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📺 IWFGG | "They Don't F$%&ing Care"





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The way i'm like hello, is because, to be completely honest with you fully transparent I have coven right now.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Although it didn't feel good to get out of bed and actually put on some makeup.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feel a little bit more human again, but I do have coven case you can tell from the congestion, I am extremely blessed that it's not a bad case I haven't been suffering through it no fever chills that I know you know that i've experienced.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just kind of tired and down and tired and congested and I just thought it was because I traveled last week I was in Spain for the Wellbeing Summit, which was absolutely amazing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And of course jet lag can do a number on our bodies and so that's what I thought it was for a few days, I kept testing to see if it was co good code kept saying negative.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then finally yesterday morning I got what I suspected, it was after all the other theories that I tried, which was that i've got coated So my first time i'm now part of the code club.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I just want to take a moment to say thank you, scientists, thank you, vaccines, because I know that if I were not boosted, this would be a lot worse.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So i'm just really, really grateful for that alright, so now that I told you about my coven journey of the last few days, I do want to tell you about an experience that I had.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: While I was at the Wellbeing Summit, so the Wellbeing Summit is a summit that's focused on well-being of changemakers.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, of course, since my work is inner work for greater good and i'm all about changemakers, those of us who are trying to make a positive difference in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And really focusing on our own self care our own inner well-being our emotional well-being.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Obviously I had to be there, I had to be there, I actually had to move around a lot of things other conflicts in my schedule to make it possible.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To get to get myself to Bilbao Spain but I got to build out which by the way, if you've never been to build out is the city where there's the famous Guggenheim Bilbao, the frank gehry sculptural.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: museum that was erected 20 something years ago.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's a beautiful city and they have done so many amazing things with their city, for the sake of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Having a higher living experience higher life experience for the people a quality of life for the people who live there, as well as, of course, for the people who visit and so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was an as an absolutely beautiful city, they have arts everywhere, and this event, the wellbeing summit, I can see why they chose Bilbao.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As an example of a city that's really working to create greater well-being among its citizens Bilbao, is in the Basque region of Spain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so they have their language like it's just a really a such a it's a mountains is near the ocean it's such an incredible place so I highly recommend it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But anyway, the wellbeing Summit was put on by a number of organizations that sort of came together in what's called the well-being project.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it includes a shaka, which is all about actually they they coined the term changemakers scenarios it's all about really bridging leaders and making sure that we have healthy leadership again by wonderful woman named Peggy delaney.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, I had the pleasure of meeting during the summit, and so it was a bunch of us changemakers and people who are focused on wealthy and also artists.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And people who are all about arts and culture we all came together for this three day event three to four day event.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To really focus on well-being and the well-being of those of us who are trying to make a difference, so, as you can imagine, I have really amazing conversations with amazing people from all over the world, who were doing wonderful work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I want to share with you one particular conversation I had that was so it was just so will anyway really an interesting conversation that's that that basically inspired the title of this particular episode which is I won't curse.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the title is they don't effing care and what do we do when they don't effing care so i'll just give you a little background this conversation happened with between my mice me and this man.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who when we first saw each other in the crowd we had this kind of funny mix up because we thought we were in the same family group and we ended up not being in the same family group, but it was just this wonderful sort of you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: accidental thing that brought us together and get we really, really connected, I mean you know how, when you can see someone.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who you see their face and there's just light, this is love and light that comes from their face this is what this man has i'm not going to say who it is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because that would also reveal the organization that i'm going to mention and I don't want to talk about specifics, just for the sake of you know confidentiality, but it was we ended up sitting down for several hours after one of the sessions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: During the event and we just started talking and I forgot how we even got on subject, but he was telling the this.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He told me basically that he'd been part of this organization and it's a very, very well known as well, very well known organization you absolutely hundred percent know the name of this organization.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's been around for a very, very, very long time, it is the Center of a lot of power in our in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, anyway, this man who'd been part of that organization and it was really fascinating to hear him talk about how he came in, with all of these great ideas and great.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, enthusiasm and really wanting to make a difference and he has his particular causes, in which he wants to make a difference and so he jumped in and started to get involved in all these activities and create events and do these wonderful things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the person who's head of his organization was very supportive and wonderful and you have heard of this person, but the point is, they were really wonderful human being, they really were supportive of this man's efforts.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the people around him were not they may have sort of seemed like they were or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know and and, ironically, of course, this is an organization that's all about trying to supposedly trying to make a positive difference in the world and get what this man found is that nope.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These people were not interested and actually on, on the other.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: By contrast, they were actually trying to sabotage his efforts so as i'm telling you His story and i'll tell you some of my story that relates to his.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just think about times when you've been in a situation, and you have come in with all of your great wonderful energy and effort.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you've wanted to make a big difference, and you have such a big heart and you really try to enact change and yet you keep running into resistance you keep running into people who are you know inordinately cynical or skeptical of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or even try to sabotage what you're doing for any number of reasons, you know it could be, because they're threatened by your life they're threatened by her energy there they.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feel like that you're making them look bad because here they are really not doing that much in here you are doing a lot, there are all kinds of reasons.