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📺 IWFGG | What Is the Breakdown Before the Breakthrough?





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How do you all, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good? My name is Emily Eldredge, and I'm already grappling things as my marker and I'm here to teach you inner work that accelerates your power to change the world. We talk about all this stuff that goes on inside, how to heal those parts, how to recognize those parts. What is it really all about? And that's kind of what we're going out today in terms of breakdown to break


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: through. Now you may be familiar with this term. Have you heard that turn? You know? Well, this is your breakdown to break through, or I'm having a breakdown before the breakthrough, or, you know, break down, break through. So if you haven't heard that, if you have, or that term, you probably have some idea of what I'm talking about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: if you haven't, let me just try to explain to you, and I'll do my very best. So


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's this idea that right before we're about to have a big break through. So a break through in terms of we're about to you know, a a, a go to a higher level in our lives. We're about to have a big shift to be positive shift, maybe something we've really been wanting.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a breakthrough of kind of an epiphany. a big you know. Acceleration of things, a realization of a hope or a dream. you know something like that. But that would be a breakthrough. Let's say it's really broken through to the next level to a new experience for a new identity. Oftentimes what comes before. That


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: is a breakdown. So what kind of breakdowns? Obviously there is like the car type of breakdown. But in this case I really talking more about an emotional breakdown. I mean, you could say a mental breakdown, and yes, that could be the case. But mental breakdown, I think, kind of implies something almost like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: mental illnessy type. I don't necessarily want to imply that, but a breakdown is in like a meltdown, and that's kind of what I mean when I talk about breakdown. So maybe I don't mean that, because that's usually how they happen for me is that I'll have a massive, emotional meltdown, and I'll cry, and I'll freak out, and I'll just, and it will feel like the whole world's coming apart. And I feel like, you know, all of my dreams are just gonna crash. And say, I'm going to fail. And it's just this


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: horrible sort of catastrophizing. It's like this emotional, emotionally catastrophes in place.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's how breakdowns tend to show up for me. They might show up differently for you. Some people, it might be, if they have some kind of physical ailment or something that happens. Maybe it's like nothing's going right in their lives, or things sort of or falling apart.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, and it looks like everything's breaking down. But really this can be an indication that you're about to break through. Not always. I don't want people to like, you know. Try to convince themselves that if everything in their life is terrible, but well, it's just their breakdown, a breakthrough. It could actually be that you do need to make some changes in your life in order for things to work better. But really, what I'm saying is like, why is your on the precipice right as you're out to do that big thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. Maybe it's you know. Well, okay, I'll give you my personal example as always. This has come up for me this week, right? As I'm about to launch my podcast my first podcast in which I'm going to be sharing actual sessions of the Drawing Out Process.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What did I have yesterday? And I think the day before I'm out down? Of course I did. I had an emotional meltdown, and luckily I am aware enough to be able to recognize like when it's happening or when something's coming up that I need help with. And so, luckily in this case, I was able to turn to my husband, who was working from home yesterday, and I don't know sort of the night before he was working from home.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I just said, you know, I just can't just talk about. You know what's going on with me. I can feel that I have some thoughts that need to be. I need to give voice to them. I'd already written them down. I'd already sort of tried talking aloud, but I really needed someone else to be a witness, and to just let me event. And he's really wonderful about that as long as I give him a heads up and say, this is what I need to do. And so I said to him, I see that back. It is what it was


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: he got home, and I told him immediately I said, just so, you know, sweet, that's okay. I'm going to need to. Then for a minute. Well, sure enough, I thought it was just going to be me to sort of build some of my fears around the podcast it turned into me like solving and crying. And you know, giving voice to all this really deep emotional stuff. It didn't


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: didn't necessarily have to do with the podcast it wasn't specifically about nothing. It was about to launch. But it was all these other like childhood fears. And you know, wounds and stuff like that. That was that were coming up because they this, they're launching the podcast, in my case like symbolized a lot of that. So, for example, one of them, I may have shared this before, but one of them was, no one cares about what I care about.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's a belief that I've carried. And it's that no one will care about my podcast and I really care about it. But no one's gonna care about it. Now I recognize this as having come up originally to when I launched the 5 that the free community that ChangeLight dot world community. The same thing came up. It was like no one's gonna care, no one cares about what I hear about. I'm like, but


