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📺 IWFGG | Why Do You Keep Waking Up at 2-3AM?





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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Hello, hello, and welcome to another episode of Inner Work for Greater Good. My name is Emily Eldredge. I am the founder of ChangeLight and the Creator of the ChangeLight System where we do inner work that accelerates your power to feel good and do good and make whatever difference that you're here to make and shine your beautiful, gorgeous radiance.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: exuberant, fabulous light into the world, because the world needs your light. So I like to say, be the ChangeLight that is, be the light of change that our world so desperately needs. And really, I just requires you. Just be you be your full, whole, most radiant, wonderful self. That's what we're all about. How do you get there? How do you do that in our work that helps you really do that?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Well, a lot has been happening in ChangeLight world, actually, just really, quickly, i'll tell you later, today or tomorrow, we're gonna be launching a free course and opening up our community. So it's all gonna be free, which is really exciting, and then we'll have later courses in there that are paid for. But for now you get free you'll be getting a free course where you can learn how to do to the basic, really simple and easy, but results oriented techniques


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that I teach as part of the ChangeLight System. And i'm gonna share all the different parts inside of you that are doing their best to support you and living your Truth, but also the parts that are getting in the way. And one of those techniques helps to calm those parts and helps them to release.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, anyway, lots of exciting things happening. and in the meantime, though, I wanted to share something with you, that's been kind of a pattern in my life for the past few. Well, I don't know a few years, but sort of especially persistent these past few months.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and those are the the dreaded 2 am to 3 am. Wake up now. Yours. I don't know if you have these, I have these. I know other people who have these where you wake up


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: at 2 am. Or 3 am. Sometimes for me it's 4 am. Sometimes i'm awake from 2 am. To 4 am. Or 3 am. To 5 am. But the point is, it's like that. Wake up, and something wakes you up, you know, like for me. Let me put it this way. It's something emotional that always wakes me up


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sometimes what i'll experience it as like an anxiety, or like a sudden like paying in my heart will like, Wake me up, jolts me awake, and then i'll discover that i'm like stressing about something. I'm worrying about something.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: lots of thoughts going through my head, and even though I might try to like, call myself down, or sort of do you know breathing, or do some meditating, or do some like, you know, releasing and trusting the universe like all those kinds of things. Sometimes, then, my mind is still going, and then I end up resorting to, you know, getting on my cell phone and just you know, reading the news reading my emails, which doesn't in my case, if that's actually not necessarily a bad thing, it actually helps me follow


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: sleep. Doesn't necessarily keep me awake. and besides that, I like reading the news, and I like, you know, seeing what's going on in the world. but the point is that it's, you know, waking up at 2 am. 3 am. 4 am anywhere in that, really, you know, deep, dark of night, and being woken by something internal that is distressing, or, you know, causing the mind to race, or whatever do you have these 2? and you may have had these in certain times in your life.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or you may have them regularly. Anyway. The point is is that I've been having these. I have them intermittently. Let's put it that way. It depends on the period of my life. What almost always waits me up. Almost always the thing that wakes me up is money, fears and money worries money concerns


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: full disclosure. I am really really blessed in that. I am okay financially, like I'm not going to end up on the street. There were times in my life where I was Really, really, you know it was overdrawn on my account, and I was really struggling, and I was really having a rough time. So those 2 am 3 and wake up calls will really like I was really in very scary situations. for me that were about, you know my survival. And how was I going to get through.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And nowadays, though what has been waking me up still, even though financially, i'm okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Money stuff still is, you know he's been waking me up lately, and it's been interesting to let me just say it's been interesting, too, because i'm actually in the in a better place emotionally than I've been in a long time, and yet i'm still, you know, having these things, because i'm also spending more money than I usually spend, especially when it comes to my business. And so my point of saying that is, that even though things are better than they used to be when I would have those


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: to, the 3 am. Wake up. I'm also pushing the boundaries internally with what's comfortable for me in terms of, you know, investing in my business, and really trying to make a bigger difference. So the point is, it's triggering some of that money stuff. Now let me just say in my case, when i'm dealing with the 2 3 am. Wake up. They're usually money related, but for you they might be something else. They might be related to your relationship or career issues. Or you know world events. I mean it could be any number


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of things that are triggering your own. Wake up, call. So. I just want to point out that even though I'm focusing on mine that has to do with money that yours may be related to something else. But I want to really address this whole thing of just the fact that you know. What is it that wakes us up at 2 and 3 am. 4 am? Why is this stuff so distressing? And what could really be going on for us