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Why we get these saboteurs in our lives and in organizations, where we're trying to do good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But so as i'm telling you this just think about the times when you've had these experiences and I know I have and i'll share a little bit about that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that he really burned out in as a result of trying to basically fight this pre existing system.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That really didn't want to change, and even though he was getting support from the person in charge, there was still all this other political stuff that was causing problems for him on a daily basis.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He was able to bring in good staff, but there were still people in power around him who were not you didn't like what he was doing for all kinds of reasons, and so they actively.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know boycotted his events, etc, etc, the point is is that so he was sharing His story and how he had burned out from that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And how he eventually had to leave because it just wasn't healthy and and he had made some good changes, but it was his own expensive expensive his own well-being.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In fact, a lot of the conversations I had a number of them that I had at the summit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Were with changemakers who had reached some kind of burnout or who and and who, like had never even thought about self care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because they were always so focused on trying to make a difference we've talked about this a lot right, I talked about this a lot on my shows that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As changemakers, we can be so supremely you know fixated on trying to make a difference in other people's lives that we end up diminishing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Our own needs and our own feelings we end up, ignoring the fact that we even have these and so that's why we end up or down so long story short, or the point is he ended up really burned out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the midst of this conversation I also shared an experience that i've had and I don't remember how much if i've shared this on any of my episodes before, but in my own case I was in a situation that was in a more personal more like my personal life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is some issues there, in which I saw a situation that was very dysfunctional and there was a lot of sickness.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there were things that needed to be fixed and I jumped in with all of my good energy and all of my good intentions and goodwill and my kindness and my.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: enthusiasm and all that good stuff you know, and I was like i'm going to fix this and i'm going to be the best person in this role that I can possibly be and i'm going to try to help this other person do what they do and really be nice to everybody.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was just put it this way, it took me a few years to finally confront the brutal facts.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it didn't matter how nice I was it didn't matter how well intentioned, I was it didn't matter how much enthusiasm, I had or how gifted I was doing X, Y or Z it didn't matter how helpful, I was trying to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that the system in which I was trying to make a change was a pre existing system that predated me by many years and the sickness was already very embedded.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that there were people who are trauma bonded there were people who were threatened by me and my life for their own reasons.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that, basically, I made them look bad, even though that was not my intention, I was just trying to be the best I could be, but basically it pulled out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The around their insecurities about themselves by seeing me like jumping in and trying to do these things, it made them realize Oh, these are things I should be doing but i'm not doing, and so, rather than actually try to make changes within themselves.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They instead attacked me and criticize me and vilified me and demonized me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so My point is that this man and I, he was talking in terms of a large organization, I was talking in terms of a personal situation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that we both had these experiences that ultimately bird us out so that other experience that I had in my personal life burned me out so badly that I thought I was like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I thought I was crazy, because I was basically dealing with a crazy making situation, a situation that was making me crazy and I became someone that I.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I would recognize you wouldn't recognize just so full of anger and rage and so burned out and sad and betrayed and frustrated and everything, because I had tried my very best to make a change and make differences and be really positive.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the people involved who were already involved in the situation they didn't want any of that they wanted to stay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In this, at least some of them didn't want to just stay in this kind of dysfunction because that's how they had control.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's how they manipulated and they didn't like the fact that I was basically bucking their system that they had set up that was working quite well for that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it wasn't working well, for in my opinion and in this case, the more the innocence, the innocent ones in the situation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So anyway that's a long way of saying that we end up, we can end up in these situations.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Where we are coming in with all of our good intentions and we are coming in, as changemakers, we are coming in, as people who are wanting to effect a positive difference, and yet the people around us, they don't want that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And they don't care where they don't care and that's where this comes from they don't effing care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That sometimes people really don't FM care about making a positive difference, they really aren't trying to make a situation better, for whatever reason, and so.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I will tell you that, in conjunction with that other story there's also for me when I finally realized in this kind of fits with what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This other man and I were talking about is that I will say for myself and I don't want to get political, but I would just so that I make sure it clear that i'm telling the story accurately.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of the things that i'm such i'm someone who imagine if I was i'm someone who's just it's just part of me to want to make a positive difference it's just who I am.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I want to make a difference in people's lives, I want to bring positivity I want to make our world better i'm in the United States.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We have a few years ago, of course, had a situation where we have a certain President and we had some people who supported that President and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the election up to his presidency, I saw that a lot of people were supporting him and I was really upset by that because I could see that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From where I sit there was a lot of toxicity in this person, and yet they were supporting that toxicity, or rather than supporting that person, even despite his toxicity.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I had a lot of conversations, this is this relates to what i'm talking about I had a lot of conversations during those years, especially during that election and even afterwards.