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📺 IWFGG | Who Would You Be Without Your _________?





 

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello Hello hello, and welcome to Inner Work for Greater Good sorry at the microphone got caught.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know work for greater good, my name is Emily Eldredge I am the Creator, the founder of ChangeLight in the creator of the ChangeLight System.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The whole purpose of this is to empower you to do in our work that accelerates your ability to make a difference in the world, because inner work is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: In my opinion, it's everything outer work is extremely important, but as I often say let you're doing come from your knowing of your being.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: come from your being so when you do that inner work to know who you truly are.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And who you're here to be then whatever outer work you end up doing is because you feel called to do it because it feels aligned in alignment with Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because it really is the highest way to make the most positive difference when you're truly aligned with your Truth.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and knowing yourself and all of your strengths and having healing all of your weaknesses are any blocks for years, etc, that pop up so anyway, if you're new to the show welcome welcome if you're not welcome again i'm so glad you're here.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This is actually a new environment if you've seen the past few episodes I think I mentioned that i'm moving my husband's moving to New York at the end of May.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: early May right now and 2022 and so moved into the new apartment so I literally just hung these items today still figuring out my background.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But anyways this is real life people so today I want to talk about is the title is who would you be without your boy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So the reason why I left that blank is because I think it's important that rather than me throwing in words in there, you can figure out what those words are for yourself but it's the whole idea of.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: How we tend to identify with certain aspects of ourselves that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: may not be the most positive or helpful aspects of ourselves, so let me be a little more clear so here's how I interpret that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who would you be or who would I be who would you be without your inner struggles, who would you be without your pain.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who would you be without particular wounds that you've been carrying for a long time, who would you be without certain triggers.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And this is a really, really important thing to consider, because a lot of times we don't realize how much we unconsciously identify.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: with certain parts of us with certain as I would call them exPower so if you're familiar with the exPowers, you know, then you know what i'm talking about if you're not go ahead and watch those videos there are lots of good information.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: about our exPowers which are those parts of us, which we struggle that feel like they did in the way of our power that they get in the way of our ability to fully be who we are and who we know we can be.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what happens is especially if we've been living with a particular wound or particular belief or particular reaction or a particular emotional set point of state.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or just a sort of a state of inner state of being or feeling that we can become very, very identified with that so, for example, if we tend to feel angry a lot.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We may think of ourselves as an angry person or if we tend to feel depressed a lot within ourselves as a depressed person, for we unconsciously become identified with depression.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we can't imagine ourselves without it and here's The funny thing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that a lot of times the very give me the very thing that we're trying to get rid of that we're trying to you know release and yet we find it can be so hard to release.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Often, because we are unconsciously identified with that part of us and we form certain attachments to that part of us, or we feel that other people see us a certain way.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And therefore, if we were to suddenly not be that way that could mean that other people might start to treat us differently or feel differently towards us for may feel that their role starts to change in relation to us and it might unsettle certain patterns certain family systems certain.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know, ways of being certain relationships that can really unsettled some of those things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's why it's really important to be really, really honest with ourselves about what it is, with which we are consciously and unconsciously identified.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: As usual, this topic comes from work i've done with a client this past week, and so this past week, and this happens all the time, quite frankly.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That when I start to work with an exPower inside of summer when I start to work with a part of an inner struggle that they've carried, for a long time that could be some.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: episode or score pattern of abuse that they experience and they've got a part or parts of them that have been carrying that it could be some trauma some deep wounds from childhood.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that that's become such a sort of feels like such an integral integral part of them that not only do they have trouble releasing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That part or helping that part field, but also that part tends to be like that this is, who I am and why are you taking away my identity, and there are a bunch of really key reasons why this is the case.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, as I talked about the basically we tend to resist unconsciously resist releasing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Certain emotional set points or habits or patterns are triggers of wounds or whatever, because we are so identified because it feels like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well it's always been this way or i've always felt this way or this abuse happened when I was so young, but I don't remember who I was before, that the reality is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're not your pain.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you're not your fear you're not your struggles you're not your wounds, not all of these things might remind me i'm not just talking to you it's the same for me too.