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and my husband knows me well enough to know that this is just my process, and he can just sit and listen and be supportive and rub my back, and you know he doesn't have to fix it for me. I've explained that to him before, so he's really good about doing that. And just side note, you've got someone like that in your life. Bravo! Bra! By you! And if you don't find someone like that because they're really great, but sometimes you guys set the parameters and say.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just need to bend. I just need to like let loose. And you don't need to fix this. So that's that's how I let my husband off the hook, too. You don't have to fix this. I just need to feel it so. There! I wasn't like no one. Here's going to go. Oh, I'm like buying and sobbing, and he's sitting, and he's listening very patiently as I'm going through this for probably about an hour.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that that was a breakdown right before I'm about to in my situation, have a breakthrough which is to actually share my work with the world for the first time publicly. That's a big


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: deal, a huge deal to me, because I've kept my work pretty really close to the chest. I've only shared it with my clients, or if there's been the occasional workshop, I've been able to have time long enough time to actually take someone through the process.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so not a lot of people have actually seen the work. They've heard about my work. But to see it here to experience it is a very unique thing. And so this is like me going. Okay, here's my baby that I've been holding in my inside me, or with close to me for years and years and years. And now I have to be like, Okay, here it is.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So imagine that, like all the fears that come up from that and all of the old beliefs, and all the, you know, sadness or the anger, or whatever you know of criticism, failure for your success. That's a big one, to their disappointment, is a really big one. So that's what came up for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Now there's an example of a breakdown before breakthrough. I'm hoping. Obviously I don't know yet. My podcast will be a breakthrough for me in terms of what I hope it will achieve from me and for my working for the world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But for me it's a breakthrough in that. I'm finally sharing it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the point is that before that can happen in my case there are emotional layers I have to release that are going to come up. And so why does that happen? Why does we're about to have a breakthrough? Well, I came up with


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reasons. For one thing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: obviously fear fears arise. Any time we're about to make a big change. We're about to share something about ourselves, or we're about to, you know, like, achieve something or try to achieve something, or it could be anything in our lives. Maybe it's something with relationships. It could be with our job, with our work, it could be with you know, anything, anything that we're that we're wanting, that we're


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: one or about to have a big breakthrough on. We can have a break down. Fears will arise, of course. because especially if it means the realization of a desire or a dream. Then yeah.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: big fat fears can show up, because there's always the fear of disappointment. There's always that there that it's not going to come through. There's always the fear of all the crap that can happen between here and there, of actually achieving it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Fears will come up, and also the reason why, too, it's not just like fear, because that okay, that could actually happen. So of course, you're afraid that could happen. But it's also principles that are scared for us, and they're trying to protect us from those feelings, from those disappointments, from those failures, from that criticism, from that success, from they. They're trying to stop us from shining our life because of we might get the blow back, or the criticism of the shaming or whatever.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it's fear that come from parts of us as well. They're trying to protect us so sometimes, and this hasn't happened yet, so far in my process with the 5 well in, I'll just say this last week. but a lot of times I'll end up having to draw out parts of me that are like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't think that's gonna work, or they are trying to tell me that I'm not good enough, or that are trying to dissuade me from, you know, really, really going for really doing it.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So they're just trying to protect us, whatever where they know they want to keep us in a safe zone that's familiar for us. That's one of the things, and I think it was some my friend Matt Menino. Years ago I saw him get a talk, and he actually talks about in terms of the nervous system, and then our nervous system's job is to keep us safe.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that I think he was the one who said, but also that the nervous system is about familiarity. It likes things that are familiar.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: known quantities, situations that it's familiar with, that it understands, it knows how to deal with it. However, when we're stepping into a space that's unfamiliar or unknown, it's maybe bigger than what we're used to, you know, stepping onto a bigger stage, literally and figuratively, those parts of us, whether you want to see it as exPowers, which is what I call them, or even just the nervous.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I break out right? So maybe we have. We have to shut down. Maybe we go into a minor depression. Maybe we, you know, get especially irritated or angry. Maybe we have meltdowns like I do. You know, there are all kinds of ways that these breakdowns can show up, or sometimes people will say that this is. This will happen to where we manifest


