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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, this is Emily Eldredge I am the host of your show Inner Work for Greater good i'm also the.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: founder of ChangeLight and the creator of the ChangeLight System and I teach you inner work that accelerates your power to change the world, this is a system, I developed myself, you can hear all about it in previous episodes.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm very proud of it frankly because it's really changed my life and changed a lot of other people's lives and so i'm really, really grateful.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To be the one in the world who's bringing this to the world and been able and unable to get people so many wonderful results and so much freedom from their inner struggles.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, if this is your first time watching my show welcome welcome i'm so happy to have you and if you've been watching Ha ha very cool I must be doing something right if you're continuing to tune in.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or maybe even binge watching for all I know, anyway, so you know, speaking of the Drawing Out Process and speaking of the ChangeLight system, I often in my show kind of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: peripherally refer to it because there's certain techniques in there that are very simple but they're very, very powerful and I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Teach those in my online community in which you can find a course that teaches you a very, very simple techniques for that will within the ChangeLight system, as well as the discovery it's now I have shared a lot about the discoveries here.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can see those previous episodes I talked about the three types of exPowers, the three types of emPowers how.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Powers become exPowers, I talked about your inner Truth talk about your Guiding Star and my whole intention so i'm looking for my pen here my whole intention.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is to teach you the Truth about what's going on inside of you so that you can be freed of struggles, but also access the incredible powers and wisdom and strengths, that are inside of you, because you have all of the power that you need.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To be who you are here to be to do what you came here to do you have your own unique Truth, you have your inner Guiding Stargell showing you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, you are when you're fully living your Truth it's that to be an inspiration.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And to guide along the way along the journey, but we also have those extra hours we have those emPowers our emPowers are the three parts of us, whose purpose is to emPower us to live our Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to shine our brightest light to be our absolute best selves, we are not alone in this journey of being our best selves and what I mean by that I mean on the inside.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're not alone, we have the inner support, as well as hopefully the outer support that we need.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That says, you can do this, and we believe in you, we love you and provide you with the wisdom, the guidance of humor the joy, the.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Intelligence the strategy, you know, I was gonna say strategically that's not really a word is it, but the ability to strategize the ability to figure out.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The ability to know your intuitive sense obviously i'm talking about the three and powers here.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So my point is, you have those and also have exPowers we have those inner blocks and struggles that get in the way of US falling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feeling of peace with ourselves and fully feeling emPowered and, as I talked about credit length their intention those inner struggles those blocks those triggers those blind spots those.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, to use other people's terms parts of the pain body parts of the either parts of the shadow.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, those are the things that often consciously and subconsciously get in the way that's really stepping into our Truth and our life in our power and so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Also, the ChangeLight System in the Drawing Out Process that I that I that i've developed in that I teach are all about healing those and my intention is always and I promise i'm sharing all this for a reason.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My intention is always to permanently heal whatever exPower or maybe it's a group of exPowers within one session two to three hours and permanently heal that Expo that inner struggle that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That block that wound that blind spot that you know that part that's in your shadow that's been working there and getting in your way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Within two to three hours and Drawing Out Process permanently heals those are one, at a time, sometimes more than one, at a time, to be honest with you in the past i've shared the classic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Conflict inner conflict between you know what maybe like certain psychologist or therapist might call it, you know you've got your critical inner parent.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and your credit your inner child and it's usually like a Wounded inner child and so oftentimes inside what we have is we have basically almost like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: A replay or sometimes even an exaggeration, of the ways that we were treated by our parents and so that's that critical parent figure that we can have inside of us, which I call the inner Controller that's a type of Controller.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then we also have the Wounded child.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Which is we'll actually have multiple children, by the way, there's not just one inner child justice there's not just one error critical parents, and so the point is that we have these childlike parts of US usually travel partner content Wounded.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That are carrying that pain and that sense of helplessness and hopelessness, and you know worthlessness or fear or anxiety or all these other feelings that we have because of how we're treated.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: growing up, and so the point is is that sometimes in one Drawing Out Process session I can feel both of those simultaneously and the way that can often work, just in case you're curious is that, for example.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Usually in that situation, you have a critical parent who's attacking the child, so the child is upset and sometimes when i'm working with someone that child might actually show up first.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then eventually will realize that oh wait a minute there's something that's causing this trial directly within the person.