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's that we are not those things that we may unconsciously identify with the, so we are you know we may have we aren't we may be Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it doesn't mean we are that moved that wound or that episode, or what have you, is something that happened to us that emotion is something we feel.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But just because I may be angry and I may be angry a lot does not mean I am I am an angry person just means that I feel a lot of anger.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The anger comes from somewhere, as we often talk about on this show it comes from some serious or a.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: series of experiences or an experience that are causing that's causing that emotion, to get triggered in this moment now.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or, for example with anger I think i've talked about that a lot of times, it can be because we're giving away our power or we're allowing other people to violate our boundaries.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that's why that anger comes up so that emotion can be really good information, but it doesn't mean that, therefore, you are that emotion, or I am body motion, we are not you know oftentimes you know the term is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That emotions are energy in motion so it's not as though it's just energy that's supposed to just stay this way it's also meant to move it's meant to flow, so I want to talk about.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: why it is that we can tend to be so attached, I did talk a little bit about this, but let's also now talk.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For more of an eexPowers perspective, because what happened was sorry I sort of cut myself off my own story, but I worked with a gentleman this week.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in our session basically it was when I asked him again this happens, a lot when they'll say you know, he said.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That he felt this you know constant negativity constant hopelessness constant sense of there's no point it's useless it's never going to work and even though he himself is extremely positive.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and hopeful this part and we're keep kept pulling him back kept pulling and pulling and down.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and kept reminding him of all the times when you fail before, can you identify with this, I wouldn't be surprised if you can because a lot of us have I have had these I.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not aware of having these parts of me anymore, but it's because i've healed over the years, many, many of these parts.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, apart like that exists for a reason, in this case, it was a Wounded, sometimes it can actually come from.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: An inner critic place where it's telling you that you know no, you know you've already failed all these other times and so it's never gonna work, etc.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And in this case, I would say that this particular exPower well, let me, let me back up, he said that he tends to feel that way, so I said.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, who is it that saying that Okay, and what I do that sometimes i'll ask that question because it's a way of saying like who inside of you, meaning it's not you it's a part of you, but rather than recognize that it was a part of me said well it's nice it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I so this happens, a lot again he because it's been such a pervasive such a persistent presence inside of him.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: he'd become unconsciously identified with it and saw himself as this hopeless sad, etc, but as we discovered it wasn't him speaking is actually a part of him.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, if we identify that there was this part of him that was very, very down very, very low very sad in a dark place course.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And feeling like it was useless that there was no point in trying, because if he tried to get out of this dark place he was gonna get whacked he was going to get hurt.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: He you know he wasn't going to get anywhere, so this part it can be basically learned a long time ago that it's useless it's hopeless now if you're familiar with the exPower type sooner, this is a Wounded.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: At the same time, though, this Wounded had some Controller aspects to it which can happen, sometimes with.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it thinks that this one thought that by pulling him down and for the feedback.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That he was protecting him from getting too high or joyful and happy because what happens if you risk that us, you know it's like the higher you go the farther you fall.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, a lot of times, we can have these parts of us that that's their attitude and therefore that's what they're trying to do, then again he had been so identified with this that he thought it was just him.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It wasn't it was a part of him, and so what we learned with this part of him.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, let me just let me just say that this is very classic for a lot of exPowers, especially the ones that have been with us for a long time, and especially the ones that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: are very most exPowers are pretty committed to what their point of view.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But this this guy this part of him was really extremely committed to this point of view.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And there are actually other reasons for that, in this situation, and this can happen, sometimes in the exPower dynamics between our exPowers and ourselves.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that if we are deeply resistant and fighting against that part of that part of us is going to hold on to its position and it's going to be like no i'm right.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i've talked before about the physics of emotion is that for every action there's an equal and opposite reaction for every emotion that comes from there, we if we tend to push down on it it's just going to push that up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's what perpetuates this whole situation of like this part of US holding onto its identity and holding onto its perspective if it feels like we're resisting it.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or we're fighting it it's just going to stay in trench so that can be one reason why a part of US y and exPower.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: can hold so determined Lee onto its position and it's point of view, which even in our deepest desire, you know, especially we're trying to get rid of it that's automatically.