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📺 IWFGG | What If Your Truth Is Telling You It Was a Mistake?





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: hello, ladies and perhaps gentlemen to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Welcome to inner work for greater good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am your host of the show i'm the founder of ChangeLight the creator of the ChangeLight System where we do in a work.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That accelerates your power to change the world it's all about lighting you up from the inside, allowing your inner light to shine by healing those struggles.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And honoring the wisdom and the Truth inside of you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so please do join us at ChangeLight dot world and our Community where i've got a course and I teach you the really fun and simple techniques for how to do this, how to clear out all of those inner struggles.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And how to really know your Truth and how to really live it, because when you live, your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That is when you fully light up and when you light up you light up the world, so you change the world, not just by what you do, but by who you are so welcome changemaker i'm so happy to have you i'm actually you know, in case you're curious.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm I mean what I mean basically my travel, where I call this my travel where so when I travel i'm about i'm actually flying to Spain, like right after the show i'm going to take the subway to JFK.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm going to be headed off to Spain for leaders retreat i'm really excited about it but anyway, the point is what you're seeing here right now is my travel aware of sorry if I hit the microphone on my travel where so i've got my.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: ups kind of stuck here, this is actually my little johansson which I practice a kind of Buddhism called SGI major in Buddhism this little Japanese scrolling here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And when I chant chant to this little school and then i've also got my.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: My one yen from actually from shadow shaolin temple in China, and so I wear this, and this is a symbol actually that that came from an organization that I was a part of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is, and then I always wear dark blue or black why well to me it's pretty obvious, because when you travel you tend to get dirty right we get food on us and stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I just like to be comfortable so i've got my Organic Cotton top and i've got my yoga pants on.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this is my uniform so that's what you're seeing me and because I literally going to hop on the subway right after this and head out to Queens to JFK airport going to Barcelona.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um so anyway today's topic now i'm such a nice.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um today's topic has to do with what do you do when you realize that you made a decision in the past, made a decision in the past, and you realize now now that your Truth is so much clearer to you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you realize that you made a mistake that it was a decision you shouldn't have made or like if you really know what your Truth has was more clearly at the time you never would have done that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's a matter of like well how do I undo this or how do I know the right term is backpedal but you know how do I change this and what do I do you know when I realized that oh gosh something's not in alignment with my Truth, it can be really hard, let me tell you something.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is absolutely in my experience and from my own observations, is that it is denying our Truth is soul crushing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When we deny what we know is true for us what is right for us was what is in alignment with what our soul wants, for us, however, you want to perceive it your soul, or whatever.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It can absolutely it's like from where I sit, it looks like a slow death, and you can see that that person is not lit up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: where you can see that they're trying to overcompensate with other ways of making them bringing them joy bringing themselves joy or trying to find some kind of meeting or purpose.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's just such a sad thing we don't truly honor our Truths and a lot of us don't and let me also point out here, because i'm often asked you know when I speak to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: communities and other countries, you know it's one thing to sit here, and you know I can Sigma just live your Truth and just auto your Truth and do what's right for you and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: say that, but there are a lot of people in situations and you may be in one of these situations where, because of societal.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: restrictions or any number of other things it's not necessarily that easy to do it can be really, really hard and you could be up against a lot of.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really overwhelming, and sometimes even dangerous societal, cultural forces, so I often say live your Truth to the best extent that you can.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And to find whatever avenues that you can in order you know, to live your Truth that can light you up and feel in alignment.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that you are at least allowing yourself to light up to some extent, so I just want to say that it's.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's not you know I don't want to act as though it's some pollyannas that we can just all snap our fingers and immediately live our Truth it's a process.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But my point is today is to talk about what about when you realize that you know it got gosh dang it I, I made a mistake and I can feel it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: First of all, I want to talk about what that feels like when we realize that we have made a mistake or that something is not in alignment with our Truth, now that we're more clear about that what that inner knowing is telling us.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What your, how do you recognize that and then, what do you do, first of all let me back up a little bit I use this term Truth very commonly from around when I say the word Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I first of all, I think it is your capital T Truth that you have a Truth that you were here to live, I have my own Truth that I am here to live.