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: causing it to be in pain so, then the illnesses so so that's like where's the bonus of struggle, if you will, is kind of how I see it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's like then you've got to heal that parent character inside that parents like critical parent type exPower inside.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In order for the child to feel at peace so that's often how you can actually feel more than one, at a time so it's pretty it's really amazing magical credible stuff and I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Say that humbly I say that gratefully i'm just blown away that I get to do this work, and then I get to help people.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: heal from things that maybe they've spent years going to therapy and trying to fix to try to be able to try to understand.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And yet to three hours, we can feel that part that's carrying that wound or that you know being that inner critic or that's.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: causing them to feel defensive or put up walls or barriers away from other people to see so that's what the Drawing Out Process does.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when we do that we actually transform those exPowers back into emPowers so that they can fully support you and emPower you in really lighting up and living your Truth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what happens is it's like these techstars transform to emPower them kind of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: come together in the three types of emPowers and so then it's a matter of calling forth this emPowers to to receive that energy to receive that wisdom to the seat that light that's just there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In in service of the Truth capital T Truth that you weren't here to live and the Guiding Star is also part of that Truth it's that vision that we carry through we're going to be.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You came to her to do fully free of fears feeling our most wonderful and emPowered self so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My point is that's just a quick overview again if you haven't seen my previous episodes about change, like system.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a it's a complete system of personal self development actually not just personal it's also professional to I use it professional settings a lot.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and use it for people, you know we're having professional troubles with drama so personal troubles under the surface.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to separate the point is is that it's a complete system of self development that's all the whole purpose is to emPower you to light up and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Be your most extraordinary itself, because you are extraordinary because you are filled with light that you may not even realize is there that's may be stuck somewhere in struggle.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So to that point I realized that was a long introduction, but I wanted to give them some context so i'll get again.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Probably but also probably my work is really, really powerful and really, really works.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I use it on myself all the time, I talked to my inner Guiding Star I draw out my struggles just last episode.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I drew out one of my struggles, like a block that I was feeling I think was the last episode yeah looks like block I was feeling in my throat, and I just drew sort of the law that was there.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then I ended up processing it and now it's funny because I remember what I talked about because it's gone it's not there anymore and that's the whole purpose.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of my Drawing Out Process and of my work is to have that freedom, so my work works really well and I use it on myself all the time.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And at the same time, at the same time, really want to give a shout out to some of the other techniques that i've learned over the years and that I still use today.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because we have all kinds of different struggles inside of us, I would never deign to say that all of your inner struggles are because of exPowers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: No, because the reality is and well, I mean the sort of our chemical level, I mean sometimes there may be some chemical elements.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To why we have emotional issues or struggles, sometimes we can have had an injury, so there may be some damage to the brain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so you know, there are plenty of other factors that can cause in our struggles are positive to have emotional.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: problems, but also because sometimes the air struggle that we're dealing with so i'm, let me just put it this way in my work i'm dealing with like a part of the person so like a some personality, you might say.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like I said inner critic or critical parent or a block or a wall i've talked to a lot of walls or a.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, but basically it's sort of like a chunk inside, just like an energetic chunk that's carrying.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, certain it's like encoded, if you will, or it's been impacted by fear and pain and therefore to marry certain.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: thoughts and beliefs and feelings and fears and behaviors and it causes us to behave in different ways, so what's good about when you draw on it that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're not just dealing with like one belief that has you're actually dealing with sort of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The group or compendium of stuff that's going on inside of it so as you heal that part you're actually releasing those limiting beliefs, at the same time, you might be really some more than one.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You might be releasing more than one emotion, could be a mixture of sadness and anger within that part that you're actually releasing and feeling, so that you can feel more at peace.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: However, sometimes, and this is what I found sometimes what i'm struggling with isn't.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Like when I tune in and i'm like what's going on with me it's not it may not necessarily be like a chunk inside of me or a part, it means simply be a belief.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It may simply be a resistance to what i'm facing it may simply be that I just need someone to just hear me I just need to get it out of my system and i'll feel better It may be that it's actually like past life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or that it's like we're not talking about a chunk inside the sort of self here, if you will we're talking about a chunk that may have been.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Taken or lost or whatever, on a more soul level now I don't know what your beliefs are and i'm open i've said this before in previous episodes i'm i'm open.