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Putting your kind of resistance on that part, which means it's going to fight back because it's like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I don't want you to get rid of me I want you to listen to me, I want you to honor what i'm saying I want you to hear me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Sure enough that's what this part was telling him he's like I feel this way for a reason actually was saying this, I feel this way for a reason and you're not listening to me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you keep pushing me down and you keep kicking me and whacking me metaphorically internally, of course, and he's like, but I am here for a reason.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I don't want you to fight with me, I want you to listen to me and I want you to hear that you know i'm.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I remember all of that pain that we went through I remember all of those wounds.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so that's what this part is trying to do and that's oftentimes what these parts of us will keep trying to do.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, even though we may say, well, I want to get rid of it not going to get rid of it, it has its own story to tell it has its own emotional perspective, it has its reason for being.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that kind of entrenchment that comes from that inner resistance, can be a big reason why it's so hard for us to let go.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Of these identities, because basic unconscious or conscious, because these parts of us are holding on to that identity and the more we resist it, the more it's just going to fight back.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's a big reason another one, is that oftentimes that that part doesn't remember the way it used to be, it could have form so early in life so early in our childhoods.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it just doesn't have the conscious memory of you know what it what is original essence was you know, like how it felt to be joyful or what it was like to actually feel some amount of hope.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, or even to think positive thoughts that was the case for this part within this man.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Is that it was so like I yeah I don't know what I don't know I can't imagine you know your woman be more positive like what is that, like, I have no idea.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because it had felt this way for so long that it had forgotten that and so.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It like that it forgets how it used forgot its original essence has been distorted for so long that it's basically just things that will, this is, who I am, as I said, though, it's not your.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Look, through this word with that part it's hopelessness it's sadness that's not.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, it is ultimately and i've seen this across the board when I work with parts and I work with exPowers is that even when someone thinks that their their inner child is dead it's no it's in there.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that joy is there that light is there anything that's inside of us that feels dark, that is a part of US it's just because it's a part of our light.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That has fallen into darkness So what does that mean bring it out of the darkness bring it back to the light and back to its original essence so that part may think that no there's no other way of being.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But that's not true, it is of the light that comes from the light and one of the things I did in this session with this gentleman's part exPower is.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I actually just reflected back the light that I saw inside of it, and what a.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Beautiful purpose that I thought was serving for the man, and you know what a difference, I saw it was making the wisdom that it sharing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it was just thank you Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that and it gradually softened and gradually relax because it felt heard it felt validated.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And it gradually started to see like Oh, there is actually light around me there's holes in this darkness of you know light coming through.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So this is part of it also another big reason, and this is probably the most common reason that I run into when it comes to exPowers and why they become so deeply.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: attached to their role and why they're so resistant to letting go it's because they feel they are serving a purpose for you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or for the person to throw an extra feels like it's doing a job it's serving a purpose and so it's very identified with this Well, this is my job, this is what I do.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And that intentions intentions are always good, as I said before about exPowers every exPower of intention is for you is good or for itself.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is trying to protect you or itself whatever way it knows, so the whatever way it notice a key part of that because.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever it's doing, you may look at what it's doing and be like oh hell no but it's not on that is not protected, that is painful that is hurtful and it doesn't work for me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: However, it thinks it's being protective it thinks it's protecting you it thinks it's protecting itself it thinks that maybe it's actually you know.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Helping you to feel better or protecting you from criticism.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or protecting you from disappointment, which is a lot of what this part was doing inside of the man it's like well if I keep reminding you to stay down.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you're not going to get your hopes up and then get disappointed, so it thinks it's serving a purpose and at one point.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was serving a purpose for you, it was actually having some kind of results that maybe were necessary at some periods of your life.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But the fact that you struggle with it means it's not working anymore it's actually hurting you it's not helping you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so the thing is that parkdale has to come that experiment needs to come to understand that what it's doing actually visit working in.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That it's actually hurting you and not helping you or it's hurting both of you is hurting itself by holding on to that pain, so that you know it's kind of like one of the one analogies I give.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: stories are the stories that are kind of tell in my unpublished book is I talked about I sorted use this example imagine if you've got a guy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who, you know was built, you know he he has resigned his job, since the 1900s 1800s back when we had horse drawn carriages right.