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And nobody knows your Truth, but you now, we can always help each other discover our Truths it's not as though we're islands or you know not that nobody can help us recognize what our own Truth is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But ultimately you know what your Truth is, ultimately, you know it better than I do, just as I know my Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: better than anyone and it's also not only that it's your job to live your Truth, just as it's my job to live my Truth, it is no one else's job to live my Truth, I am the only one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who can live my own Truth, this is, I see it, and the same goes for you, I see this, this is our job.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is our souls job that it's given us in a way, you know that says Okay, this is your this is your reason for being you know, this is the light you're here to shine this is your presence you're here to be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that leads me to define Truth i've defined it many times in past episodes but in case this is your first episode of mine that you're watching I define your Truth is your inner knowing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of who you are and who you are here to be so it's a knowing of who you are and who you're here to be it's like an inner compass, and the reason why I put it as that both and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is because when you think about you know if I were to ask someone, what is your Truth telling you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The answer to that question could be well what feels right for you right now, but the answer could also be in terms of what feels like it will get you where you need to go like with what feels in the right direction for you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's why it's your inner knowing of who you are and who you're here to be and it's like your inner compass, and so what I find when it comes to like i'll speak for myself when it comes to my own inner Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I experienced it in different ways, or i'm not that's not true, I experienced it in one very clear way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But I would say that I get messages in different ways, so, for example, the way I experienced my Truth is it's like just this core solid knowing inside me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is this core pillar of clarity and knowledge and wisdom and strength.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and courage, if you will, although, although it's funny because I say courage as a courage and yet you know people would define courage is like you know doing something even in the face of fear, but my Truth doesn't fear.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I might fear right parts of me might have fears, just as parts of you might have fears, but your Truth does not have fear your Truth is unassailable.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Solid clear, but what happens is we have that core fuller of Truth inside all of us, but what happens is we end up with.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As I often talk about those inner exPowers those parts of us that get this sorted by fear by pain that are trying to protect this for more fear, but the point is it becomes these stores things can be like static.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or like distractions over like you know psychological emotional distractions mental distractions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, beliefs that form that aren't necessarily in alignment with that Truth, because maybe we needed to adopt certain patterns of behaviors or certain.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Defense mechanisms in order to try to protect ourselves, you know as children are in our particular cultures or societies.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is that that Truth is always there you always have that Truth it's just that it gets obscured or it can get obscured by these different sort of things that get in the way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, and so that's what this is about, though, is that what you know as we, as we go through life, and we have these parts of us that may obscure a real knowing of our Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That, as you do that work that inner work to clear out and to heal those those wounds and to bring forward your powers not clarity and then knowing the Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that what happens is that all of a sudden i'm sure you've experienced this all of a sudden, you have these Epiphany.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You have these realizations and it's like wow I thought that was a good decision at the time, but now I realized that was a mistake.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or wow I thought that person was good for me at the time, but now I realize they're really not you know when you start to recognize once you start to recognize that things that you may have.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know thought were good or you sort of we're just maybe we're just making a.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Quick split second decision, whatever the circumstances were you realize that you know what wait a minute that's actually that's not that's not late for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm is that what do you do when you realize that, and so I would just say that you know what that first of all it's important to recognize that recognize when that's happening.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And let me just give you an example, for I go into sort of my short little list of of ways that I can tell when i'm something's not in alignment with my Truth and maybe i've made a mistake and maybe I need to make some changes on our back out of something or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So some of the ways that I find that I can tell when i'm out of alignment with nature is first of all, this is really simple it's something doesn't feel right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: hmm he doesn't quite feel right, even if you can't put your finger on it something doesn't quite feel right, even if, on the surface things look a certain way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Something still doesn't feel right and to me, I would say that can be an intuitive thing that even if circumstances look a certain way, or even if.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know you think sort of in your left brain, they will know rationally, this seems like a good choice, but still something's not quite right, I think that's worth looking at and that can be when it's like I mean you could say it's like your Truth is telling you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or it's merely that you are aware of the dissonance or the disconnect with the disharmony between the energy of that situation, or whatever you know that situation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And the knowing of your Truth, do you see what i'm saying so it's not necessarily like your Truth is going, no, although you might experience it that way, it could also just be like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Something doesn't feel right, you know kind of like compass kind of boy boy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: boy right, you know something doesn't feel right and also sometimes when we've made a choice.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That we thought was right, the time but we realized later on, you know what I really wasn't really wasn't acting from my deepest core knowing and my highest good.