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm you and I believe that, I believe, in whatever works for that's why, for example when it comes to certain spiritual beliefs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm like if your beliefs help you feel more at peace and more emPowered than so so be it, and if it makes you a better human being and more accepting and loving of others, then there you know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What i'm talking about the soul help, however, you can see, that is fine, the way I see it, is that we all have a soul.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that, just as we can get fragmented within ourselves like in this lifetime honestly I believe in reincarnation as well, or at least that we have multiple lifetimes that this isn't our only trip around the sun, if you will um does that for on this on this just one year, whatever.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hopefully stint on Planet Earth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that I believe that justice we can get fragmented So when I talk about exPowers that was our inner fragments that form as a result of our life experiences.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I also believe that are smoking get fragmented as well, because of the experiences that we've had because of maybe the traumas or the or the conflicts or the whatever that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we've had our souls, maybe they've done things to us, or they cause certain parts of us to feel broken afraid.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm not the best person to talk about this because I don't do this particular modality.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But my point being that i'm going to share another modality that i've done, maybe even may do this yourself, you may be one of these types of givers.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I just wanted to say that you know, sometimes we can also lose parts like that, so no amount of of trying to do this healing here, I have found.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sometimes it's like no I need that kind of help, I need something beyond what I am capable of doing for myself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is is a really long intro and it's been like 15 minutes already, but I wanted to say that there are four.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: types of modalities that I use, in addition to my own work Drawing Out Process, the first one that I want to mention and i'm doing them in order of like what can you do yourself.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, so the first one, I want to mention this was yeah this one, this one is probably one of the modalities that I was.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I was really blown away by how much it worked and what an effective problem.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that is Byron katie's work may be familiar with it, maybe not a highly highly recommend you look it up it's the I believe it's the work.org but look at Byron katie the work.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The work is something you can do on yourself people like to have others do it to them, which is fine.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But one of the reasons why I love this because it's something you've been asked to sit down and do it on yourself and as Byron katie loves to say all war belongs, on paper, so what you're doing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is you're you're taking a stressful thought.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So let's say I have a stressful button, by the way, I am not certified in the soil don't want to you know I really just got to do your own looking at this, but I did this i've done this for many, many years on, myself, I found very effective.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the work has four questions and take a you take them a stressful thoughts of a stressful thought could be like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know my husband doesn't care about me or I never get anything right I don't know make up something something that's causing you stress.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you take that thought through the work, the work is for inquiry Michelle so pauses for questions and turn off, and so there you can look this up again she's got worksheets on your website, the first question is to ask yourself about that question is that true.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then the second question is, can you absolutely know that that's true, and then the third one is basically, how do you feel when you think that thought, how does it impact you, what are your reactions, etc.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then the fourth question is who would you be without that thoughts.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then the fifth The turnaround is basically when you take that and turn it around and you write its opposite, so it could be.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: make it simple my husband doesn't care about me, it could be my husband does care about me, it could be, I don't care about my husband.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then you write reasons why those things could also be true, and so what I love about this approach really love about this is it's basically calls you to question your own thoughts.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sure really good we'll wait a minute, this is going through my head around carrying this as though it's true, I never even asked myself if it is true, I just assume that it's true.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or i've been living my life, according to this this idea i've been reacting to situations, based on this bully.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what I love is it's a very simple way of basically you're like on doing the programming in your own mind and inside of you to really start to I the impact, I find is that there's like this loosen.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: like this, like send you well and it and it's.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't know if this is the right word like the word is going by D compromises, in other words, if that part is like so concrete in her head and kind of starts to dissolve when a minute I thought that was true.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But what if it's not and While that may sound unsettling in some ways it's actually not it's very, very free.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's very common, I find it very common and it helps me to see beyond the blinders than wearing because of that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: can carry so the work is a technique that I highly recommend you really, really well and that's good for tackling specific beliefs, so if you notice that you have a specific what's causing you stress, then the work is fantastic for that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The second one, I want to share with you is what I call the sedona method and a friend introduced me to the sedona method couple of friends of mine.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because they went, and they actually did some like long things and they came back just absolutely radiant and just in the state of like total bliss and peace.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sedona method, I believe the story is that it was developed by a gentleman who I believe had cancer and he was diagnosed with something.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, he created this technique to you know, in a different kind of weird questions and thoughts and beliefs.