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In which I found myself trying to convince people that but, but what about this, you know don't you care about this and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Ultimately, without getting into the details or even into the politics of it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of the pig realizations I had, and you know you may be sitting there watching you talk about this and think oh she's so naive or you may be like me, too, but the point is one of the big realizations I had from that was they don't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like I was trying to get people to care about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean basically about the people who were being hurt by this candidates rhetoric, the people who were being hurt by this candidate is it ministrations actions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was trying to get people to care his supporters to care and then after banging my head against the wall and banging my head against the wall banging my head against the wall with arguments and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, and being empathetic and having these you know gentle conversations all that I realized, you know what they don't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now you if you are someone who supported this this candidate, you might say, well, I care about other things, or whatever, so I don't want to get into a political argument, but the point of it is to say that I finally realized like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: wow there are actually people in this world who really don't care about how their actions hurt other people, or about wanting to make a positive difference.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or about you know, like like us changemakers like we changemakers we care we want to make a difference, we want to have an impact, there are people who don't care they don't care they just don't care they don't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about having that impact you're making a difference and I don't want to sit here and criticize those people because that's not what this is about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's more about the realization that those of us who really, really do care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The reality is that there are those of us who really, really do care, and then there are others who just don't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that part of the problem happens, and this is where it comes back to the story with this man and with me our stories is that here, he was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Trying to change the system from the inside out trying to make a difference in a system and surrounded by people who didn't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They weren't interested in trying to make other people's lives better they were interested in holding onto power they were interested in maintaining their titles.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They were interested in maintaining the prestige that they held in North maybe some of them still hold in the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It didn't care about trying to make a cause better they didn't care about trying to help people who are suffering from X, Y or Z they didn't care about things that had to do with our planet, or what have you didn't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They may have acted as though they cared they may have said that oh yes that's what i'm here for but, whatever their actions, saying.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They don't care and, if anything, someone comes along, who is trying to make that difference and what did they do, they sabotage it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, clearly they don't care about making a positive difference if they're trying to sabotage the person who is trying to make a positive difference.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so same with me, I was bringing all my good energy and trying to make a difference than one that they didn't care they were actively fighting against it, in fact, in my situation, one person who I very much care about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But this person was stuck in the sickness at the time as well, luckily this person is out of it, but this person, said to me, you know it'd be a lot better if you just weren't here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean it was like what i'm trying to make this better i'm trying to help, but I was butting up against a system.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That was serving people in different I would argue very, very toxic and dysfunctional ways, but they've kind of figured out each of them like what you know somewhere all about manipulating it somewhere all about just trying to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, deal with the person who isn't manipulating, and so they had their system worked out, so it didn't matter how much I brought my.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My I would say, health, in this situation they didn't care they didn't want it and they didn't care about making it better, they just cared about the status quo and maintaining whatever positions that they had because that's what made them feel safe or powerful or what happened.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So my point is that, when it comes to us, those of us who do care, and this was kind of a fun sort of realization or sort of like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Declaration, I guess that I kind of made with this conversation with this man of the Wellbeing Summit we both realize this was a not everybody cares like sometimes they just don't effing care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that it's in that we're, we have to do as changemakers, as people who do care that I think part of our inner work and part of our own.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Being really realistic and honest with ourselves and with each other is to recognize that to recognize when someone just doesn't care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because otherwise what happens is we end up wasting energy we end up banging our heads against walls, we waste her trying energy trying to get the person to care or certain people to care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we waste our energy and hurt ourselves banging our heads against those walls.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because we're trying to get someone to care we're trying to get someone to wake up we're trying to get someone to realize, something that for us, is just.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: yeah duh it's obvious or you know, maybe we had our own awakening where we realized something was really important and needed to be addressed and we're trying to get other people to have that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think that a certain amount of that a certain amount of trying to get people to care and trying to get people to wake up and realize is good it's important.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At the same time, though, if you find that it is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it is badly, that it is degrading your sense of well-being, then you need to stop, and this is my me saying this, and we speaking to myself in those situations stop it's not worth it it's not worth trying to get someone who doesn't care take care.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: There are ways to do it, you could talk marketing campaigns, etc, but if you're putting too much energy trying to get the people who don't care to care, then you're putting too much energy into it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the better approach, in my opinion, is what he and I were talking about find people who do care, who do get it stop working so hard.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Overly hard burning yourself out wearing yourself out with people who just aren't they don't get it they're not where you are instead allied with people who are where you are who do get it you're going to find it's a whole lot easier.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you can create things together, you can work together and be fed by one of those energy and not be constantly struggling with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, trying to get someone to be on the same page, as you because they're just not they just aren't maybe they will be one day, but they just aren't right now so that's something I want to put forward for us changemakers get really honest with yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: notice when you're doing that stop.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Stop just go, you know what what's, the reality is person doesn't care here's The other thing that's important to remember to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The fact that the person doesn't care is not a reflection on you and your message and your ability to communicate.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, yes sure sometimes there are situations where you know we're not communicating clearly.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you know that you have communicated very clearly, and you know that you have tried it from every different angle and they still don't care or they still don't get it, or they still aren't invested, then you need to learn.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and recognize that it is not a criticism of you it's not that there's something wrong with you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not that you did anything wrong.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: One of the things that I kept trying and my situation of trying to fix this very toxic situation in my personal life.