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that sometimes if you notice yourself working too hard to rationalize or make excuses, so it could be you're trying to rationalize your own decisions or you're trying to make X you're making excuses for other people, or even making excuses for yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: oftentimes when we're trying to justify or rationalize or make excuses, I mean just look at the nature of what you're doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is you can tell that something's not but you're you know that that it's like when we make excuses implied within making an excuse is knowing that you're not actually doing the right thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or you're trying to justify something that really isn't entirely Jose unjustifiable, but just there's something that's not in alignment there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so we're trying to like convince ourselves well no but you know and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's another good one like if 20 convince yourself that something's right that would automatically I think is an important thing to recognize when it's like you know if i'm trying to like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: make too much sense of this or if i'm trying to rationalize or if i'm trying to make excuses for you know for for my own choices, or if i'm trying to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Do any of these kinds of things that clearly there some kind of disharmony in there, that I am not fully.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Fully recognizing or allowing myself, to be honest about with myself so that's something really important.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: um also when we're clinging to something this can be actually when we rationalize justify might actually be unconsciously clinging to something, because you know, we think that we need that thing in order to be feel stronger or more powerful or feel safe or what have you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that can be an indication that you may be actually unclean to this thing that maybe this isn't actually what I need for my growth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or maybe this isn't really what's in my highest and best good right now and that it's in sort of energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Genetically not in alignment or maybe it's trying to pull away and i'm working too hard to hold on to it because I think I need that in order to have whatever sense of safety, I want or think I need in my life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So I then one of the reason why this word cling is great um my my mother posted actually literally just like a day or two ago.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: don't cling to a mistake, just because you spent a lot of time making it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: don't cling to a mistake, just because you spent a lot of time making it my mother's a very wise woman i've mentioned her before I don't know if that's backwards, whatever.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: don't claim to a mistake, just because you spent a lot of time making it and i'm going to use an example of someone, I know, in terms of his relationship he.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: was in a relationship with a with marital been for quite a number of years, and you know afterwards after they got divorced, and he really woke up and realized how toxic, it was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, he was kind of shaming itself for why he even gotten involved with this person in the first place.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you know and we talked about it a lot, and you know, ultimately, it comes down to you know he he was making the best decision that he knew how at the time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that we are and that goes by, by way of saying we are all doing the best we can, at the time with what we know we're all doing the best we can, with what we know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At every given moment and that's what he was doing when he chose to be with her and he would even sit here and tell you now, he was like he was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Really curious what he said he's like I thought, nobody else would ever love me, and so I put up with a lot of abuse.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: etc, and so you know in hindsight was shaming himself, but at the same time, he was really making choices, from where he could best make those choices.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But then, as his Truth emerged and he became more clear about it, you realize that those weren't the choices that he would have made.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know if you've really been truly image into this Truth but here's another thing too that I think speaks to this quote about not clinging to the stick just because you spent a lot of time making it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The in that case he actually told me that prior to marrying this woman he had actually sort of decided, this is the kind of woman that I want to marry any had a list.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it was like beautiful and this and this and, like certain things and so sure enough she fit the bill on all of those things in that list.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I would say that one of the things he failed to put on that list was like someone who was tied, you know things like that or someone who like really loved and respected him.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But he wanted certain things in his mental you know sort of in his mental framework here's What I want, and he actually got what he wanted, and so what happened was.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He he actually ended up using that to subconsciously keep rationalizing and clinging to that relationship because he's like, but this is what I asked for.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So how could I possibly let it go even as he knew that it was not healthy and that was toxic, but this is what I asked for, I mean I got what I asked for, so I should be happy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's like okay yeah that's what he asked for, but he asked for it from that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Older consciousness, if you would order it from that place where his Truth was obscured was more obscured so that if you gain clarity, he realized, which you know, there was a part of those clearly saying this is not right, and yet he kept rationalizing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he kept trying to justify and keep trying to even like like like make excuses or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know sort of saying what will know I should accept this because, well, I mean this is that you know if I like the universe gave this to me, therefore, I need to accept it, but that's not how it works.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We asked for what we want from the place of clarity that we had at the time.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the whole point is hopefully as we go along, we gain greater clarity, and so we can make better decisions.