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so, with your horse drawn carriages, what do you need you need forces, what are the forces they one of the things they need our.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: horseshoes and you know forced i'm drawn carriages were for transportation for many centuries, but you know suddenly there's this thing called.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The automobile and other bills don't mean need for shoes and so more people are buying cars and so that means fewer.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You need pure horse drawn carriages which means, which means that you need fewer horseshoes for horses, because you don't need as many forces, you know.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: partying us around and so imagine those someone who that's what he's been doing his whole life.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: he's been making for shoes and he's really good at it and he's really making a big difference and he was for a while that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: factory was really pumping and he felt such a sense of connection and usefulness and it brought home the bacon first family, and so, and he had a real sense of identity, well, what happens if you suddenly say oh sorry do we don't even wear shoes anymore you're out of a job.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And he's like.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean imagine is we actually up like that this is falling know how to do that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But no, no, no, we have to keep making Porsches because you know people still need so he's still making horseshoes.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then, meanwhile, you know the factory shut down because it's not enough business and everyone's kind of moved away but he's still there, making more shoes and we'd be like that's just crazy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We don't need you to do that anymore buddy i'm really actually rather you can help us out over here, you know.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: We got great mechanical skills, can you come help us with this, no, no, this is what I do do this is, who I am he's derive some identity from my sister lives and positive emotions, in the past.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and a sense of purpose and so imagine that it's like your exposure like that it's like their parts of you that have felt a sense of purpose and felt a sense of mission or felt a sense of identity.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But also felt a sense of connection, which is really what the key is, for this is the core of it here, I feel a sense of connection with you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: From having done that job so it might be part of you that's an inner critic and exPower who's criticizing you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And you're kind of going dude I don't need you to criticize me no, no, no, but this this works this works, and I have to keep doing this because it's protecting you from this it's that sense of like connection and.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Identification and like commitment to that job but here's The other thing that often happens with crowds is that they're afraid of being rendered obsolete, because what could happen with their what are they afraid would happen if they're rendered obsolete.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: They won't have a job anymore they'll disappear from no longer exists, you won't need them and then they'll be disconnected from you they'll lose connection with you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When ultimately their true essence is to be in connection with you they're a part of you, so another big reason why you can't get rid of these things you know why this guy was at war with this part of.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because he can get rid of a part of you it's a part of you.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But it doesn't mean you have to accept it, the way it is doing its old Shaw it doesn't mean that just because all this diagnosis, how to make poor shoes, that you should have him come to your automobile factory and keep making Porsches does.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: not make sense right he just be making fun of the worst shoes and we'd be like ain't gonna horses horses, you know so it's a matter of one.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Week skills, I see what you really are here to do and what they're so good at so let's just help me find another way of doing that we don't want to ever banish an exPower advantage apartment which meant.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I always I often have to reassure that okay i'm not trying to send you a way we can't send you away you're a vital part of this person so let's figure out a way to love and support them going forward in a way that feels good.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: For them, and feels good for you so it's a matter of helping that part understand that it's not going to lose connection, if any, any.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: If anything it's going to be more connected because it won't be at odds, so all you're doing is just helping it finding your identity and and purpose and shop.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That serves you and support you, rather than false you back, but my whole point is that, from an exPower perspective, this is one of the big reasons why we are on this journey of inner work.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And we're trying to be free of some part of us that it can be especially hard, because those parts are so tied to whatever it is they've been doing for so long, so this idea of who would I be without.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This fear the struggle this pain, sometimes it can be there can be parts of this that absolutely do see that area and go i'm totally see what could be without this, but there could be other parts.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of us that when we actually start to work with them that or even maybe we can feel that good good stuff and then still fables as part of us on this path it's often because it's about deeper fear of.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: losing it sense of purpose and power and connection with you, and you know it might even be like who would I be.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who would I be without this pain all i've ever known is this pain and the Truth is, as I said that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It is not the it's it's reality is not the pain, the pain is something that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: feels experience, because you experience something that was painful it's wound, is something that it carries because you were Wounded, the it's you know whether it's depression anger, or whatever any of those things it's often because it's carrying that it was temporarily distorted by.