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or at least allow these energy to lose them again look up sedona method as in sedona Arizona sedona method I don't know if it's been about the.org I don't remember.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that that's a series of questions that are really good to ask yourself what I find is is kind of like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Ah, and so I might my major this incorrectly because I actually do sort of my own variation on it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um but usually the one of the first questions is, can you just accept one of the questions is, can you just accept that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's basically when I mentioned that resistance to what it is we can oftentimes unconsciously be resisting reality.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Evan I mean there's no point in resistant reality it's just put it that way that's, not to say the reality captions.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if things are a certain way right now trying to resist reality creates pain and struggle, a current fully talks about this a lot and Byron katie does too.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's all about just saying, can you just accept that, so it could be.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know this person's really like to come meet you and you're getting really agitated and it's like they shouldn't be doing this thing whatever you might be having on might be having some resistance or.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe using a bad example I apologize to the sedona method experts out there, but the point is is that sometimes to what I find is that to help calm myself down or to help me to just kind of.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: relax and embrace what that is that's a really good question to ask, can you just accept.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That this is what's happening oh i'll give you another example actually in a previous episode, I talked about something that was really frustrating.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To me, because I couldn't believe that certain people were behaving a certain way I couldn't believe that they were you know i'm like Why would you do that it's just so baffling to me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, part of part of my method actually for accepting that the reality of what they were doing and how they were choosing to show up.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Was I would ask myself, can we just accept that they're not interested in blah blah blah, can you just accept I did another episode with much I said they just don't I think pair.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, sometimes i'll get really upset when I see some kind of justice or I see people acting in certain ways, what is it what happened to even think that way.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And sometimes it helps to just say, can you just accept that this is where they are right now.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Can you just accept that they're not choosing to treat me with respect that you might choose to treat them can you just accept and so even, as I say that it's like it takes down some of that temperature inside of me to go.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: yeah I mean I may not want to accept it, but what's the reality so that's really good question and i'm blanking on the.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh there's a whole series of questions about with the sedona method looks like could you would you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When and now and again look at the sedona method and you'll find the techniques in there, but there's a cool series of questions as well that helps to kind of shift thinking and open and energy around situations in life and in the conference okay.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So two more and here's one it's really super simple I mean you could call it a technique or frankly it's just I mean it is a technique.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's really something that could be used pervasively model.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that is active listening now I put these in order of what, what can you do yourself and what do you need other sport.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the work and sedona method, we can do those yourself, you can sit down and take yourself through the processes and that's really fantastic so that's great to happen tools.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, or if you've got a partner who wants to do with you, you could do it together active listening.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Most of the time it's most effective when we lose someone else when when someone else is doing it with you, although i've done it for myself with parts of me so active listening is very, very simple it's basically when.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you've got two people who are talking and one person is speaking and the other person mirrors back what they're hearing and maybe they do it verbatim or maybe they paraphrase what they're hearing.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But having that person express this is how i'm feeling, this is how i'm perceiving the situation, this is what's going on inside of me and then having someone reflect that back.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and valid it's like reflect that back creates this amazing feeling of validation not necessarily agreement but validating those feelings validating that perception saying, basically, yes, I hear you i've seen I understand.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So active listening, I found is so freaking simple and it can absolutely help like.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If, like if we did active listening more in our daily lives every interaction at least just put those in there, especially when someone sharing something intense with us.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or they for it's a situation where they need to feel heard, we need to show them that we're hearing them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Active listening is incredibly ridiculously simple incredibly powerful tool to use.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what I find is that if i'm struggling with something and I let's say I haven't turned to my husband because he's a really good listener, but occasionally.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, just like we all do he'll go into try trying to fix it and sometimes i'll say sweetheart I don't want you to fix I just want you to hear me.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And just just let me know that you're hearing me and so sometimes they'll do that they'll do active listening and hear what you're saying.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here that you're struggling with this i'm really sorry that was feeling this way, and he says it genuine article sorry about that the children.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that active listening is a really powerful tool that anytime you're running into someone also there's another way we use it to.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: for ourselves and for others like if I do it for myself, I might if i've got a part of me that's angry or sad, I will say to it, and I can hear that you're sad.