel free, I want to feel joyful I want to feel taken care of I want to feel safe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's so cool because I can hear you all my sessions or over the phone or most of the month, and I can hear the person's voice like how that exPower within them shifts just like being asked that question because it starts to in in in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It invites it to it helps it realize that it has a choice and how it feels that it doesn't have to keep feeling this way it can actually feel this way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's all by way of saying there's an energetic shift we ask ourselves how we want to feel we start to tap into those feelings.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And another reason why that's really important to have said is because then it magnetized those things to you that are in alignment with that feeling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And those might be things that you never ever ever thought with gives you that feeling and that's a really important thing to remember i'll tell you story.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the final reason why this is such a powerful question to ask is because what happens is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When you've tuned into that feeling of let's say in relationship, I want to feel safe, I want to feel taken care of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I want to feel like my love is received as like that I can view love and balance proceed like that's something really important to me to me it's not enough to be in a relationship to just like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Give love and not receive it, or just receive love and not give it like to me part of the pleasure of being in a relationship is someone to whom I can just give this love, because it feels so good for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's one of the joyful things in my marriage is that my husband receives it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he loves it and he does it and we have this even exchange and actually like recently there was just a brief moment where I could feel that I was giving some kind of love and he wasn't receiving it and it was hurt.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he wasn't trying to hurt me he was just acting unconsciously wasn't thinking about it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's by way of saying that that's really important to me is that I feel like there's this flow and that the person is receiving my love as much as i'm receiving love from them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's just one example, but what's so cool about this too is when you're tapped into the actual feeling that you want to feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that when those things start to show up in your life so whether it's a relationship, whether it's someone with them, you could potentially be in relationship with whether it's someone or something you know whether I mean, frankly, you could be like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: searching for couches online and, on the one hand, you might be like you know what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That has a lot of the elements that I thought I wanted, but I don't know I don't know how it feels it doesn't feel right it doesn't quite feel you know, does it look like it feels comfortable or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um yeah I mean, I know that sort of a silly example but that's just one way to look at it is you think about so like for me personally.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When I look at when I go shopping whether it's online shop very much I really don't like shopping, but what I do nevertheless is like tune into this this feel joyful feeling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: like this item and i'm very particular even down to like can opener like I want to go can opener i'll be like wait a minute.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know how do I want to feel when I hold back hand over and it sounds laborious or something but it's actually kind of fun.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because, then what ends up happening is everything in your House and someone might say this is like Marie kondo you know what sparks joy in you, but it's really true it's like then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That simple Oregon that's just a can opener because it has a certain feel to it and because it has a certain color or you know and it works, a certain way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's like oh this feels good it brings just just a little tiny like subconscious will like oh yeah it's kind of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A little bit better and it all kind of accumulates see so the point is that, as you know, and you tune into the feelings what happens is you start to recognize.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When those people, those situations those objects those whatever's experiences what's aligned with those feelings and what is it because you know how you want to feel, and if you start to notice that well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It has like the elements of what I like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about it okay so that's where you go Okay, well then maybe that's not the thing because you're not feeling of you want to feel in response to that thing work in in relation to that person.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's why it is very important that way you can more easily determine whether something is in alignment with how you want to feel in life, whether something is really going to serve you and having that feeling desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just want to say that's, not to say, of course, those of you who've been in long term relationships, really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Do not always give you that wonderful feeling okay it's just the reality, but I will say this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In terms of my my husband and I, I mean we have a long history and I don't know how much i've shared with you, but basically we've known each other, since 1998 we were friends way back then.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We were both you know, I was recently out of college, and I think he was almost out of college too.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we're both in very different places in our lives, and besides that he was already in a relationship, there was just never any connection or interest or what have you and then over the years, like, I went through some relationships and he went through that marriage and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There were times when will let me just put it this way when both of our respective relationships ended and we came together as friends and then it started to develop into more my left brain was like what what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Are you know was like use your friend, and this is weird and he's in another State another we're all these kinds of through these objections.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Excuse me that were popping up and also he didn't fit the like you know image that i'd had of who I figured I would probably end up with you just didn't.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean you know, in terms of his.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't know physical features is like the work that he does like they're just so many different things, nothing wrong with any of those things, it was just like so different than what my left brain what I sort of thought.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'd probably who I thought I kind of the type of guy thought it enough.