00:22:48.780 --> 00:22:58.050

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is you know I would try to be nicer I try I try to do my inner walk in and try to fix myself, maybe i'm just not right and then I finally realized.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I could be effing Mother Teresa and certain people in this situation what's still hate, they still find something to criticize.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's what I finally realized it's not about me it's, not that I have failed it's, not that I have done something wrong or not done something enough or i'm not good enough to get this person to care, no.


00:23:21.030 --> 00:23:28.530

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They just don't care for whatever psychological reason they have whatever stake they have in not carrying.


00:23:29.160 --> 00:23:32.490

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That that's just the reality and it's not a reflection on me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's another element to that I want you to think about is that if you've been banging your head against the wall or.


00:23:38.070 --> 00:23:48.390

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you've been burning yourself out trying to get someone to care or trying to effect change, where people really don't want to change that there can be some times there's some subtle unconscious things that we carry.


00:23:48.810 --> 00:23:58.110

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That we think that if I don't do this, then I failed or there's something wrong with me and i'm telling you right now, if you've already been trying it's not working it's not about you it's not about you.


00:23:59.430 --> 00:24:05.520

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's better to step back and take care of you and preserve and rebuild your own wellbeing.


00:24:05.970 --> 00:24:14.340

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that you can keep making that difference with people who already care, there are people in the world who care about what you care about.


00:24:15.300 --> 00:24:22.020

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Put that out there to the universe asked for them to come to you search on Google whatever you gotta do find them.


00:24:22.290 --> 00:24:33.390

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Go to the wellbeing summit go to events where you know that you can be around people who care speaking, of which I was even shocked that the well-being some existed I didn't know that there was any kind of movement.


00:24:34.020 --> 00:24:41.280

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: About well-being for changemakers I kind of thought i'm sort of kind of not the only person in this space, but I never thought that it was any sort of big thing.


00:24:41.730 --> 00:24:49.470

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just knew that I just know that i'm really passionate about helping changemakers be more healthy and happy and whole and more lit up so they can light up the world.


00:24:49.770 --> 00:24:54.660

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I was even shocked to find that, but when I found out that they existed, I was like okay i'm going.


00:24:55.380 --> 00:25:08.280

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and move things around and went so that kind of thing find the people who care about what you care about and let go of trying to get people who don't care to care it's just not worth it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another thing is if you're trying to make change from the inside right so it's like in my case, I was trying to make change from the inside this other gentleman, he was trying to make change from the inside, you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: These existing institutions or family units, or whatever, and we try to make change, and that is wonderful, and that is worthy and if that's what you feel called to do then go for it because they're all kinds of really cool ways to do that.


00:25:32.940 --> 00:25:39.510

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you find that you're trying too hard against a system that just really is not interested in budget or changing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then you need to look at whether or not that's energy well spent and I would argue that.


00:25:46.020 --> 00:25:51.870

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If you can't create if you can't transform something that previously existing create something new.