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And what that can often mean is, we realize that the decisions we made in the past are not the ones that we need in the present and going into the future.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's important to recognize, even if that's what you thought you wanted the past that may not necessarily align.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With what you want today, and it may not be good for who you are today, you may be done growing from that situation or that relationship or whatever, that is so it's important to be really honest and recognize that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm going to give the reason why even brought this whole topic up and I want to i'm going to share a few more things, but the reason why even brought this topic up in the first place.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is because this past week I finally finally got really clear about something that had been gnawing at me like non and and it was a decision that I made months ago.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That had to do it for those of you who've been watching this my shows these episodes you know that i've made some big changes in my business I have TEAM members and we're really.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Expanding the work to help a lot of people and so all along the way i've been making certain choices and back when I first started with this new phase.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was and I didn't totally realize it at the time i'd actually really didn't realize at the time it took me a while, but I didn't realize how burned out, I was as a visionary.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And as an entrepreneur, and as a solo printer and i'd spent so many years really trying to do this work for myself, and you know by myself and really struggling and so, then when I brought on a team Member.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I then kind of sort of defaulted to you know Okay, well, I have this new team bummer so you know I always kind of deferred.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It differed, I was still making conscious choices, but I was like well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I should try and I should trust trust in the process, and I should just sort of trying new things and get out of my comfort zone, so the point is that I made certain choices.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I like sign certain contracts that at the time I, I was very aware that I wasn't like a clear yes it wasn't like Yes, this is this feels right, it was sort of a.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Blue keep going okay well I should try this right, so what was I doing I was kind of rationalize it was kind of justifying what.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was trying to convince myself that this was a good decision because, while I should try it well.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay yeah and so here the difference between like my tone of voice versus the tone of voice when I was talking to myself and trying to convince myself certain things.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, to the point is there's this one particular decision that I made not months ago that I wasn't entirely convinced up and i'll give it a try right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I signed up to you, it and it after as soon as I signed up I just bothered it just bothered me and I kept bothering.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about it, but I kept going well, no, no Emily just you know just keep getting this a try, maybe it's just a new approach for you you're not used to this, you know going at your business a certain way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, and so, but it just kept nine and nine, and I mean nine is in like you know you can feel it where it's like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For, and it was like taking the surgeon notice how it's like sucking this energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And i'm like waking up in the middle of the night and, mind you, when I wake up in the middle of the night, you know something is bothering me and usually a pretty good sleeper so if i'm waking up at 132 3330.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I know something subconsciously is really bothering me and my subconscious is trying to get through to me and say Emily you got to look at this you've got to revisit this you know you said this to this person, but no that's not right and so anyway that's.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's the.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that's what that's what was happening, for me it was really nice so anyway, the point is, is that I finally sat down and was like and I was talking with my husband talking to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: talking to other people about this, I know this bothers me that I don't know and what I started to do and i've used this word for previous episodes where I said parse it out.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is it exactly that's bothering does it feel like Okay, so in this case did it feel like the company that I was dealing with was in any way like not giving me what I had contracted from them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: know where they do, they seem dishonest no, you know it turned out that it was it was just sort of the core of the approach that then didn't feel right and didn't feel in alignment.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With the clarity of who I am today, and I should say I didn't add this I actually went through a big shift, a few months after I signed up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In which I suddenly had this like lightning bolt of clarity in terms of strength.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In my own leadership in the business, and so what happened was I went from being that burned out visionary entrepreneur.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: To really go nope i'm taking charge and i'm you know I know what i'm doing and so that's actually what happened is, I had a big shift and since i'd had this big shift It made me start to go away.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And really feel all the more clearly like I don't know if this is why I made this decision.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I thought i'll give this a try but it's still really bothering me and i'm starting to go, is it just because it's out of my comfort zone, or is there, something that is really not in alignment for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the point is that this this past week that's what really, this is not an alignment it's just just not an alignment it's doesn't feel right.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I made the decision to ask to get out of that contract, because I was like this isn't right and I need to get out of this, because this is just so far out of alignment with what I know is right for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now I actually had a conversation just yesterday with the person, you know within my contract and they were very gracious luckily they're really great, but then they were also like well what if we were to try this other approach and.