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: things, not going our way. So like an actual like car breaking down. It's like things kind of keep getting in the way to try to stop us, and sometimes that can be part of it, too, that we end up manifesting it. Or, oh, we're just so busy at work. And so the work, you know, we just get so focused on work that it becomes a distraction from actually taking that step or having that breakthrough.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So those can be kind of different forms of breakdown, if you will at all, I think depends on you, and sort of what I guess, like your inner system has figured out as a way to stop you. Because again, it's trying to protect you. Scared for you. It doesn't like the unknown. So fears arising. Why is that also? Why is that? It's not just, you know, because


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just the thought of it. But actually, it's actually becoming a reality.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that same that it's like sweeping of our nervous system. It like it's it's like, and this is for me to. It's like it starts to sink in.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it's like, well, this is becoming real. So for me, with the podcast. I've been working on this for months. And I've done, I did Internet radio years ago. So this isn't a first time for me. It's like my first rodeo. If you, Bill, there are new elements to it. It's very different. The Internet radio. I did back in 2,007 8 compared to, you know, 2023 and I'm doing an actual podcast podcast and exist back then But the point being that


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it starts to. It's one thing to kind of. Oh, it's an idea. And I'm creating this thing. This, isn't it cool, and you know, and in my mind it's like I get the idea for it. I could do this, I could do that, but as it starts to come together


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and like you reach that deadline getting closer to that deadline, it's becoming a real.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so when it becomes real and starts to sync in. It's almost like you can imagine the reality sinks in. What does it do? It also bumps into those parts that are like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't know. This is too much. It's kind of nice one. You were just thinking about it, how you but this is really becoming real. And so that's also why those parts can get triggered because it's starting to sink in. It's starting to get real.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know. As I say this, it's about to get real well, there's going to be parts of you that are kind of. They're going to rise up now. What they didn't. They might not have done it for months before, but they're doing it now, because all of a sudden it's like, Oh, no, she's serious. But oh, God! Oh, oh, oh, oh, she's serious. Yeah.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: yeah. So those parts can rise up And then also, though I do believe that there is a higher purpose for these breakdowns.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that is that it's preparation


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: for that expansion. So if you want to move into a bigger stage in your life, for example, or if you are making a a big massive change, or you have certain, you know, projects you're working on with folks for those things. You know, there's in order to fulfill that purpose, play that that that usually means you, you're going to be playing a bigger role.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that means you're gonna be expanding emotionally, mentally, energetically, to be able to play that role, to be able to fulfill that purpose, to serve that.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what can happen? Is that what you know? There are parts that are calling you to that higher calling in that bigger role in that expansion.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But what happens is then it means that those parts that are not in alignment or in vibration or not as light filled at the moment as that expansion. But that's also what triggers. And so those parts need to come up to come out. Those fears need to come up to come out, or else if they stay there, they will sabotage you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so think of a breakdown. This is what I really want to leave you with


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a positive note of what? Think of the breakdown as preparation.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You're being prepared. You're being clear. You're being healed. You're being opened. You're being released


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that you can step onto this finger, stay so that so that you can shine it right so that you can make a bigger difference, so that you can fulfill that role and be that presence you need to be in order to fulfill that mission, that person, that that purpose to that project be on that stage.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or, in my case, do this podcast and really share my work in a really big way with the world. But do it in a way so that my own fears don't sabotage me as much because I've been able to see them and heal them and release them


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: all right? So I hope this always has always been helpful. please do check out, ChangeLight that world.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: take the course, go for it. It's free. The community is free and


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: stay too, because I will be released in my podcast soon. And it's going to be actual section of the Drawing Out Process. Really big, exciting major stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm excited and I'm scared, and I'm excited, and I'm working through my own fares on this. So anyway, I hope this has been helpful. Take care! I'll see you later. See you next week.


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