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I know that you're angry and by doing that that's validating the feelings within that part of it which helps it calm down and as it comes down, then I can think.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Literally and I can move forward or not clouded by these maybe misperceptions or distorting emotions so active listings report, but also when you've got someone who's a meltdown.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I actually use this a lot a lot, but when I stepped down she's been having complete and total meltdown just complete meltdown.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: could not be soothed just you know we kept saying well what's not again i'm trying all these different things, and then, finally, she just like shut down and just went on.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I just laid next to her, and I just listened to her and she didn't argue with anything she sent it to try to fix it i'm trying to understand.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just said, you know hey what's going on, and she started saying how she was feeling all I did, and she was still really upset the only did was repeated.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well you're really angry about this.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then she say something else which might sit out sad or I repeat exactly what you sit back.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it was like magic the way she just she just got color and color and quieter.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then eventually the thing that we wanted her to do that had like set her into this total life.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know meltdown, because on the surface, she was a friend, she couldn't do it well, even though we've been encouraging her, she was still like I can't do it, I can't do it.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, all of a sudden, what are we just a few minutes during active listening to her without anything, she has popped up when the other room did the thing and was like okay let's go now.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So this is one of the ways that we can really, really affect rates change and calming and conflict resolution as well within ourselves and with others.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Finally, and I already referred to this before, but the the final technique that I use, and the reason why I actually been thought of this today to talk about this is because I just made an appointment with.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This particular woman who does is kind of here and that's shimano.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then you may be a shamanic healer you may have done shimano, if you like, I don't know or you may have no clue what i'm talking about I will tell you.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That i've done one shamanic journey, I did a couple of years ago.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i've never had heard of it a million times but i'd always just sort of was like oh native American like I didn't learn indigenous peoples, I didn't know anything other than that.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, but I was going through a really rough time and i've done so much feeling on myself like so much deeper than.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then it's that there was stuff that just wouldn't resolve and I kept having intrusive thoughts, even though I was out of the situation.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I kept being tortured by the stuff and I kept feeling this toxic connection with this other person, and it was extremely upsetting and.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really frustrating, because it was like oh my God, I want to be free and i'm doing everything I can to be energetically emotionally free of this and and I wasn't.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, so I don't even know I think all I did was just literally like research New York City energy going because I thought I just need I need something that I.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Personally, cannot do on myself and I needed something sort of out of around this kind of work and Sure enough, I ended up finding this wonderful woman.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: does show monique floor and, interestingly, she used to live in New York City and now she lives in Los Angeles.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I still found her for doing that Google search and she's fantastic and the point is she does the kind of demonic form where it's all about retrieving pieces.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From whether it's from past lives with this month on to basically bring these pieces back to my soul, so that I could feel falling down and not keep having a toxic.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And kind of unhealthy connection with other people who maybe have taken those pieces from me, or maybe i've also taken pieces from them.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so sure enough, I went through a journey with her, and we will treat five pieces and she identified with those words and allowed them to integrate.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I felt so much better and I stopped being as torture had this sort of process somewhere, I had to let this person integrate fully.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But i'm not even remotely is triggered unfortunate or upset about that whole situation anymore, and that person who they might have that toxic connection.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever she's whatever it's like she's still toxic she's hurt you know does her own thing, but I don't feel this weird inexplicable connection toxic connection with her, because I was able, in my.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: healer was able to actually with her guide, which creates a piece that she had taken from me, and I also taken a piece from birth.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so there's healing in that way, as well, so I hope this is helpful, just as someone who does constant inner work on herself I hope it's helpful for you to see.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How I go about it, you know where it's like i've got my Drawing Out Process and I talked to my inspires and emPowers, but I also you know.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: use other techniques and i've actually found that, for example, the work is really, really influenced my work so.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: we're all on this journey together and we all have our different modalities that work in different ways, because we all have different types of struggles are situations that need different types of healers and feeling.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I hope this has been helpful, I hope you learned something.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And if you have any questions, as always, you can email me Emily I changelight.world, I would also love for you to join our community.
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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At ChangeLight.world/community and take the course learn the Drawing Out Process learn the ChangeLight System all right, what I so happy to get to talk to you like this and I look forward to talking to you again next week bye.
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