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: in my case, what will happen is, I wake up with anxiety all kinds of fears like really intense stuff that I don't normally feel during the day. We might occasionally crop up during the day. But really they're like really intense at night. and i'm catastrophizing, and I'm projecting into the future like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: awful things to happening. Or i'm gonna make these horrible mistakes, or that you know what's happened in the past is gonna happen again. you know all these really intense things that I noticed that really aren't


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that bad during the day. And so it sort of got me going. So what is going on? You know. Why do I keep waking up at 2 to 3 am.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: here's let me just kind of cut to the chase. Here. This is calling me a short video today, the cut to the chase, and you know, Finally, after I kept waking up at 2 and 3 am. For weeks and weeks, you know, and my my husband would occasionally, because he'd have to go to the bathroom, and he'd see me he'd be like, oh, honey, are you awake again? I'm like, yeah, you know. And I just kind of try to call myself down by distracting my mind, and then I keep having these 2, 3, and wait. 3 am. Wake up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So finally, just a few days ago, I finally just just sort of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: as i'm sitting with that, I was like, okay, this is a pattern, and I know that sometimes, like I know, there are explanations like in Chinese medicine. Sometimes people like. I I think there are certain schools of thought like, for example, like once red and Chinese medicine, they say, Well, you wake up at that hour, because, like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's something that has to do with that organ that your body is, you know, clearing, or something at that hour, like. In other words. The different hours have to do with different organs. I don't know if it's true, but my point is, I went through all kinds of sort of theories about this. But in this case I finally just said, You know


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: what I realize. I'm like, okay, so something keeps waking me up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's got a point in terms of the fears that I'm having.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that yeah, it's, you know. When I said it was, it's projecting in my case Again, look at your own. This is sort of guidance for how you can look at your own. But in my case I looked at it, and I was like, what's the pattern here? I'm.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Look If it's projecting into the future


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: of something happening that would be catastrophic for me, or that would be, or that would be a repeat of something that's happened in the past.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it's basically like me making, you know. Here I am that it the fears we're believing that here I am doing the same thing I've done before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and i'm just doing it all over again, and i'm going to screw up all over again. Then i'm going to end up in a really bad place just like I was before.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And so it was this fear that was coming from things that actually had happened in the past, and like patterns or things that I've done that it was seeing that I was doing in the present. And it's basically, was saying, you're going to do it again. You're going to screw up. You're gonna ruin your life. You're gonna you know all this awful stuff.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So that's why it was also so convincing of, you know, to me like, yeah, yeah, I'm really going to do that again. It's going to be terrible. It's going to be awful.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So, on the one hand, there's the okay. I see your point. On the other hand, though, I finally just thought, okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: i'm having this at night, and not really during the day. So what's really going on? So I just asked the basic question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I think I might have written it down. Of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: What are these wake ups trying to tell me?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Here's what happened.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just asking


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I felt this


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: something called down inside of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it was like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I was acknowledging that there was something


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that was waking me up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and that that thing was trying to tell me something


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so simply by acknowledging the presence of that thing, and that it had a purpose


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that it was trying to tell me something instead of just like getting caught up in the anxiety and the catastrophic. I kind of went. Okay. There's a pattern here. What is this trying to tell me? It helps that part calm down like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Oh.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: finally got your attention.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which is funny, because, of course, it had already gotten my attention for many nights. It 2 and 3. Yeah, it's not like it wasn't getting my attention it it was but


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: by asking that question, what is it trying to tell me? I'm acknowledging that it's getting my attention, and that it has a message for me.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So what was wonderful about that? We said I felt an immediate like.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that's good to know. You can write that down if You've got a pattern like this waking up at 2 and 3 am waking up it crazy on hours.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Then ask, what is this trying to tell me?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You can Even you can also ask, what is the part of me that's waking me up?


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So it's like, what is the message? And what is this part of me that's waking me up. In other words, you are acknowledging that these are just 2 to 3 am. Wake up calls, because whatever but they they're happening for a reason.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: So in my case


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I noticed that just by asking that question.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the calm down.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and then I was able to really sit with that. It was scared for me


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and scare that i'm going to that i'm repeating the same pattern


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: or the same.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: You know history that I've had before when it in this case, when it comes to money it was terrified that that's what I was doing.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and I was able to sit with it without getting caught in the catastrophizing and the terror and the anxiety, and go. Okay, I I hear your point.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I I get it. You're right, or you know you're right. That Yes, I I went through that before, and you know.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: maybe in some ways I am, and so maybe I need to step it back a little bit.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: you know, in my case, sometimes I would get like super excited about things, and then I would over extend. So in this case it was like, you know it doesn't want me to over extend. So what it was trying to do, I realized it was just.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: It was just concern for me. It was scared for me, and it just doesn't want me to repeat the past, and so what I could do. Then, from a more calmer place as opposed to getting caught up in is terror was, go. Yeah, okay, I get it. Yeah, all right. I see your point. I see your point, and i'm going to be mindful of that. I'm going to be careful about that. And I really appreciate you telling me