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When I tuned into wait a minute, how is he made me feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I realized, you know I feel.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I feel safe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I feel seen I feel cared for.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: he feels present with me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we communicate, really, really well, which is part of that safety and part of that connection.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um I feel I feel very warm and here's The other thing I just want to tell you I felt all these great feelings and it still freaked me out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I wasn't used to that in a relationship so I had to actually go I had to actually work on these parts of me that will resistant to have to those good feelings that I was feeling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because I was afraid of disappointment because I thought was this really love to feel safe like this because i'd always seemed like experienced love as being very dramatic and you know, emotional and the man wasn't fully available to the kind of stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But in this case I finally realized i'm like I feel so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with him and I noticed that I was like a bigger door with him than anyone else, and to me that showed how sacred that I knew that I could just be the biggest dorky as cheesy as silly as person more than I ever showed my family more than I ever showed anybody.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with him, I was that way, and it was like oh wow I gosh i'm actually noticing that i'm being more fully myself with them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You see, so that was even a sort of an indication to me that I was feeling say, even though I wasn't fully like we're still a little scary to me, I was feeling safe because I felt safe to be myself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's where that's where you can have a disconnect between what you think you want, and really what's going to give you the feeling you desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then ultimately it's about filling the desire so i've been with that who looks like the kind of guy I would be with and wasn't.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: wasn't all I wanted to work out, you know just wasn't you know it's nice to have your checklist Mart but i'll never forget, I just want to tell this real quick story also I was, I remember.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This one man telling story of how like what sometimes you can create a dream board.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this woman put on her dream force this isn't exactly an example of what we're talking about, but she put on her dream board she was like Oh, did you know this this guy was really hot.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: body, you know there, he was big Adonis and she was like that's what she wanted well Sure enough, she actually attracted that image on the dream board.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That guy for him look like that guy okay i'm drinking problem there's not a holiday.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And she was like wait a minute, this is crazy, but I got the guy that wants to have a dream board she went back to her dream board and guess what she didn't notice.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The guy on the dream Board was holding a beer.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that is actually come to think of it that's actually a great example of like how you may think Okay, this is what I want.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But you're only attracted to the extra qualities or there's left brain things well, it looks like this, and he stands like this and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever as opposed to how she wanted to feel and sounds like that, because he had there was drinking problem.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This was not the relationship she actually wanted this relationship didn't actually bring her the feelings that you truly desire.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because she actually in this case pay attention to what else was in the picture so that's also why tune into the field.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: tune into the feeling ask yourself how you want to feel so simple exercise to wrap this up sit down with a pen paper journal.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Look at the different areas of your lives, and it could be whole area of your life or it could be like a situation that you're in or it could be something you want to create so maybe i've done this, all the time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When I want to create like a course I will ask myself Okay, how do I want to feel creating this course.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And also, how do I want the people to feel who were taking the course, how do I want them to feel and so that helps determine and it brings up all these ideas.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For like Oh well, if I wanted to feel this or what could do this I could do that know what I should probably have this section or this tongue let stuff just starts to happen, because those are the ideas that are in alignment with that feeling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With how I want to feel and how I want them to feel so the same thing right down, you know, maybe you've got a project or maybe you've got a business I something i'm asking myself all the time in my business I don't want to feel in business.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not what do I think I have to feel or expect on going to feel, how do I want to feel and then how can I create the business that will give me that feeling.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, how do I want to feel with my.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: executive assistant in the business, how do I want to deal with my clients i've done that a lot, because there have been some clients i've had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're all good people, but they just don't resonate as much or they're just not you know, but then like right now all of my clients.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I adore them and I feel amazing with them, I was telling my husband i'm like oh my gosh it's really This is exactly what I wanted, because I got really honest with myself how do I want to feel in my relationships with my clients.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So write that down how do I want to feel ask yourself that question relationship in your work in this project, etc, and see what comes up and notice and honor and trust yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Trust that whatever answers are true, for you are going to show up and that whatever answers do come through with the art that's why we want to feel and it's okay to feel everything feel and that you can feel that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This has been helpful, as always, thank you so much Emily eldridge inner work for greater good, with ChangeLight www dot ChangeLight dot world join us in the Community.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Take the course that teaches you all kinds of cool techniques.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For how to really release your struggles reveal your strength transform that inner darkness back to like bring those for those back to peace and truly fully know your Guiding Star and live the Truth alright thanks so much, I will talk to you all.


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