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: intuitively I wasn't ready to make a decision, again, trusting right you got to trust your intuition you've got to trust your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm still processing and I said that I said i'm need to process this I need us to pause this for a bit so that I can get clear on what I know is right for me and then i'll let you know and make a decision.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so I really appreciated that this person really honored my Truth, I mean i'm really blessed and grateful that they did.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it's also a matter of i'm still having to process this but that's The point is that that's what came up for me this past week where suddenly I just thought.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know I gotta really honor this nine feeling and i'm going to get clear on what's going on here.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then I then in the point is is sometimes that means having to make changes and that's what's hard so when it comes to making those changes.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I say, well, first and foremost, you got to be really honest with yourself be really honest, even if you're scared about what the fallout is you, first and foremost, have to be honest with yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you've got to get clear on what is going on, where is something not in alignment and just own IT and sit with it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And even then maybe a little bit of a you know kind of still better dig in a little not dig in but you know just really feel down and go okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what's the core of this discomfort for me the core that is comfort I realized is that one is that the approach that I contracted to take just.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In the way that we were doing it did not feel was not i'm not going to say does not feel it's just not in alignment with one of my core values.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And as much as I kept trying consciously and unconsciously or rationalize that way it just wasn't working.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because it's not supposed to work i'm not supposed to rationalize away i'm supposed to honor that core value i'm supposed to honor that that is a part of my Truth and I have to honor it and if I don't honor it it's going to bother me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that is something that we that you've got to do is really honor that and sometimes that means having to backpedal having to backtrack a bit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and go ahead and say you know what I made a mistake.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I realize now that I made this choice, back then, and i've been trying to and that's what I did i'm trying to work with this i'm trying to be okay with this, you know what it's just really not okay for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And maybe, and this is the second part of it so Okay, as you figure out what's aligned and what's not aligned, what are the changes that you can make So what are your choices, you know the choices could be.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You could ask yourself well how can I align this with my Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in my case I haven't decided yet whether or not i'm going to jump ship on this thing you know, maybe there is a way.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That I can bring this thing that I chose to do months ago, maybe there was a way to bring it more in alignment with my Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Maybe we can adjust this approach that i'm that we do that we're doing that it's like yeah okay this feels much more in alignment and then make those choices, but then they think.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It might not be able to be adjusted to be fully in alignment with Truth and in one case, what are the choices you've got to make there.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's where it may have to be a choice if you've got to cut ties and you've got to let go or you've got to.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, whatever the case may be, you've got to make different choices, but going back to what I said at the very beginning, I will say this, that when it comes to if you're denying your Truth.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then you need to let me put it this way that denying your Truth is the fastest way to basically slowly I hate to put it this way to kill yourself.


00:28:04.590 --> 00:28:17.430

Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because our Truth is our light and our Truth is on a radiance in our life force and when we deny that within ourselves then we're basically giving ourselves a recipe for sickness and early death.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As opposed to when we make those very hard and often courageous choices to honor that Truth and live it, that is the way to light up and fully feel your most alive.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's important, to be honest it's interesting, I have to tell you like, even as i'm sitting here talking about this, I noticed that i'm having this like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That that that that that my own brain where like you know earlier today, I said so that I was going to do something or.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I said something to someone and i'm sitting here going some alignment with my Truth that doesn't feel right, so I need to go back to that person and say no i'm sorry I apologize, I made a mistake, I need to reverse on that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You see, because that's going to feel better for me it's going to feel right and the other person.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: they're going to have, whatever their response to that is but but but, but the only job that I have just as the only job that you have to honor the Truth so go ahead and take make those be completely honest with yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and make those choices that can bring whether it's bringing that situation more into alignment with your Truth or having to make the tough choices of letting those can scrub it or not.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With your Truth right having those tough conversations, but, above all, as I always say very tiny gentle with yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's okay if you've made a mistake it's okay if you're realizing that wish you'd done it differently, as I said before, we are all in every single moment we are all doing the best we can, with one.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay alrighty so thank you very much, I hope, this has been really helpful and never always never, never ever ever shame yourself.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For any mistakes you've made we're all doing the best we can report me know I love you I hope this has been helpful, please do check out ChangeLight the world and check out our community in our course.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All kinds of wonderful stuff for you so anyway, I hope, you're well take care, and I am off to Barcelona.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In a couple of hours all right well i'll see you later bye.


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