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: okay, what


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that was like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Monday today. No, no, there was. There was like the early there was like Friday or something. The point is that was several days ago


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that I had


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that little talk just brings Talk with that part of me, and you know what


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I haven't had


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: a wake up call since


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I haven't been woken up at 2 or 3 am. I've been sipping through the night. It's been kind of great.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so that's all my way of saying


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: the 2 to 3 am. Wake up! Calls First of all. No need to fight against them.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Just


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: maybe it's a part of you that's trying to get your attention. Now, in my case I felt like it was just kind of enough to have that conversation. In your case it may be something more intense. It may be that there really is a big decision that you need to make, and there really is something that you're not, whether because you're so busy you're so preoccupied, or whatever that in your conscious mind. You're not getting during the day.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: but you need but but but it's only like at night that the message can get through. So my point is, there may be something a little more


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I mean, mine is consequential, but in your case it might be more immediate. You know it could be that you need to get out of an an unhealthy situation. It could be that you need to go ahead and take action on something. but the point is that


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: it's a matter of just listening to that part. Maybe it has some wisdom for you. Maybe it is just breaking you out, and kind of going a bit melancholy a bit dramatic. I don't see mel dramatic, because it's part of fear for a reason, but you know maybe it's it's you know it. It's going little nuts inside.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: and it just needs to be acknowledged and honored. But maybe it really does have at the same time have some wisdom for you that really does need to be heard and honored, and in that case write it down, and what I would recommend. So write down whatever is coming up.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: write down any questions, write down the fears, write down what that part might be telling you right down. you know just anything and everything that might be creating that anxiety within you.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: And, for example, something that might come up is, let's say it's an email


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that, or like a message you need to send to someone. So let's say, in the form of like an email or You know some kind of conversation you need to have write those things down, and you may want to write that email, but Don't send it Here's the big thing that I really recommend.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: just because there's wisdom in those 2 to 3 am.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Call your wake up doesn't mean that you should take action necessarily at that moment, because it may be that that that energy that's coming at you to try to get your attention. It's just trying to get your attention, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you should take action with that emotion or energy.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Okay, doesn't necessarily mean it's a good time to make decisions. In fact, the other night I woke up at 2, 3 am. I was stressing about some money stuff. I committed some money to some to something, and then I ended up talking to someone you know who was in a different time zone, and I don't know if I should do this, you know, and it was like


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: then, by the time I and you know I was kind of freaking out about it and everything. But by the time I woke up the next morning I was like it's fine. It's okay, you see. So I could have possibly in that moment pulled out of that thing


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: which not would not necessarily have been positive like it, you know as I, when you, when I finally woke up, actually woke up in the next morning and realized, Wait a minute. That would have been a bit rash. That probably would have been like not great for my reputation, etc., like. The point is that


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: like it was I? I didn't make a decision


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: that night. I could have made a decision in the middle of that, but it didn't.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: because it's not a good time to do it. 2 to 3 am is not a great time when you're in the throes of anxiety and catastrophizing, and all that. Not a great time to be making that decision. But the point is, you can still get out that information. You could still write out whatever possibly is trying to get your attention. You can draw it out. You can allow that part to speak. You can write that email. You can draft that, you know, phone call or


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: text or something, but do not send it. Okay, Just want to make it clear. I really recommend Don't. Send it. Wait till the next morning, and you're more away literally, and you're more calm before you choose to do that, but at the very least by taking some kind of


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: I'm going to say actually, you're not actually doing it. It's more like by actually sort of sort of doing something with that energy it can help get out some of the some of the wisdom and the maybe the messages that that


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: 2, 3 am. Alarm clock. Wake up! Caller is trying to tell you, and just get that out before you actually really take action on it


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: so. Anyway, I hope this is helpful. I don't know if you have 2 or 3 am. Wake up calls like I do. But if you do, I hope this has been helpful. So anyway, again I'm Emily Eldridge, with ChangeLight and definitely check us out. ChangeLight dot world. A lot is coming. It's been really exciting. And yeah.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: okay, all right, anyway. And if for me I will see you next week.


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Emily Eldredge | ChangeLight: Bye.


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