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That experience but that's not permanent, just as I remember, I said just because it's in darkness does not mean that that is its natural state that that is its core.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: purpose or you know being that actually it's just a part of your life is falling into darkness, but what happens when we shine the light in the darkness.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: darkness disappears darkness dissipates because we've shown her life, what happens when we bring something out of the closet into the light well it's now.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's covered in light so that's all this is, and it can rediscover its true self and help you to really connect with the Truth of who you are.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Which is not your pain, which is not your wounds, which is not your fears which is not all those things that you may think you are.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, you may think is a permanent part of you, and will never get over it, I will tell you this that I discovered that there are certain parts of me.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That, on the one hand, I was like Oh, I wish I could stop being this way or stop feeling this way or all stop reacting this way and and, indeed, like a undone.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: tons of those things but there's also certain aspects of it, like, for example, i'm a very hands on type thinker, I am not, I can be a sequential thinker, but I really love being more random.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so what I found is it's not that there are ways of healing parts, so that you become more of the true essence So for me if we're talking about the random type thinking.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: When my random so i'm that's the way my brain is designed i'm a random I think that's why i'm dealing with emotions and i'm inventing things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But if you're So for me, being a random type things have been impacted by the wounds and the fears and the sadness and anger and all these emotional things.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: That actually made that random type more erratic so what happens is what happened for me was, as I started feeling all of that.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: All of the emotional stuff it calmed that random type thinking down so that I can use it more as a tool.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I embrace it more as a key part of my brilliance you know my genius, just as you have aspects, the way you're designed.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But, in other words it's about healing and releasing those parts all that stuff that gets in the way of fully embracing.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Your genius your brilliance George you make the wiring of your brain your intuitive miss your unique way of seeing things so this so.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I just wanted to throw that little caveat in there, to say that it's about it's not about like we all just release all this pain and then we all just become these sort of internal blocks it's like no it actually frees.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The Truth of who you are, and also, I discovered that there's been so many parts of me that i've resisted that turns out are really just.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, ultimately, is what exPowers are right there they're transformed emPowers, but really it's a matter of the more you turn towards, and the more.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The more I turned towards the more i've raced those parts it's like the more they calm down.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And then use them for the best effect so it's all about embracing who you are but recognizing that when that it can be hard to release these parts of us that were so, identify with.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Because we think that's who we are, and so I want to really emphasize here I want you to imagine, even if it sounds crazy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Even if it sounds completely out of reach when you stop for a minute and notice, first of all, and a lot of subconscious but first of all notice what is it that you are identified.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What is it what parts of you what emotional reactivity what wounds are you carrying what fears, etc, what is it that you're carrying that you're so that you suddenly gone swept into.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: This, like, I think this is, who I am But what if it's not what if that's not who I am What if what if my true state is something else.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Or what if my whether it could be a fear that it could be that that fear is simply.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: An over energizer distorted kind of like a part of you that's been distorted to come across as fear.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: But really it's this incredible superpower that you've been interpreting a sphere, or that you have or that has been affected by fear that if it were to calm down.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and slow with you and be aligned with the Truth, is it really empower you want you to think about what what am I what am I identified with what am I unconsciously thinking is me that maybe isn't me, but then also and then secondarily who would I be.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Who would I be without this this sadness, who would I be without this boom that's, not to say you wouldn't have the memory happening, but that the steam emotional steam gone up.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: With without your struggle without your stories that you're telling yourself this comes a lot also I should say from Byron katie, would you be without her story with the stories you're telling yourself, where the identification the identities fairy.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Whatever if you weren't those things, who are you to true essence.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And I would say, I would say your life and I don't want to put words I should actually I shouldn't do this, but I just want you to consider.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: The lightness and the joy and the peace and the clarity and the wisdom that exists beyond through beyond all of those identities, all those limiting beliefs or identities that Karen okay.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, as always let's cover a lot, so I hope this has been helpful for you and, as always, check now go the website www dot ChangeLight that world and join our community take the course I teach all the techniques for.

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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Drawing out and releasing all of this emotional stuff it's this very sophisticated deep form of parts work that works really moving really fast, so I really invite you to be a part of this journey with us in the meantime, thank you very much, and I will see you next week.


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