00:25:52.170 --> 00:26:05.070

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Again, get together with people who care about what you care about and create something new, together with them you're going to have a much more joyful happy your time and you'll have higher sense of well-being.


00:26:05.460 --> 00:26:19.500

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and health emotional health doing it because you'll feel lit up i've been really blessed lately, because that is exactly what's happening for me i've got two ladies on my team now who are absolutely amazing.


00:26:20.010 --> 00:26:32.160

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And they really care about what I care about and they're really excited one of them tells me she's like every time I read the description of your work Emily I get teary eyed i'm just so touched and i'm so happy to be part of this.


00:26:32.460 --> 00:26:37.620

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Another Gal we had our first meeting, the other day, and she was like after our meeting she's.


00:26:37.980 --> 00:26:47.430

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A few hours ahead of me and so she was like as she was her bed time by the time we were dentures after our meeting, she said, I was buzzing so much I couldn't sleep, I was so excited.


00:26:47.850 --> 00:26:56.010

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's the people you want to be around not keep trying to change the people who just aren't interested or don't have a stake in changing or maybe they just don't.


00:26:56.430 --> 00:27:14.340

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Have they're just not built the way you are not everybody's a changemaker we're not all built this way so that's something to understand um and also ignore the haters the Sabbath the saboteurs ignore those people who try to tear down what you're doing one of the things that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That demand shared with me, which I thought was wonderful is that the leader of this organization again this is someone you guarantee you heard of.


00:27:24.000 --> 00:27:26.190

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And and he's well respected in the world.


00:27:27.570 --> 00:27:32.970

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that one of the things this man was telling me, as he said, oh yeah.


00:27:33.570 --> 00:27:44.580

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is this the leader of the organization, you said oh yeah he saw he knew was going on he's like my man, who I met, he said, we had a really good connection, so the two of them had a really good connection.


00:27:45.240 --> 00:27:58.710

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They got along really well, and whereas he would get really frustrated with the the toxicity and the sabotage and all that kind of stuff the guy, who was the leader obviously he's in a different position because he's the leader of the organization.


00:27:59.160 --> 00:28:09.840

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But what was cool about him is that he saw the toxicity he saw what was going on, if he was like whatever not dismissing it like it doesn't matter.


00:28:10.410 --> 00:28:21.360

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But not more like not taking it personally seeing the games that they were playing seeing the the what they were doing or not doing in their roles.


00:28:21.840 --> 00:28:32.700

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and recognizing what was going on, recognizing it for what it was, and just going I get Okay, and moving on and just doing what he knew he needed to do.


00:28:33.240 --> 00:28:45.990

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and making the changes we knew we needed to make and he's done some pretty amazing things in the world, this person, and so I thought that was such a cool thing to go oh so he sees it.


00:28:46.890 --> 00:28:57.870

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He doesn't take it didn't take it personally you didn't get entangled and, from what I understand I believe he's also even been able to remove some of those toxic people from those roles and bring in better energy.


00:28:58.380 --> 00:29:03.090

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And they're my friends said that there are some some some reasons for that.


00:29:03.690 --> 00:29:12.120

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's all by way of saying like there are those of us who care and there are those of us who don't care and those of us who care, I think the best thing we can do.


00:29:12.570 --> 00:29:20.160

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is recognize when okay it's someone who just doesn't care it's just be honest with ourselves, give brutally honest and say.


00:29:20.640 --> 00:29:28.050

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay i'm dealing with someone who doesn't care so you know what i'm just going to i'm going to ally, with people who do care and we're going to create a new.


00:29:28.320 --> 00:29:36.930

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And a better world together just not worry about those other people because it's just not worth wasting their time and energy they are where they are maybe they'll change, maybe they will.


00:29:37.260 --> 00:29:48.150

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you've already tried and it's hurting you let it go that's what I have to say I hope this has been really helpful I would love to hear from you, if you've had experiences like this.


00:29:48.630 --> 00:29:56.910

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or even if you're in a situation like this and and just hear how your how you dealt with it, or some of the realizations you've had and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As always i'm here to chat Emily at ChangeLight dot world and, as always, join us in our Community and.


00:30:04.290 --> 00:30:11.130

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Take the course the ChangeLight System for so that you can learn how to draw out all that stuff inside that causes us to get stuck.


00:30:11.430 --> 00:30:19.560

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In these situations that are not healthy for us and to really light up so that we can all light up the world that's what I teach join us i'd love to have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Anyway, thank you again hope you have a wonderful day hope this was helpful and I will see you again next week and here's hoping, I will be completely coven free all right thanks so much i'll talk to you next week.


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